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right this is so hard to explain here i go well theres this boy called james who when i first saw him i thought yes hes nice and well he asked me out i said no because another boy in school asked me out lets call him Alex. Well i grew to really like alex and alex asked me out and i said no because off james. James took me home the other day and well he tryed to kiss me and he basically tried to force me to kiss him and i really did not like that because i decided i did not want to kiss him but we touched lips not a proper kiss just like a touch. Now i feel kinda bad because i really like alex. Alex is the one i want to kiss but i just can't when he goes to kiss me i kinda back away i think what if i do it wrong will he still like me? ahhh and my friend asked alex for his number and he never gave it to her i was sooo happy... Alex says he loves me all the time and james shows no interest.. What shall i do. But the thing is i like another guy in school who ive never talk to and i kinda told his friend i like his friend and im not sure whats going to happen now. Thank you in advance.x

Don't go out with James, if you don't want to be kissed and a guy forces you to when he knows you don't want it, that's right in line with rape. It sounds like all that James wants from you is "sex". It sounds like you like Alex a lot so I would say you should say yes to him. Don't be worried or scared about kissing. He won't stop liking you. Even if you've never kissed anyone before you aren't a bad kisser. If you don't think about it and just do what feels right you will do fine. The only way to get better at kissing is to practice. Once you make that first jump it will come so easily and so naturally to you. It's okay to be nervous, but don't be afraid! It seems like Alex really likes you and for the right reasons. Well, good luck with everything and I hope it all turns out the way you want it to.

hello,iam 23 years old female ,my name is amanda
i met a 3o year old man online, and he lives in another country.i havent seen him before but we talked on the phone. from the way he chats and talks with me he seems to be so honest.and iam saying so honest means u can never have any doubt that he could be a liar.
this relation has been on for4 monthes now but i started to lose confidence in him.
2 monthes ago he said is going to travel to canada for his urgent eye operation but after 25 days when he came back and talked on the phone i asked him how did ur operation go?he answered i didnt do it, i was in(our origin country)cus his uncle died and his mother entered to the hospital.i was shocked that if he were in (our origin country)why didnt he call me?
next after one month he said he is comming to (our country)and he will see me but when he came he called as a wrong number just to hear my voice(i guess), and no respond till now, he keeps his mobile off. although iam sure he is still here and didnt travel yet.
what makes him far away from me although he said he is in love with me?
If he is having fun,what he expects to get from me though idont talk love with him and i dont even say that i love him.
how could i know that he really wants me?is he honest.plz i need your advice

Long distance relationships can get kind of screwy. It's easy to keep things away from your partner that you are uncomfortable talking about. Weird things happen, I've been in a long distance relationship before and I had a really hard time with it but we pulled through. I don't think that he's a liar and I do believe that he cares about you. He could be really nervous about meeting you. Who knows, but I would say to give him the benefit of the doubt. Just keep talking to him and asking him why he's doing these things, try to get him to give you concrete reasons why he's not being completely truthful. Try to get him to meet you sometime. If after more than 4 tries or until you've had enough, you should probably break it off with him. He could be married or gay or anything really. I do think that he cares about you and is being honest though. I hope that everything works out between you two and good luck!

thanks for the directions but i copied all tha song titles into the URL box and it didnt work
i think i did it right?

Hmmm...you found the music okay so that's not a problem...um...make sure that you're copying the link. Right click on the song title and there are three options...open, open in new window, and copy link. Don't highlight the title or anything, just right click. Paste it into the URL box and type in the song title and artist in the other boxes yourself. I'm not sure why it wouldn't work if you did all of this because I actually tried it to make sure it did. Maybe try a different song? I'm sorry if it doesn't work for you :(
Good luck!

okay every day after i come home from school, i am bored. i don't know why. i mean, i have homework and stuff like that but when i try to do it i get really really distracted and i get in big trouble afterwards. does anyone have any ideas on ways i won't get distracted? and... does anyone have any ideas on what i can do when i get home from school so that i don't get bored? i rate high!!!! thanx!!!!!! :-D

I know just how you feel and it sucks when that happens. A good way to stay on task is to reward yourself for doing so. I remember I used to have to give myself treats for every math problem I did. It sounds really dumb, but it actually works. I'd get out some candy or something and set it in front of me and I could only eat a piece of it when my homework was done. It doesn't have to be just food either, you can use any other things you can think of. When you get home from school to keep from getting bored you can watch tv or movies, play a video game, make yourself a snack, and there's lots of boredom tools on the internet. I hope that I was able to help and good luck!

