One of my cats has started peeing in my room. Anytime time else he uses the litter box. He only does it in my room. Does anyone have any idea as to why he started to do this or how I can get him to stop? I have 2 other cats and he is our newest one, but we have had him since March. He just started this. Thanks for your help!
First you need to get the smell out of your room, so that the cat doesn't think that it is his litterbox. If he smells it, then he'll keep peeing there. You might not smell it anymore, but the cat will. There are things you can buy in any pet stores for getting rid of the cat urine smell.
Secondly, clean his litterbox more often. This is the number one cause of cats going elsewhere, especially in multiple cat households. Every cat SHOULD have his own litterbox, but a lot of people can't do that, so at least try to keep the litterbox(s) that you do have as clean as possible. If it's dirty, he won't use it.
Get him checked out for a urinary tract infection. This is painful for the cat, so he will only pee a little bit at a time. This makes it so that his bladder stays full and he has to pee more often. That means that he might have to go suddenly, like when he's sleeping on your bed.
Then, get him fixed. Like others have said, cats are very territorial, and when they get to the secually active age (which happens quite quickly) they will begin to spray everywhere to attract females and mark their territory. Even after you get him fixed, it's possible that he's already gotten into the habit and the spraying might not stop right away. You might have to teach him to use his litterbox all over again.
When you get him fixed and check for a urinary tract infection, the vet can also give you some tips on what to do.
Or, at least call to get some advice from the vet.
Until you are able to do all of this, you should keep your door closed and the cat out of your room unless your able to watch him carefully.
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We are adopting a new cat(male) and brining him home tonight. Please, anyone with experiance - What is the best way to introduce him to our other cat(female)?
I would start with the advice of putting them in separate rooms at first to smell each other, before you let them see each other.
Cat's are strange. They often don't like other strange cats coming into their house. Especially females. It may take months to get the female to accept the new male cat.
After your able to at least get them in the same room, even if the female, or male is stressed and hissing. You should give them equal amounts of attention. That way, one cat doesn't get jealous of the other one and continue to hate them.
Give them treats while they're in the same room, try to feed them in the same room, etc, just don't FORCE them.
If either of the cats is going to be an outdoor cat, it's also advisable to keep them both indoors for a while. They might run away if the extra cat in the house makes them nervous enough.
Hopefully you have a sweet, sociable, cat loving female cat. But, it is rare so good luck.
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My friend Chelsea is on Birth Control and she always has something wrong with her. such as bad headaches,cramps, and a few times shes had to switch medicine because of the side effects and go to the hospital. and she said something the other day like. I wish i never started these things. I have been thinking about getting on BC so that way i would know when my period is coming and such (im 15) but i was just wondering is birth control that bad with everyone? Because if so im scared to get on it.
This would be a good question for your doctor. Birth control doesn't affect everyone the same. My mother was never able to take it when she was younger, but I have been fine taking it. It's one of those things that you need to try in order to know.
But, really, before getting it (if you do decide to get it) your going to have to talk to your doctor anyway, so you should start now and ask her/him every question your can think of about anything that worries you about birth control.
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My puppies (two small breed, one male one female) are so newspaper-trained that they won't go outside! Every time we come in from a walk they go straight to the newspaper and do their business. What should I do?
this may seem very repititious, but, put the newspaper outside as everyone else has said, praise them greatly with words (good boy/girl) and treats everytime they go outside. Don't scold them when they go inside, but don't praise them either.
Now, for something new. I have heard of people training their dogs to go pee whenever they say "Go pee" or other such phrases. Basically just say "go pee" (or whatever you choose to say) whenever you bring the dog outside with the newspaper down. As soon as they go to the bathroom, praise them greatly. Soon, they will start to associate you saying "go pee" with them using the bathroom. If you can get your dogs to do this, then you should be able to get them to go outside where ever they are.
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I am thinking about getting my nose pierced but I'm not really sure whether it will be worth it. How much does it hurt? Will it scar? And how long does it take to heal?
Thank you.
