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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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Ok, so, I had sex with my boyfriend for the first actual time on Feb. 2. I really love him, and we have been together for a long time, and we were both ready. We stopped a few minutes before he came, and he had a condom. What are the chances I'm pregnant? [I'm sure you hear this all the time, but, it's a question that I feel is serious.]
Thanks. (link)
Yes we have heard it plenty of times. Here are
the archives if you'd like more answers.

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?t=0&keyword=am%20I%20pregnant&backlog=2


does anyone know any good exercises or something to make your butt more toned? (link)
Here are a lot of sites for you to check out. :)

only search advicenators.com


ok well my boyfriend broke up with me today but said that he didnt want to but had to because we needed a break so the drama thats been going on will calm down adn he says that we'll still hang out and do all the normal things boyfriend and girlfriends do OUTSIDE OF SKOOL cept we just wont have the tytle girlfriend or boyfriend. I eally love him and I think he loves me because he was real broke up about breakin up with me and he says he aint gonn ago out with anyone else because he only want to be with me. should I wait for him or move on? (link)
My honest answer would have to be why do you
want to stay with someone who evidently wants
it known around school that you are broke up?

Hes up to something. If he truly loved you he
would want everyone to know it. My guess is
he is listening to friends who think he should
break up with you. If this is the case then he
is to immature to be in any relationship.

Use your own judgment. You know him and I
don't. Just think about this and do some
thinking before you decide to waste time
waiting. :)


everytime i get out of the shower my hair is really tangled and is hard to brush what can i do (link)

I have long hair that tangles easily too.

The ONLY way I can get the tangles out is to
put conditioner in my hair and brush or comb
it out with the conditioner on my hair.

I usually do this while in the shower. I don't
shampoo my hair everyday, but conditioning is a must! It works very well and after I towel dry my hair I brush it again with no problems at all. :)


14/f

so me and this guy, we have no interest in a relationship
we've liked each other on and off for 3 years
i really love him
he loves me

i've given him a blow job
hes eaten me out
fingered
handjob
we've made out with just bottoms on

we've talked about sex
i love the feeling of being fingered while we're topless
am i ready for sex? (link)
Ask yourself these questions.

Am I ready to be a mother?
Is he ready to be a father?
Can he support me and my child when I get pregnant?

If the answer to these questions is yes,
Use Google for sex info.

If the answer to any of them is no you
are not ready for the responsibility that
comes along with having sex. You may want
to have sex and feel you are "ready". But
honestly, there is more to sex than just
playing with each others naughty parts. :)

Here is a website that is full of important info.
I recommend you read it before making a decision that could very easily be life altering.

http://www.coolnurse.com/


I have my period now and it's not spotting but i feel dizzy..is it possible i'm pregnant?
(i've been in the pill for a year..and he's been pulling out during sex). (link)
If you have been on the pill for a year,
you are probably not pregnant. You may
have a virus or something causing you to be
dizzy.

If the dizziness continues, call a doctor
and have it checked out to be on the safe side.


Hey =)
I read the FAQ and didn't find anything about this.
I asked an inbox to someone awhile ago, and I needed the answer before Valentine's Day =/
And I think it's been rejected, so how do I know?
Would it be okay to ask it to another user now? (link)
It would tell you I think if it were rejected.
Some users aren't on a lot. Since you asked, go
ahead and ask someone else. You can also ask the whole group if you'd like. If anyone deletes it
let me know and I will put it through. :)



PLEASE HELP!okay how do you know if you're pregnant?
i think im just freaking out. i haven't even been late yet for my period. its supposed to be coming in about a week, or less. I have this little bump like below my belly button, but above my vagina. i think this is just bloating early & i also have this little bump on my right ovary side & that always pops up before i start my period. so should i not be freaked out? i just need reasurrance. (link)
Don't freak until you miss your period.
Its way to early for pregnancy lumps and
bumps anyway. Here are symptoms to watch for. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy.htm


I have to get an MRI on my elbow tomarrow morning b/c they think I have torn a ligament. They are gonna use contrast and all of that. I'm kinda nervous and I would like to know a few things--

1. Will they start an IV??
2. Will my whole body go into the MRI machine?
3. What should I wear to the MRI?
4. Will they make me wear a hospital gown or what?


THANKS in advance. (link)
Here is an article that tells you exactly
what to expect. Good luck. :)

http://www2.mgh.org/ERepository/ProcDesc.nsf/9df1b46deb9d82ed85256e2b0054a0ec/bb020850ff70ea4b85256e320047879b?OpenDocument


I wanted to make a recipe for cinnamon buns, it called for a package of yeast. In only have yeast in bulk.. exactly how much yeast do I need to measure out that is equalent to one package? Thanks (link)
A tablespoon of bulk is about the same as
one of those packets. I always use bulk. :)


Hmm..well...I have a question about the behavior of my English teacher.
He is a very..touchy person...He's quite old..I'd guess between 40 and 50, but really funny and nice, never gets pissed at students, so everyone loves him as an teacher. He's a very English type guy as well.
My question is that do you think it's ok if he goes to check what someone has written, and he sorta leans against them? Or like if someone asks a question, he goes over to them and usually has his hand on their back or shoulder..
and so on, like always quite close with the students.

I find it strange...I know that he's not a pervert or anything, but is it ok?

thanks. (link)
If you feel uncomfortable about it then
step or pull back should he do it to you.
He could just a touchy feely type.

Its really sad that a lot of teachers are
now having to watch every single caring
touch they make. Not that there aren't
some real pervs out there, but they have
made it difficult for students to know the
difference.

