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Ok firsst of all im really embarred to be asking this.
I know that fingering is not callsed untill its inside...
buh where does it like.. go in...
gosh im so embaressd to be asking this....
jus to clear up any confusion ive gots right now
thanks
xXx
same place that you put your tampon
-Calamity Sami
what kind of physical do you have to take for the afrotc?
Well you well first get a routine physical, just as if you were at the doctors, and then you have to take the CFA (Candidate Fitness Assessment)
If you email me I can send you the CFA instructions, so you know what kind of things you'll be tested on (pushups, mile run, pull ups, shuttle run and basketball throw..)
-CalamitySami
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thanks for the advice. im trying out for my high school cheerleading team and im sore as hell but i still feel like cutting. my dad has set alot of limits for phone use so its hard to talk to a friend when i need to. then when i cant talk to my friends i get really aggravated at my dad for always giving me a hard time about the phone and that just adds making it harder to not do it. lately my dad is giving me a hard time about everything like he wont let me go to my moms as much as he used to. and hes getting to hard to deal with. i used to just call my friends and let the urages pass but since i cant talk to him when i need to i dont know what i should do.
Then perhaps you should try talking to your dad. Talking to your parents about this kinda stuff is tough most of the time, especially when they like to chime in with what they think before you get to your point. So before you do anything, go to your dad, and say "Hey, i have something important to say, and i need you to just listen and let me talk till I'm finished before you say anything" Get him to agree to that before you say anything. When you do that most of they time parents listen. Let him know that you are having urges again, but you are working towards not doing it. On your own, a shrink. But in order to do that you need a "safe buddy", someone to call and hang out with when you are feeling like cutting.
I think that once he listens to the reason for the constant phone use you will be a little more lax about it.
IF things aren't going well with your father however, and you say that is one of the reasons that makes you want to cut, try strengthening your relationship with him. It may not really be something you want to do. But chances are it will help. Set up that once a week at 7 pm or something you and him will play a card game or something. A little bit of time for you to spend time with each other, no need to spill about your personal life or anything, just time to spend with him.
I really hope you can get past this, its an awful thing to have to go through. But i know you can if you really want to.
Just remember that you have people that can help you get over it. So don't ever feel as if you are going through it alone.
-CalamitySami
im brie and im 14.
ive cut for like 2 years. i dont really know y i started but i was depressed. my parent found out a few months ago, my dad made me go see a shrienk and I HATED IT! talking about y i was doing it just made me want to do it even more. i havent cut in like 2 weeks but i get urages(sp?) alot and its gettin harder to not do it. my 2 best friends do it but they have and r still trying to get me to stop.its easy to talk to them because they know wht its like. ive never passed out or anything like that and i want to keep it that way. But its like something happens i cut then i say i wont do it again, but then i end up doing it anyway.
Getting over something like this can be very difficult. What you have to remember is that you will only be able to stop if thats what you truly want to do. Your body has become use to the pain... Try taking up a sport, or working out a lot, or dance. All of those allow you to really push yourself, so your muscles will be sore, and you have that pain that you are use to, but instead of it being destructive, this is being constructive.
When you are feeling and getting that urge to cut, try to keep yourself busy. Make plans with friends. You might want to even establish a friend, that when you get that urge to cut, you can call them, say a certain word or phrase so they know that you have that urge, without actually talking about it, and they can either talk to you on the phone, or come over to hang out with you. Anything to keep you distracted, until the urge passes over.
I hope that this has helped you some. If you have anymore questions feel free to email me.
-CalamitySami
I keep getting muscle cramps in my lower calf.
It happens at night, like recently, it's been every night :\
I wake up due to killing calf muscle cramps, like they almost make me cry.
What could be causing this? :\
Thanks!
Well first of all; these kinda cramps,are often called Charlie horses. They are quite common, especially in your legs and when you sleep. There are several causes for Charlie horses, over exhaustion, lack of potassium in your body, as well as many others.
How to get rid of them:
* Try not to drink caffeine,that means staying away from soda, and coffee as much as you can (it dehydrates your body and depletes the minerals that help repair your muscles)
* Eat more bananas (it will give your body the potassium that it needs)
* After you've exercised your legs a lot during the day, take a hot bath, take a hand full of Tylenol and throw them in the bath water. (Do not actually take that many Tylenol orally!)It will relax your legs so they aren't so overworked and sore at night.
*And when you do happen to get Charlie horses. Massage the muscle that is cramping, as firmly as you can, this will help it go away faster.
-CalamitySami
My friend Viktor, is 10 (I'm 14). He has informed me that he has started to drink alcohol (he's 10). And I'm really worried because it's only 10.
