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i want to live and enjoy seeing my kids grow up.i have been married for 10 years and i loved my husband more than anything he is my world he runs into my veins i got marry to him when i was only 16 i worship him like my only god but all he does to me is hurt me physically and mentally he call me prostitute,bitch.i am deseprate but deseprate for him to hold me tight every day and night and love me just the way i love him but insted he hates me he hits me sometime i perpously retaliate i know its gonna make him more angry and hes gonna hit me even more but one day he might show some sympathy and hold me tight and kiss me love me but i guess thats never gonna happen the way he gets angry and say stuff to me make me into someone im not i would never do any wrong to him i just want to give up on my life now because the one person apart from my kids i love my surjoooo but am no good for him im not as educated as he would like a women to be hes always on the facebook talking dirty to other womens being flirty and having a laugh but i always upset him and make him mad..i dont want to live anymore please tell me how to die at home quick and no pain (link)
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You know he doesn't treat you right and he won't change unless he wants to. You've been with him for a very long time so you've become used to how he treats you, but you're hurting.
You need to leave him. You will find someone else who will truly love you, hold you and kiss you all that you want. You don't want to spend the rest of your life with a man like this. You will be miserable forever. You will find love once again, but it will be so real and amazing. There is a love that is better than this.
He calls you things you aren't, he abuses you and is cheating on you. You deserve better, pack up your things and leave. Don't fight with him when he gets mad about you leaving, just go.
If your kids live with you, take them and go live with a friend or a family member.
I wish you the best of luck.
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13/F
So we don't have many rooms in our house. My brother has his own room (So I won't live in there... He's 16), and my 14 y/o sister has a room (Can't live there) And then my other sister... She's an adult. ADULT.
Don't you think she should be gone?! I'M the one here who needs a room! I'm getting sick and tired of not having a room anymore. She's gone 90% of the time partying and stuff or just gone, and I'd always be in that room! I sleep on the FLOOR. I have to make my own bed out of blankets because I have nowhere to put my old bed. Help! Please!
My parents said "She has nowhere to go." And she's always gone. Please help! What do I say and what do I do?! (link)
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Well I don't know why you can't live in your 14 year old sisters room, I'd see that as a better option.
I don't think your parents really want to kick her out, especially if she's partying. Maybe she doesn't have the money to move out and if I was a parent, I'd be kinda scared to just throw her out when she's always partying.
I actually have a friend who has a big family but only 3 bedrooms. The parents have a room and two sisters who are now both adults share a room, two adult brothers share a room and the youngest girl sleeps either in the living room on the floor or in the garage.
So, you're not the only one in this situation.
Some people don't have the money to move out yet.
Try talking to your parents to try making your living arrangements a little easier. You could even get a blow up mattress if they can't do anything about it.
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So me and my boyfriend have been dating since august and when we first got together I told him about something i had done. It involved me and someone not of our ethnicity. He is German and has a superiority thing going on. he will constantly bring up the fact that i done this and he tells me that is disgusts him, but then he says that its his own personal demons and that he will just get over it, that it isn't me, its him. The last thing i want my boyfriend to do is to think i am sick. besides it was before i even met him or even knew of him. He said it is what it is and that i cant change it and neither can he but it bothers him ALL OF THE TIME but he wants it to go away because he shouldnt feel like that...what should i do, he is the love of my life and just knowing he feels this way but loves me very much, it crushes me to no end. Help? (link)
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So he's been bringing this up since August? That is ridiculous that he can hold a grudge for that long. He said he'd get over this, but it's been soo many months and he's still not over this.
He is in the wrong, not you. You were honest with him and it's good for you to tell him about your past but if he's holding this against you, he's so wrong.
He may realize he is wrong, but he's not choosing to stop. He has a choice in this. He needs to let this go or you need to let him go.
For one thing, it's wrong of him to degrade another race and it's wrong of him to make you think that you're sickening because you were involved with someone of another race.
I completely agree with Rahzie. Break up with him, you deserve better than being degraded because he has a problem.
I loved the point that Rahzie made, he is better at hating people of another race than loving and respecting you.
I hope everything works out, you deserve to be treated better.
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19/f.
