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I'm 18/f and I've heard and read and watched so many things on how guys appreciate "the chase" or "the girl that doesn't put herself out there" or even "the girl that doesn't put her body on display". But, I'm always seeing the girls that throw themselves over any guy/the one with the short shorts and tight shirts always get's the guy. Always. My question is, are all guys looking for in a relationship is big boobs and an easy date? I know I'm only 18 but it's just becoming predictable and disapointing, and really crushing my own self esteem.
Thanks,
Gen
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Girls that put themselves on display get noticed. Girls who flirt more and try to get attention tend to get it. The majority of the guys probably notice that and pursue something they can definitely get.
Honestly, I don't think you want the majority of the guys out there. They're sex-crazed, selfish masses of testosterone in human form. You want to find the guy that connects with you on a deeper level than what's on the surface. That's not found hitting on strangers at parties or wearing short shorts.
There's no way to really find that type of connection outside of being social and trying to get to know people, but one trend that seems to be popular is finding it when you least expect it.
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14/M
After I ask a girl out (hopefully I get a response yes) what do I say?
-I'm not gonna say "awesome thx so much" Im not that stupid, but I'm not smart enough to think of what to say next. Any advice is appreciated.
***PLEASE RESPOND USING CORRECT GRAMMER*** (link)
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Generally, the next step should probably be to schedule a date of some sort. If you're expecting a yes, I would advise having a place to take her in mind before hand.
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when you crack your nuckles, what exactly are you cracking?
is it bad for you? (link)
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It'll take a long time before it has ill effects, if it does. The only problem with cracking your knuckles is the ability to easily do it is a sign of future problems with arthritis.
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do guys really care what a girl vagina looks like?
because i know everyone is different, with the size of their libias and all of that..so which do you like better...big ones, or small ones?
thanks! (link)
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The look isn't that important. I don't typically look at it all the time anyway. I bet as long as it's clean, the guy won't care.
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when you finger a girl do you usually use one finger or two? (link)
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Larry1's answer isn't 100% accurate. Some girls enjoy stimulation of the G-Spot over the clitoris. As for how many fingers, you'll want to go as far as she wants, not necessarily starting right away with fingering her. You might want to work her up first if this is as far as you intend to go.
All girls are different, so it depends on the girl.
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My butt's been bleeding, like, when I wipe and stuff, it's blood, and I check, not from the twat. I know it's not normal, so what does it mean? (link)
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It can be the result of a lot of different things. Are you straining too hard? Do you go very often? Do you wipe very hard? These can all cause it or contribute to it.
If it doesn't stop after awhile, you should go to the doctor. The only way to really tell is to actually get it checked out.
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ok so i had sex for the first time and bled i no thats normal now how long before it stops hurting ? like will it hurt if i have sex a second time?
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It'll probably hurt until you get used to it. There's no determined amount of times before then, but the more you do it, the less it'll hurt.
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So, last night, I had a little to drink and I had a random hookup with one of my friend's friends. We didn't have a condom, and I have been on birth control for a month last night. The sex didn't last long at all, he got off and pulled out. I'm wondering since I've not been on birth control other than a month if there's going to be a possibility of pregnancy? (link)
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There's always a chance.