Can anyone tell me about the impact of alcohol (cuz i havn't really tried myself) and what I should say to him? Please help!
Its really a bad idea to start drinking at a young age, especially that young. Sit him down and talk to him about it, let him know that you are worried. Its a very dangerous situation, while it takes adults about two years to become alcoholics it only takes teens two weeks, and considering he isn't even a teen yet, his brain could be effected by it even more. That is a real statistic.
Considering that he is that young as well, he may not understand the impact of what he said and elaborating a little. Its fairly normal for your parents to let you have a sip of wine at a formal function now and then, but if he is talking about getting liquor on his own... then I'd advise you to talk to either your parents or his. If you want more advice at all, or have more questions please feel free to email me!
-CalamitySami
need visual for tampon application for daughter's first time
When you buy a box of tampons, it normally has a diagram and info about tss and instructions for her
I'd like to know if guys care whether or not a girl they are with has a small house or a big house and what not.
Guys may care a little, but it really isn't very high on their list in all honesty, but it does depend on the person. But really, if a guy is with you it ought to be for you, and not what size your house is.
-CalamitySami
i'm a 16 year old girl..
my friend, who's also a girl and 17..well, she does the weirdest things that bother me. she calls me her best friend. let's just say that maybe she is.
well okay. this friend texts me about 10 times a day and tells me to "call her please?" okay, i call her. she spends 25 or so minutes rambling on about her problems, without giving me pauses in between so i could tell her about ME, and then, at the end she says "thanks for listening. bye"
i don't get it. i feel like she uses me.
another reason why i think she uses me is when i try and help her. i know it's hard on her..but her family's not too well off. they're having problems within and stuff. and well..i print stuff out for her and she kinda never thanks me. i insisted that i could help her out..and so now she acts as if its my obligation to print her stuff out and help her with homework AND listen to her problems.
also..i let her use my membership for the gym (my mom's) and she calls me and texts me sending me angry messages on when we could go already..acting as if its my responsibility to give her MY MOM's membership after I LET her borrow it for some days!
I mean, I understand she's older. But when things get to a certain point..they have to stop! Pretty soon, she might like start asking me for money or something. I don't know how to approach this situation. She thinks its my obligation to go to the gym with her when really its not. I'm just too weak to tell her. Am I exaggerating things? Cause I feel like she's using me.
Its completely understandable. They best thing to do, would be to sit her down and talk to her. Let her know that you are feeling taken advantage of and just being used. She will either have no clue that thats how she was treating you and say sorry, or she's being doing it on purpose and being called out on it may stop her from doing it. You don't have to be confrontational about it. just tell her nicely. Let her know that you don't mind helping her every now and again, but you feel as if she isn't grateful for your help. let her know that your friendship seems a little one sided and that you would appreciate it if she would express her gratitude more when you help her out. I'm sure that once you two talk it will be better.
Hope it works out for you!
-CalamitySami
im on yaz.
i just started it.
my doctor told me to start it the sunday after my period. so i did.
but now it's around the time im supposed to start.
but i still have pills left.
if i start my period before i finish the pills. do i still take the pills?
help :/
Well you wont start until you get to the last seven pills which are just sugar pills really, You're birth control begins to regulate when you have your period, its all hormones, so when you are taking those last seven pills thats the only time that you will start your period.
It tends to take a few months for your body to adjust to it as well, so don't freak out if you do have your period a little before you're suppose to.
-CalamitySami
(hope that helps)
i have really short eyelashes so i really want long ones for prom coming up but everytime i wear fake eyelashes, the corners always end up peeling off. i tried basically every mascara, expensive to cheap. i dont like it because they always get clumpy. so im wearing fake eye lashes for sure.
im getting my makeup done so do you think that because of the fact that ive put fake eyelashes on myself that they always fall off? cuz it might be different if someone else does it for me.
they really need to last throughout the whole night, after party, and the sleepover.
so should i just get the makeup artist to put them on or is it still gonna peel off, anyway?
there's also professional eyelash extension people but i have to drive so far for that and its soo expensive. plus they last for months and thats not necessary. i just need it for the whole night and until the morning when i go home.
so are makeup artists able to make them last that long or is are they just gonna fall of the same way they do when i put them on myself?
help!!!!! :(
you will have better luck if you just have whoever is doing your makeup put the eyelashes on, but there is still a chance for them to peel up at the edges, i'd suggest the fake eyelashes that comes in parts, so you put on a bunch of different pieces, it looks just as good if not better and you don't have to worry about them peeling away at the corners, they tend to stay on a bit better. if you talk to the make-up artist that you are having do your makeup they should know what I'm talking about.
