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New boyfriend drinks.
A really sweet guy asked me out the other day. The thing is I was at a party with him (this is when we met) and he drank pure volka. I really hate drinking and I think it's a turnoff, but the thing is he apologized to the girl who threw the party and it sounded like he really meant it. He's such a nice guy, I just don't like the drinking part.
15/f hes 15/m...what should i do? i really want to say yes to going out with him, but i dont know..advice?
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You drink at parties. That's what you do. Maybe he does drink or it's just whenever he can get his hands onto it [like at parties] If he's a nice guy and you like him, then you should go out with him.
You can't really talk to him about drinking because you aren't dating yet and unless it causes problems within your relationship, it's time to speak up. Like if he would rather drink than hang out with you or he comes over drunk, that's just a problem. I drink too, rarely. Whenever an event comes up like New Years. Maybe he's the same way but I say get to know him more.
If he apologized, then he's probably not a regular drinker. Maybe he did it because the drink was simply put out and everyone else was doing it. Maybe he felt pressured or maybe he wanted to try it. Something along those lines. But if it really effects you that much, then don't go out with him. At least one person in a relationship is either smoking or drinking or did at one point. Maybe not enough to call a bad habit, but once you get closer.. it's easy to talk to him about those habits you don't like. You can't change a person, but simply.. tone their habits down in time if they really care about you, they would try. But right now, it's just all teenage drinking drama and it's normal unless they drink everyday.
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you were at a party.. thats what you do at parties.. you drink alcohol.. cut the guy some slack!
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He's 15 and shouldn't be drinking anyway, but it all depends. How much did he drink? Why did he do it? Was it to look cool? Because the taste of straight vodka isn't exactly nice.
Ask him why he does it. It shouldn't put you off him. He was at a party and could have just been one of those things.
Just talk to him and explain the only thing you're worried about is the drink.
He should understand.
If he's such a "nice guy", you shouldn't base your opinions of him from that night.
and if it turns out his drinking is a regular habit, he's simply not for you.
Good luck. :)
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If he's otherwise a good guy, and you don't mind him drinking at parties, then go out with him. (you describe him as "a really sweet guy").
If his habits are going to bother you, and if you don't want a boyfriend who drinks, don't date him. Simple as that.
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discuss with him how you dont apprcitate how he drinks. you have to get used to it, you have to be able to tell the truth, and how you feel in alot of situation. this being on of them. i hope this helps.
♥staci.
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