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what should i do about my dad?
thanks for the advice. im trying out for my high school cheerleading team and im sore as hell but i still feel like cutting. my dad has set alot of limits for phone use so its hard to talk to a friend when i need to. then when i cant talk to my friends i get really aggravated at my dad for always giving me a hard time about the phone and that just adds making it harder to not do it. lately my dad is giving me a hard time about everything like he wont let me go to my moms as much as he used to. and hes getting to hard to deal with. i used to just call my friends and let the urages pass but since i cant talk to him when i need to i dont know what i should do.
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Then perhaps you should try talking to your dad. Talking to your parents about this kinda stuff is tough most of the time, especially when they like to chime in with what they think before you get to your point. So before you do anything, go to your dad, and say "Hey, i have something important to say, and i need you to just listen and let me talk till I'm finished before you say anything" Get him to agree to that before you say anything. When you do that most of they time parents listen. Let him know that you are having urges again, but you are working towards not doing it. On your own, a shrink. But in order to do that you need a "safe buddy", someone to call and hang out with when you are feeling like cutting.
I think that once he listens to the reason for the constant phone use you will be a little more lax about it.
IF things aren't going well with your father however, and you say that is one of the reasons that makes you want to cut, try strengthening your relationship with him. It may not really be something you want to do. But chances are it will help. Set up that once a week at 7 pm or something you and him will play a card game or something. A little bit of time for you to spend time with each other, no need to spill about your personal life or anything, just time to spend with him.
I really hope you can get past this, its an awful thing to have to go through. But i know you can if you really want to.
Just remember that you have people that can help you get over it. So don't ever feel as if you are going through it alone.
-CalamitySami
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