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Gender: Female
Location: TX
Occupation: Student
Member Since: February 11, 2008
Answers: 11
Last Update: February 21, 2008
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i like dis boy name Cory and he just said on valentine day "Stephanie can u b my counselor," i said, he said "cause im in love with you" i was just sitin there blush n. then my friend imani said "dats wat we were just takin about she said before you came in dat she liked you a littlte bit"
Now dat he know i like him he always lookin at me and talkin to me an always hugn me and stuff and he said on that same day "Stephanie do you wana go wit me?"
I froze i didnt know wat to say!!!
Now i need advice to knoew wat to do
can sum1 plzzzzzz help !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Well, you may have come off to a bad start when you didn't say anything, but don't let that stop you! Talk to him and apologize for not saying anything earlier. Don't run away and don't hesitate, just let it all out. Good luck!
- Indi -
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Ok, to start off, this really DID happen to my friend - not to me, who's just pretending it happened to my friend!!! Haha :)
Everyone in the situation is 14 / a freshman.
My friend Danielle takes piano lessons, and a boy, Isaiah, has a lesson right after hers. She started to really think he was cool (about a year ago), but never really talked to him. (She's pretty shy/self conscious about things like that. Plus, there's barely any time for them to talk.) However, she started talking to him little by little at piano lessons, for the past few weeks.
So, we do indoor track, and so does Isaiah.
He seems to have a lot of friends, but he's very quiet seeming. She has lots of friends, too, but might be a bit more talkative. Although she's quite worried about her appearance, what others think, etc.
So, she mustered up the courage to CALL him, and ask him to our Sadie Hawkins dance, which was a HUGE step for her! I mean, she's NEVER done anything like that.
She was getting all excited/nervous about it alllll day at our track meet. Then...he said no. He said he thought he was busy. But then she was reallly depressed and has now lost all hope in her future of boys. I had a feeling he might say no, because he goes to a different school, and they barely know eachother. But I don't know what to tell Danielle, because she was expecting/ hoping he would say yes.
I know him a little, (or, i know of him) because my mom worked with his dad and his older brother used to babysit me. He seems like a nice kid.
Please advise me on how i can help my friend! She's pretty upset about it. I know she'll be OK but what kind of things can i tell her to make her feel better? Any tips on how to get him to notice her more, at the next few meets, etc.?
Thank you so much! :) (link)
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Well, if you examine the situation, your friend has a few options:
A: Don't give up, get to know him (flirt and such) and ask him if he's interested in going to the dance.
B: Move on. There are plenty of other besides Isaiah. Besides, you don't want to scare him off by asking again, do you?
You said he "thought he was busy"? He should KNOW if he's busy (unless you just worded it wrong). If he think he's busy, he's probably trying to avoid it. Maybe he's in love with someone else?
Perhaps he's just to shy around the people who are at your school. I mean, I'd be pretty shy if I went to a dance at another school full of people I've never met before.
I wish you and your friend the best of luck!
- Indi -
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Basically I was sent a text saying that My best friend didn't want to talk anymore. I was saddened its been about 4-5 months that we have not talked. Funny though because he still wears a shirt i bought him and he is always staring at me. No matter what he looks at me and last semester asked someone how i was doing. Another he told that i did a great job on my project and funny thing i was in his class. i don't know what to do.. he held the door today for me but i used the other door. im confused as to what to do...i wrote him a note but im not sure if i should even bother giving it to him somehow...or sending it via email. whats a girl to do? I miss him and I have frequent panic attacks.
-Lost Apart of My Heart
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It seems as though he's trying to earn your friendship back again but doesn't really want to ask you with words. He's probably thinking about you, since he's staring and holding doors. I suggest you write a letter, asking if you would like to be friends again. Make sure its a gentle note and don't pressure him to read it - he may need time to read it over and think about things.
Good luck!
- Indi -
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so i like this guy alot. i only told my one guy friend whose friends with him and he said i should ask him out. even though he has a girlfriend. but the thing is there not really together. i know its weird but idk. i really want to spend more time with him and get to know him better and my friend said he will introduce us more tomorrow but the thing is im really shy and i dont know what i would say.
im not sure what im asking here. advice maybe? or just things to tell me?? idk please help!
ps: im clueless (if i dated him he would be my first bf) (link)
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Well, if he has a girlfriend, then I suppose you shouldn't date him. I mean, if you put yourself in the girl's shoes, its kind of cruel, isn't it?
