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So I'm in 7th grade and I always see people kissing at my school. It makes me depressed, because I've never had a boyfriend and it makes me feel unwanted. I don't even know if I'll ever get one...
It's making me feel really bad about myself. Any advice? :( (link)
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Well like everyone else said, you have so many years ahead of you to have a boyfriend. Plus, if you did start dating right now, it most likely won't last. You most likely won't know him when you get into high school.
Also, boys at 13, 14, and 15 are really, really immature. Like when you get older and look back, you're going to be glad you didn't date any of them when they were like that.
They're too caught up in sex, kissing, making out instead of an actual relationship. When you get older, relationships mean more than that. If they aren't, they're sitting around playing video games and don't even care to look at girls.
So, trust me, you will get a boyfriend in the right time. Just enjoy being young and not have to worry about having a boyfriend. They can also be a lot of drama and you're young sooo enjoy yourself.
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Hello there. Well there is this boy that I have known for a long time because we played at the same fields. I found he was in 5 of my 7 periods so we talked a lot and we got along really well. Then we began talking more and we got really close. He told me he liked me but I didnt feel the same way but we carried on. Then I liked him and he still liked me but the thing is on the inside we are a perfect match but on the outside I just didnt find him attractive. So I wanted to wait for him to mature or idk but we stayed friends. And still ready close. Well we know this girl and he started talking to me about liking her but she never liked him. Anywho they became valentines and it didnt bother me because I was over him right? Like I dont even like him. But they posted this pitcture of them at a local carnival and as soon as I sawit all these feelings and memories came rushing to me. And for the first time I really liked him. And it wasnt that I liked him because hes taken its that I realized I missed my chance with someone who is perfect for me. And some girl swooped in and took the chance. And ive been thinking about what couldve been and how great we couldve been.. like i think im meant for him but Anyways its been on my mind 24/7 and I guess im wondering if I should tell him how I feel? Or what should I do in general? I dont want to corrupt their relationship but I need to do something so I can rest easy. Its killing me. But yes any advice on what to do would be really appreciated. Thank you so much! (link)
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Well, it's hard to answer this but I think you suddenly became interested because he found someone else that wasn't you anymore.
I think you enjoyed the attention of a guy who was crazy about you but you just didn't seem him like that because you didn't find him attractive.
You guys probably clicked really well and that's how you both stayed friends.
I'm not trying to be offensive or anything because I've been one of the girls who have done this before and plenty others.
It's just, if you really think you might have real feelings for him, just wait. Don't get in the way of his new relationship because when you do get him, the feelings might go away because it's not a chase anymore, if that makes sense.
Maybe just go out and enjoy yourself with other friends and maybe find interest in another guy? It'll help get your mind off them.
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i am scared of losing my virginity, but then i am scared i will never get to have sex. what do i do?
i am 13 (link)
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Like everyone else said, you are 13 and you shouldn't be having sex anyways right now. In the future, you're going to meet a good guy, fall in love, and then you could have sex with him.
You should be afraid of having sex at 13 because it would be a huge mistake. There are so many things that could happen if you lost your virginity. You could end up pregnant, or get STDs, or even suffer emotionally because it really is a big deal and you shouldn't even have to worry about it at 13, 14, or even 15.
Wait until you are older, trust me. You will understand more and you're more unlikely to make a mistake.
You will have sex one day, you have soooo many more years ahead of you. Don't get ahead of yourself.
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So my best friend has asked me out twice in the past and I've said no both times. But within the past 2 months I realized that I think I've fallen in love with him. I was going to talk to him about us possibly being a couple, but he says he likes this other girl (who he's going to prom with) and that he's trying to get over me. The girl who he's going to prom with likes him. So do I bring up to him how I really feel or should I just let him go? (link)
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Well, it's up to you but he's into another girl who he's going to prom with and she likes him. If you let him know, don't expect him to jump to that because prom is coming up and he's not going to ditch his date whether he decides to be with you or not.
If you feel like you should let him go, then do so.
Either way, it's up to you and you should do what you feel is right.