-CalamitySami
so earlier today, my car battery died. when i got it jump started, it reset my radio, and now it's telling me i need a code to unlock it. my car is a 2000 mercedes benz clk320, but i don't know what brand the radio is. (i'm not very good with cars) does anyone know where i can get the code for it?
most of the time you have to go to the Mercedes dealership, they will have the code, and you should still have your warranty on it, so it won't charge you anything. if you don't know where one is, you can go to the Mercedes official website, and they have a dealership locater on the site.
-CalamitySami
ok well i relle want to get a toungue ring...
andd i dotn know iff yuu guys would thing it was sexyy
do u think it would be attractivee if a girl gott a toungue ringg..
im 5'3 italian nd brazilian
in shape
cutee lol
^^ would it look goood?
There are pretty much two opinions on this: either guys really like it, or they really think its disgusting and you are cheap... I would suggest getting a belly ring if you don't have one, Guys find belly rings much more attractive than they do tongue piercings. and also remember that there is a lot that can go wrong with getting your tongue pierced. You talk funny for a while, and can't eat certain foods for a period of time, and it is the most dangerous to get pierced because you have a main artery in your tongue. A belly ring has less chance of getting infected, you can take it out, you can change the belly ring, and you just have to clean it for a while...
-CalamitySami
I am wanting something small that I can dock my iPod in to play at work. I don't want it to take up alot of room on my desk...and I don't want to pay a small fortune for it (under $40). It would also be nice if it had AM/FM built in but that is not a must. I have a 3rd Generation iPOd nano.
thanks.
Go to a Walgreens and they have small homing stations, square, plays the radio, and they are about 20 bucks. good luck!
-CalamitySami
ok so today my crush was like talking to me cause he sits near me in a mutual class and we were talking about the worksheet and all of a sudden he's like, "what's the temperature?" and i was thinkingg [uhh wtfff] so i said, "what?" and he was like, "youu knowww, the tempertaure.. oh nevermind" and turned around and started laughing and i was like thinking [uhhhh] so you'd think what he said had a double meaning cause obviously why the hell would he be asking me the weather outside??
so, like any other obsessive girl would, i went on urbandictionary.com and looked up "temperature" and like i didn't QUITE understanddd. cause ok
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=temperature
definition 1.) doesn't apply
definition 2.) doesn't apply
definition 3.) it's the only one that MIGHT make sense cause maybe he was asking if i like him or i think he's hot or something cause i always stare at him EXCEPT... it got 13 thumbs down and only 7 up? is that what he meant?
i KNOW i'm overanalyzing this.. but if that's what he meant & then he started laughing, then i'm not gonna be so obvious about me liking him cause if he doesn't like me back then it's pointless.
ALL IN ALL: can someone confirm the double meaning of the question, "what's the temperature?"
In all honesty, I think he was just messing with you. I have a few guy friends that typed some random numbers into a calculator and asked me if i "saw it" and i spent tons of time trying to figure it out, like if it said a word upside down or something. Turns out they were just having a laugh at how clueless I was. If you have never heard of the term and urban dictionary doesn't seem to work, I don't think it means anything.
Sorry
-CalamitySami
i took a practice sat a couple of days ago and it was graded just like the sat's are and i got a 1510. is that good? average? bad? i really dont know
thanks:)
Depends, your Sat is sectioned into three different parts, Reading, Math, and Writing.
Each section is worth 800 points total if you get them all right, however colleges only look at your reading and math score, so you can have a total of 1600. if your score is just the score of those two, you are doing pretty well.
When you do take the actually Test, you are going to want to take it as many times as possible. the Second time is when you are most likely to do the best.
Make sure that you get up early and have a really good breakfast, and pack good healthy snacks, and go to bed early the night before. It truly makes a huge difference in your score
And know that Colleges take all the best scores from each section. so try studying for just the math for one time you take the SAT and really focus on that so you can get the highest math score on that test, and then focus on the other sections on the other SATs that you take.
-CalamitySami
i don't know what subject this should be in, but, ok, i want to get my bellybutton pierced, and i live in utah. i know places where i can get it done, but, does anyone know about how much it would cost? most people say it costs ... plus the price of the jewelry. but, if i have a bellybutton ring, do you think they would use it, so i don't have to get one there? thanks!
You don't have to wait a year before you can change your belly ring.... and you don't have to buy cleaning solutions where you get your piercing either. It'll be more expensive.
