I used to have a column here i deleted it but I missed giving advice. My friends come to me all the time for advice, I'm fairly good at dishing it out but not so great when it comes to myself. despite only being 20 i have been through quite a lot especially recently. The best way to give advice is to attempt to relate to it. No question is any more or less important than another. So ask me anything and I'll give it my best shot.
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if you are good at writing/english can you please help me with my essay?
i am pretty much done with it but, i need someone to proof read it or maybe add their 2 cents to it before i hand it in. being that it is my final exam!!!
it is on the tragic novel, of mice and men and i am answering the questions "what is a hero"
if you are interested please IM me at sasa9821 (it is an AIM screen name) or leave me your email or screen name and i'll contact you.
you have no idea how much this mere act of kindness will be appriciated (link)
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Hi i would love to help we just did that book recently in class. My email is hollywr18@hotmail.com
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Please give me a lot of suggestions for wedding songs! thank you!! (link)
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Okay well i made a list of love songs a while back so here it is:
close to you-the carpenters
making memories of us-keith urban
have i told you lately-van morisson
everything-michael buble
posession-sarah mclaughlin
wonerwall-oasis
wish you were here-pink floyd
yellow-coldplay
your song-elton john
dream a little dream of me-the mamas and the papas
what a difference a day makes-various artists
chasing cars-snow patrol
call me when you get this-corinne bailey rae
sweet child o' mine-guns and roses
dont want to miss a thing-aerosmith
but i do love you-leanne rhymes
run-rex goudie
walking after midnight patsy kelin
hands down-dashboard confessional
before you-chantal kreviazuk
leaving on a jet plane-various artists
a thousand miles-vanessa carlton
ice cream-sarah mclaughlan
the way- clay aiken
* making memories of us by keith urban is a great wedding song, my cousin used it at her wedding*
hope i helped
Holly
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what is a good website to get the stories behind lyrics for certain songs?
i listen to a lot of breaking benjamin and i dont know what half the lyrics mean,...so yeah. :)
any help is appreciated! (link)
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It's actually song meanings.net
and it works really well.
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I'm 18/f and I've heard and read and watched so many things on how guys appreciate "the chase" or "the girl that doesn't put herself out there" or even "the girl that doesn't put her body on display". But, I'm always seeing the girls that throw themselves over any guy/the one with the short shorts and tight shirts always get's the guy. Always. My question is, are all guys looking for in a relationship is big boobs and an easy date? I know I'm only 18 but it's just becoming predictable and disapointing, and really crushing my own self esteem.
Thanks,
Gen
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hey Gen
I hope I can help.
Anyways from my understanding boys are really weird and i know what you mean, you hear all the time how guys don't want "whores" and enjoy the chase but it seems like all they ever go after is the girls with the bigs boobs who flaunt themselves and seem easy. Thats because they are easy guys can easily get things from them and in the moment when they are wanting something from a girl. Which girl do you think they will pursue that night the girl they will have to spend actual time talking to and getting to know or the one that will give him what he wants no strings attached. The thing is guys don't what that all the time in the end they do really want a girl that will be their friend and that they can proudly bring home to their parents. I know that its hard and frustrating to watch guys be seduced by undeserving girls but just remember there is going to be someone that will want to take the time to get to know you. You will come ahead of all those other girls in the end because you have a lot more to offer then just big boobs and short shorts.
Hope I helped
Holly
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we met at a campground. we talkd for 2 days and we had sex. 2 weeks later i called her to ask if she had aids or is pregnet cause we didnt use a condom. we talkd everynight and i went to see her 2 times. (i live in pa she lives in nj) me mom pickd her up 1 time to see me and to see me play football. after the game i didnt introduce her to my friends cause she looked like a slut and i thought that she was a slut. the first 2 days she told me how her all her boyfriends were stupid and that she cheated on them. so when she went home i didnt talk to her for 1 to 2 months and got with 2 other girls. then i missed talking to her and getting her advice cause i didnt have nobody to talk to. i wasnt realy social. then 3 months came and i asked her what we were and i askd her out. about the first 2 months i didnt think it would work out cause of the distance. and i wanted my options open so i was talking to my ex and a new girl. i started falling in love with my girlfriend. but i still wanted them for a backup plan. she came to my house and went on my computer cause i was a football practice and she was board and for aim conversaions. and she was upset. when i came home i cryd cause i wanted to be with her. she stayd. then we stopd having sex cause it hurt her and when i was about to come home from her house i was pissed that i didnt get anything and she asked what i was gona do and i said jack off. she got pissed cause its like cheating. it realy is. i guess. then she went to a concert with her friend and 2 guys. i didnt like that at all and i made her feel like shit about it. then at 4th of july she went to fire works and that was in her old town with her last boyfriend that she loved and she didnt call me and i called her alot. i got to atached to her cuase she was the only one that cared about me.