I have actually never gotten my nose peirced, but I did have two other facial peircings that I could compare it with. When I was in high school, I got my eyebrow pierced, and I loved how it looked, and I always got compliments (except from my grandmother who hated it)
But, I took it out after 6 month to a year because it never fully healed. My eyebrow piercing is a perfect example of why you should always research every possible professional piercer so that you can get the best one to do the job. When the peircer peirced my eyebrow by sticking a needle dangerously close to my eye, he got it in a little crooked, and took off a chunk of skin around the peircing with the needle somehow.
Because of the bad quality of the piercing job, my eyebrow piercing never quite healed. I would clean it five or more times a day, and knew all the precautions for how to take care of my piercings, since this was my third (not counting ears) but the piercer screwed up on it and even with me taking the best care, it would get infected almost monthly.
I took it out at least 3 or 4 years ago, and there is still a noticable scar. BUT, that's only because of how badly it was pierced and how long I desperately tried to hold on to it before realizing that it would never heal. I can usually hide it pretty well with the right shade of foundation if I am really worried about it.
Then, there was my lip piercing. I took it out about 6 months ago, after having it pierced for about two years. The scar quickly diminished and now, the only way anyone can see it is if I turn my lip in and push out the area where there was once a hole.
So, as long as you know the quality of the piercer, then you should be fine as far as it not leaving a very noticable scar if you ever decide to take it out.
My mother has her nose pierced. She has been a CNA and has had no problem finding a job while having her piercing in.
As far as pain, there is a scale. In general, the farther down your body you go, the most painful your piercing will be. The most painful one I have had, was my navel. The least painful was my tongue, followed by the eyebrow and lip. The nose should be right around there. Of course, that is a general thing, and doesn't always apply to everyone.
How long does it take to heal? I'm not entirely sure, since I haven't actually gotten it done, but, it might be a lot like the other facial piercings. All of mine, including the tongue took about a week before they didn't hurt at all, but that doesn't mean there healed. You should always continue to clean your piercings until they are fully fully healed, which should take about a month. Even after that, you should always have some cleaning solution handy in case anything happen (sometimes if you get a bad cold, your piercing may start to hurt) Just use your best judgment to know when it's healed...
Anyway, I ramble... :)
Let's re-cap...
-Know your piercer. If you get a good quality piercer to stick a needle in your nose, then the scar should be minimal.
-facial piercings are generally the least painful. I barely even felt my tongue. Of course, the after care is always more painful. Waiting for your skin to accept the metal inside your nose will hurt.
-the more you clean it, the less time it will take to heal. Hopefully by the end of the week, the pain will be gone, but you should still continue to clean it daily for a month... or so. (not completely sure about that one, you might find some better info online if you know how to look)
Once you find a good piercer they're also a good resource for deciding whether or not a nose piercing will be good for you.
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13/F
I'm not allowed to hang out with my Best friend 'Michelle' because we had a little fight and she left a baad message on my answering machine; not my cell my house and my mom heard it. This was like June of last year I mean all summer I snuck over her house and met her places and now we're partners for a Social Studies project and I can't tell my mom I'm going to her house. Without her I have no friends and she asked me to sleepover her house. I said no but if I keep avoiding that situation she might no be my friend anymore. What can I do I really want to chill with her and how can I explain that to my mom?
I will rate 5's.
you need to be honest with both your mother, and your friend. Your mother needs to know that you've been getting along with your friend (not necessarily that you've been sneaking out to see her, but just that you've been getting along with her) and your friend needs to know why you haven't been staying at her house. She should know that what she did was rude, and very disrespectful to your mother, by leaving a nasty message on her answering machine.
Other than that, your should talk to your friend and get her to apoligize to your mom. Since the two of you have already made up, it's time for you mother and her to make up.
So, honestly, I think it's just that you need to explain to your friend, not your mom. After she apoligizes, everything should be better.
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Hey! I'm in my first year of college, and I'm having trouble. It's honestly hard for me to pay attention in class. All teachers do is lecture, lecture, lecture, give a test, and repeat it all over again. I TRY to pay attention and take good notes, but it's never good enough. I've failed half of my tests so far. And since I have 4 more tests coming up within the next 3 weeks, I'm really nervous about those too. You HAVE to do good on tests, because really, that's all your grade is. A bunch of tests.
