|
Getting my supposed father to take a DNA test so I finally know who I am for sure
i want to know if its anything i can do if me and my suppose to be father, took a dna test after he stood me up for 31yrs and he was always lying about taking the test. [he is a pastor in his brother chruch] im getting married in his bother chruch so he was kinda force to take one but we had to do it his way. threw the mail and i did not see him mail it off. the dna center said they dont know who dna they were testing because he mail it in. we all think something is fishy including the dna center. how can i get him to take anthor test for my benfit. i have two children and i need to know where i came from. WHAT CAN I DO?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
Go to your doctor, make him go with you and ask your doctor to please give you DNA results. They should be able to do this and give you an answer, if not a hospital can absolutely give you a straight answer.
]
Dear Getting My supposed father . . . ,
love you for wanting to know where you came from; however, it seems to be causing you come grief since your supposid father will not cooperate. This also makes me sad; sad for your children.
If not knowing if this man is your father makes you so unhappy, I cannot imagine how your kids see you. You have two children that could turn that bad energy into something glorious; all you must do is focus on them, and not you or the issues with you fake father.
I know this may not be something that you want to hear; but who cares if this man is your father?
He was not there for you when you were growing up. He does not deserve to be your father!
He definately does not deserve to be a granfather either.
I say move on from this bad tasting subject. It is obvious your fake father has no interest in being your father. Put it past you and focus on your future. Those two children will know where they came from, and that is what matters here. You need to be a better mom than your father was for you. You cannot get those years back. Your children will not get back the time you spend focused on other things as well. Just because you are with them physically, does not mean you are with them if you are focused elsewhere.
Please do not be mad at me for being honest and blunt. You are doing your children and new husband a huge injustice by forcing this issue.
Let it go. Move on and enjoy the time you have with your children. They are the future, not your absent father.
Congratulations and Good Luck!
Doktor Tammy
]
You have to follow the laws in your state. You most likely can't force him to get a DNA test. You should try talking to him about it though. Explain why you want it. Explain that you aren't just trying to bother him and it's really for your benefit.
]
More Questions: |