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Hi, I'm a 15 year old girl.
My parents never listen to me, I always get in trouble by them because I'm not "Perfect Enough". I'm not pretty, I'm not smart, I'm not athletic. I don't write neatly, my room looks like a whore house, I can't take responsibility, I always want more, I get what I want, I'm not popular, This is what they tell me. Really, do they need to say that?
I'm never allowed to lock my room or close my door, my mother constantly barges in no matter what, searching my room for anything illegal. I don't do anything illegal, hell, I'm not even allowed to drive yet or go for walks, so how am I supposed to GET the stuff?
I can't do this anymore, I try talking to them, but it always ends up in them telling me how unperfect I am. What should I do?

You should ignore it to be honest. No one is perfect, not even your parents. You should talk to them about it but in a respectful manner. Explain how it upsets you.

hi i am jealous of my friend because she haves a boyfriend and i don't and she hangs out with him more than me now. How can i stop being jealous of her hanging out with him more than me?

You can't make her do anything. However, you should look for a boyfriend and that way you guys can double date.

how can i concentrate in studies

You need to pay attention and concentrate because it's important. It will make things easier for you grades wise. Speak with a counselor or your teacher. They might be able to help.

Alright, sooo I think I might be falling for my best friend. I don't even know it that's how I feel (I never really do) but that's where it seems to be going. The thing is, I promised myself I would try my hardest not to feel that way towards somebody until I'm out of high school (I'm 16, junior in high school). I've almost always had crushes on guys, pretty consistently since the fifth grade. The feelings have pretty much never been reciprocated (apart from two instances but I don't even count them) and it just adds too much unneeded stress and emotion to feel that way towards somebody. High school relationships are sort of pointless in my opinion. But anyways... another thing, we've been best friend for almost five years. I don't get why these feelings are just coming up now. Maybe it's because we've become closer friends lately, and it's just the closeness I'm feeling?? I don't know. And lastly... she's a girl. As am I. I've never had crush on a girl before (if that's even what this is), so I feel kind of weird. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against girls liking girls, I truly don't. I just never thought I would like a girl like that. And I don't know if her opinion on that matter is the same as mine, and I'm pretty sure her parents aren't. And, she has a boyfriend. I don't want to tell her and creep her out or make her feel uncomfortable, especially if my feelings aren't really what I think they are. I don't know. I'm just confused about a lot of things right now. Any kind of response to this would be much appreciated. Thank you

You need to make sure you have a crush on her first. You might just love her as your best friend. Do you want to kiss her? Do other intimate things? If you are truly her best friend, she won't get weirded out and will hopefully still have a relationship with you even if she is straight. However, you have to weigh out which is more important. You don't want to risk your friendship for a relationship.

I'll try not to make this too long, because I hate reading questions that ramble on and on.

My boyfriend and I have been going out for over 9 months. He's my first boyfriend, my first everything basically. We've had fights but nothing too serious, and we've never gone on a break or anything.

But lately it's been too much to handle. We are seniors and obviously graduation is coming soon, which stresses everyone out. My bf is extra stressed because he has to work to pay for prom costs and on top of it his family is moving 4 hours away from here in the summer. As all of this is coming closer and closer, he gets more irritable and argumentative.

I feel like once a week he has a 'freak out' moment and gets so angry and stressed out. Of course he takes it out on me, and then expects me to sit on the phone with him for hours and 'talk' about it. I cannot talk about this same situation again and again, especially when we can't change that we are getting older and graduating. Then he just thinks I don't care and don't want to talk to him. He asks me to 'tell me everything is going to be okay and that you love me.' I can't do that. I don't know what the future holds and I'm not here to hold his hand and reassure him every day. I feel like we are old enough to see the reality of the situation.

I realize he is very attatched to me, and at this point I feel like he is too clingy. He says I love you, that I mean the world to him, all of that. I don't feel right saying those things.

I just don't know what to do. I would like to have fun with him the rest of the year and even am willing to try our relationship in college, but I can't deal with all the drama and him being attatched at my hip. Do you think a break is a good idea?