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I have a really good guy friend... I'm female and he's 2 years older. We are both in high school. Anyway, I like him a lot... a lot. Actually I love him. 100% sure I love him, even if it is just as friends. Well, the problem is, I really want to go out with him, but he has a girlfriend. He was single when I met him though. He knew I liked him before he started dating her, but we didn't know each other very well then. His girlfriend is kinda mean to him, and I don't think she cares about him as much as she should. Maybe he doesn't tell her as much as he tells me, because if he did, she would have to love him more. So, at first I was happy for him, but then his girlfriend got bitchy towards me and his other friends. I don't think she's good enough for him. Now I'm going crazy seeing him with her and other girls. I want him to like me. I think I could have a chance, but I'm really shy and need to open up more. His girlfriend's good friend told me that she thinks they won't last much longer, and his girlfriend told me she thinks he likes me as more than a friend, but I don't think so. I really like him though and I want a chance with him. What I really need advice with is making him like me more. Ways to get close to him. Any advice you have would be good with this situation. I love him and everything he says he wants in a relationship I want to. Now don't forget I'm already really good friends with him. We hang out, and he comes to my house a lot. But I really want to get closer to him and let him know that I feel as strongly as I do. Another thing is, I always want to say "I love you" when he's about to leave or something, but I'm afraid he'll think it's weird or take it the wrong way, I mean, me and my friends do say that to each other, but would it be weird with him? Any advice on that would be helpful too. And, I always want to hug him, and sometimes he really needs a hug, but I think that might be weird for him too. Anyways to approach that? Thanks for any advice you give. Sorry it's long. (link)
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There's nothing wrong with a hug. If he needs one, give him one. The only way it would turn out really awkward is if you put too much thought into what it means. So just hug him.
I wouldn't advise looking for ways to make someone like you. If you try to act like you normally wouldn't, then he wouldn't really be liking you for who you are. And he'd have to meet the real you at some point, so it's best to just act natural around him from the start. If you're trying to figure out how to get noticed, chances are he already notices you. You two do spend a lot of time together.
Chances are this guy already does anyway. You're only problems are he's in a relationship and you're struggling with how to tell him how you feel. The relationship thing you can't change. Only he or she can.
I would do one of two things: either tell him how you feel now or tell him how you feel after his current relationship ends.
If you tell him now and he feels the same way, then he might be forced to make a really tough decision and it might weigh heavily on him. But you'll get it off your chest and you'll be able to move past this awkwardness sooner no matter what his reaction is.
If you wait, you might wait too long and miss an opportunity. You'll also have to deal with these feelings longer, but it'll be easier on him.
I suppose I would just weigh it out and see which option is best for you.
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This is long, but you have to know the full story before you can tell me how to move on.
"Rachel"=Me
"Holly"=Ex best friend
"Billie"=Friend
"Dale"=Guy that tore us apart.
Fake names, obviously.
Okay, so I had this friend for a couple of years. Let's call her..."Holly" but be warned that isn't her real name.
Me and Holly were best friends from about early 2005 until about a month ago. We'd talk everyday, and we got on really well. We had a few 'petty' fights which lasted 5 minutes. It was a pretty good friendship, I'll admit it here but not to everyone else.
About December last year she made friends with a guy I DETEST. I didn't mind, it's her life but not mine. However being the effing drama queen she is, she made a huge deal about it. She was all "omfg get over it, if you don't like him doesn't mean I can't like him?!" (Yes, she devolped a crush on him) seconds before when I told her I was happy for her.
However this wasn't enough for her, he convinced her to hate me. I didn't care, I just learned how to live my life without her.
About a month after that she came crying back to me. I forgave her, I'm a pretty good friend. So everything was okay. About a week ago I noticed she was online on her Last.FM but not MSN. Then a few days ago my friend was asking me why we were fighting. I told her I had no idea what was going on, and so my friend asked her what was going on. Let's call my friend Billie.
So Billie was like "So...why aren't you friends with (Let's say my name is...Rachel) Rachel anymore?" And Holly replied with "I dunno. I'm just so over Rachel" (Yes, she said that about a friend who has done nothing but put up with her ridiculous whining for years)
So after a while me and Billie worked out it was to do with the guy that turned her against me. When she said she was talking to me again he refused to talk to her again. Billie decided this is NOT a way to treat a friend, and although she's friends with Holly and has been before she even met me, I'm a better friend than Holly plus I had done nothing wrong.
