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so im planning on dying my hair.
black with purple in it.

but im not sure what i want to do with the colors yet, i was thinking either purple streaks, or purple underneath. i was considering tips, but that will not put that much purple in my hair, so yeah. like would tips and streaks look dumb?

btw, now my hair is brown with light brown/blonde in it and they are highlights. so yeah.

what do you think is a better style?

I like the sound of having purple streaks best. It will show up very well against the black and give it multi tones. Pretty!

I feel so lethargic lately.
So badly it's almost taking over my life.
I'm 17/f.
I wake up to go to school in the morning and I can hardly get out of bed. My eyelids feel so heavy. I feel irritable and grumpy all day.
I don't really eat at school or drink much.
I am a vegetarian because meat makes me sick. I have been vegetarian for about 4 years now. I don't eat a special diet or anything, just evereything apart from meat.
I don't like those beans and lenitls things.
Every morning I have a vitamin/mineral tablet (called Supradyn) and an Iron tablet (24mg).
What am I supposed to do?
I came home from school crying from exhaustion today coz I couldn't get a lift from my mum so I had to walk.
Is it what I'm eating or what??
Someone help.

It could be a number of things.
What you're eating is a start, yes. You need more supplements if you don't eat meat. Make sure you get other vits and nutrients from vegetables and salads.
Do you sleep too little? If so, get into the habit of sleeping more. You could even be sleeping too much. If that's the case, tone it down. Get about 9 hours a night.
I cannot stress this enough, but eat a GOOD breakfast when you wake up, like porridge for example. It will keep you going throughout the day.
Eat and drink at school. Healthy snacks to keep you going. Sip water throughout the whole day to keep you hydrated.
Keep active too. Don't sit around all day. It just makes you feel sluggish.
You may even have something like anemia, so it's worth a trip to your doctor to rule out any illnesses etc.
I know feeling lethargic isn't fun. I used to be like it when I had school, too.

my cheeks are slightly pudgey, is there any way i can loose some of that pudge? im definatly not fat, but i have a round face, and my cheeks just look a little chubby. Thanks!

*Exercise. It will help the other areas of your body too.
*Exercise/massage your facial muscles. This actually takes alot of effort and time to see noticeable results, but you should give it a try.
http://members.optusnet.com.au/vanviola/face02.html
Remember, you must eat and drink healthily too, or you are doing yourself no favours.
If you're still growing, the fat can minimize later.
Good luck anyway!

is it wrong to refer to an animal as "it" when you dont know its gender?

It's not "wrong", no. You don't know what gender the animal is, so you can't call it anything else.

are diet soda's bad for you? because i've been hearing alot lately that they can cause memory loss over time and it burns like holes in your brain.

No, the won't do that. They do contain rubbish though (Phenylalanine also known as aspartame which is used as a substitute for sugar etc) but so do regular fizzy drinks. Also, they're bad for diets, because they bloat your stomach.
Drink them in moderation. Or better still, not at all.

is it normal to have cramps to the side of your belly button as a result of your period? cause i thought that was too high for menstrual cramps. but its on my left side so it cant be appendicitis right? thanks so much and i will rate you all for your helpful posts!!!

It affects people differently, so having pains a bit higher than you normally would does seem alright. Don't panic and if the pain doesn't subside in a few days, talk to your doc.

my mom will usually get on to me for picking out high inch heels, and no strappless shirts, i keep telling her no, im in the 6th grade, but i cant get through to her that i am not 2 anymore. what should i do?

It's what mum's do unfortunately. They don't like to see their daughters grow up so fast. I'm sure if you ever become a mother, you will feel the same.
I can't help noticing you're in 6th grade.. That's not exactly old/mature enough in my eyes. You shouldn't be in such a rush to grow up. I can't stress that enough. If I could go back to being that age, I would in a split second.
Your mum is aware you aren't 2 any more. She's probably doing it for your own safety. Wearing promiscuous clothing will attract the attention of older men.
Just keep trying to reason with your mum. Don't pick out the most revealing outfit right now. Keep it to a certain standard. For instance, don't wear high heels together with your strapless shirt. Wear one or the other. Over time, as you get older, your mum will back off.
Think of this as a test. You're still quite young, so take this opportunity to prove to your mum you are maturing. I know it's annoying - but most people your age go through it.
and Happy Halloween by the way. :)

Do you guys think its weird for 16 year olds to go trick-or-treating? I dont do it to steal candy from little kids, I do it because I am a kid at heart lol and its fun! PLUS ITS FREE CANDY! But some people give me weird looks when I knock on their door and say "Trick-Or-Treat!" I guess its because I look like I'm about 20. Several houses last year gave me just one piece. But I dunno if they did that to everyone or JUST me. So my question is this: Do you think there should be an age limit to trick-or-treating? Why or Why not?

