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Most of the boyz I have been with want to have sex with me but I say no because I THOUGHT I belived in abstanence. But now I have had a relationship with this boy for two months and I think he is the one. I am so in love with this boy. Everyday we talk he tells me he loves me, he wants to get married, he wants me to have his kids, and he wants to be with me for ever. I want to have sex with him but I am scared that he will say I am not doing it right. please help me. I am in desperate need of an answer. What should I do?

you're not ready, i can tell you that much. don't do it if you're not completely sure. you've only been together 2 months and my guess is that you're not old enough to raise a child if something goes wrong. don't waste your virginity on someone you barely know. he may say sweet things but once you tell him you're pregnant, all of a sudden, he doesn't see you in his future. there no wrong way to do it. if you think he'll judge you by that, he's not the one. thats just what i think you should do.

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Has anyone ever had sex with a blind girl?? Can you describe it as in depth as you feel comfortable depicting your encounter?

its probably the same if not better? and no, its not wack. they're blind, not dead! like someone alsready said, her other 4 senses are more powerful so more pleasure for both of you.

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Ok I wear glasses like all the time cause i need them for long distance so when i read i take em off but basically i wear them 24/7 so is it possible to get contacts even tho i take my glasses off when i read?

yeah it is possible. my friend has that problem (i think she might have had bifocals too?) and she has contacts.

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My dad has blood cancer and has been in the hospital for the past 6 months. His whole family is basically just waiting for him to die so they can get his money. None of them have even visited him in the hospital in the whole 6 months. Actually, his brother did--on his birthday. It's my mom's family that has been there for us and my dad. They don't want anything from my dad.


Everyone has been telling my mom to not even give them the chance at my dad's money if, god forbid, anything should happen to him. But we don't know if there is any legal way we can keep them from getting anything. Does anyone have any knowledge of this or any ideas?

that's terrible but unfortunatly pretty common. you could get your dad to change his will to not give the others as much. make sure he doesnt procrastinate tho... thats basically all you can do.

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hey...i read your column all the time! your great at giving advice.. i was wondering if you have any ideas for me loosing weight? im not very energetic and i dont do alot of sports cuz i hate them...so do you have any suggestions? im not fat.. but i would like to loose about a stone.. thnx

hey, thanks a lot! well, im kind of in that situation right now myself. if your usually on the couch all the time, slowly build up on how long of a workout you do. try doing some stretches then warming up with a walk/run around your neighborhood. that should get your energy up. (once you get going, you won't want to stop!) then do some situps and pushups or bring out a tae bo or pilates tape and do it in the comfort of your living room. its not all about excersize however. eat smaller portions (don't cut back DRASTICALLY...just eat what you need tobe satisfied then stop), cut back on the junk food and don't sit around all day. hope that helps! good luck!

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My boyfriend, of almost 2years, just broke up with me. I am going out tonight with my best girl Kate, and we are going bowling. Is that a good Idea?

What should I do to keep my mind off of it? And what shouldn't I do?

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Kelsssss
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wow kels! i dont believe it...okkk yeah anything that you do with your girlfriends is good. don't bring him up too often and don't isolate yourself from them. i'd go get my nails done or something lol.

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i was just wondering if this makes me fat.. because i think i am.. im 16 i weigh 107 and i wear size 5 pants.. just wondering what you think please be honest.

ok im jealous. even without knowing your height i think you are in good shape.

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I'm completely fed up with tampons. I want to use them but I think Im putting them in the wrong way. Can anyone tell me how exactly you know its the right place/ right way and why they don't go in all the way when I try to push them in?

sometimes it helps to stand up straight and relax your muscles so it will go in far enough. you just kinda have to know your body well.

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hey ok probably everybody has figured this out but me...lol but thats alrite wats a PSP?? wat is it and wat does it stand for...plz dont be mean:D

"play station portable"
they're like a gameboy for the big boys. haha.

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I was looking through a few questions on religion (Not a darn clue why, I just was) and I was reading a question about a girl who wanted to become Buddist.

An answer she recieved made me a little upset. This person that answered kept saying how she was choosing the wrong religion and that being Buddist is wrong.

I've noticed things like this before, strong Christians (yes, it is mostly Christians) criticizing other religions. They will rant on and on about how it's the wrong religion.

What is so wrong with believing in Buddah? Why do you have to criticize people who do not believe in God? We have the right to choose our religion and the right to choose no religion at all.

Why do you believe that your religion is the only "right" religion? This has been bothering me for a while.

I really don't want any Christians on this site to feel that I am directing this ONLY at you. But what I've seen on this site about 90% of the people criticizing people for their religion are strong Christians. So, I'm just basing my question on the majority.

I'm sorry if this question has offended anyone.

i'm catholic and i think its stupid to criticize other religions. if someone wants to believe in something, fine, worship whatever that may be. some christians are taught that if they convert more and more people, the better they are in the faith. some people have problems and really havent seen beyond theyre little faith community. i grew up in pretty open minded household so that might be part of the reason i accept it but anyone with a brain should get over themselves and accpet that no one is perfect and no matter what they think, they all have a right to believe what they want to believe. ok i think i've ranted enough. i could go on forever because that bugs me to no end.