So Billie asked her the real reason why she stopped her ties with me. My suspicions were correct. She replied with (Let's call the guy Dale) "Dale stopped talking to me, he was the most inspirational person in my life. Talking to Rachel again was the biggest mistake I made in my life" (LET ME TELL YOU THAT DALE WENT AROUND SAYING CRAP ABOUT HOLLY, SAYING SHE'S PREGNANT AND HE'S THE FATHER. AND HE DOESN'T EVEN LIVE IN THE SAME STATE AND THEY'VE NEVER MET!! THAT'S WHY SHE CAME CRYING BACK TO ME, COS SHE WAS SO OVER HIM THE WAY SHE GOT OVER ME) and then Billie told her that it's not cool to ditch your best friend for a crazy guy you've never met and never will.
and what I'm about to say, I'm not exaggerating. I'm not trying to make this look better. This is truly the pathetic thing to say. Holly knew Billie was right, but she couldn't let her pride down. So she then changed her story to "It's Rachel's fault my mother hits me. She's never been into this house and she ripped my family apart" let me tell you that I never met her parents, and as she said, I never went to her house and she never went to mine. We preferred to just hang out at places. Billie then argued with her more, and Holly then even said more lies.
It ended up with Holly blocking Billie, when Billie said that Dale could be a paedophile.
ANYWAY, that happened yesterday. Today I got an email from Holly and she had sent it to Dale too. It was a link to her LiveJournal. It was an entry about me and Dale, telling us to get over ourselves. And she was basically implying her friendship is like a blessing, and if you lose it your life is ruined. PFFT.
She posted 3 entries in her LiveJournal to make us angry to post angry comments. It was then, I realised I want to move on. I don't want to fight with her, for a few days I've been plotting revenge. It was really good too, and I would have still been the "winner" I wouldn't have stooped to her level, and I would have won. But I realised reading those entries it's not about winning or losing, I want to move on.
So...after all of this, how can I move on? Please don't tell me to not miss her friendship, because to be honest she did me a favour. She left my life, but she keeps trying to rub it into my face she isn't my friend anymore.
But I still have a bit of anger left, anger that I basically got used. Anger someone said those things about me, and anger she got there first by packing up.
ALSO, another reason why she got really angry and blocked me, is because she doesn't have many friends, and the ones she does have are internet friends. She couldn't stand it I could be happy without her, and make other friends and hang with them every weekend. (link)
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Yeah, you're right. You probably shouldn't do anything to her. It'll just provoke her to do something to you and it would become a long chain of drama that'll only stop when someone becomes an adult and decides not to retaliate anymore. I think it's best that you take the high road now.
As for moving on, it should be simple. Just stop talking to her. Block her, delete her, whatever it takes. If she sends you an email, don't read it. Just cut her out of your life.
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okay so me and this guy have been fooling around off and on for like 3 years now, he used to fool around woth everyone but lately he hasn't been fooling around with as many girls, i guess he's trying to be more faithfull to his "girlfrind"(please don't paint me as a bad guy... he always says that they're broken up and they haven't gone out all year, but some of her friends say that they're going out...) anyway, whenever we do anything he ignores me the next day even though we're friends and then the next day it's completely different he acts like he only wants to be around me... i think he's just trying to play the field and he doesn't like me... can anyone give me any advice on wether i should keep this thing up or just give up on the jerk? (link)
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I'd say that it's pretty easy for a guy to pretend he cares and lie. You can't just go by what he says. If he pretends that you don't exist the next day, why bother? There are plenty of guys out there that aren't with as many girls as possible. Besides, do you honestly think he'll change and just be there for you if you went out? What are the odds that he'll just treat you like he treats his current girlfriend? I would move on.
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im a freshman (girl) and i have a crush on a junior guy. he texts me a lot and ims me almost everyday online, but he makes it clear that we're just friends he always says stupid things like "haha your great, im glad we're friends" or being sarcastic/funny , "wow im glad you cherish our friendship LOL" and sometimes he'll tell me what junior or senior girl he's into. Theres also a cute softmore whos like in loveee with me and he's sweet just nothing like the junior.
anyway my point is
should i just settle for the softmore? cause i havnt had a boyfriend since like last year and i just miss having one.
or do you think the junior really likes me and i should wait?