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Hello All, for the past few years I have stood up to my mother and sister. I have helped raised my nephews for years now. They are finally grown and they live on their own now because I won't allow them to live with me anymore. They have done everything you can think of in the past. Examples: robbery, stolen been disrespectful, stabbed one another, brought a gun in my home etc. My mother and sister think I am just being selfish and mean. One works and the other one doesn't my mother supports him totally so much that she can't support herself. I support her I have given her four of my cars in the past. I don't allow them to come over to my home and take advantage of me and my children. I use to cook Sunday dinner I have stopped that as of this past weekend. My oldest nephew recently came and stole food out of my freezer and my mom had the nerve to call me selfish. It's not that I just can't be apart of the enabling anymore. She pays a car note for him and he doesn't work or go to school but, she doesn't have a car. Oh, forgot to mention that Child Welfare took my sisters boys and placed them with me years ago. I am just wondering am I wrong for wanting to live my own life now and putting space between my family and I. (link)
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I think you did what was best. You're not being selfish at all.
I have two older brothers who are in their 30's right now. They did ridiculous, terrible things and eventually my dad kicked them out when they were old enough. My mom thought my dad just hated them but they needed to learn that they couldn't do those things and they need to be more respectful.
They did learn, and everyone knows that he did what was best.
One went to a program to get some help and the other got a job and got a life.
So, you did what you could. It's their job to grow up.
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i was trying to help my dad today but he got mad because i wasnt doing it right, ive never been so hurt of what he said to me. i cried alot. i feel so alone because my dad was the only person i can really talk to.. i just want to know is it ok if my dad swears at me sometimes? (link)
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I agree with the person below. People lose their temper and say things they don't mean and things that will hurt the people who love them and the people they love.
Go talk to her dad, explain how you feel and try to fix things.
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today one friend saw that i habe a bandaid on my hand and asked me if i selfharm or something and i totally paniced,i made some lame excuse and i really hope she bought it,what the hell is so wrong with me,i felt so exposed when she saw it,like it was the end of something,and dont tell me that cutting is wrong,i know that,but it helps me and believe me i dont have anyone who i can tell,noone would understand
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There is nothing wrong with you but I've been in your situation before. I've cut for 6 years and honestly, if I was still doing it, none of my family would understand either. My parents had found out I did it years ago, I was grounded but it never stopped me and I had continued and never got any help for it.
If you want to stop, which I'm sure you do because it is not good for you at all, then you should try to. Try your best not to give in, try to find other ways to cope with your problems. Don't take it out on yourself.
There are so many people who cut, almost every girl and plenty of boys have done it. You need to talk to someone even if they don't understand. I wish I had gotten help for it because over the years, it got so much worse. I still struggle with temptations to do it again.
Please, it's better to take care of yourself and learn to be happy and learn to deal with hurt and problems a different way. Then one day, you'll be able to help people who are in your situation.
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My name is dreanna I'm 15 years old and I just had sex with my boyfriend for the first time ever yesterday around noon yes it was my first time having sex with anyone not just him... I'm scared I'm pregnant because I've been looking up stuff on the Internet and I'm pretty sure I found something that said if your wet constantly after having sex you could be pregnant and I've been wet constantly none stop and it's starting to scare me. Do you think I'm pregnant??? (link)
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Well, no one can tell you for sure.
Did you use protection? If you didn't, you have a higher chance of being pregnant.
If your period is late, that is a sign that you could possibly be pregnant but that's not always the case. Your period could end up being late because of stress, being paranoid, ect.
So don't stress out about this and wait and see if your period comes on time. If it doesn't, take a pregnancy test. You won't know the day after you have sex, wait about 2 weeks to take the test.
