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LONG but worth it if you want to help :) Is it possible to be in love....
I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend since I was 18 and I currently turned 22. Before I was with him I had a crush on one guy that happened to be one of his friends ( they aren't now). It was just a crush, he tried to kiss me back in 08 at the formal but I didn't want to pursue anything I just thought he was good looking. He'd always give me attention and I would not mind it. There has always been some awkward sort of tension between us. We are always talking and hanging around when we see each other at parties but on facebook we won't talk. He'd show attention even when in a relationship with my bf but I would just act friendly. Sometime in 2011 my boyfriend and I broke up, so I was single.and went to a friends party and the guy and I spoke, he always likes to be around me at parties. I told him I was single and he asked if I was sure then I could tell he wanted to kiss me and I thought why not, might as well get it out of my system. So we grabbed hands and I gave him a quick peck. After that he would not leave my side. I went home, and bf called wanted us back together so I told him what happened and he accepted me back. Me and the guy have not talked on seen each other since but we have facebook. I know that if we do happen to be in same place, we will hang out around each other again. Now this is the weird thing, even before the kissing thing, that guy is one of the people that happen to be in my dream the most. I'm not kidding but he appears to be in my dreams almost every third night. And when I see him in it his presence makes me happy and if feel the same way I do when I see him in real life. He acts the same. Weird thing is every time I see my bf I always have negative feelings for him in my dreams or we are fighting. My bf just seems to be in the background whilst dream is focused on other guy. There was one dream I had when my bf and I were moving in together and the other guy looked upset and i rushed up to him and said 'dw this doesnt mean that there cant be an us' like WTF! I don't get it. HE NEVER crosses my mind in every day life UNLESS i dream of him. I wake up feeling disgusting that i feel this way in my dreams about him and my bf! How can I feel this way about someone i don't care about, like or see. He means nothing to me but I hate waking up with hat gut feeling.
What do you think? Is it just a dream or could it mean something? Is this an indication of being in love?
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You are in lust with this guy and I think it is likely that you don't love the other one either, that I would suggest why there is so much conflict in your mind. I will warn you, the second guy is a player, from what you said he is an opportunist and wants to get in your pants. Trust me, my best friend when I was young sounds just like him. I'm going to give you the secret that many guys know, but every women should know. If your a guy and you want sex, focus everything on one target, there is no one else in the room when you are with a target. Maintain eye contact and give her all of your attention, make her feel like you are alone with her. I'm telling you, most females are suckers for this and will fall for it near every time. See what works here is most guys want to be everything to everyone. Most women want to be everything to one and guys who have a strong sex drive recognize this, but still can't fight the need to be everything for everyone. So, they learn to manipulate things so they get more sex then go do guy things etc.... Your dreams are conflicted, because you know deep down inside there are games being played and you don't have enough data. Be more critical in your view of guys and try to find the ones that are playing fewer game and learn what a man should be, before you settle for a "Guy".
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I don't think this means you're in love. When you're in love, you will know you are in love. Dreams are our subconscious thoughts, so it's like in the back of your mind pretty much and little things you see every day or something different that happened will sometimes show up in your dream.
I think the reason you've been having these dreams is because you and this guy kissed. It was something new, different and exciting so it comes up in your dream. Since you had the dreams before the kiss, you've probably thought about it, because he is an attractive guy and he has tried to kiss you before.
Honestly, I think it's just a dream. The only thing it could mean is that you are attracted to him. I'm pretty sure you don't have negative feelings toward your boyfriend in actual life so don't worry too much about this.
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