Ok this could be long! I am in 8th grade and last year there was a kid in my class. EvEryone made fun of him and he was bipolar and had some mental problems. Well, yesterday 11/3. He attempted suicude for the second time. He jumped from the bak of a moving school bus and he is now in acoma. He broke his arm and probably his bak and neck too. He isn't dead though. ThEre was BLooD everywhere. The first time he tried to stab himself with scissors. I feel really bad because I was one to make fun of him. How can i make myself not feel so bad? ALl my freinds say im different since but im really scared for the kid. He seems like he could be nice. Plese help will rate. _-HeArtbreaker-__

When he gets out of his coma you should go see him in the hospital. Tell him that you're sorry and that you didn't mean what you said. If he ends up coming back to school, stand up for him when other kids pick on him. He needs somebody on his side and he needs to know that people care. You need to be really careful though, if you're too nice to him he may get the wrong idea. He doesn't need his heart broken too! I also want you to know that there really wasn't much you could have done about this before. Even if you hadn't picked on him others would have in your place. It's good to feel bad, but don't blame yourself. Kids get picked on all the time and don't go jumping out of busses. There was no way you could have known that he would do that. I hope he gets better soon. Good luck.

my life at home is hell all i get from my sis is abuse all me n my bro do is ague and fight my mum wont talk 2 me she never speaks 2 me about anythink never asks me if im alright never tells me she loves me never just asks hows my day been always sends me out the room and speaks 2 my sisters friends wont ever talk 2 me about anythink blames me for everythink buys my sis everythink always talks 2 her lets my bro off with everythink if i do what my bro does i will get smacked for it but if my bro does it then its ok(MY BRO CANT COMPRAMISE WITH ME MY SIS CANT BE NICE TO ME AND MY MUM CANT COMMUNICATE WITH ME ) H.E.L.P PPPPLLLLLEEEEAAAASSSSEEE

It sounds like you're really excited about this. First, calm down. Think this through. It may not be as bad as you're making it sound. However, it very well could be. If you think you're being abused you need to tell someone about it like a counselor at school or find the number to your state's social services. They will be able to tell you what to do and maybe you can get out of there. It doesn't sound like you're in a very good environment at all from what you've said. Remember, there's such a thing as mental abuse too. It sounds like you're getting a dose of both. Before doing anything, though make sure you relax and think it through to make sure that this isn't just normal family rivalries. I hope that things get better for you. Good luck!

ok so my friend told me it was really kool when you pass out so she shower me how she did it on her bro first then she did it to me i didnt no if it was bad for you or anything and i just wanter to try it once i didnt think it could hurt so when i told a couple of my friedns about it they where like its so bad you could have died and all this stuff so is it really that bad for you? please help i need some answers.

Passing out is ALWAYS bad. I don't know what your friend actually did to you, but whatever it is it has to stop. It sounds really dangerous. You need to tell her this and if she doesn't stop then you need to tell someone about it as soon as possible. Please don't ever do it again!

I'm a 17/F, junior in high school. I'm seriously debating dropping out my senior year. Just finish out school until I'm 18 and no longer legally have to attend. I simply hate school, all it does is cause problems and drama in my life. With the things I've done, I wont get accepted into college anyway, so I figure I'll go to a community college when I'm ready because you don't even have to graduate to go to one of those. I already have a job that I absolutely love, so finding a job because I'm a dropout wont be a problem, and I'll be going to college anyway. Everyone I know is a senior this year, so next year will be miserable when all my friends are gone, and teachers suck, and other people are just self centered assholes, that I don't want to be around anyway. What are the pros and cons of dropping out for me at this point? Is anyone out there a dropout? Any experiences to share?