Does any one have any good study tips for college? It's also hard because they don't give study guides like they did in high school, so I never know what material to study. I really don't know if college is for me. The way I passed high school with As and Bs was..I'd do all the work given, do bad on the tests, and it'd average out to a B. I'm not used to studying. I try, but it doesn't work. Any advice? Thanks.
If you talk to your teachers then they may be able to help you. If you explain to them that your not a good test taker, you study all the time, but your just not good under pressure, then they may be able to help you with extra credit.
Plus, not all teachers are like that. I have many classes that don't have any tests, just classwork, homework, projects, and short, easy quizzes. If you talk to teachers BEFORE you sign up for the classes, then you can get a feel for the way that they teach. If they seem like an all test giver kind of teacher, then go to the next teacher in that subject, and ask them.
Chances are, each subject will have at least one non-test giver kind of teacher. .
Also, try to find some tutors. They can really help you out with every subject. It will take some time, but, hey, all college does. You just ahve to try hard. You'll get the hang of the tests eventually.
I was talking to someone about a tutor they had. They said that the tutor gave them study guides, notes, etc. And made their class soo much easier for them.
A lot of people need to go to a tutor for certain subjects, so it's not like your alone in that aspect.
Lastly, you should spread your classes out a little bit. For instance, take an english class (which rarely has tests, just writing and projects) along with a math or science, which will always have some tests. Take an easy class, along with a hard class. Don't expect to take all of your hardest science and math classes in the same semester and be able to do good.
You might even want to try take a "fun" class with your hardest classes. Something that your already great at, but just think would be intersting. That way, you'll have a pleasant break in between the challenges.
good luck.
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I am only 14 and I want to go get my bellybutton pierced but my mom and dad said no because they said my body is still growing. i think it is because they are scared that i might want another one but i just want this one. I have even told them i would pay for every thing.
Do you think i am wrong or right and what should i do to convince them?
It might be that your parents are scared that you might want another one, but, it might not. It is very likely that they don't want you to get it because your body really isn't done growing. And, in most states, you can't even enter a piercing salon until your 16, even if your parents go with you. And that is very likely because of the reason that your parents stated of your body still growing.
Your telling them that you'll pay doesn't really have anythign to do with their complaint, so that probably won't help your case. But, what you could do is research how the pericing will affect your body, and help them to realize that you want the peircing for yourself, not because others' are doing it. Also, help them realize that you have absolutely no interest in any other body piercings.
What you should do, is search the internet, and any other sources you can find for information on peircing health, how to take care of body piercings, and what to do if your piercing gets infected.
Then try to find out about every piercer in yoru area. Find the best one based on cleanliness, professionalism, and quality of work. I have seen quite a lot of crooked piercings. It's not pretty. That's why you need to find the best piercer that you possibly can.
Then, you should find out exactly how much it will cost, how often you'll be cleaning it, how long it will take to heal, and let your parents know that you know the risks, but are willing to do everything you can to keep your navel ring discreet and healthy.
Basically just reasearch body piercings enough to become an expert and you can dispute every complaint they have about piercings. They aren't unproffessional, or just something to do to rebel...
good luck.
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Hi there. One of my dog's has an ear infection and we bought her a medication for it called Baytril Otic.
I just found my other dog chewing on the bottle (he chews on EVERYTHING he finds) and I noticed that the bottle had a hole in it. I'm afraid he may have swallowed some of the medication. I read the lable and all it says is not for use on humans. It doesn't say anything like Warning: If swallowed please call poison control or something along those lines. The bottle said there was more information on the package, but my mother threw it out. I'm just wondering if he'll be okay or if I should take him to the vet just to be on the safe side. Again, the medication he swallowed was for an ear infection.
Oh.. And how do you think I could get him to stop chewing on every damned thing he finds? We buy him toys all the time, but he seems to be obsessed with climbing on the couch and grabbing pens, wrappers, paper clips, napkins.. Anything that's on the desk next to him, or anything he finds on the floor (Inside or outside)
Thanks SO much if you could help!
I know, I know, this is like a month too late, but I'll give my opinion on it anyway. sorry for the delay, I've been busy lately.
My only advice for you about the medication is to call the vet. If anything like this happens again, you don't necessarily have to rush your dog to the vet, but you should at least call. It's free, and most of the time they can tell you what you could do at home, or whether or not your dog should be brought in. I hope you worked this out on your own in the past month, but that's what you could do in the future :)
About the chewing, I;m not entirely sure if I can help. Here's what I might try.
