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I'm not sure what to say now.
I'm going out with a guy who pretty much used to be one of my best friends. Whenever he used to say something that'd crack me up, sometimes I'd say "ha, I love you, you're too funny." Well, that was when we were just friends.
We've only been going out a couple of days, but he's already telling me he actually loves me. I know I don't love him back just yet, so I don't want to lie to him. And I've tried to explain that to him, and he said he'll say it anyways. I just always makes me feel awkward when he does, so what should I say back?
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Try to think of it this way, he's in love with you and he can't and doesn't want to change that. So as the below be stated, give him a hug or smile at him. lay your head on his shoulder, etc. Because you have to care about his feelings, even though you may not feel the same.
I went through the same thing you're going through now, and I eventually fell in love with guy and said it back. That could happen to you, as well.
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if you've already explained to him how you feel about him, you could try just smiling, or hugging him when he says it. It will mean alot to him to know that you care how he feels about you. You could also say something like "thank you babe" so he knows you care about him alot, but don't love him just yet.
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Though you don't love him yet, I'm sure their are little facets of his personality that you love individually. So, when he says, "I love you" try saying something along the lines of, "You're adorable" or "You always know just the way to make me smile." It lets you show him that you do care without putting pressure on you to say "I love you" back to him.
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I know that this will probably sound weird to him, but you can say "aww, thanks" and give him a big smile and/or a kiss. (Like a peck on the cheeks or lips.) I know that sounds really lame to say and it can be a smack in the face to someone, but seeing that you already told him that you don't love him back just yet and that you don't want to lie to him, he should understand. You're grateful for his love, but you haven't been with him long enough to truly love him. If you dont' think he undertsood when you explained it to him you can try doing that one more time. But all in all, if you don't want to lie there isn't much more you can say.
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