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am i ready
14/f
so me and this guy, we have no interest in a relationship
we've liked each other on and off for 3 years
i really love him
he loves me
i've given him a blow job
hes eaten me out
fingered
handjob
we've made out with just bottoms on
we've talked about sex
i love the feeling of being fingered while we're topless
am i ready for sex?
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I would give you two things to consider, Sex was never ment what the world has made it to be, it is a sign of love only to be done in marriage,
if you aregoing be in that kind of relationship, u better be prepard to be a mother, have a family.
another thing to concider, What else come with be Sexualy active. STI's are a more risk in some cases then pregency. and the effects will last longer than you'll live. a big problems with people today is the don't consider the long term effects of life, they want something and the want it now. consider something will you.
When a child is younger he/she sees a stove top, and is corriuos, they have no idea it's potental, sometime later the child will place his hand on it while it is hot, burning his/her hand. but still they do not full understand the stove, many years later the watch others cook on it but still the do not understand it fully, and aventuly there comes a point when that child knows enough to use it safely and effectivly. with burnig the food or hand or even the house.
right now you are in something neither you two understand, my advice is this don't do till you two are full ready to take what is going to come, within the bonds of marriage.
I ahve seen many people faled to see as I do and there lives are full of regrets and pain. get out while u still can. the choses though is yours.
sincerly Shadowfox
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please hear me out..this could possibly be the worst decision you ever make if you chose to have sex with him. number one- you are having to ask others if youre ready. being truly ready is when you KNOW in your heart this is the right thing to do and you are ready to take this huge step. number two- if you arent interested in a relationship, that isn't love. that's hormones. i know you dont wanna hear this, but sex is so meaningful..so important..that waiting for someone that you TRULY trust, are in a relationship with, and KNOW you are ready to do it with is CRUCIAL. also, youre only 14! youre still a kid! im 15 and i know for a fact im waiting till i find my soulmate. why? because i respect my body and myself and i want to live my life knowing i didnt give it away to someone who i may not even talk to ever again in 2 years. this is your life, enjoy every second of your innocence & youth and dont throw it all away by giving it up to this guy. trust me. i know its hard, but always remember that God created us to be the best people we can be and love is something that you will experience later in life and realize it goes WAY WAY beyond sex. its a trusting connection that is so amazing it cant be put into words. please, dont listen to the people who say "go for it" this isnt something you can just "go for" if youve already done alot. i hope that i helped and if yuo wanna talk i can help you out. trust me, sex and love are two COMPLETELY different things. self-respect is a true gift and will make you feel so great about yourself. be confident & dont stick with guys who wont get into a relationship and just fool around,..i promise yuo theres much better guys out there and one day youll realize how great it is to wait.
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i met a guy who i really liked at 14, we knew eacthother for about a month, and we did EVERYTHING together and then finally had sex! it was great, and now we've been together for almost a year!
if you really want to, and think your ready for it, GO FOR IT! =]
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okay girl... i hope this is the best answer yet for you.
im also 14/f
my boyfriend ate me out and has fingered me
so i know where yerr head is at
honestly i know this isn't the greatest advice but...really i think you are ready but its just yerr choice on if you want to go even further.
if you mentally have the stability to go thru it, then yerr ready.
tell me how this all works out girl!
and if you ever get a chance can i ask u a question? i kinda need help on something you might know haa...well good luck hope i helped!
much love.
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if you think your ready go ahead I know if I wanted to have sex none of the people telling me not to is gonna stop me. Just use a condom and REMEMBER have fun and relax. Hope I helped=]
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oh please dont..there are so many consequences and you would probably be happier with yourself later in life if you waited. i don't think you should convince yourself that you're in love with him either..at your age, you're probably mistaking it for infatuation. love and in love is different.
response to your comment after rating**
you said "when we dont liek eachother im really depressed"
umm.. if you were in love with him you wouldn't not "like" each other. wtf.
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As you probly already know you are way too young to even be thinking about that kind of stuff. Some people might say if you think your ready just go ahead. It doesn't matter what kind of protection you use you still have a 50% chance of getting pregnant. If your ready to be a mother than go right ahead!
Hope I helped!
sgirl13
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Its really up to you, actually.
If you've talked about it, make sure you both are ready. You'll want to be protected (condoms or birth control pills) - that is recommended, but optional.
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well if you allready did all that stuff then i would say your ready ha ha
let me know how it all works out
lots of love, lizzie
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No, you are not ready for sex.
You are 14. At 14 you can't manage to take care of any of the consequences that could happen as a result of sex.
At 14 you are apparently too young to realize that being in a relationship is important to sex. You say you love him, but have no interest in a relationship?
No, you don't love him. You're just 14.
Also, most telling, you are on a website asking people if you are ready for sex. If you have to log onto advicenators to find out if you are ready for sex, then you are not.
Being horny and wanting to have sex does not make you ready for sex. Control your impulses, sex should be part of the natural evolution of a relationship not a decision to go a bit further with some guy you like and have been playing around with.
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Ask yourself these questions.
Am I ready to be a mother?
Is he ready to be a father?
Can he support me and my child when I get pregnant?
If the answer to these questions is yes,
Use Google for sex info.
If the answer to any of them is no you
are not ready for the responsibility that
comes along with having sex. You may want
to have sex and feel you are "ready". But
honestly, there is more to sex than just
playing with each others naughty parts. :)
Here is a website that is full of important info.
I recommend you read it before making a decision that could very easily be life altering.
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This is a tough question. Sex is a big deal - there are many emotions that come along with sex. Fourteen is very young to be engaging in such an activity that requires great maturity and responsibility. I knew a girl in high school who got pregnant at fourteen. We were freshmen, and she was having a baby. We didn't even have our driver's license. How was someone who couldn't even drive a car, supposed to be a mom and take care of another human being? She wasn't even old enough to get a job. I imagined myself in her shoes as I contemplated having sex with my boyfriend, whom I dated for nearly four years. I decided it was better to wait until I was ready to take care of a child. It only takes one time to get pregnant, or catch an STD. 1 out of every 4 Americans have herpes. 1 out of every 4...that means that 1 out of every four kids in one of your classes has or will have herpes in their lifetime. Never tell yourself that it won't happen to you...becuause it does. Just think about it really hard. Sex is a beautiful and amazing thing...but it can also kill you. Good luck.
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if you have to ask if you're ready then you're probably not. it's something you have to decide yourself, no one else can make that decision for you. you have to know. physically you're probably ready, but maybe not emotionally.
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