Your going to need to watch him really really good, and keep things out of his reach like you would a baby. If you want to continue to allow him on the couch, then that will be harder. But, I would make him get off the couch every time he gets up. Tell him "down" and then make him get down. Hopefully he will soon realize that down, means, down, and you won't have to make him get down after saying it.
Also, try to teach him "drop it" Say "drop it" every time he has something he isn't supposed to have in his mouth, then force it out of his mouth. Hopefully he'll also learn "drop it" and he'll actualty do it when you say it instead of you having to force it out of his mouth.
Also teach him "no" This is a little harder. What I always did with my dogs was when they do something bad, shake my finger at them while saying "NO" sternly enough for them to know that your not happy with them.
It's a lot better to say "NO" when the dog is being bad instaed of doing what most people do, by yelling their name. "Spot, stop it" If you do that (not saying you do, it's just that most people do without realizing it) but, if you do say that, then the dog will have a hard time distinguishing between it's name and you scolding him. If you do, then it's sort of like changing a habit, every time you notice yourself doing it, stop yourself and correct yourself.
Anyway, basically, keep him off the couch, keep the bad things out of his reach, and teach him "NO" and "drop it" should help you out with his chewing problem.
Also, keep buying him toys, try to find one's that he likes better than the desk stuff, and make sure he knows that he needs to chew those. Every time you find him chewing something bad, take it away, say no, and then, bring him to his actual toys. That might help him realize what he can and cannot chew.
Good luck.
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i really wanna get my belly button piecred. but my parents don't want me to til i'm older. i really want it done and a lot of people at school my age have them done. what can i do to get them to let me get it pierced?
ps. 13/f
Most states prohibit a professional piercer to pierce anyone under the age of 16, even with a parents permission.
There is a pretty good reason for that law.
If you try to get it done by someone who isn't a professional, then it will end up being crooked, too shallow, or most likely get infected.
I don't know how your friends got theirs done, but there's a good chance there's something wrong with their piercing.
If you really want them to let you get a body piercing, all I can say is reasearch the topic, find out the pro's and cons. Most of all find out how to take care of it, what to do if something goes wrong, and how to find a good professional piercer.
If they see that your responsible enough to research the topic and find out the information yourself, then they might reconsider.
If you can't do those things, then you might want to consider starting out with something easier to handle, such as a fake ring.
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I'm getting my belly button pierced either today or tomorrow and I'm really kinda freaked out. Some people tell me it dosen't hurt at all and some people tell me it hurts like hell. Is it different for everybody? Has anyone gotten their belly button pierced and they piercer got it crooked or something? Thanks!
Yes, it's different for everyone.
There is a scale of pain levels for piercings. Piercings around your waist area or genitals are the highest. The further up you go, the less pain you will get.
For example, my eyebrow and tongue was a slight sting. My nipples were slightly more painfull, and my navel was the most painful. Even though my belly button was the most painful, it still was not that bad and didn't last very long.
Afterwards, clean it 3-5 or more times a day, yadda yadda, I could go on but your not asking about that.
Anyway, if you want to ensure that the piercer doesn't get it crooked (mine is, you need to be very careful about that) then you should do a little research on the piercer. Get some credentials, talk to some people who have been there previously, ask how much training they have, how much professional expereience, how long they've been at that certain shop, etc, etc,...
Also, make sure they give you plenty of information on how to keep the piercing clean. Especially if this is your first body piercing (harder to take care of than your ears). If they don't bother to give you plenty of info, then they must not care about the quality of their work very much.
A good piercer will ensure that their clients are completely prepared to keep the piercing.
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Okay well my boyfriend and I have recently been having sex through about 3 months and we have been going out for three years. Not once have I had an orgasm, I always have to fake it and I sort of get tired faking it because I want to experience what an orgasm feels like. And I don't want him to give me oral or finger me or whatever, I want to have an orgasm through intercourse. The sex feels good, but there are times when I cant even feel it in me. Does anyone know how I could achieve this?
First, you should stop faking it. Way over half of all women are not capable of having an orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone (as razhie said) So, he should have no reason to feel inadequate about you not having an orgasm. Now that you have started to fake it, it's going to be very hard to stop, but you should just be honest with him.
