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A question for the guys (or anyone really)
I'm 18/f and I've heard and read and watched so many things on how guys appreciate "the chase" or "the girl that doesn't put herself out there" or even "the girl that doesn't put her body on display". But, I'm always seeing the girls that throw themselves over any guy/the one with the short shorts and tight shirts always get's the guy. Always. My question is, are all guys looking for in a relationship is big boobs and an easy date? I know I'm only 18 but it's just becoming predictable and disapointing, and really crushing my own self esteem.
Thanks,
Gen
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The thing about teenage guys is that they do tend to do what you're describing. However, to say that all of us are like that is a horrible generalization. I think it's pretty safe to say that I'm not like that. I tend to go after the intellectual and social girls- not the ones who are freaking skanks =O.
I know there are others like me, the thing is finding them- at least in the teenage years. As guys mature, they will realize that it's stupid to just chase after a "hot" girl.
The guys that are worth dating aren't the ones who obsess over the hot girls. Sure, some can be genuine, but most really aren't. I can pretty much guarantee you'll find someone in college, if not high school.
Don't let the immaturity of high school guys turn you off to dating or turn your self-esteem upside down. It's not really worth it, especially since you will find someone. I'm a strong believer that everyone has someone in this world for them- and part of our lives are to be spent finding them ;].
--Jack
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Girls that put themselves on display get noticed. Girls who flirt more and try to get attention tend to get it. The majority of the guys probably notice that and pursue something they can definitely get.
Honestly, I don't think you want the majority of the guys out there. They're sex-crazed, selfish masses of testosterone in human form. You want to find the guy that connects with you on a deeper level than what's on the surface. That's not found hitting on strangers at parties or wearing short shorts.
There's no way to really find that type of connection outside of being social and trying to get to know people, but one trend that seems to be popular is finding it when you least expect it.
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hey Gen
I hope I can help.
Anyways from my understanding boys are really weird and i know what you mean, you hear all the time how guys don't want "whores" and enjoy the chase but it seems like all they ever go after is the girls with the bigs boobs who flaunt themselves and seem easy. Thats because they are easy guys can easily get things from them and in the moment when they are wanting something from a girl. Which girl do you think they will pursue that night the girl they will have to spend actual time talking to and getting to know or the one that will give him what he wants no strings attached. The thing is guys don't what that all the time in the end they do really want a girl that will be their friend and that they can proudly bring home to their parents. I know that its hard and frustrating to watch guys be seduced by undeserving girls but just remember there is going to be someone that will want to take the time to get to know you. You will come ahead of all those other girls in the end because you have a lot more to offer then just big boobs and short shorts.
Hope I helped
Holly
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First you seem like a really great person, and I don't even know you!
now for the answer to your question. Guys that want an easy date are most likely looking for just that; an easy date. Guys that are actually serious and are looking for a relationship want a girl who has more to her than big boobs. Thats coming from my own experience.
as for 18 year old guys, the majority of them are not looking for a serious relationship, so they look for the easy girls who as you put it "put their body on display". Because in their mind those girls aren't looking for a serious relationship, and will most likely give them what they want faster than a girl who is dressed in a more modest manner and has more self-respect for herself.
so dont think of changing who you are just to have a relationship with a guy who most likely isn't looking for one. the right guy will come along when the time is right, and he will appreciate you for who and what you are and stand for; not for what you look like.
hope that helps! :)
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