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My parents never listen to me, how do I cope?
Hi, I'm a 15 year old girl.
My parents never listen to me, I always get in trouble by them because I'm not "Perfect Enough". I'm not pretty, I'm not smart, I'm not athletic. I don't write neatly, my room looks like a whore house, I can't take responsibility, I always want more, I get what I want, I'm not popular, This is what they tell me. Really, do they need to say that?
I'm never allowed to lock my room or close my door, my mother constantly barges in no matter what, searching my room for anything illegal. I don't do anything illegal, hell, I'm not even allowed to drive yet or go for walks, so how am I supposed to GET the stuff?
I can't do this anymore, I try talking to them, but it always ends up in them telling me how unperfect I am. What should I do?
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Parents do odd things. Perhaps they want you to motivate yourself to become a good person. Though sometimes parents don't think things through. Don't talk back, just tell them how you feel, and what it is doing to you. If it doesn't work, get help from your school counselor. If it's throwing you into the depths of despair because they don't listen, talk to your counselor if it becomes to much to of a burden. Sometimes leaving feelings unchecked can cause un-wanted results. Such as harm to yourself or others.
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talk back. you're 15.. its about time you stand up for yourself. I'm 18 and you're talking to a girl whose taken so much shit from my parents too. Thats just the way they are unfortunately. When I was 15 and 16 I was such a shy little innocent girl and if I made a mistake they would yell at me and i'd just cry and let them get to me. But now i'm 18 and i've learned how to stand up for myself. Yeah its true that its not right to talk back to your parents. Thats only true when they're right. But if they aren't right about the things they say, then they have no right to put you down like that.. They are parents. Parents are supposed to make their children feel safe, secure, happy, and strong. However there are some parents out there who do the exact opposite. They put their children down, calling them names and saying rude things to make them feel worse. Welcome to my world. I accidentally dropped his glasses and my dad flips out on me. I didn't put my shoes in the right spot and he flips out.
Anyways haha, you just gotta stand up for yourself. yell at them if you have to. But just remember- only do it if the things they yell at you for, is not true. If they say you don't write neatly, but you know you do, then yell at them for it. show them that they can't boss you around like that and put you down. Everytime my parents and I fight I always say "you're supposed to make me feel better and teach me how to become a better person.. not to put me down and feel worse about myself like a bully"
If you've tried talking to them about it, try shouting to get your point across. tell them to stop talking and LISTEN because you're 15. Thats the age when you start acting more mature and that means you really need to learn how to stand up for yourself.
There's no "right" way to stand up for yourself. You just gotta take a deep breath and get the courage to say whats on your mind. If you need to vent or go on a rant, then do it. If you need to cry in front of them, then do it. It shows more emotion and they will understand better on how you feel. MAKE THEM REALIZE HOW YOU'RE FEELING. you can't make them realize just by talking. you need to SHOW them how you're feeling. express emotions and show them how its affecting you negatively.
but just some more advice, don't go overboard ok? One time I got in a big fight with my dad and I went way overboard and said things I definitely regret. Make sure you think about what you say first, that way you wont be tempted to say things you dont mean. Also, if you do decide to yell at them and stand up for yourself, you need to realize when the fight gets elevated. for example, if you're yelling and then they yell back and it gets really crazy and dangerous.. then you need to stop. like i said earlier, 15 is an age where you have to be more mature. Knowing when enough is enough is a part of maturity. So if you do yell, you MUST know when to stop. Don't go overboard ok? Make your point and then stop.
Good luck and inbox me if you have any questions
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You should ignore it to be honest. No one is perfect, not even your parents. You should talk to them about it but in a respectful manner. Explain how it upsets you.
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