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hey i have a question for all guys: are guys turned off by big feet? i wear a size 8 1/2, and so i was just wondering. thx for all answers, i'll give all NICE answers 5s! ♥

the average size for women's feet in america is a size 10. my friend told me that...it made her feel better about her 9 1/2-10 feet. no, 8 1/2 is not abnormally large so i realy dont think guys will be turned off by it. if they are, they need to get a life and a better excuse.

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My sister (28) and I(15)are sending my mom into Rehabilitation/Detoxification (Rehab/Detox) for about 10 days. My mom has many severe addictions to many, many different drugs..and my sis says she's going to be in probably the worst pain for a couple days in her entire life. She said that once my mom tried getting off her drugs and has diarahhea that was pure blood. My sis says its going to be way worse when she goes into rehab and that my mother is going to be in so much pain that she doesnt want to see me and my sister because she dooesnt want us to see her in such bad condition. So i guess my question is..what can I do to make myself feel better about the pain that my mom is going to be put through? It hurts me too..how do i deal with this? Thanks

just know that its for the better. she will be healtier and her life can get better after the pain.

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I was going out with this guy for awhile and I lost my virginity to him. He swore to me he was a virgin too and that he loved me. Once school started he told me his parents found out about us having sex and he had to break up with me. It was all bull shit.(fyi hes "popular" and i have friends from every group) Later I found out that hes had sex with atleast 4 people before me... and I also found out that him and one of his shit head friends are having a bet to see how many girls they can get laid by the time school ends.. and also my friends are telling me that hes been talking shit about me. He has a new girlfriend now but he asked me to hang out every weekend until i told him to stay the fuck away from me... I'm still beyond pissed and I NEED to do something... any ideas? I'm a junior.

wow. i wanna tell this guy off and i dont even know him! ok just show him you dont need him. next time, know the guy better before you do anything with him. there are tons of JERKS like him just waiting for action. i'd break his windshield or something. thats just me...

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Hey guys..i am 15 and i am about to get my permit..so my first car is going to be a 2005 Chevrolet Colorado Z71 with leather, big tires, and a system..is that bad like for a first car?

its a bit much for a first car but i don't think its necessarilly bad. i know a girl whose first car was an escalade and i dont think shes wrecked yet so have fun and be safe!

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hey ok...well i am a person who likes to run, but now that its getting into fall weather, i get kinda lazy and i dont ever want to go out. its a weird thing b/c i like running and if i do get myself out there i enjoy it, but i dont do it much anymore b/c i'm like that:P what can i do to make myself get up and go run everday-something i love

well, i also love to run but i had to stop due to injures (i still love it anyway!) in the winter its not really good to run if its freezing outside. i did it last winter and it was awful! if its warm, just think of how much it clears your mind and stuff. run a different route...see more sites that way and you wont get bored. run to someone's house or some local place you can chill for a while. have fun!

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im very confused u see my best friend wants to go out with my ex-boyfriend.i gave her permission but im still in love.we had something very special me and him. the problem is now they like eachother.its been two months since me and him broke up but i still love him with all my heart and i dont know how he feels about me.he keeps on asking her out but things keep on getting in their way.so their probably not meant to be.but when they go out i dont want to seem jealous.even if i am.i really still love him but i dont know .should i just tell my bestfriend she can go out with him????i really want her to be happy even i f it means hurting myself.please help me.
-boy or best friend?

well i'll point out that neither of you girls are in a comfortable position right now. she has to choose but she'll try to follow her heart but have to keep you in mind. dont lie and be like "yeah go ahead!" when really you loath every part of that idea. but if you want her to be happy, then tell her so. try to not let your feelings get in the way and don't make yourself miserable over this, im sure things will turn out your way because you have good intentions. i hope this answers it or at least gives you some insight. take care.

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i am 15 and boobs are very small what are the best things to us to stuff a bra like not buying one thats stuffed just what can i use thanks i rate high

no matter how small your boobs are there is no reason to stuff. i'm not saying everyone else matter but everyone will notice and spread rumors. people really like to break down girls that arent commfortable with their appearence...you obviously aren't if you stuff your bra. no, it won't make you more comfident because you WILL be looking down all day making sure your tissues,socks,shoulder pads are still in place. basically, its a really bad idea. please don't do it.

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what does it mean WHEN A GIRL SMILES AT ME? when we're walking past each other, and we make eye contact, and she gives me that little smile, you all know the one. does it mean:

1. she thinks i'm cute
2. she thinks i'm hott
3. she wants to talk to me
4. she wants to kiss me
5. she wants to do dirty things to me
6. other

come on ladies, i need to know what you're thinking. i have a pic on my profile, if it helps. (i think it will).

i would have to go with she thinks you're cute/hott, wants to talk to you and MAYBE wants to kiss you. i dont think 4, 5 ,6 really apply.

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im a boy in 8th grade and i am getting f's in l.a. lit and math and report cards are coming out tommarow friday and i wanted to know if any one could give me advice on how to show my parents my report card with them tearing my head off

thanks
mike

"i didnt understand it at all"
^thats my excuse. works like a charm.

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is speed a drug?
what do you know about it?

yep, speed is a drug. i think it literally "speeds" your body up but it can cause a lot of damage. i think they put other things in it too...it depends on where you get it i guess. yeah if you took it, its considered doing drugs.

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