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What Mangy said. You shouldn't settle. I mean, how would you feel if you were a second choice?
Try to figure out how the junior feels. It seems like there's a chance that he likes you. When a guy tells a girl about other girls he likes, half the time it's just to make her jealous.
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Omgosh. I am completely 200% in love with my ex. I dated him for 5 years on and off...more on than off. We're off now and he is flirting and he likes my best friend. He has done this two me once before. It hurts me so bad. I cry all the time and now it's getting worse. My best friend asked me about it and I said I did not care if she dated him because I would hate it if someone told me I couldn't date someone because of their past relationships. It would break my heart. I don't know what to do. This is such a low point for me. (link)
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I would be honest with your friend. Go back and tell her it would bother you, but that doesn't mean she can't date him. Explain to her how you don't want her romantic life to be determined by your past relationship.
As for the on again, off again boyfriend, I would try to get past it. You might be together in the future, you might not. Right now you aren't, so I think you should try to occupy your mind with something else. Put yourself into your school work or work, a hobby, anything else. It won't make it go away, but hopefully it will make it slightly less painful.
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I'm so confused. Please don't tell me I'm a player or anything like that because it's not like that.
There's these three guys, JF, MN and MK. Well, JF and I were kind-of involved before he left for a three week training period for the marines. We talked about a week ago and I really really like him but since he's been gone I don't feel like he and I are really interested in each other. I'm into him but I don't feel like he's into me. So I've been talking to these other two guys, MK and MN. MN asked me to be his valentine, totally cute, so I said yes really not thinking much of it, just thinking that he was being cute. But then he told me that he made me a build-a-bear and it was the sweetest thing I have ever heard, no one's ever been so sweet unless we were dating. But MK asked me to be his valentine too. I know this is just a stupid holiday but what happens, what should I do after today is over? (link)
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Pretend it never happened. It's just a day, a date, it shouldn't mean your obligated to do anything or that you're devoted to anyone. It seems like you might want to date MN? I would talk to JF first before you make any final decisions. Talking it out will avoid a lot of needless drama.
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My husband is a wonderful father and partner. Our child is coming up fast to 2 years old and we have another one on the way. I have just turned 20 years old.
The problem is, is that from the instant our son was born, he just got it and well...I didn't, and I still don't.
Is just knowing that I will inevitably get things wrong, but as long as I make sure the children know that whatever I do is done with the best of intentions and that I would do anything for them enough? I'm just scared of seeming second-rate.
Any help is more than appreciated.
Thank you for your time. (link)
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Who are you worried about seeming second rate to? If it's your children, if you show them love, they'll love you despite any mistakes you make. And you're both taking care of them, so I think they're pretty well off. That's all that matters.
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hey there, the other day me and my gf were fooling around, and we've gone too far. both were naked and i was rubbing my penis over her vagina.. but only 1 or 2 times, a very very slight interaction happend. maybe 1 inch in not more and maybe for 5 sec only.. am scared if there was precum there and if that could get her pregnant. am not sure if i ejaculated before we did this. is there a possibilty that she get pregnant ? if i ejaculated before or not ? eventhough she is still virgin and this happend after 15 days from the end of her period. HeLp!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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It's possible, but so incredibly unlikely that I wouldn't have a heart attack while waiting to find out for sure.
Keep in mind that it's possible to get her pregnant while wearing a condom as well. There aren't really any guarantees when it comes to sex.
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Ok, my question is does it feel better for girls to be on the top or botton when u r having sex? any comments will be appreciated!!! (link)
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My guess would be more girls like being on top. It's probably where they tend to have the most control, so they could probably get off faster.
Though if we're going by pleasure or stimulation of key parts, I would guess doggy style.
