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selfharm,cutting
today one friend saw that i habe a bandaid on my hand and asked me if i selfharm or something and i totally paniced,i made some lame excuse and i really hope she bought it,what the hell is so wrong with me,i felt so exposed when she saw it,like it was the end of something,and dont tell me that cutting is wrong,i know that,but it helps me and believe me i dont have anyone who i can tell,noone would understand
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Been there, done the cutting myself. In regards to you stating it "helps," I get that. But, please realize there are other healthy outlets. You may have difficult times in life, as we all do, but try to not turn to physically hurting yourself in any way, shape, or form. What the cutting (probably) does for you, and how view it:
1. you have intense/extreme emotional pain
2. you don't have many ways to get that pain out of you, be it in words on paper, doing something healthy, or talking about it to someone
3. having no outlet in turns adds to the current pain your in
4. you have an over-whelming sensation to do something to rid yourself of the pain
5. you then cut yourself
6. this cutting then "releases" your internal pain. You are then able to shift your mind to THE PHYSICAL PAIN you now feel, and you can now visually "see" the pain (blood) releasing out of your body from the cutting
7. This shifting FROM your mental pain, to your now PHYSICAL pain helps your mind focus less on the mental pain. But, this is only temporary
8. you now feel even worse because the mental pain returns soon after the cutting, and now you have added to that pain because you probably feel ashamed/mad at yourself for physically cutting yourself
PLEASE realize im assuming your thought process above. I don't know you, but I have a feeling this is fairly accurate as to what you may think. again, ive been there.
I state that I believe this is how you probably think due to the fact that I've been told directly by a professional psychologist that I have an "Extremely high level of emotional intelligence." In simplest terms, this means that its very easy for me to express, understand, empathize, communicate, feel, convey, etc what I feel and what OTHER PEOPLE feel. I am NOT a doctor, by any means, but ive worked hard for many years at reframing my thought process, and have been very successful at it
Lastly, I do want to directly address the last sentence of your post: the fact that you believe no-one would understand and that you have nobody you can tell..... I imagine that statement you wrote is NOT correct. Im a total stranger, and I do understand. Your family and friends may surprise you, in that they may understand more than you give them credit for. I recommend having the courage to tell them, and you may get a result (in a good way) that you're not expecting. im more than happy to continue to help you, if youd like.....
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i used to cut but it didnt help so i stopped. your not exposed your just in shock but it will pass i promise. people cut bc they want a way out from their pain they are feeling on the inside and i know how that feels. but remember you can always change a situation if YOU truly want to. try and find a differnt outlet for your pain, whether thats exercising, like going on a hike or run or kick boxing to get out your anger (i like this haha :)) or just chilling at home with freinds/family/pet, DRINKING CHAMOMEAL TEA!! the bestt with a little sugar, or a warm bath anything to help. dont try smoking it will get you hooked like it did for me for a while all these are HEALTHY AND GOOD FOR YOU! if your not in therapy and feel like you need to talk to someone do it! im telling you they will understand and will help its a baby step but its the RIGHT step foward! Good luck!! And you can email me if you feel like shit anytime im always here! rednailpolish.bry@gmail.com
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There is nothing wrong with you but I've been in your situation before. I've cut for 6 years and honestly, if I was still doing it, none of my family would understand either. My parents had found out I did it years ago, I was grounded but it never stopped me and I had continued and never got any help for it.
If you want to stop, which I'm sure you do because it is not good for you at all, then you should try to. Try your best not to give in, try to find other ways to cope with your problems. Don't take it out on yourself.
There are so many people who cut, almost every girl and plenty of boys have done it. You need to talk to someone even if they don't understand. I wish I had gotten help for it because over the years, it got so much worse. I still struggle with temptations to do it again.
Please, it's better to take care of yourself and learn to be happy and learn to deal with hurt and problems a different way. Then one day, you'll be able to help people who are in your situation.
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I too use to do this. Until one day I went too far, and ended up in the hospital due to too much blood loss. There's no way to make you stop, but do realize, that cutting can be very dangerous. Not only could you accidentally go too deep, but whatever you are using could be contaminated, or rusted resulting in either a very bad infection, or tetanus. Your best bet to see what tetanus does, google it. As far from what I've heard, there is no real cure for tetanus, so it's pretty scary. Anyway, instead of cutting *which in my opinion is far too dangerous, not to mention, a lot easier to catch* try biting yourself, or replace it with a rubber band. Like, weening yourself off of it. I understand it can be difficult to quit something, it's surprisingly like a drug. A way to temporarily forget, and release the stress and frustrations of the day, but in the end, your physical appearance will thank you. I honestly do regret having done it so often in the past, I'm left with these awful scars. It's something I won't know how to explain to my children should they ever really notice it and ask. Just remember, no matter how grim things look, life is still beautiful, you just have to look past the piles of debris. Be strong, in time you can get past all of it.
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