the reason she stoped seeing her "guy friends" is because i never had girl friends cause the only time that i would want to hang with a girl is if i wanted to get something out of it and she was willing to give up her friends for me. now that we have bin getting into fights everynight for about 6 months she isnt happy. and she wants to go out with her friends again. i was fine untill she told me that she wanted to go out with guys. it crushed me cause i thought about the past and how she cheated on her other boyfriends. about a month ago she had a school project to do with her friend mike. i was kool with it cause we chilled the weekend before they did there project. i was kool about it untill i asked if he went into her room. and she said yes her lap top is in ther room with the camera. and i fliped out. she said do you realy think that i would have sex with him if i was atracted to him with my parentes and sis home. and i said we do. and it blew up.
i need help cuase this weekend. she is going out with 4 to 5 guys to philly just to look around. 4 guys and HER. i have a big prob with that but she says that there is no gender between girls and guys to her. and that she loves me. but somehow i dont belive her. i want to but i dont. i dont want to get hurt and loose my best friend. she has bin everything to me expsaily more now since i tore my ACL in september and i couldnt go on with my football career. and football was my life. and i made her be my life cause that was the thing i did other than football was see or talk to her. im suprised that she didnt leave me yet. and im GLAD as all hell that she didnt. i dont no what i would do if something would happen to us i guess thats why im so obessive over her.
well hope you thougt it was intristing. thank you for lissening and wanting to help me. (link)
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yeah it was interessting. My boyfriend only has friends that are girls and he is always telling me about them liking him or wanting to have sex with him... which at 1st really pissed me off! A year now ive been with him and one thing ive learned is that its okay to be scared and wonder about what hes doing but when u start to live your life constantly worrying, thats not alright. Youre Girlfriend is great im sure and its normal to get jealous because shes YOUR girlfriend and obviously you think shes great. If she did cheat on you then she wouldnt be the one for you. In saying that the more you trust her the less reason you give her to cheat on you.
Hope im helping
Holly
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ok so my bf cheated on me but he didnt like the girl he only wanted to hook up with her cause he thinks shes hott.
i need songs saying like i hope she was worth it.
please give me some. thanks (link)
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not exactly what your looking for but something like it.
Do you like it- Our Lady Peace
Holly
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thank you so much. she has bin telling me this stuff for some time now and she finaly told me that i have till the end of the summer to get fixed or she is leaving me. i dont want that nobody would want that. im just worried that if she goes out with the guys that shes gona find someone better than me. well if you want i could tell you everthing with us. i just wanted to ask before i told you. i dont want to come to strong. if thats funny or not.
geoff (link)
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NO no tell me id love to help you, ive been in your situation before with my boyfriend. so yeah tell me
Holly
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Im 19 and ive bin going out with my girlfriend who is 17 for 1 year and 4 months. I live in PA and she lives in NJ. I am obsessive with her. I want her all to me. She use to have alot of guy friends like that was all her friends. she told me that she isnt happy and she wants to hang out with her guy friends and im not good with that. i call her alot more than i should. she said that i have till the end of the summer to change or she is leaving me. She has bin the best friend i never had. I love her to death. im just afriend that shes gona meet a guy better than me cause theres alot better guys that she could have.
I need steps on how not to be obsessive. i want to be with her longer then 4 months. (link)
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okay so you love her, a lot but sometimes when you love someone you don't tend to see the full picture. You are both human beings with different needs. You need her all the time. and she needs to know that you fully trust her. Listen you think shes the one for you obviously, and so do you think THE one would cheat on you? No. having a solid friend base of boys and girls is healthy for everyone. When she wants to buy you a present for your birthday don't you think a guys perspective would be better one than one of her girlfriend's? Girls love confident guys if you are secure and confident with yourself you will be secure and confident in your relationship. look limit your phone calls to once a day. have it be something to look forward to at the end of the day, and then on a rare occasion call her to say good morning. By not trusting her you are putting the idea of cheating in her head the one that otherwise probably wouldn't be there. Just trust her I'm sure shes a great girl and you're a great guy, there is nothing stopping you from having a nice healthy relationship. Relationships are no fun if you're constantly worrying. She is supposed to compliment your life shes not supposed to take up every thought. Tell her that you trust her and that you have full faith in her that she wont cheat. Tell her you are sorry and that you are going to work on your issue, and tell her to be prepared for a new you.
Hope i helped :)
if you need anymore help, don't be afraid to ask!
Holly
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13/f
ok if i go to a public pool and im just swimming, minding my own busines and this dude cums or [watever comes out to get a girl pregnant] and it floats in the water and it gets into mee can i get prego?
even if it was innocent and stuff?