Good question.
I personally feel anyone over the age of 16 shouldn't go trick or treating. They're old enough and mature enough to think of other ways to celebrate Halloween. I feel trick or treating is for children/young teens as it's exciting for them to dress up and get free sweets etc.
People your age should have the money to buy your own sweets.
If you really want to do it, go ahead. I bet there are tonnes of people like you who still like going trick or treating, but once you classify yourself as an adult, leave it to the kids.
Happy Halloween. :)

My dog is bringing up blood. What do I do?

You take it to the vet ASAP.
It's also good to take a sample of the blood with you.
It could be anything (swallowed a foreign body) to something more serious.
I hope your dog is okay.

Is it true that you can get stretch marks around your mouth from giving a guy a blow job?

No. Probably just a rumour you've heard going around.

In the Mall, do you think they have Cameras in the Elevator? and if they did could you get in trouble for making out in there, i did, but i'm just curious if they have cameras in them.

and, in the dressing rooms, do they have cameras in there too? or around them? or does it just depend..and also what if you got caught making out in a dressing room, JUST MAKING OUT, what would happen? would they notify your parents?

thanks a bunch=]

There can be cameras in elevators. It just depends where you are. Kissing in them isn't going to get you in any big trouble though. Just make sure other people aren't in there.
Again, some places do have cameras in dressing rooms (or 2 way mirrors which can still be monitored) and around the dressing rooms. To be honest, you shouldn't be making out in them anyway. It's for the purpose of trying on clothes. If any workers happen to see two people in one, they would get a little suspicious and probably think you're attempting to steal. Although if you did get caught kissing, they wouldn't notify your parents. Just tell you to not do it again. It is NOT illegal for them to put cameras in dressing rooms if it is strictly for theft purposes.

A really sweet guy asked me out the other day. The thing is I was at a party with him (this is when we met) and he drank pure volka. I really hate drinking and I think it's a turnoff, but the thing is he apologized to the girl who threw the party and it sounded like he really meant it. He's such a nice guy, I just don't like the drinking part.

15/f hes 15/m...what should i do? i really want to say yes to going out with him, but i dont know..advice?

He's 15 and shouldn't be drinking anyway, but it all depends. How much did he drink? Why did he do it? Was it to look cool? Because the taste of straight vodka isn't exactly nice.
Ask him why he does it. It shouldn't put you off him. He was at a party and could have just been one of those things.
Just talk to him and explain the only thing you're worried about is the drink.
He should understand.
If he's such a "nice guy", you shouldn't base your opinions of him from that night.
and if it turns out his drinking is a regular habit, he's simply not for you.
Good luck. :)

So Halloween is tomorrow and I STILL don't know what to be. I can't really go out and buy a costume tonight so what are some ideas for a costume that I can just get out of my closet?
Thanks! :)

**Wear something black and paint on whiskers and a nose to be a cat. If you don't have the ears/tail, make them. Same goes for a bunny (white outfit, facepaint, make ears and a pompom tail) and lots of other animals.
** If you have a feather boa, crown (make one if not) coloured tights and a cute/sparkly top, you could go as a show girl.
** Be a classic ghost and make it out of a white sheet. (cut out the eyes etc)
**Scarecrow - Wear jeans and add patches, a large shirt, messy hair, add straw for effect.
**Hippy
** Rag doll - put your hair in 2 plaits, wear a dress and paint on freckles.
**Dress up as the opposite sex
**A nerd. Get some glasses, add spots, wear a shirt with a tie etc....
** Pirate - make an eye patch, wear jeans and a stripy top.
**A funny favourite of mine - a "cereal" killer. By cutting up cereal boxes and sticking them on a shirt and have a toy weapon.

Other things you could make:
*Halo to be an angel
*Fairy/angel wings

That's about all I can think of for now. If I come up with more, I'll edit. :)

Does anyone know any good Screamo bands! I just got into screamo and i likie it but on itunes theres no genre for screamo. So yeah help me

Here you go:
http://musicsearch.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=music.search
If you want to search for other genres, look for it in the drop down menu towards the right. :)

OK first Im f/14
I have a few questions,

1.ok my parents are 50 and 51, so they are old fashioned, well my bf and i have been going out for a year, and my parents always watch us like hawks to make sure we arent doing anything "inappropriate" well, so is there any way to escape them?!?!