Don't drop out...it's the worst thing you could ever do. Don't assume that you wouldn't get accepted into college either, you very well could. If money is tight you will get a load of financial aid and you can take out student loans. I doubt you have very good job security. You may have a job now, but what happens if you lose it somehow? Then you'll have nothing. You can't get into any college without getting a high school diploma or GED. Getting a GED is a lot of work and just finishing high school would be so much easier for you. Plus, if you quit high school who's to say you wouldn't go and quit college too? After high school is over all your friends will go separate ways anyways, so what's the difference really? I've lost touch with some of my closest friends from high school as soon as I left. You will find other friends. Life is tough sometimes, but you should really be looking out for your future more. Not having a high school diploma gives you very little chance in the job market to find a good job. High school dropouts are the ones that end up working at McDonalds until they're 50. Yes, some people get lucky or end up landing a good job in some sort of trade, but those kinds of jobs are typically male. I'm not saying you wouldn't want to do that or wouldn't be able to get a great job eventually, but it's going to be VERY hard for you if you don't even have a high school diploma. It's bad enough without a college diploma. Stay in school. You'll be sooo much better off that way. I'm sorry that school is so rough for you, but you will get through it, have faith and good luck!

i just bought a shirt from a store but i supopse they forgot to take off big plastic squarish thing that says"Warning: Tampering will break glass and cause ink to leak out..please see sales associate for removal".. can i remove this myself some how or do i have to go back to the store tomorrow and have them remove it? I really dont wanna go back but i guess i will if i have to. thanks

Like others are saying, bring it back to the store. You will have to have the receipt though.

well im trying to put this i pod thing in my my space and it just isn't happening! :-( do u think you could fill me in on what to put in the URL box on this site

http://blingmyspace.com/media.htm

i don't know what to do for the URL thing

PLEASE HELP ILL RATE A 5! ♥

Wow, had to do some research for this one haha. It's kind of complicated, but easy to explain. What you need to do first is click on the myspace music tab on the top of myspace. Search by band name and type in the name of the artist for the song you're looking for. Hit search and that band's myspace pages should come up if they have any. If they don't just keep trying! If there is more than one page for a band, chances are different pages will have different songs. Once you find the song you want, right click on the title and click on copy link. This will automatically copy the URL for you. Paste it into the URL box on the website you gave me after choosing the player you want to use. I must say this ipod thing looks really cool. I might even start using it myself for myspace. Good luck and if something I said didn't make any sense to you, feel free to ask me to try to explain it better after kicking me in the shin haha.

im a girl and im 16 years old... randomly, i get shoooting pains in my back from moving certain ways..and yesterday at school i bent over to get something and my back like spazzed or something.. it hurt so bad! it was hard to walk after. it hurts to do everything..lean forward..bend over..move..lay down..sit. i cudnt sleep cuz i cudnt find a position where my back didnt hurt.. i need help..does anyone kno wat this is or how i can fix it?

Anytime you have any sort of unexplainable pain you need to see a doctor about it. Maybe you just pulled a muscle or something, but if it's anything serious it's important to get treated for it as soon as possible. My advice is to call your doctor to let him/her know what's going on and schedule an appointment. I hope the pain goes away soon! Good luck.

Ok, well here is my story. Me and this guy I have known since 8th grade (10th grade now) went out for about a year. We have been "semi-dating" I guess you could say ever since we broke up, but the thing is that after we broke up we still had a relationship and I got pregnant. After he found out that I was pregnant we started to get really close again and it made me want to be with him. Both him and I know that the baby is his, there's no doubt about that. Well, today we were talking and he knows that I still would really like it if we made our dating official, like boyfriend girlfriend again. He knows that I want to be with him, and he said that we would be together. Well here is where the problem comes in, he doesn't want to make it official. To me if it isn't official then does that mean I can be with someone else? I am the type to get jealous and I think that unless we make it official I will continue to feel the way I do and its making me very depressed, what should I do? Would it be right if I just took charge and asked him out or should I just keep giving him hints that I want him to do it? HELP PLEASE

~*ConFuseD*~

You are having his baby. It's kind of silly to be shy about anything with him anymore. It's not just a case of normal teenage dating. You need to ask him out. It's really important to know if he is going to stick around to be with you and support you and his child. It's good that he just didn't run away from you when he found out you were pregnant. Your pregnancy is his responsiblity as much as it was yours. If he doesn't say yes, don't get too upset. He may just be very overwhelmed by the situation. Remain close to him and he may change his mind. Even if you don't end up with him in the end, he seems like a nice guy that wouldn't completely abandon you so you're very lucky. I hope everything works out for you and I wish you the very best.