If you buy some saline solution, which is what they typically use for contacts, you can get a store brand, nothing fancy real cheap too. you just take a shot glass, fill it up with the solution and morning and night:
Bend forward, so your belly button is resting on the top of the shot glass, then you stand up, and lie down on the bed, and shake the shot glass so it cleans your piercing... little complicated to explain. but do that for three months and you'll be able to change your belly ring sooner than what they tell you. just make sure before you put a new belly ring in, and when you take it out, put it in a cup of saline solution and shake it a little to clean it.
Most piercing places aren't going to want to use a piercing that you brought it, because it can bring up a lot of legal issues. (Example: if it gets horrible infected with the belly ring you brought in and you can sue them for not using sterilized equipment, ect.)
although some places are willing to, so you just have to bring it in and ask if they would.
Some advice however, make sure its the barbell that you have, not a ring, some places suggest getting a ring when you pierce because its easier to turn, but the rings tends to catch on clothes easier and can really irritate your piercing after you get it.
Another thing; try to go to some place in a mall, they normally have more credibility and have a cleaner studio, this will reduce your healing time and the chance of getting an infection
you are also going to want to wear some look fitting clothing for the first week or so.
Sorry that was so long, Hope it was of help
-CalamitySami
so i have like 5 really ugly pimple scars on my face.. they are scabby and brown/purpleish and i was wondering what i can put on them to minimize the appereance of them
I have really Bad Acne. I'm on like 5 prescriptions to keep it under control, and they have all been amazing. The only issue for me ended up being the fact that I had a lot of scars afterwards. You can either go to your doctor and ask for them to prescribe Differin which you put on each night, and helps with the scarring, (its truly amazing) or just use neosporin each night and you'll have noticeable results. They will be gone in no time
-CalamitySami
ok so i have a lot of acne on my back/shoulders and some on my chest.. its really un-attractive and ive had it for a few months or so, im 16 years old and i havent started using any kind of product to have this acne caused. i just dont know what to do about it. i love myself and my body and what not but this acne completely suCks! what can i do to get rid of it? is thre a product to get rid of body acne or anything? pleaseee help! :(
I know it sucks. I had the same issue. My guess is you have long hair right? Well that tends to be one of the causes of acne on your back, shoulders, and chest, its where your hair, that tends to naturally have many oils in it is constantly against your skin. So tips:
- Take a shower in the morning and in the evening and use Clearasil (really strong and good stuff) to wash where ever you have the body acne.
- Wear tops that cover a little more. Or when you are wearing a tank top or such have your hair pulled back a little, in a pony tail or some kinda Up-Do
- Change your shampoo and conditioner. No joke, it might help a,lot. It did with me. Because once you use one kind of shampoo/conditioner for an extended period of time. Your hair gets like a oily coating on it. So I've learned that every time i go to buy shampoo and conditioner, I have to buy a different brand than the last two I bought. so I cycle through about five brands.
Good Luck!
-CalamitySami
PS: I've found that the Clearasil Ultra Acne Clearing Scrub works the best. You can see a result in as little as 3 days.
16/f
hi. i'm 5'6 like 116 llbs. i feel REALLY fat. like i really need to lose weight. and my mom has been telling me that i need to lose like 5-10 llbs. but yeah so anyways i want to start losing weight like before spring break/the summer. i'm playing water polo.. so thats a good work out. and i'm gonna start running at the club whenever i can.. but what else can i do? also.. does anyone have any like good diet plans that are free? like exactly what you should eat every day? i know like the basic things like don't eat a lot of junk food.. etc. i just cant stick to that kinda thing. i need like a strict diet telling me exactly what to eat and how much of it. thanks!
Darling... You are not fat. Trust me, I'm also 5'6 and I weigh 130 llbs. But thats because I dance 5 hours a day and have a lot of muscle. And because I have many friends that play water polo I can tell you that most of your weight is probably muscle.
Your BMI is what is important. and yours is 18.7 (just type BMI Calculator into google)
That means that your weight is where is should be and even a little low. Don't focus on your weight so much as being Healthy. Eat healthy foods and snacks. Lots of Veggies, Fruits, Dairy and Meat. If you want to avoid Gaining weight then stay away from anything with a lot of sugar, and don't eat Starchy foods, such as Bread and Rice. With as much exercise that you are getting now, as long as you eat healthy you won't gain any weight, and maybe lose a few.
Another Tip: Snack through out the day. Keeping your blood sugar at a steady level is very good for you. And then when you come to dinner time, or lunch, you will not be tempted to have large helpings.
one more: Don't eat past 7. you need to give your body time to digest all the food before you go to bed.
(I know this isn't exactly what you wanted to hear, but I hope I was of help)
-CalamitySami