If you don't want him to manually stimulate you or orally stimulate you, then you are most likely not going to have an orgasm while with him. For women, most can ONLY have what is sometimes called an external orgasm. That is, an orgasm stimulated by the clitoris, instead of through vaginal intercourse which stimulates the g-spot.
Try certain toys. There are things he can wear, that will rub against yoru clitoris more. But, the sad fact is that your probalby one of the many women who cant' have an internal orgasm.
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Male/17
Hey, I’m usually the one giving advice. I don’t need advice. I just have a question and I want to know your opinion. This question is for deep thinkers. Long answers are encouraged as well as comical ones.
I’ve seen quite a lot of “love” questions, asked by adolescences. What would you call "true love"? Many people have been saying “I have a boyfriend and I REALY love him” and “she said that he loves me” or things like that. I’ve seen these questions being asked by 13 year olds! Teens DO have deep affections for people, but I really don’t think that they are capable of TRUE love. How can there be love if teen relationships only last 2 months or even 2 years! 2 years is quite long for a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, but shouldn’t love last a LIFETIME? I agree that teens think that they are in love (I’ve been there) but I wouldn’t call that love. I would call it more like, “deep affection”. After all, if love between teens is really “love” then they shouldn’t break up, right? I think that teens are too young and “unexposed” to have TRUE LOVE. Even adults. They mistakenly call their relationships “love”. If it was actually love, then shouldn’t there be less or no divorces?
First, I want to mention that I'm a 22 year old female, I thought I was in love when I was 17 for a few years, but after we broke up, I realized that I was just dreaming about the first month, and was denying the truth.
Anyway... I believe that it's possible for someone to be in love, yet the two people break up.
There seems to be so much divorce right now because people do not want to try.
People are lazy, if there is a problem, then they dont' try to fix it, they just throw it away and get a new one.
People need to realize that nothing comes easy, not even love. Two people may love each other, but that doesn't mean that everything will be perfect for their entire lives.
I also think that many people say they are in love, when they really aren't. Perhaps they are settling, or, as is the answer with most teens... they just don't know enough to realize that it isn't love. Most teens fall in love with one of their first relationships because it's the best thing they have AT THIS POINT. That doesn't always say a lot. I thought I was in love before because the guy seemed perfect, he had his quirks, but he SEEMED perfect for me.
I know now that he was far from it, but I had to get some more experiences in life in order to realize that.
Some people may find someone to love when they are teens, but they are usually too immature to know how to deal with it. Like I said, everything takes time, and effort to keep forever. You can't expect to be able to know how to deal with that kind of thing when your a teen.
Some people are lucky. I know people who have been together since teen years, now in their fifty's, and they still cuddle and flirt with each other.
But, that doesn't often happen.
It can go both ways, as you've said. Adults and teens can mistaken lust for love. I also think that adults and teens can both throw away love simply because they didn't want to try at it.
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My dog's throwing up blood, and I need to know, is there anything we can do??? & We can't go to the vet.
You can call the vet.
Give them all the information you can think of such as
age, diet, when it started, how often, how much, etc.
Tell them if the diet has changed, if s/he could have gotten into something, anything at all that you can think of.
If you call the vet, then they may be able to give you advise on what to do. Or they maybe be able to give you advice on how you could bring him/her in affordably.
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Who are your favorite short story authors? What are some of your favorite short stories? I have primarily read only novels, so I am interested in expanding my knowledge in regards to shorter fiction.
TheOldOne definetly gave you plenty of good examples, but he didn't give you the one author that I always recommend. If you like comedy writing, then read David Sedaris. He writes short stories based on his life, but they're hilariously exaggerated.
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Hi. I have a boyfriend who I love very much and trust with everything and anything. I've recently been trying to come to terms with a past relationship that I should never have started in the first place, because I had no real attraction to him. I want to discuss this with my current boyfriend, because I want him to know that I feel differently about him, but I'm not exactly sure how to bring it up. Any advice would be much appreciated!
First off, does your currect boyfriend know your ex, and did he know the two of you when you were dating? or did he at least know you?