You two should just be friends. Don't worry about being shy, just be yourself and have fun. Maybe, one day, you'll be dating him!
- Indi -
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im going to be grounded in like a day and when i get grounded i dont have anything. i cant go outside i cant watch tv. i cant go on the computer i cant go on the phone and i cant have my cellphone. what are some things i could do besides cleaning that will burn up time for about a few weeks to a month???? (link)
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Well, when I'm grounded, I find a book that'll keep me busy (usually a series like Harry Potter). I know I sound like a bookworm right now, but trust me, it works.
If you have any siblings, try playing a board game or cards with them.
- Indi -
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k so i have a boyfriend...but none of my friends like him, so im basically not allowed to hang out with him at school, because they will get all mad and just walk away and be mad at me the rest of the day. I dont wanna break up with him, because i really like him, but its getting annoying because whenever i get a bf, they cant seem to be happy for me. Im scared that this will drive me and my bf apart and soon end up in breaking up, and i REALLY dont want that to happen. School is basically the only time that we can hang out because i dont live close to him, and i have to busy a schedule to hang out with him after school.
Its really aggravating me, because its really hard having to choose between my friends and my bf, and my friends have also been mad at me for other things, and i dont want to ruin our relationship any further, but i also want to hang out with my bf...I dont really know what im asking here,but any advice you can give me here on how to survive with everyone being happy would be appreciated:)
Thanks so much (link)
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Friends should NOT tell you who are are allowed to hang out with. I think you'll need to talk with them and ask them WHY they hate your boyfriend so much. If they give you a reason, tell your boyfriend and try to work things out. (Unless you've already done this!)
If they're telling you what to do and who to hang out with, well, shouldn't you be thinking about if they are REAL friends? Friends are supposed to support you, not judge you by who you hang out with.
You're right, this is pretty aggravating, but things will work out in the end. :)
- Indi -
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there is this boy i like but he is dating someone but she treats him like ____ i want to get him a rose should i (link)
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I would have to say no, sorry.
He has a girlfriend, even though he treats her like ****. I'm pretty sure you'd be pretty upset too if a girl gave a rose to YOUR boyfriend. Sometimes you just have to put yourself in other people's shoes.
- Indi -
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14/f
so me and this guy, we have no interest in a relationship
we've liked each other on and off for 3 years
i really love him
he loves me
i've given him a blow job
hes eaten me out
fingered
handjob
we've made out with just bottoms on
we've talked about sex
i love the feeling of being fingered while we're topless
am i ready for sex? (link)
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Its really up to you, actually.
If you've talked about it, make sure you both are ready. You'll want to be protected (condoms or birth control pills) - that is recommended, but optional.
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Anyone have any good flirting tips? :]
Haha, I know I probobly sound really stupid for asking, but I don't really have any good ones, except I guess smiling? Haha. Help me out :] (link)
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Be yourself.
That's the most important part. You don't want to be a completely different person around the person your flirting with and then be normal when you start dating, that'll just leave them scratching their heads and wondering what the heck happened to you. Besides, you need to understand that pretending will NOT help you, because that's pretty much like lying, and good relationships depend on trust.
And yes, you'll need to smile. Not a big, creepy grin but a sweet and friendly kind.
A good sense of humor would also help. I don't really know anyone who wants to date someone who will put them to sleep.
Oh yeah, and dress nicely! Well, dress in your regular, everyday clothes but add a little creativity to it and some nice smelling perfume (but not too much, you DON'T want to drown them in the smell).
- Indi -
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Okay I dont have low self esteem or anything but im not like cocky at all. This guy likes me and i always thought he was too good for me as stupid as that sounds. But he is extremely gorgeous and sweet to me and he seems to really like me. But I can't help but feel when I'm with him that im not good enough. It's all i think about. How can I get this out of my head? (link)
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You've got to believe that you are perfect just the way you are. Don't let the minor flaws hold you down. I usually think about all the positive things about me when I talk to my crush, that'll usually boost my confidence. But don't get all egotistic about it!
- Indi -
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know what name of shampoon that good for all girl's hair, make the hair so beauitful, shine, not too oliy and no FIZZY? and Puffy? and also make hair grow faster?
cuz i want my hair look good and long. (link)
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Well, I prefer to use the Salon Formula Shampoo or the Dove brands.
Also, if you want to give your hair a shine, use conditioner. It'll help untangle the knots and make it easier for you to comb out.
- Indi -
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