I had a friend who stopped driving a bus
because she got in trouble for comforting
a little 5 year old who fell on the bus steps.
Comforting a child is now inappropriate.

So, if you don't feel comfortable then
don't allow it. Just be careful. Not all
touchy people are perverts. :)



how do you know if you're tight, like is there any way to tell? (link)
If you have not had several kids you are fine.
Honestly, you could have sex all day...no penis
is going to stretch it out. :)


does it show on urine tests?

please dont lecture me its not even me

its a long story,but just please. (link)
Urine can be tested for almost anything.
Most labs only test for what is asked
about, because most of the tests are
not cheap.

So, if an employer is paying for the test
it would probably be tested for all drugs.

If its for a physical or something, probably
not. Unless ones parents have asked for it.
Should that be the case they would probably
have to inform you as well.


Im a columnist on this website and i just dont understand how the world got this bad thet everyone in it needs advice, i mean, i know people need help sometimes but has it got this bad. My life is going down the shitter and im 17, why do i feel terrible about everything and have a constant depression in my life? Is this normal, am i supposed to feel like the nothing? Ive had a girlfriend and i broke up with her because i wasnt happy with her, i just dont understand why life sucks so much! (link)
I know it seems like it, but your life
isn't going down the shitter. It is
normal (unfortunately) for teens to be
depressed off and on.

You are going through a lot of changes
and you are going through them fast! Your
teen years are probably the best and worst
times of your life if you think about it.

You have hormones pulling you in several
directions all at once. You start dating.
You start worrying about your appearance.
You learn to drive. You may be holding down
your first job. You may be worried about
college. Peer pressure about doing drugs,
Having sex, its never ending. ARRRG! All
very normal.

Do like Vicki suggested and take it a day
at a time. You will make it. :)



Physical? When one does a sport, the school asks one to get a physical from a doctor. What do they ask you? (link)
They used to just take your blood pressure
ask if you felt ok and they let you go.
Now they question you a little more because
to many teen athletes were falling over dead
during practice. It is mostly questions.

I totally disagree with the idea that you
don't have to tell the doctor the truth about
anything. Why would you lie? Something you
feel may be nothing could actually be very
important. All info stays between you and
your doctor. No sense in lying. It only
cheats yourself.

They mainly will want to know things like,
Have you ever had chest pain? Allergies?
History of heart problems? Diabetes? etc...


I recently got an email from Advicenators that said I had a question in my inbox, but the account wasn't one I use regularly... infact, it's one that I hadn't remembered I had until I looked up the username and saw that infact, it was another person using my name and information... or I had actually made an account and forgotten it. Everytime I try to get the password sent to me so I can log in and request that the account is deleted, it changes the password for the account I use all the time.

Can I just ask you to delete the other account without having to log in and such?

Thanks. (link)
I can't do it but dangernerd can.
Email him with any account info you
can remember and he would be glad to help you.

dangernerd@gmail.com


since i hate shaving my "down below", would it be okay if i naired it with the stuff i use for my legs? or would that be bad.. (link)
No do not use Nair for legs on your
"down below"! It will burn you badly.
Only use a product that says it is
safe to use in the bikini area. :)


i was wondering..im 15/m and like when ever my g/f touches me like puts her arms around me/hugs me i kinda get a little excited if you know what i mean..i mean i dont think about sex or anything it just happens..is that normal, and will it stop after a while? (link)
It is very normal. It will probably ease
up some once you have been dating a while.
Don't worry about it at all. :)


Hello all, this is Woahtherebabe.
This morning, I woke up and my eye was swollen shut, and around it is very swollen-(its not pretty;]). Anyway, yesterday before this had happened I had noticed something under my skin, it was white, and about half the size of my pinky finger. My parents said it wasnt really anything, so I decided just to wash my face, and that's it(just with warm water).
I was wondering if this has happened to anybody else, and whether anyone knows if this could be a spider bite, or something else.
Thank you to all, and have a nice day! (link)
Oh crud Woah! Was it on the skin under your eye,
or like on your actual eye bottom lid...you
get what I'm asking because I'm having trouble describing it!

If it was on the "bottom lid", for lack of a
better term, it might be a sty. They start
out sometimes looking white then look clear,
almost like a little blister. They hurt and
are really annoying but will probably be gone
in a day.

Is the white spot still there? If not it may
have been a coincidence. Have you ever had
conjunctivitis, better known as "pink eye'?
It will have your eye swelled shut when you
wake. It is usually all crusty looking too.
The rim of your eyes will be really pink.
It is contagious so should that be what it
is, do not wash both eyes with the same cloth.
If you think it might be this, see a doctor for
medicine.

If none of that helps, you know what to do.
See a doctor as soon as possible. You don't
want to risk any eye problems. :)

Edit...

Ouch! Well take care of it. Do what the doctor says! :)


so heres the thing...i think im overreacting but i just wanted to make sure...

Ive been on the pill for like 6 months now and have become sexually active. Tonight i had sex ( he was in me for like 3 min) with my b.f and he didn't have a condom but he didn't cum (he has a hard time with that) should i be worried? im just at the end of my cycle and should get my period soon, which would explain my cramps, but i just wanted another opinion. thanks in advance (link)
Once you have been on the pill for 30 days,
you can have sex anytime at all without
worry of becoming pregnant. You should
still use condoms for prevention of STDs.

Just remember to take you pill everyday
and you shouldn't have to worry about
pregnancy. :)




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