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Moving on. WARNING: LONG.
This is long, but you have to know the full story before you can tell me how to move on.
"Rachel"=Me
"Holly"=Ex best friend
"Billie"=Friend
"Dale"=Guy that tore us apart.
Fake names, obviously.
Okay, so I had this friend for a couple of years. Let's call her..."Holly" but be warned that isn't her real name.
Me and Holly were best friends from about early 2005 until about a month ago. We'd talk everyday, and we got on really well. We had a few 'petty' fights which lasted 5 minutes. It was a pretty good friendship, I'll admit it here but not to everyone else.
About December last year she made friends with a guy I DETEST. I didn't mind, it's her life but not mine. However being the effing drama queen she is, she made a huge deal about it. She was all "omfg get over it, if you don't like him doesn't mean I can't like him?!" (Yes, she devolped a crush on him) seconds before when I told her I was happy for her.
However this wasn't enough for her, he convinced her to hate me. I didn't care, I just learned how to live my life without her.
About a month after that she came crying back to me. I forgave her, I'm a pretty good friend. So everything was okay. About a week ago I noticed she was online on her Last.FM but not MSN. Then a few days ago my friend was asking me why we were fighting. I told her I had no idea what was going on, and so my friend asked her what was going on. Let's call my friend Billie.
So Billie was like "So...why aren't you friends with (Let's say my name is...Rachel) Rachel anymore?" And Holly replied with "I dunno. I'm just so over Rachel" (Yes, she said that about a friend who has done nothing but put up with her ridiculous whining for years)
So after a while me and Billie worked out it was to do with the guy that turned her against me. When she said she was talking to me again he refused to talk to her again. Billie decided this is NOT a way to treat a friend, and although she's friends with Holly and has been before she even met me, I'm a better friend than Holly plus I had done nothing wrong.
So Billie asked her the real reason why she stopped her ties with me. My suspicions were correct. She replied with (Let's call the guy Dale) "Dale stopped talking to me, he was the most inspirational person in my life. Talking to Rachel again was the biggest mistake I made in my life" (LET ME TELL YOU THAT DALE WENT AROUND SAYING CRAP ABOUT HOLLY, SAYING SHE'S PREGNANT AND HE'S THE FATHER. AND HE DOESN'T EVEN LIVE IN THE SAME STATE AND THEY'VE NEVER MET!! THAT'S WHY SHE CAME CRYING BACK TO ME, COS SHE WAS SO OVER HIM THE WAY SHE GOT OVER ME) and then Billie told her that it's not cool to ditch your best friend for a crazy guy you've never met and never will.
and what I'm about to say, I'm not exaggerating. I'm not trying to make this look better. This is truly the pathetic thing to say. Holly knew Billie was right, but she couldn't let her pride down. So she then changed her story to "It's Rachel's fault my mother hits me. She's never been into this house and she ripped my family apart" let me tell you that I never met her parents, and as she said, I never went to her house and she never went to mine. We preferred to just hang out at places. Billie then argued with her more, and Holly then even said more lies.
It ended up with Holly blocking Billie, when Billie said that Dale could be a paedophile.
ANYWAY, that happened yesterday. Today I got an email from Holly and she had sent it to Dale too. It was a link to her LiveJournal. It was an entry about me and Dale, telling us to get over ourselves. And she was basically implying her friendship is like a blessing, and if you lose it your life is ruined. PFFT.
She posted 3 entries in her LiveJournal to make us angry to post angry comments. It was then, I realised I want to move on. I don't want to fight with her, for a few days I've been plotting revenge. It was really good too, and I would have still been the "winner" I wouldn't have stooped to her level, and I would have won. But I realised reading those entries it's not about winning or losing, I want to move on.
So...after all of this, how can I move on? Please don't tell me to not miss her friendship, because to be honest she did me a favour. She left my life, but she keeps trying to rub it into my face she isn't my friend anymore.
But I still have a bit of anger left, anger that I basically got used. Anger someone said those things about me, and anger she got there first by packing up.
ALSO, another reason why she got really angry and blocked me, is because she doesn't have many friends, and the ones she does have are internet friends. She couldn't stand it I could be happy without her, and make other friends and hang with them every weekend.
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i don't think you should have revenge
just let her be stupid
she'll realize she needs you and then that's up to you if you take her back
i honestly think that if she was a good friend and worth it she wouldn't have dumped you for that internet friend "dale" friends do shit
but not shit as stupid as that. i think you should let her be her angry self, and just let her hate you.
xoxo
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Yeah, you're right. You probably shouldn't do anything to her. It'll just provoke her to do something to you and it would become a long chain of drama that'll only stop when someone becomes an adult and decides not to retaliate anymore. I think it's best that you take the high road now.
As for moving on, it should be simple. Just stop talking to her. Block her, delete her, whatever it takes. If she sends you an email, don't read it. Just cut her out of your life.
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