[and wud not be on my period] (link)
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like the other person answered there is really no way for that to happen plus due to all the chlorine in the water it would kill the sperm as well.
hope i helped
Holly
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it seems to me like there is this universal standard look of beauty..... long flowy hair (even beyoncay, hale bare, maraiah carey spend hours turning it into something Caucasians and Latinas have) what ever happened to curly hair? even curls the curls the have are fake!
not that i am saying all those women are ugly or anything but if thats the standard then heck i'm way out of the picture....... and its making me feel terrible. i am not fat or anything, my face is clear no acne... its just that my nose isn't a ski slope, my hair is super curly and my eyes are pit black (i know that is anatomically not possible but it is the last shade of brown before black!) i'm not tall (only 5'4) and i only fit into a size 8 (sometimes!).........
this sounds cheesy but seriously with that high of a standard what are my odds to look beautiful in the eyes of someone?! if there are any odds at all...
this is really depressing ... (link)
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I agree todays image of beauty is somewhat distorted but what you have to remember is that uou probably don't want to attract people that are souly into looks. being yourself is the greatest beauty you posess. Im sure youre beautiful! Plus why would you want to look like everyone else? for others to apreciate you you have to start with apreciating yourself and loving yourself for not only the parts you like but also every imperfection as well. beauty has a vast meaning, a little bit different for every person. What do YOU think is beautiful? Find something about your looks that you really like ( your unusually dark eyes for example) and be proud of them!
Hope i helped
Holly
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im male
16 years old
ok well me and my girlfriend have been together for like a few weeks now and we started out going really fast like making out in my bed and stuff and like all of a sudden she wont let me kiss her goodbye or ne thing ans she sais she wants to slow down is this like a sign she wants to break up with me or sumthin yea i know im a guy and this is prob a stupid question but yea (link)
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okay im pretty sure of this one. all of a sudden you were going really fast, and she likes you and she doesnt want you to think shes easy by moving things along quickly... also she probally doesnt want you to think that she wants to have sex with you or other stuff...right away that will probally come eventually.she was probally moving along quickly at 1st because it was pure lust...but as she started to like you more and more she probally feels maybe a little more self concious about what you think. she also probally wants you to like her for her not for like purely physical stuff(not saying thats the case). anyways im sure its nothing to worry about.. also im pretty sure its a good thing
good luck with that:)
hollie
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is anyone interested in becoming my epal? (pen pal but through email)
like one who i can write back and forth with through email.
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or if thats not possible is there any website that hosts epals for free? (link)
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ive always wanted one of those send me a message in my inbox and ill send u my email adress
hollie
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ive been trying to lose about 10 pounds for the past couple months. i eat regularly and everything. sometimes when i have a craving for something fattening i eat it then make myself throw up. (then i win both ways. i get it, and i dont lose weight) i dont make myself throw up all my food, just the fattening food right after i eat it. is this dangerous or bad for my health? (link)
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well bulemia is really not a good thing im warning you. it can ruin your teeth and can cause heart attacks... and it isnt even a good way to loose weight. you see before you throw up the food you digest it. so all the fats have already gone into your system. honestly the best way to loose weight is just being active and eating properly. for example when your lazy and your watching tv ..everytime you see a person with a better body than you do three crunches and everytime you see someone who is in worse shape eat a cookie or something
please dont be bullemic it is really bad for you
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I just found out that my hubsand is cheating on me and he told me that it is over between him and the other woman I don't know if i should beleive him or just file for a divorce
i've been with my hubsand for 29 years and he just cheated on me with another woman 3 years ago and moved with her and i took him back after 8 months and now all over again
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Well i would love to tell you to give him a second chance.. or third in this case but unfortunately once a cheater always a cheater. In his mind he knows that he got away with it the first time so when he was about to cheat on you the second time he wasnt as worried. I am really really sorry for what happend, but im sure that you can do better. No girl deserves to be with a cheater its like letting him win the game even though he played an unfair turn. Women that stay with men that treat them badly dont think they deserve any better but that really isnt true, you will find someone that will treat you with respect and never dream of two-timing you. take my advice and file for a divorce don't let him get the best of you.
xoox
Hollie
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i know i know everyone says be your self blah blah to get girls and all that .. but i honestly havnt found myself i just bounce back and forth .. and thats not a good thing so yeah i need some tips , on what i can do.. whta can i wear how can i dress what can i say what kinda personality .. you know little details and stuff like i dno :( i need helpp
15/m PLEASE (link)
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well if you are trying to be yourself, then why ask us how we think u should act and dress? sometimes being yourself is harder than it appears because peer pressure and the media bombard you with who they expect you to be. Im telling you right now that in the end you will be respected for not always blending in with the crowd and speaking up when you have an opinion. Everyones personality varies depending on who they're with, but when you alone siiting in your room who are you?....not who do you want to be. Honestly what makes you happy, sad etc.... just from now on instead of thinking before you do things just do it and dont let other peoples opinion stop you. and in relation to getting girls...girls can tell when ur notbeing yourself....i dont know we just get this feeling and its not good
if a girl doest like you when your being yourself then she really isnt worth it.Trust Me!
xoox
holly
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