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fighting with boyfriend
I'll try not to make this too long, because I hate reading questions that ramble on and on.
My boyfriend and I have been going out for over 9 months. He's my first boyfriend, my first everything basically. We've had fights but nothing too serious, and we've never gone on a break or anything.
But lately it's been too much to handle. We are seniors and obviously graduation is coming soon, which stresses everyone out. My bf is extra stressed because he has to work to pay for prom costs and on top of it his family is moving 4 hours away from here in the summer. As all of this is coming closer and closer, he gets more irritable and argumentative.
I feel like once a week he has a 'freak out' moment and gets so angry and stressed out. Of course he takes it out on me, and then expects me to sit on the phone with him for hours and 'talk' about it. I cannot talk about this same situation again and again, especially when we can't change that we are getting older and graduating. Then he just thinks I don't care and don't want to talk to him. He asks me to 'tell me everything is going to be okay and that you love me.' I can't do that. I don't know what the future holds and I'm not here to hold his hand and reassure him every day. I feel like we are old enough to see the reality of the situation.
I realize he is very attatched to me, and at this point I feel like he is too clingy. He says I love you, that I mean the world to him, all of that. I don't feel right saying those things.
I just don't know what to do. I would like to have fun with him the rest of the year and even am willing to try our relationship in college, but I can't deal with all the drama and him being attatched at my hip. Do you think a break is a good idea?
Anyone in the same boat or has some advice for me?
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You've already made up your mind about this. He's a bully and a whiner. You are going to dump him.
He is an emotional bully. He expects you to be his mommy and promise him that you'll always be there and that there are no monsters under the bed.
But you aren't his mommy. You might not always be there. And the big bad monster called graduation is coming for you both and you're going to have to handle that together, or separately.
It's pretty clear that he can't face the monster. That he can't treat you as his equal partner in this. It’s pretty obvious that he can’t deal with the realtiy of your relationship.
It’s also pretty obvious you’ve lost respect from him, and are begin to resent him.
So dump him.
It’s not working now. It looks like it will only work even less in the future.
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It seems like you need a break from him. However, make sure this is what you want because he might decide that he doesn't want a relationship anymore if you want a break.
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