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i met a boy from another town in december. weve talked on the phone and on facebook since, but now we havn't communicated for two whole weeks now. it would be so akward to call him, but hte thing is, i really miss him. i think about him all the time. i even have dreams with him in them somtimes. part of me wants to tell him i miss him and am always thinking about him, and the other half of me thinks that might freak him out. but he could be feeling the same way but not want to admit it. what should i do?? (link)
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It's entirely possible to scare him. Some people scare easily. I would be casual about it. Give him a call or send him a message on facebook. Tell him that you missed talking to him, but don't turn it into a confession. I would just casually bring it up.
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Hey storage and disposal, i read what you told the other girl about foreplay i really want my boyfriend to get in the foreplay bussiness and i want him to do certian stuff with me. what is is there besides to get fingered? what can i do to make him happy but with having sex ?
im really curios and needs your help.
please i really want him to get excited and i want him to be arosued. is there any thing that you can share with me to make it all great. (link)
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What I say might seem a little graphic to you, so just bare with me...
I think there are two secrets to making it great: Experimenting and communication.
Experimenting
Since you don't want to have sex, you still have your mouth and your fingers to work with. Experiment with licking, sucking, biting, rubbing, etc. Also keep in mind different degrees of each. For instance, someone might not like being licked on a certain spot, but they might enjoy it if you suck on it. Try different things because everyone is different. Some people really like it when you suck on their neck, some people like it when you lick their ear. Just try areas like the neck, chest, thighs, whatever you think might work. Of course, if you're comfortable with it, it helps if all of this leads somewhere. Oral sex, a hand job or getting fingered.
Communication
If you don't tell him what you like and don't like, he'll never know. The same goes for him telling you what he likes. Body language is also very helpful. Don't fight any urges to react to something he does.
So when you two are alone, just try different things. If either one of you enjoys it, make sure the other person knows in some way.
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My sister "Mary" has been married to her high school boyfriend "Kevin", who is 2 years younger, for almost 2 years, both are in their early 20's. Even before they were married Mary has supported Kevin because he believes that all the jobs that are available for him are beneath him. He is passive aggressive and manipulative to Mary and makes her constantly worry about how she won't upset him, she even goes as far as sitting in her car in front of their house and blows her nose as much as possible (she is very allergic, especially to cats and dogs which he insists they have) because he finds it disgusting when she blows her nose. He loses his garage door opener and car keys so he doesn't have to look for work or visit their daughter in the hospital. About 6 months ago she gave birth to a beautiful baby girl "Grace" who was 3 months premature. Grace is still in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit and is progressing wonderfully but requires care that can make some squimish and she will need this care even after she is allowed to go home. Kevin has recently told Mary that the care his daugher needs is gross and he will not learn the care that she needs. Mary responded by telling him that he could leave because her and Grace did not need him. Since this Kevin has only gone to see Grace one other time because Mary forced him, and Mary has noticable stepped up in Graces care (even though she was very good about taking care of Grace before). Despite the obvious problems Mary doesnt really confide this information to our family (Our mother, sister, and I) because before the wedding we expressed our concerns about Kevin, even though especially since Grace was born we have concentrated on Grace and kept our comments about Kevin to ourselves. I know that there isnt much that we can do about the situation but any advice you could extend would help immensly. (link)
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There's not much at all you can do. It's your sister's life. In the end, it's going to be her choices and decisions. Sometimes it's hard to walk away from someone they've been with for so long.
But yeah... Not taking care of his daughter because he thinks it's gross is beyond wrong. I suppose the only thing you can do is talk to your sister about this problem. Ask her about her plans and try to help her see the dead end her husband has become. Anything to let her know that other people can see what type of life style this will lead to. I would try to stay away from accusations towards Kevin or any negativity at all.
I would mostly ask and listen. It might not change anything, but at least it'll help Mary see things a little differently. Having to raise a child and a husband who refuses to become anything else can really wear down someone.
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