This sounds strange but I went through a relationship with my ex where we didn't really have sex a lot or anything else. I love sex and feel it's so emotionally connecting. Anyways I went to high school with this guy and we ended up sleeping together one night.(hes 21) Anyways since that happened, we've slept with each other on the last two saturdays this month. He normally calls me around 3 am when he's done partying with his friends and I'll pick him up and we'll go to his house. This sounds ridiculous in the views of some one else, but honestly I don't mind it. Honestly I do have a "liking" for him but at this point I'm happy to just get what I want, (sex) and I know he's happy too. I feel like I've missed out a lot with my previous relationship and even if we aren't talking, I'm not stressed anymore. This is the first time i'm experiencing this friends with benefits type of relationship. I mean as long as I'm happy right now I feel like I shouldn't stress/analyze the situation right? I'm young. But my real question is statistically do friends w/ benefits, work out in the long run? do they more often turn into relationships or not?
If we became something i'd sort of be interested but i'm NOT TRYING to rush anything. I know that sounds ironic since we already slept together. Thoughts, exc? Negative comments don't bother leaving what ever has happened happened. Looking toward the future. (link)
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I have been in a friends with benefits relationship once. I was feeling the same way you were. I'm 18 and the guy I was with is 20. It didn't last or go anywhere.
From what I know, most girls who get involved in a friends with benefits relationship normally end up liking the guy to where they want more than just sex and messing around. The guys don't because they've been doing this and they have freedom, don't need to really worry about an actual relationship.
Statistically, no they don't normally turn into relationships. I think it's because you skip the "stages". Like, getting to know someone, dating, then eventually becoming intimate.
There are on rare occasions where friends with benefits turned into more, it's not impossible.
If you are looking for a real relationship that also involves sex, I'd start with getting to know someone else unless this guy actually shows genuine interest in you or if he just calls you up for sex.
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Hey guys. Ok so I have a boyfriend; he is a junior, i am a softmore we are both in high school. anyway, he is going on this junior class trip to washington DC in a couple of days for like a 4 day trip with the whole junior class. I am happy for him and all, but I'm kind of worried. I know it might not seem like a huge deal, it may seem stupid, but I am afraid he will fall for another girl while he is gone:( Don't ask why, I dont know. But well, his ex girlfriend is going on the trip and theres gonna be tons of other girls too, what if they try to flirt with him? Or what if he starts to like his ex??:( I trust him but the thing is.., how would i ever know if he actally DOES do something like flirt while he is on that trip? How will I ever find out? I dont really know many juniors except him soo....please help:( (link)
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Well, you can't spy on your boyfriend whenever he goes away.
Trust is the key in a relationship and you do say you trust him but if you think he might flirt with other girls or fall for his ex then you don't trust him.
If you did trust him, you wouldn't let these things get to your head.
I don't think you have anything to worry about though. If he's a good guy, he wouldn't do that behind your back. I'm sure you wouldn't be with a guy who is a jerk. If girls flirt with him, who cares, that means you have an attractive guy and he is yours, be happy.
Don't over think what's going on.
Now, if he does fall for another girl while he is away. Then he's not a good guy and you don't deserve him, you deserve much better.
Don't let these things get to your head or it will ruin your relationship. Learn to trust him, everything will be fine.
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so my friend told me that this guy, Luke, was going to ask me out tomorrow. she is basically the gossip central and has never been wrong in things like this. well, she just called me and told me this other guy, Spencer, was going to ask me out. I have liked Spencer for awhile, but i dont know him that well and i am very good friends with Luke but havent thought about him in that way. which guy should i choose? (link)
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Well if you don't see your friend Luke that way, don't date him. You don't know Spencer very well so it might be weird and awkward to date him.
These are two of the things I would do if I was in your situation.
I wouldn't go out with either of them.
Or, I would think about which one I'm more interested in and instead of going straight to being their girlfriend, I would hang out with them and go on a couple dates to see if you really are interested.
It would work with either guy in your case. If you want to try things out with Luke, then go out with him a couple times and see if you can see him as more than a friend. If you want to try things out with Spencer, go out with him a couple times and see if he is a good guy who is your type.