2. My boyfriend and i kiss, just a little peck, how do i get him to start making out with me??? and i know he wants to make out with me!!!

3. Well so how do i get him to do more? not sex! but like more than just kissing, like idk what, but any ideas and advice?

4. ok, so like..im really confused with like EVERYTHING to do with guys, b/c he is my first bf, and my parents hide me from the world of anything like that, so explain to me EVERYTHING you can think of! ok?

please help me, and im sorry that im kind of out of the world of guys, sex, and relationships.
Thanks for the advice!!!

1. You can try, but it might not work. Tell them you like privacy, but you will be mature and not do anything. It's been a year now, so they should understand to an extent.
They're only being parents really - there's lots like yours. Would you like your daughter with her boyfriend alone not knowing what they're doing - as well as being underage? Probably not!

2. Slip your tongue into his mouth and it will go from there.
Go here for some tips:
http://www.links2love.com/teens_kissing.htm
Lots more here:

3. TALK TO HIM. Ask if he's ready to go further. Communication is the key here. If couples can't talk about things like this, it's not a good sign.
There's a number of things you can do without sex.
(touching with clothes on/off, dry humping, oral etc)

4. It's okay to be confused. You learn as you go along and since you've been with him for a year, it seems like you're doing a good job. Send him txts, messages, etc telling him how much you care, give him random kisses just because, hug him because you can, maybe buy him little gifts. Everyone is different to when it comes to something like this. Just carry on what you're doing.
and remember.. Guys are always confusing no matter what!

ok. 13/f.

i was at a party this weekend and i ended up having sex three time with three different guys. it was really good, but i wont go into details.
im only 13 though, like since im so young can something like that be bad?

thanks.

also, do you consider that as a slutty thing.
i did ALOT of things.

Personally, I hate to categorize people as things like "sluts", but what you've done is the ultimate definition of being a slut, not to mention you're only 13.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=slut

I'm actually very shocked. Not only can you get a reputation, it seems as though you have no self respect.
What I want to know is why would these boys offer to sleep with you knowing you already had sex that night.. anyway, I don't know all the details.
My advice to you would be to slow the hell down. You're 13, not 33. You have so much time for sex. You should be saving it for someone you really like - not just giving it up to anyone.
I really hope you realize this soon and let what you've already done be a lesson to you - and everyone else.

13/F

Okay, so I'm an immature kid. I like perverted things. Like, put those balls away and I look at Yaoi (porn) well, people are making fun of me. I tried everything to stop it, but they won't. I don't wanna change. I like being ME! Is there anything to stop this annoying people from bothering me???

p.s if you have something rude to say, please don't say it... I dislike people like that...

Don't look at/talk about porn/perverted things infront of those people. Keep it to yourself and whoever else is interested.
If you like being you, you shouldn't have a problem with whatever anyone else says/thinks, right? :)

only a few times, can you like do something so the dentist can't tell.

and what if you have a black dot on the bottom of your jaw like underneath your tooth??
what does that mean?

How much is "a few"? Less than 5? 10? Probably not. Dentist's can tell alot of things, so it's quite hard to fool them. I once remember someone went and he said "you've been eating polos!" I guess that was after long exposure to the sweets though.
As for the black dot, it could be a number of things. Something simple like a blood blister or something which may need treatment. If your dentist misses it, to reassure yourself, point it out and ask what it is.
Rememeber;
Don't smoke, be healthy. ;)
Good luck!

15/f

Ok well,
should i shave my pubes?
ok well idk i have once or twice but i find it hard to keep doing it because the skin gets irritated and its not the easiest task in the world. is there anything i can do to make it not get irritated?

You don't HAVE to do it. If you don't want to shave it all, trim it. Itchy regrowth/irritation is normal with areas like that because it's sensitive. If you want to shave it all, take it slow and apply some sort of shaving gel (being careful not to get it inside!) Gel soothes as you shave. Make sure your razor is sharp. Afterwards, put on some lotion for after shaving to stop any irritation. If you look around in stores, they will have huge varieties.
You should get used to it if you do it more and it won't get so irritated.
If shaving just doesn't seem to be working for you, look into other methods, such as creams and waxing.
Remember, don't think it's something you have to do. Do it for yourself. Noone else ;)

ok how long do you think me and my bf should be together before we have sex. he's thinking 5 months but idk im ready whenever but idk how long do you think we should wait?

If you're of age and are 100% ready physically and mentally, there's no set time. I suppose people may tend to wait a while because it makes it more special (with the build up etc) as apposed to just jumping into bed on your first date!

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