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So my ex wants to be friends with benefits and i don't want to be at all i want to be the opposite actually but because i cant say no i agreed and so we were fighting for a bit but he started acting really sweet telling me not to be so hard on myself and that he really cared about me and that the only reason he broke up with me was because i didn't talk to him then asked me if when i get back from Thailand for 3 weeks if we could try again I once again said yes he was being so sweet and amazing i just couldn't help it but now he wants to go for a walk and do "stuff" if you know what I mean but that's really not what i want but once again me not being able to say no i agreed but the problem is that i really like this other guy and we've been getting really close he's amazing i'm not gonna get into details about him but he's exactly what i'm looking for and I think he's gonna ask me out soon (hopefully) but if we end up doing stuff it will wreck everything :'( anyways how the **** do i get out of this btw I've already ditched him twice and i have social anxiety which makes this all so much more difficult because well i have trouble talking ect. what do i do!? :( how do i get out of this?? :( (link)
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I understand your situation as I've been there once before.
The only thing you can do besides avoiding him is tell him straight up you're not interested in it anymore. Who cares what he says after that, he's your past, not your future. Tell him you really like someone else and you don't want to ruin it and that's it.
Don't keep talking to your ex after this. If he really cared about you, he'd want more than friends with benefits. Plus you have another guy on your mind who won't break up with you because you had trouble talking to him. It's immature of him and it's not smart of you to go back to him like this.
Be strong and don't do it.
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Ok so I think this guy in my class has a crush on me I'm not sure because I think he has a girl friend but any way he like's to take my stuff and just joke around with me like that in that sort of way but we talk sometimes and like he seems really nice and all and he really seems to act like he likes, because one day in English his friend Kyle is like John now your flirting with her you two should already go out he didn't say anything to that and I know he had to have heard it because he was staring right at Kyle and just gave him this deep stare the (I want to kill you right now look) So if you think he's flirting with me or not? Because I honestly don't know and I really want to know, so give me your honest answer and what I should say to him. P.S. I'm a girl lol (link)
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Well for one thing, he is probably into you or is attracted to you. At least, that's what it sounds like.
When his friend mentioned you too, that could definitely mean he's into you but it could also mean he's a nice guy.
Like I've had a friend say that to me about another guy right there but I didn't say anything even though I didn't like him like that because I wasn't going to be like, "What? Him? No way" because it's kinda rude.
But anyways, it does sound like he is attracted to you.
As for saying something to him, just keep talking to him, play flirting, ect and eventually he'll come around and see where it goes from there.
If he has a girlfriend, then back off because you don't want to get into that.
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ok so i have small boobs. I am 15 years old and will be 16 in may this year.I'm a softmore in high school and I am a B cup. it seems like all the other girls in my grade have big boobs that fill out their shirts but mine are just small i even wear push up bras but that barely helps.:( all guys ever talk about is boobs and I want bigger ones or atrleast decent sized ones to my body is proportional. I have a nice butt alot of guys say but i have never once ever heard a guy tell me i have nice boobs. Its frusterating, what can I do to help this situation? (link)
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Ok well first of all, you're still 15 and you could still be growing.
Second, I used to be insecure about my size too. I'm 18 and also a B cup but then I realized once I heard all my guys friends talking about chest size and what they liked. They preferred smaller because they are perkier, and one of them said, "they don't get in the way" lol. Anyways, the boys your age, of course all they talk about is size because they have hormones and they want sex.
Honestly, if a guy you don't really know or a guy who is your friend comes up to you and tells you that you have nice boobs, that's not a good thing. You'd rather attract a guy that isn't there for physical things.
Anyways, my advice is to not worry about it because you can't change it, just accept and love your body because when you become intimate one day, your man will love your body too.
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I'm 13/F. I really like this guy, and I'm pretty sure he likes me back but the problem is this: everyone keeps telling me he is a total jerk. My best friend said she used to live near him, and one day he was riding on his bike past her house, and decided to pay her a visit. And by pay her a visit I mean, he got into this huge argument with her dad on purpose, and called her family some names that I don't feel comfortable repeating on here...
Another girl in my class used to go to school with him, and said he told her mom to 'go f**k herself'.
Yet another girl in my class, said she also knew him, and he stole her bike. (I'm guessing that was just the start of everything, because I think that was before everything else I just mentioned.)
But... He just seems so nice. I mean not like, overly nice, maybe just as nice as the average person. The point is, he doesn't seem like the kind of person that would do any of that.
