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I don't have a room, and I need one.
13/F
So we don't have many rooms in our house. My brother has his own room (So I won't live in there... He's 16), and my 14 y/o sister has a room (Can't live there) And then my other sister... She's an adult. ADULT.
Don't you think she should be gone?! I'M the one here who needs a room! I'm getting sick and tired of not having a room anymore. She's gone 90% of the time partying and stuff or just gone, and I'd always be in that room! I sleep on the FLOOR. I have to make my own bed out of blankets because I have nowhere to put my old bed. Help! Please!
My parents said "She has nowhere to go." And she's always gone. Please help! What do I say and what do I do?!
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Well I don't know why you can't live in your 14 year old sisters room, I'd see that as a better option.
I don't think your parents really want to kick her out, especially if she's partying. Maybe she doesn't have the money to move out and if I was a parent, I'd be kinda scared to just throw her out when she's always partying.
I actually have a friend who has a big family but only 3 bedrooms. The parents have a room and two sisters who are now both adults share a room, two adult brothers share a room and the youngest girl sleeps either in the living room on the floor or in the garage.
So, you're not the only one in this situation.
Some people don't have the money to move out yet.
Try talking to your parents to try making your living arrangements a little easier. You could even get a blow up mattress if they can't do anything about it.
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Is your basement finished? If not you might want to suggest it as a good investment to finish it up if they have money to do so. They can always rent it out later.
In the event there's ZERO cash for that to be done why not use it anyway? Most basements have a concrete floor or the ability to pour one. As long as it does set up your TV down there, other creature comforts and buy a pull-out bed inexpensively and put it down there as your place to be.
It ain't perfect but it's liveable. A girl your age does indeed need her own bed and a place where she can get privacy. There's not much else I can offer in advice because you haven't told us why this is the situation with where you sleep and why the older sister is still around or why the 14-year-old isn't an option.
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Yeh, the best option sounds like the 14 year old sister option-but you've not even said why you wouldn't want to stay there!
Without knowing about your older sister, then it's hard to know why as an adult she still stays in the house. Could she be saving for her own place? Just don't know...
However, I want to help you. I suggest speaking to your parents about it, perhaps saying that you feel it's making you unhappy and affecting you badly. You have a right to your own space of course, but if you are getting your own privacy in some way at the moment, then I don't think theres much of a case here.
You see, yes you deserve your own room, but as an adult, your sister does just as much as you, especially if she pays rent/has a part time job/has serious exams to do. I'm sure it's not the case the sister thats the adult does absolutley nothing all day!
Tried to help...if it's not enough then I suggest you ask the question again with more details or google it or something.
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I’m sure that you’d be far happier and healthier if you had your own room. I bet your parents believe that you having a room and a bed would be better than the current situation too.
But are your parents going to kick their eldest daughter out? Put on her the street, or make her live with one of crazy partying friends? Probably not. It’s not that anyone really thinks your adult sister ‘deserves’ her own room, it’s the risks and struggles to actually get her out of it. Those risks and struggles can only be handled by your parents, and if they don’t want to take that on, what can you say to them?
I don’t know why your parents are letting your older sister stay.
I don’t know why you can’t share a room with either of your sisters.
I don’t know what your family’s situation is. I don’t know if your parents are being lazy or careless or if they are struggling with pressures that you can’t understand (or maybe don’t even know about). I don’t know if it’s just that culturally, they expect their adult children to continue to live with them.
Without knowing WHY your parents are running the family this way, it’s impossible to know what you might say to change their minds.
Maybe you should re-ask your question and include some more information about your family.
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