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Most of the boyz I have been with want to have sex with me but I say no because I THOUGHT I belived in abstanence. But now I have had a relationship with this boy for two months and I think he is the one. I am so in love with this boy. Everyday we talk he tells me he loves me, he wants to get married, he wants me to have his kids, and he wants to be with me for ever. I want to have sex with him but I am scared that he will say I am not doing it right. please help me. I am in desperate need of an answer. What should I do?
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I have had this same problem and if he loves you as much as he says he does than he won't care if you don't do it right! What I did was made sure that I told him that I was a virgin and I don't really know what to do, and if he loves you like I said before, then he won't care and he will take it slow and teach you!
Hope I helped!!
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First of all, don't believe a boy that tells you he wants to get married and have kids. That could happen, but its VERY unrealistic. If he is a virgin, he won't tell you that you are doing it wrong. If he isn't a virgin and is trying to get you to do it, then yeah, I wouldn't have sex with him. If a boy truly loves you, he'd wait for you to want to have sex. If you are questioning whether or not to have sex with someone you "love", then I personally don't think you should. You definitely aren't ready.
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ok well one, only do this if you truly believe that your ready. two monts is a ok period of time, but things can still go very wrong. adn if your afriad hes gunna say your not "doing it right' then you might want to explain to him that your a virgin adn if he does care for you then he will undersatnd and go easy on ya
<3 bedst of luck
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first of all if you are young DONT DO IT!!!!!!!
you can runin your live if you love this boy he can wait till you are older and out of school etc.
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Answer: Two months is not enough time to truly know a person's character. Right now, the relationship is all rainbows and butterflies, right? That will change, trust me. It may change for the better - a deeper, more realistic type of love. But then again, it may change for the worst.
My advice is to wait. Wait until you've been with this guy longer, after that "high" of being with a new love wears off. He may not end up to be the person you think he is now. Wait until you've been together for a longer period of time and when you are 100% ready.
Don't stress so much about it! Take it slow. Just a thought - Is he pressuring you into having sex? Think back to the guys you have said no to in the past. Was there a point in those relationships that you considered having sex? If the answer is yes, aren't you glad you didn't do it?
When you are with the right person, are comfortable with yourself, are 100% ready, things will fall into place and happen naturally. Just don't forget to use protection. ;)
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you're not ready, i can tell you that much. don't do it if you're not completely sure. you've only been together 2 months and my guess is that you're not old enough to raise a child if something goes wrong. don't waste your virginity on someone you barely know. he may say sweet things but once you tell him you're pregnant, all of a sudden, he doesn't see you in his future. there no wrong way to do it. if you think he'll judge you by that, he's not the one. thats just what i think you should do. <3
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Alright...sex shouldn't be planned, it's a way of life (reproduction) and the most intimate way of expressing love. It should be a magical, pleasurable experience for both. If you want to, talk to him and make sure he is ready and comfortable to too! Communication is the main thing, before you do anything, talk to him and ask him what would be the best way to do it to pleasure him the most!
Best of luck!
x Steph x
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