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I want to die. I am 54 years old. and have lost everything.
Wife,children,home, friends business and all my possessions.
I live alone.
I have 5 Mg of Xanex and a half liter of Vodka. Will that be enough to end my miserable existence?
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There are plenty of people who have lost many things and think that they don't have a good enough reason to live. Trying to end your life isn't the solution. Before you even try to attempt this, stop and think. Go find someone to talk to, and then get your life back together. You have many pieces to pick up, it's not impossible to be happy again.
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So its starts at the beginning of January after winter break:
I joined the play cause Susan(the girl i likED)joined and in the play we should be flirty and all. But then at the start of rehearsals, i started ignoring Susan and thinking about another girl called Victoria. I thought about her day and night, and i was really falling for her, but before i knew it we became good friends and we started hugging and kissing on the cheeks(by the way, she is a brave person and hugs many people.) so we became very good friends and i was also a very good friend of her best-friend. Then the valentines dance came, and she came up to me and her best-friend and asked us to go with her to the dance, which means 2 girls and 1 boy. We both accepted... but there is always a bigger fish!
So another guy asked her(hes like 3 years older than her, but he is also a friend of mine.)and she eventually ditched us two. Then one of our cast members dropped out and we had to search for a new member which eventually became Tom, the one victoria went to the dance with. He started acting flirty with her, and of course there was some jealousy within me, but she didn't stop the hugging and kissing on the cheek. After the play we were still friends and life went on.
March:
Another dance came up, and i recently found out that she likes Tom. I asked her out to the dance no-matter what, and she responded saying:
"I LOVE YOU!! you have a cute but,lol!"
and i was thinking if this is a rejection or if she accepted. But then she said she was going to the dance with nobody. So i thought that it was a kind way of rejecting me, but i also thought that maybe just maybe she was waiting for Tom to ask her, and if he didn't she would go with me.
My question is:
what should i do? i know i should not ask her out to a real date, but Tom is graduating this year.Should i just wait for next year? What should i do???
*all the names here are made up names. (link)
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I would just move on from this Victoria girl. She seems really care free and likes another guy. Don't wait around for a girl that you don't even know has feelings for you. You said she's the type to hug many people so it gives the wrong impression.
Just move on and find someone who likes you and is a nice girl who doesn't flirt with everyone.
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I have a friend and we've been best friends since preK. In third grade she got her first bf (Ik it's young but I can't control that). Well she started to leave me out and stuff but I never told her that cause I didn't want to start anything. Well now we are older and she's in all my classes so we talk a now. At the beginning of the year I met a friend and she was really nice and we started to become freinds. Well my old friend didn't like her so she got mad and stuff. Then one day I wasn't there or something and they started talkin and became good friends. I was happy at first but then I felt left out cause all the talked bout was 1D and I didn't like 1D. So now it's now and they've had a few fights and now their friends again and I feel like my old friend has changed A LOT. She trIes to act kwl and stuff and she gets mad when we tell her our opinion and now, all of a sudden, she's all sensitive and stuff. I think she's just saying that because that's what my new friend always says. I don't know what to do?? Help needed. If its to confusing I'm ok with some random answer from what u understood. (link)
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Well, people get older and change and find new friends that get along with their interests. It's rude of her to get mad at your opinions.
You can't change her, you can just explain how you feel and leave it at that. If she decides to be more respectful, then good, if not then just go find new friends. Find friends that have more in common with you.
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I'm a 14 year old girl from south africa i like this guy he told me he like me to but he has a GF and she is like a sister to me I don't want her to get hurt but I really like this guy he is turning 14 so am I and he's GF is turning 12 how do I get rid of her with out hurting her (link)
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You said his girlfriend is like a sister to you. So if you care about her and you don't want to hurt her, don't get together with your crush.
He doesn't sound like a solid, stable guy. It was rude of him to tell you he likes you when he already has a girlfriend.
What if you two got together but then he told another girl he liked her?
If he really cared about you or her, he'd break up with her first.
But if I were you, I would back out. Friends are more reliable than boyfriends.