Me and my cuzin have been pretty kool since my brother died. We have stuck together and all. She gives me rides to skool and does anything I ask her to do. She would jump in front of a buss for me! I'd do the same. But she has a boyfriend. Her boyfriend is our hired hand. He's 26 and she's 16. I hate them together. If you have any suggestions of how I can talk to her let me know! Here she comes! Bye!

Well, it's really her choice who she wants to date. As much as you hate the guy or see how bad he is with your cousin there isn't much you can really do to break them up, which I think is what you want to do. All you really can do is talk to your cousin about it. You two are really close so it shouldn't be hard. Let her know how you feel about her boyfriend and WHY. Don't hurt her feelings or offend her though. Just let her know that you really don't like this guy and it has nothing to do with her. Since she trusts you and loves you and all she will listen to what you say even if she doesn't change her mind. It's important for her to know how you feel. However, you didn't give a reason as to why you hate your cousin's boyfriend. If there isn't really a reason why, then maybe you should rethink your feelings towards him. Since you and your cousin are so close you may just be being overprotective of her, which isn't a bad thing, but it can be. If this is the case, you'll get used to the guy with time and it would probably be better not to say too much to your cousin about it. You don't want to break up her happy relationship for a silly reason. You do need to say something to her though so she knows how you feel. What you're going through can be really hard, but just remember that even if your cousin gets hurt you will be there to comfort her. I hope that everything works out and good luck!

I need to find newspaper articles from 8 weeks ago. But since I recycled all of them, where would I go to get them? I believe libraries have them, but I need to cut out and use the actual article. Help?

Most newspapers post articles online. You should be able to find what you're looking for, and you can just print the articles out. I hope you find what you're looking for. Good luck!

most girls call guys pigs and cheaters....but i was just curious as to how many people know this is that girls actually cheat more than men do its just that they dont get caught as easily as guys do....so y would girls call cheaters and such when its actually proven that they cheat more than guys...but they are better at hiding it so im just curious as to why guys get labeled as being more of the cheating type??? thanks 4 the help

It's because society has a double standard. If a girl is called a slut it's an insult, but if a guy gets called a slut he's being congratulated. Guys are supposed to "want more" and girls are supposed to be completely innocent. Guys are more allowed to be cheaters and pigs than girls in a sense. If you call a guy a cheating pig he'll just brush it off, but if you call a girl a cheating pig she'll probably cry. It's just the way that society forces us to think. Society's really dumb, but that's just the way it is. I hope this makes sense.

I was wondering if anyone can help me make a plan of when to change "supplies" during my school schedule. I'm only in middle school, so no one uses purses yet. There's also this one girl who ALWAYS searches my pencil case to find gum and whatnot so I can't use my pencil case! I go to my locker before lunch time, and in past situations I have picked up a purse in which I put a pad in. But, I hate using purses because its SO obvious that when you carry a purse to the bathroom, you have your period!! I don't know any other ways! I don't want to buy anything at school because the dispncers have the worst brands. My tampon can not last ALL day and I'm a little scared to use jumbo because im sure they're hard to insert and other stuff. If anyone wants to contradict this idea please do so! I need some ideas!

I know what you mean about the purse thing...I would have felt like everyone was looking at me if I had done that. You could wear jeans with larger pockets and put them in your pocket like some other people have said or....I used to keep them in my gym locker. There's a bathroom in there and a lot of times there's no one or very few people in there and they're all girls. I don't know if this would work at your school, but it's an idea! I hope it will work for you...good luck!

Yesterday we had basketball tryouts at our school and as a sophmore i made jv again and 5 of my friends moved up to varsity. Mainly because one of the varsity didnt want me to make the team..soo she tried to do nething in her power to make me look bad. I am torn up about this..my heart feels like its in my throat. That was my goal this year.and i failed at it. I feel like theres no positives. Do you think there is ne positives about this?

