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How do I get out of this?(ex boyfriend issue's)
So my ex wants to be friends with benefits and i don't want to be at all i want to be the opposite actually but because i cant say no i agreed and so we were fighting for a bit but he started acting really sweet telling me not to be so hard on myself and that he really cared about me and that the only reason he broke up with me was because i didn't talk to him then asked me if when i get back from Thailand for 3 weeks if we could try again I once again said yes he was being so sweet and amazing i just couldn't help it but now he wants to go for a walk and do "stuff" if you know what I mean but that's really not what i want but once again me not being able to say no i agreed but the problem is that i really like this other guy and we've been getting really close he's amazing i'm not gonna get into details about him but he's exactly what i'm looking for and I think he's gonna ask me out soon (hopefully) but if we end up doing stuff it will wreck everything :'( anyways how the **** do i get out of this btw I've already ditched him twice and i have social anxiety which makes this all so much more difficult because well i have trouble talking ect. what do i do!? :( how do i get out of this?? :(
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It sort of sounds like he's using you to get what he wants. Think about it; It seems like he knows you're trying to tell him you don't want to do this, so he tries to get you to sink in to the compliments.
If I were you, I would ignore him. If he won't leave you alone, tell him up straight the truth.
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I understand your situation as I've been there once before.
The only thing you can do besides avoiding him is tell him straight up you're not interested in it anymore. Who cares what he says after that, he's your past, not your future. Tell him you really like someone else and you don't want to ruin it and that's it.
Don't keep talking to your ex after this. If he really cared about you, he'd want more than friends with benefits. Plus you have another guy on your mind who won't break up with you because you had trouble talking to him. It's immature of him and it's not smart of you to go back to him like this.
Be strong and don't do it.
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The other person that commented on your answer definitely hit the nail on the head!
LEAVE. He seems like he's a real scumbag and that he's using you because he knows you'll say yes. I would steer clear from this guy and see what could happen with the new guy. What happens if you mess with the ex and then the new guy wants to get with you.. Then he finds out? He'd leave you. So I would say, "Lose the zero and get with the hero" LOL.
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Why are you trippin on one guy... Sounds to me like you are more afraid of being alone than losing the new guy. The old guy is familiar so its easy to get sucked back in. Its what you are used to... but... You can't expect anything to be different if you don't make a change. That is the definition of insanity... Doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome. Here is a really crazy idea... LEAVE. Don't look back. Be alone for a lil while and learn to be happy by yourself. Until you are happy with you, you can't be happy with someone else. Learn to rely on making yourself happy. Once you accomplish that... Saying no won't be a problem. Then you can have a real relationship.
PS. He is your past for a reason there is a reason he didn't make it to your future. Leave him there. If you live in the past you will have no future.
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Forget him
He only wants you back so he can have someone to fool around with. He left YOU, You need to put your foot down and say no! Sounds like he only wants to take advantage if you. Think about it...
You are just sinking into his trap, He knows his kind words and actions will lure you in. Stop allowing him to use you
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