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hey,im 18years old and my names alexus.my problem.is that.my current ex dated.about a year and some months. We were great until he got a second job and he had family.issues. At first he was very open and always made time for me.we were long distance but it never felt that way until he started acting different.i tried to be supportive understanding.even telling him how i felt.but the result was he would say im sorry text or.call once. The he.would go back to the same thing.the reason i broke up was behind me asking him to call for my b-day and he didn't so i waited and he never did,i tried calling and texting,he just never picked up months went by and he never called.so.i started dating someone else was i wrong? (link)
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You were not wrong. You can't just sit around and wait for him to call you. Months go by and you can't expect someone to move on when they don't put any effort in the relationship. He was acting like you two didn't have a real, serious relationship. It's really good you moved on.
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how do tell a guy if you want to break up with him but not hurt his feelings? I am in a situation right now where he still likes me but I don't exactly like him and there is this guy who asked me out and I said "yeah sure" and my "boyfriend" was sick that day and then he found out and somehow i need a way to say sorry and break up with him (link)
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There is no way to break up with him but not hurt his feelings. It's hard to go through break ups, it's hard on your side and it'll be hard for him too. Because if he likes you, he will be hurt.
The best way to do it is in person. Don't beat around the bush. Just tell him you are sorry and explain yourself. Don't make it confusing, just make it clear that you don't want to be together anymore. Don't be mean, be nice and respectful. That's probably the nicest way to break up with someone.
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i am a 16 year old girl and have been close friends with a lovley boy for 5 years now and we have always been close, however he is usually quite intimate calls me beautiful but when others suggest that we should date he ignoors them and wont talk to me. what should i do? (link)
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It sounds like he is interested in you, most guy friends don't go around calling their girl friends beautiful. He could be afraid of losing a great friendship you guys have or he's shy. The way to find out is to ask him. If you really don't want to, then maybe act a little flirty with him and see how he reacts. You could even ask him who he likes. So those are three options you can choose from, I hope it works out for you.
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i am 16 and i have never had a boyfriend and have never been kissed is this normal or is there something seriously wrong with me?
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It is completely normal. Just because you've never had a boyfriend or never have been kissed doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you. Just wait for the right guy to come around. It's better if you wait anyways, high school relationships rarely last and there is so much drama that comes along with them anyways. I do agree that it's nice to have someone around and someone who really likes you but you're still young, you have so many more years ahead of you to experience it. Don't go looking for it and don't lust after other couples. It'll happen eventually and it's better to wait and know when there is a right guy instead of some immature guy who breaks girls hearts.
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hello, im18F
im a student and there's this guy in my class who im crazy about. I liked him since we first met and now after more than six months we have become real good friends. We sit together, and are in the same group in college. I really like him alot but how do i know if he likes me?
I like advising people on their relations but i suck at my own.
I terribly afraid of rejection, and i don't want it to be something just for fun.
I think about him all the time, and i long for a single message everyday.. What's do i do?
PS: im not really pretty or extremely attractive, i feel it may be a reason he may not feel the same:/ (link)
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Well first, don't be so hard on yourself. Don't think of yourself as not being very pretty. Be confident and make sure you feel good about yourself. Guys will always be drawn to confidence.
If you want to know if he likes you, you can either ask him or get to know him better. Like, become closer to him, talk to him more, be friendly and nice. Try hanging out more. Eventually you'll find out who he likes.
Since you are already good friends, it wouldn't be weird to start talking to him more.
Of course, don't be obsessive with messaging him or asking to hang out but every so often is perfect.
Maybe even eventually you two can hang out by yourselves and do something fun. Either get some food or go somewhere.
Anyways, just be confident. I hope everything goes well.
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16/F
Me and my boyfriend I guess had sex but I don't think he "popped my cherry" so am I still a virgin or no? My friend says since his dick was inside of me im not.. and how do I know if he popped my cherry or not??/: (link)
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If you had sex, then you are not a virgin. You don't have to "pop your cherry" to lose your virginity, because there are girls who have sex and they have never bled. You could "pop your cherry" by horseback riding, bike riding, or any other kind of exercises.
If he went inside of you, you are not a virgin.