I know it hurts, but I'd like to tell you about my own experience with basketball. My school was very small so we didn't have any tryouts or anything, but some girls got moved up by the varsity coach. When I was in 10th grade two girls that were in 9th grade that I'd played on JV with the year before were picked by the coach to move up to varsity. It made me so mad. First off I was older than them and second off one of them was about the same skill level as me, but the other girl wasn't any good at all! I moped about it for a long time, but I actually ended up having a really amazing season. I was one of the best players on the JV team and I improved a lot because I got so much playing time. The girls that got moved up barely played at all and had a horrible season. The next year when I got moved up to varsity I hated it. I never played and the two girls that moved up ahead of me played all the time because they sat the bench the year before. It was my first year on varsity and thus my turn to sit the bench even though I was better than both of them and even one of the starters! My senior year went a little better, but I still found myself missing JV a whole lot. I played so much better in 10th grade than any other year and a lot of varsity girls have really bad attitudes and are way too full of themselves. It wasn't all about basketball anymore, it was about looking good and making the other team mad at you, which I couldn't stand...I just wanted to play basketball again.

You will have a great season this year. If you work hard enough maybe you could even get moved up partway though the season if someone on varsity gets injured or something. Good luck, and enjoy where you're at because you will have a great time. You're needed on JV and you're one of if not the best player so you'll play a lot more than you would on varsity. I hope that your season goes well for you. Good luck!

Well i just recently found out that i am pregnant. i already have a little girl who is 8 months old today, and her father is still having a really hard time adjusting to her. he is always saying how he never wants another kid .. little does he know .. he has another on the way. i am so scared about telling him .. anyone have any advice on how to handle this???

Well, if he was that set on not having another kid he should have been more careful about having sex. The second child won't have the same impact as the first child did. I know it's going to be really tough and he may not react well, but he's going to have to face the consequences for what he was a part of doing. You need to tell him about it and make him realize that it was his responsibility too. Be strong and stick up for yourself if he tries to put the blame on you. Eventually he will get used to being a father, it takes time sometimes, but have faith. You should probably go on birth control pills or something to better prevent this from happening again though. I hope that everything works out for you and good luck!

My boyfriends birthday is coming up and I have no clue what to get him! I've asked him for some ideas but he doesn't give me any good ones. Any Ideas????

A lot of guys would prefer a gift that they can use and enjoy over something that's solely romantic. You can make him a really nice card or bake cookies, but you should also get something else. I don't know how much money you want to spend, but a video game, DVD, or CD would be a really nice gift. Most guys love hats too, and you can probably get a really nice one for under ten dollars. If you know who his favorite teams are that's great, but if not you can always get him one with something like the Nike logo on it instead. Just remember that whatever you get him or do for him he will absolutely love!

My girl and I have been together for 2 years we have a 1 yr old the past yr has been hard for both of us we have been fighting very verbally and sometimes physically about 2 months ago her mom who we lived with told me to get out my girl and I agree that we need the space and have been trying to work things through. We both started seeing counslers and since then things have been alot better well to make it short last week she decided that she doesnt want to be in a serious relationship with me and that we can be friends and need to be friends before we can be anything else she says she loves me and will still support me and let me see are son we hung out yesterday and had a great time but i am confused because we was all over each other in a good way. My question is should i try doing the friends thing and show her that I am responsible and continue to do what i need to do (she wants to marry me and be a family one day still but right now we need to work on are own mental issues she says) I just feel that everything i have done recenlty to show her that i love and care about her was not good enough i have stopped the name calling and am not so moody thanks to the counsler and some meds. Has anyone else broke up becasue of problems and worked it out in the end??? Her and my sone mean the world to me and I love them both dearly and want to be in a stable family home with us together (she says she wants this to but we cant becasue of are problems) is there hope??? thank you for readint this and respnding

It depends on how old you are...um...if you're relatively young I wouldn't worry about it too much. You care about your son a lot and are being a very good father to him. Even if things do not work out with your girl you will still be there for her and your child. There is a lot of hope though, you two need to get your lives together and once you things could work out. Just keep supporting and visiting your girl and your son. You should even take your son and take care of him on weekends or something to give your girl a break and to let your son get to know you as well. You're the child's father as much as she is his mother and she'd probably like a little break. Be strong and have faith and everything should work out for you. Good luck!

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