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Falling for my best friend
Alright, sooo I think I might be falling for my best friend. I don't even know it that's how I feel (I never really do) but that's where it seems to be going. The thing is, I promised myself I would try my hardest not to feel that way towards somebody until I'm out of high school (I'm 16, junior in high school). I've almost always had crushes on guys, pretty consistently since the fifth grade. The feelings have pretty much never been reciprocated (apart from two instances but I don't even count them) and it just adds too much unneeded stress and emotion to feel that way towards somebody. High school relationships are sort of pointless in my opinion. But anyways... another thing, we've been best friend for almost five years. I don't get why these feelings are just coming up now. Maybe it's because we've become closer friends lately, and it's just the closeness I'm feeling?? I don't know. And lastly... she's a girl. As am I. I've never had crush on a girl before (if that's even what this is), so I feel kind of weird. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against girls liking girls, I truly don't. I just never thought I would like a girl like that. And I don't know if her opinion on that matter is the same as mine, and I'm pretty sure her parents aren't. And, she has a boyfriend. I don't want to tell her and creep her out or make her feel uncomfortable, especially if my feelings aren't really what I think they are. I don't know. I'm just confused about a lot of things right now. Any kind of response to this would be much appreciated. Thank you<3
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Dear Falling for my best friend,
So, i'm sort of homophobic, but i've come to realize it's just the way some people are,it's not gross, it's just them. So i do have some help!
the signs are as follows: you think of her 24/7 or you want to be physically close to her when she is around.
Since she isn't open to dating girls, you might want to weigh the fact that she could not feel the same way, and then see if it's worth keeping the friend.
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This was me 2 and a half years ago. I acted ipon the feelings and i havnt looked back since were still going strong. Im not saying act upon it now but i did a lot of thinking i asked myself do i want her as my gf? Or to stay my best friend? Do i just like the closeness? And yes i did and i found myself physically attracted to her i didnt expect to fall for her or for her to feel the same way even. You have to think before you act. You need to know if you really love this girl like that and if your willing to take the risk of changing your relationship forever bcs it will change. If shes ur best frend as you say then she shud stick by you no matter what. Dnt rush the thinkin process if you do not find yourself wantin more from your friendship like kissing and nolding hands and other intimate stuff then she is not wat u want otherewise i say you can never find out what she thinks unless you say. This takes a lot of courage to do and a lot of responsability will be upon you. Think babe. A lot of decisions have to be made hope this helps inbox me if you need more help i have gone through this so any questions on this are welcome x
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I agree with the other commentor,. you should figure out if it's just love best friend of if you like this person more.
It is normal to be confused about liking same sex at your age. and if in fact you are bisexual or like the same sex. it is nothing to be ashamed of.
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You need to make sure you have a crush on her first. You might just love her as your best friend. Do you want to kiss her? Do other intimate things? If you are truly her best friend, she won't get weirded out and will hopefully still have a relationship with you even if she is straight. However, you have to weigh out which is more important. You don't want to risk your friendship for a relationship.
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