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my boyfriend was rubbing me down there and we both were fully clothes..while doing so i felt myself wet down there..i remind u we were fully clothed and my bf said that he didn't wet in his panty..please help me out..are there any chances of pregnacy.. i did'nt get my periods yet its already 10 days late..please help me out.. (link)
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No, you're not pregnant. You can only get pregnant by having sex.
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I really want my period I know there is at least one way from a doctor to make your period come instantly without taking pills im 13 and I have all the signs of my first period and it hasn't come yet my mom got hers about almost 14 I have lots of discharge and I have had boobs since 4rth grade plz help me!!!!!
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I agree with the person below. I don't know why you would want your period to come now..it's a pain lol. You'll get it soon since you've been having the signs of maturing and changing hormones and such.
Enjoy the time that you don't have your period, it can be really frustrating. You have cramps, bloating, and dealing with it irregularly showing up..
Since you mom got it when she about 14, that's when you'll probably get it. So it'll be coming soon. If it really does bother you, go talk to your doctor.
If the doctor did have a way to make your period come instantly, I don't think they'd let you do that. Only because you are still young and your body probably isn't ready yet. It's best to let your body do all this natural because the only reason you'll be getting your period is so that you can have children one day.
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I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend since I was 18 and I currently turned 22. Before I was with him I had a crush on one guy that happened to be one of his friends ( they aren't now). It was just a crush, he tried to kiss me back in 08 at the formal but I didn't want to pursue anything I just thought he was good looking. He'd always give me attention and I would not mind it. There has always been some awkward sort of tension between us. We are always talking and hanging around when we see each other at parties but on facebook we won't talk. He'd show attention even when in a relationship with my bf but I would just act friendly. Sometime in 2011 my boyfriend and I broke up, so I was single.and went to a friends party and the guy and I spoke, he always likes to be around me at parties. I told him I was single and he asked if I was sure then I could tell he wanted to kiss me and I thought why not, might as well get it out of my system. So we grabbed hands and I gave him a quick peck. After that he would not leave my side. I went home, and bf called wanted us back together so I told him what happened and he accepted me back. Me and the guy have not talked on seen each other since but we have facebook. I know that if we do happen to be in same place, we will hang out around each other again. Now this is the weird thing, even before the kissing thing, that guy is one of the people that happen to be in my dream the most. I'm not kidding but he appears to be in my dreams almost every third night. And when I see him in it his presence makes me happy and if feel the same way I do when I see him in real life. He acts the same. Weird thing is every time I see my bf I always have negative feelings for him in my dreams or we are fighting. My bf just seems to be in the background whilst dream is focused on other guy. There was one dream I had when my bf and I were moving in together and the other guy looked upset and i rushed up to him and said 'dw this doesnt mean that there cant be an us' like WTF! I don't get it. HE NEVER crosses my mind in every day life UNLESS i dream of him. I wake up feeling disgusting that i feel this way in my dreams about him and my bf! How can I feel this way about someone i don't care about, like or see. He means nothing to me but I hate waking up with hat gut feeling.
What do you think? Is it just a dream or could it mean something? Is this an indication of being in love? (link)
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I don't think this means you're in love. When you're in love, you will know you are in love. Dreams are our subconscious thoughts, so it's like in the back of your mind pretty much and little things you see every day or something different that happened will sometimes show up in your dream.
I think the reason you've been having these dreams is because you and this guy kissed. It was something new, different and exciting so it comes up in your dream. Since you had the dreams before the kiss, you've probably thought about it, because he is an attractive guy and he has tried to kiss you before.
Honestly, I think it's just a dream. The only thing it could mean is that you are attracted to him. I'm pretty sure you don't have negative feelings toward your boyfriend in actual life so don't worry too much about this.
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I am dating my best friends ex she came to know abt it later she told me that she don't av any problem with me dating her ex...she said that she till love me as a friend.
but my guilt is making me feel like broking up with my bf should i do so ? (link)
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If she doesn't have a problem with it, don't call it off. It's more likely to feel guilty if she wasn't ok with it. So don't feel guilty.
If your boyfriend is a good guy and treats you right, don't call it off because he's your best friends ex. Good guys are sometimes hard to come by so I'd try to move past your guilty feelings.
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