Anyone in the same boat or has some advice for me?

It seems like you need a break from him. However, make sure this is what you want because he might decide that he doesn't want a relationship anymore if you want a break.

I texted my boyfriend asking him how the bus was, and he said, "It's cool. Looking at other girls breasts. They're pulling them out of their shirts." My sensitive side took over. I instantly got upset. I am a very sensitive person, and he knows it. We've been dating for three months now and I know I shouldn't take his playful attitude so seriously, but he went too far. He knows I am insecure and emotional and easily upset but he says those types of hurtful things that make me want to cry.

In a way I know I should accept his teasing and quirky jokes, but my emotional side takes over me. I told him I don't like how he jokes like that and he needs to stop. I don't know what to do. I'm happy with him and I don't want to lose him because of my paranoid mind. Help?

Did he do anything with those girls? Guys are guys. If you made those jokes with him, what would his reaction be? You might want to play his game. If he gets upset about it then say that you both will stop with those jokes.

is it legal for a 18 year old to date a 15 yeard old

Having sex with someone under the age of 18 if you are 18 or older is illegal in most states and in some countries. "Dating" is seen as illegal because some people think doing anything with a minor isn't right. However, it depends where you live. Make sure you know your state laws before you pursue anything.

so i hooked up with this guy just once and we're both back for spring break and i wanna hook up again. he said i was really good after the first time. we both don't want a relationship so don't say "don't cause you'll fall in love" or any of that. i just want to hookup haha. do guys like being umm a bootycall i guess? lol so should i text him?

Guys do it so I don't see why not. Make sure he's aware of your intentions though.

I'm 5'5" and 144 pounds and I need to lose 25 pounds before june. I know I have to eat right, drink water and stuff. But what exercises around the house can I do that will burn a lot of calories? because I cant go to the gym but I run around the park everyday.

Just exercising probably won't help you lose 25 lbs. That's a pretty big number. You need to count your calories. Running burns the most calories so you might want to invest in a treadmill.

How to stay on diet and not give up ?
When I first started my diet I was eating right and everything and I lost 40 pounds. Now Im starting my diet again because I keep cheating. I dont feel bad until after I eat the junk food. I weigh 144 and I want to lose 20 pounds . I always give up in 2,3 days when I'm on diet and I start eating junk food and everything again. How do I to stay on my diet? :/

If you completely restrict yourself from food you enjoy, it's harder to stick with it. Slowly cut out junk food and go from there. Counting calories is the best way to lose weight. Don't forget to add in exercise as well.

can i give a sdt to myself if i have never had it before?

No. STD's are spread from one person to another.

I have to say right now that I am deathly afraid of anything that has to do with needles or blood tests or needles going in my mouth...
Well, today at the dentist they found three cavities they need fill and one they're sealing. They said they can use a laser, instead of the drill and needle to numb to the tooth. If so, is it all right if I have braces and ask for the laser instead? Please say so because I freak out at the thought of them numbing my tooth and drilling into it! It's got me into freak out mode!
Also, please don't tell me to grow up, I know I need to and stuff. I can't help it. It just terrifies me and it doesn't help that I'm sensitive to pain.

You get Novocaine if there's any drilling so you probably won't feel a thing. Afterwards it's very numb but that only lasts a few hours. if you can afford the laser and you feel better doing that, you can try it. However, drilling really isn't a big deal.

So, lately my life has been so chaotic and busy I somehow ended up being quite stupid with my birth control pills.
Basically, I finished my pack on Wednesday, and was then supposed to have the week of placebo pills, but I wanted to skip my period due to various reasons, and my doctor said it would be fine. However, I forgot to take the pill on Thursday, so my period started sometime on Friday. However, because I was so tired and my head was so full off things, I took the first pill of the next pack like I originally intended to on Friday evening.

Now, I'm currently on my period and taking the pill like I would have normally, since I didn't think I should just stop it.
Will my period finish within the next few days, like normal? And then I just keep on taking the pill for the next few weeks and take the placebo ones in the end.