I'm almost positive he likes me back. This is probably going to sound like I was eavesdropping, but I swear, I wasn't. My teacher had gone to ask another teacher about something, so everyone was talking to friends. The guy I like's desk is behind mine, and I had just gotten back from the bathroom, so I don't think he realized I was there. Anyway, I heard him talking to his friend about how he likes someone. I didn't catch the name, but I almost knew it wasn't me at the time. Then later, I caught him staring at me. But I thought he had to be staring at the girl next to me, as almost every single guy In my class likes her. He talked to me about twice that day, which is weird, because the only person that really talks to me is my best friend, and the only people he seems to talk to are pretty much always guys.
But anyway, later, I overheard (again, I swear I wasn't eavesdropping) a few girls talking about who likes who when they said something about who my crush likes, and I realized, the girl I thought he was staring at was with them, so it couldn't have been her. Again, I didn't hear who he actually liked so I can't be sure it was me. But I thought maybe, just maybe... He might like me.
Wow, that was long. I probably sound like the stupid, boy-obsessed pre-teen thirteen year olds are stereotyped to be, but I don't usually sound like this... I just really like this guy. Anyway, I was just wondering, do you think I should give him a chance, or just abandon all thoughts of asking him out?
P.S- please don't tell me I'm too young to date either... If I ever gathered the courage to ask him out and he said yes, it would be my first boyfriend, but I think I'm mature enough, my
parents think it's okay, and I'm fully aware that I could get hurt.
Thanks in advance!
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I mean, you can give him the benefit of the doubt and think maybe he's not the same which isn't wrong at all but if you do pursue this, be aware he might be that jerk that everyone says he is.
Before you decide to ask him out, start talking to him regularly and get to know him as a friend. Plus, relationships start better when you are friends beforehand. It makes it less awkward and it's better to start as friends especially when you are 13.
I believe that you are mature enough and since your parents are ok with it, then start talking to him and see how it goes from there.
You'll be able to tell if he's interested once you guys start talking more.
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i need a boyfriend,but im so fucking picky,i like strange boys,dont give a fuck about the looks that much,i like weirdos and sad people,i myself am very weird :) but i like that,but its soo hard to find someone strange,should i lower my expectations or something?
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Trust me, there are plenty of weird people out there lol. Everybody has something weird about them anyways.
You have plenty of time to find that right guy for you so don't go out looking for him. I'd say go out, have fun, enjoy yourself and if you meet a nice guy who you enjoy being around, go for it.
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My boyfriend of 2 yrs introduces me as a 'good friend' sometimes and I have told him it upstes me yet he still does it. Since we have been together so long I find this so odd and troubling. Does this signify some subconcious feelings of not wanting certain people to know he is committed? It's odd - it's not even women he does it with but men so it's not like he is hiding it fom women. Thoughts? (link)
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Who knows what he could be thinking. If my boyfriend started introducing me as his friend, I'd be confused and I'd find it very rude.
Talk to him again, if he doesn't change it then you might have to make some changes. He might not see it as a big deal but if it's important to you, he'll do it because he cares about your feelings.
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He says that he loves me, but he doesn't act like it. He has a big temper and gets upset easily. He only says that he loves me when he is asking for forgiveness for calling me bad names. Whenever I ask why he loves me, he says I am being sensitive. He asks me all the time why I love him, and he expects an answer or assumes that I don't. Am I over sensitive or ...? (link)
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It does not seem like he loves you like he says he does. Love isn't just a word, it's an action.
If there was a man beating his wife, yelling at her all the time but then claims he loves her, would you believe it?
Now, this isn't happening to you but he seems to have an abusive nature to him by calling you names and having a temper.
Your not over sensitive by asking why he loves you. He just doesn't have an answer.
Don't be with a guy like this, things can get worse.
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I have a huge crush on my attractive female teachers who is like 28 I believe. I am flat out obsessed with this girl I;d say, -I always walk by her room or try to go wherever she is and at the end of the day just to see her leave,.i 'm willing to buy any school related paper and yearbook just to see if any pictures of her are in it, I went searching for her Facebook account, and I found it and I find myself staring at a lot of pictures of her. I get mad just whenever I see another boy go up and talk to my teacher, but the worst thing of all is that she is married and I can't stand that she is. I have feelings of hate towards her husband just because she is married to him and want him to die and I sometimes like to rip papers up or something pretending it is him. Do you think this is a problem I should tell someone about? (link)
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Yes, you need to talk to an adult about this. It's a problem and it's not good at all to be stalking your teacher.
It is fine to have a crush and be attracted to your teacher but it's another level when you're stalking her on Facebook, getting mad at other boys talking to her, and imagining killing her husband.
Talk to a counselor and see what you can do about this.
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So every night, I sleep in my room. I have an alarm that goes off about 8 times on my phone (I have a pass code on my phone, so he can't turn it off but he can turn it off by sliding my phone) and he always turns it off because it's "annoying" - Yet HE GETS MAD AT ME WHEN I'M LATE TO SCHOOL!
Plus, he turns off my TV and leaves my door open every night. My TV isn't loud and my door is SHUT NO MATTER WHAT.
What do I do? He turns off my alarms and gets me in trouble at school, he turns off my TV, touches my things in my room, and he leaves my door open. My mom NEVER does this. I'm getting really annoyed at him. Advice please? (link)
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This is an interesting situation. You didn't mention how close their room is to yours or how loud your phone is, but if they are loud, that could be the reason why he is turning it off.
Either way, there isn't much you can do except talk to him and your mom. Make sure you do it politely.
If he does keep doing it though, you can't really do much because he is your dad and is in charge.
I had a problem with an alarm when I was in school, eventually my parents would just wake me up in the morning and it was up to me to get up then and there because I'd be late if I slept in.
Do you sleep with your TV on or are you watching it when he turns it off?
If you sleep with it on, it's understandable for him to turn it off because of electricity and such, maybe put it on a timer?
If he turns it off while you are watching, ask him why he does this. If it's because it's too loud, then you can fix that, if it's because it's late then you can't really change that either.
Anyways, the best thing to do is talk to him. I can see why it could be frustrating but don't argue with him and just try to be understanding.
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whenever my in laws come over i got to my room, the kids are either younger or older than me and I'm 17. Am I wrong for going to my room ? (link)
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It's normal to go to your room when you have awkward situations. As long as you attempt to talk to them for a little bit and then eventually go to your room, it's fine.
It's not wrong but sometimes can be impolite.
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So, I started my period last month, January 13, and I am 12. Well, 21 days has come and gone, and I don't have my period. My friend has had her period twice in the time I have only had 1!!! It is very aggravating and I don't know anything about this! Some one help.
Oh and if it helps, I'm and orphan, my foster parents give me everything I need and I stay in my room because they are usually, um, er, baby making. Marissa Lay isn't a mother to me and Joseph barely has time for me between his job and his baby making. But I can tell he loves me very much. My email is suhailashewolf@gmail.com go ahead and email you're answer, please! (link)
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When you first start your period, it can be irregular. So you shouldn't worry too much about it. If you do get concerned, just go see a doctor.
And with your other problem, just talk to your foster parents. Explain how your feeling and see what happens.
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I have a boyfriend, but I want to hook up with a girl. Not a specific girl, just a girl. I want to experience what it's like hooking up with another girl because it looks fun! I think I've been watching too much lesbian porn. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love my boyfriend. We've been together for over 2 years and we have great sex. And me wanting to hook up with a girl has nothing to do with our relationship. I'm just curious. Is this wrong? What should I do? Oh, and my boyfriend has no clue. I'm pretty sure he'd go nuts. And sorry for the raunchiness. (link)
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Well it's not wrong to be curious. If you really want to act on your curiosity then you have to tell your boyfriend. It's up to you on what you want to do. If you really do want to experiment and you don't think the feeling with pass, then tell your boyfriend. I don't know your boyfriend, but you think he'll freak out. So you're going to have to accept whatever happens.
If you think that you'd rather just stay with your boyfriend and not try girls out, then you can do so.
I hope you find what's right for you and figure everything out.
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