Any comments on this would be appreciated, I'm pretty annoyed at myself for being so stupid about this.

You should be asking your doctor. Your period will probably finish out like normal but you should be taking them as directed.

Okay so I'm 20. I feel like I can't breathe properly, as if I'm not getting enough oxygen into my lungs which causes me to feel lightheaded and dizzy. I also can't do a full yawn sometimes and like i need to yawn every couple of minutes. It usually takes me 6 or 7 tries to get the satisfaction, its the same as the breathing.

I am a smoker, have been for 6 months BUT I've been having this exact problem since I was 5 years old and the only thing the doctor will do is put that thing to my chest and back and ask me to take deep breaths but I don't have the breathing issue when I'm in the doctors office seeing as i only talk to him for 5 minutes.

Doctor also said It could be anxiety and yes I've had anxiety and depression before but like I said, it's been happening since I was 5. Sometimes when I try to get that oxygen satisfaction after a while, my shoulders hurt near my chest area(like the colar bone area) and i can't take deep breaths again for about 5 minutes.

He hasn't even mentioned the possibility of it being Asthma or anything else besides stress and axiety but that can't be it for the reason i stated above and also because it happens 24/7 every single day even when i'm calm and i'm stress free! Dad thinks I'm crazy too, like it's all in my head, but it's not. I've tried breathing exercises and i walk alot and i drink a lot of water and everything and yeah, since I was 5! and I'm pretty sure i wasn't suffering from anxiety or anything when I was 5 so thats another reason.

Does anyone else have the same problem and if they can help? I feel like i'm about to faint or worse, die!

If you don't trust your doctor, see a new one. Doctors can normally tell when patients have asthma. If you are a smoker, it's fairly obvious that that's why you feel as if you can't breathe. Regardless of how long you smoked, it's still bad for you. Try to quit smoking.

Ive been on loestrin since august or september and it has really worked for me as far as getting my period. I was getting it at the same time every month on time. After my period ended I hooked up with someone, but didn't have sex. This was on feb 1st. Then in march fr my next period I got it when I was supposed to. But then 2 weeks later I got my period again. This time it was a different flow than usual though. I know this is a stupid question since I didn't actually have sex but I don't understand why this would be happening when the pill had been working so well when it came to my period. Any possible explanations?

Sometimes it takes awhile to adjust to birth control pills. If you feel that something isn't right, schedule an appointment with your Gynecologist.

what is so wrong with old period blood?

Nothing is wrong with it. It's just a darker color.

i experienced a very very light period that seemed almost like spotting for three days last week. that ended friday night, and it is now monday night. i have very slight cramping but no more signs of blood. i am very irregular being that i am a teen. do you think i will get my period this week?

No one can answer that. Not even your doctor. You might have just had a light period. That's normal.

If I went to a dentist and asked them to take my braces off, could/would they? Thanks (:

Orthodontists are qualified to take your braces off. However, some dentists actually have dual degrees so you should ask him/her.

Hey guys. I love to sing and write music so basically I just want some free programs to record music in. I know I can google it but I tried and just got into this big mess and dowlonaded a lot of wrong things lol. So if you guys know any that are free and good or atleast decent please send me a link. Thankyou!!! (:

http://audacity.sourceforge.net/

You could also just use your webcam and put something over it if you don't want to be seen on it.

i want to know if its anything i can do if me and my suppose to be father, took a dna test after he stood me up for 31yrs and he was always lying about taking the test. [he is a pastor in his brother chruch] im getting married in his bother chruch so he was kinda force to take one but we had to do it his way. threw the mail and i did not see him mail it off. the dna center said they dont know who dna they were testing because he mail it in. we all think something is fishy including the dna center. how can i get him to take anthor test for my benfit. i have two children and i need to know where i came from. WHAT CAN I DO?

You have to follow the laws in your state. You most likely can't force him to get a DNA test. You should try talking to him about it though. Explain why you want it. Explain that you aren't just trying to bother him and it's really for your benefit.

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