The only reason I'm asking that, is because, if he didn't know your ex, and didn't know you at the time, then I don't know if it would be a good idea to talk about it. I don't think you should be "comparing" him to any other guys in any way, even though he would come out on top. It's hard for me to explain why I feel this way, I just don't think it's good to give him a reason to think about you and your ex in any way.
You should tell him that he is the best person in your life, and that you feel more for him than you've ever felt for anyone else, blah blah, but you shouldn't bring your ex into it with him.
I'm sort of in the same situation, where I'm with a great guy, and I have been trying to come to terms with an ex who made me feel like shit, and still does sometimes. I thought about talking to my current boyfriend about this, but I don't think he should have to deal with him even knowing that this guy is bothering me. It's my problem that I have to deal with on my own. I'm getting over it by saying goodbye and cutting all terms and throwing away old stuff that might have been from him.
I will always be bothered by my ex in a way, but it's not something that I want my current boyfriend to be bothered by.
On the other hand, if he did know you when you were dating your ex, and he saw how horrible the relationship was, then you might have some things to explain about it. Like "I don't know why the relationship started because I was never really attracted to him"
In that case, you just need to let him know that there's some things you need to get off your chest. It doesn't have to be that akward.
But, again... this kind of converstaion might be better with a best friend at first. It might be good for you to talk to someone else just to get yoru thoughts straight, and then appraoch your boyfriend about it.
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Okay..skool starts on monday and im freakin out..im about to go into highskool and i only know my 1 of my friends that are going to the same skool..and we have 3 classes together plus lunch..okay..my question is..how can i talk to more people?! i dont wanna be the little quiet shy girl..i mean..im really crazy if you get the chance to get to know me..(seriously..) but when i meet knew people my face gets red and i don't really know how to start up a conversation actually..its just that like..i dont like talkin to people i don't know. gahh its soo bad..anndd pleassee!! dont tell me to be more outgoing becuz i am..well mayb not the first day of skool..but..can yall give me sum advice?? tell me what i need to do to start talkin to people..and how to be like..the class clown and stuff in class! PLEASE I`LL RATE HIGH FOR GOOD ANSWERS!!
I was always the quiet shy girl in school.
I started to get out of it when I got some confidence, or at least more of it.
If you want to know how to be able to talk to people, get some confidence. How do you do that?
Seriously, just pretend that you have some. If you hold your head high, and look people in the eyes, and have it in your head that you look good, and that people are envious of you, then, even if you don't really believe that right now, you soon will believe that.
If you go through life thinking that your great, and aren't doing anything foolish, then you will feel more comfortable being yourself and letting your class clowish side out more.
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i love my boyfriend but when we're on the phone or on AIM and i have to go he wont let me go... and he gets all mad at me. i've gotten grounded because of him doing this. i've already tried saying things like "ive gotten in a lot of trouble already and ill try and call you tonight...." but then he says "okay for 20 minutes"... but as it is i cant even talk to him for ten because he got me grounded... i dont know what to say to him.... please hhelp i need all the help and suggestions i can get... but please dont say your too young to get that seriouse everyone has said that
14/f
your question has to be deleted because it will make every question below it be in bold text.
Next time you ask a question, either don't try to make it bold, or close the code so that it works properly.
sorry.
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My boyfriend has had his half chihuahuah, half shih-tzu mix for 7 years. They recently found out that his dog is A)Is blind in one eye B)Is going blind in the other and C)Is diabetic. Their dog is very sick, and the cost of medications is becoming overwhelming for them. They decided that they would try out the medications for a little while, but they eventually would put the dog to sleep. They don't want him to suffer. His birthday is coming up in September and I wanted to get him a puppy. Not something to replace his other dog, but he's just so used to having a dog, that maybe by getting him another would bring a new joy in his life. I am extremely low on budget for his birthday, so I'm not even sure I'll be able to get him a dog but I have it in mind for Christmas if I can't for his birthday. I was thinking of adopting a puppy or rescuing one from a local shelter. My only thing is, I know if I am to adopt one, the dog will be in MY name, so ultimately the dog is MY responsibility. But aside from that, exactly how much is it to adopt a dog or rescue one from a shelter? I was thinking of a small breed, a chihuahuah, shih-tzu, lasa apso or maybe a maltese. Something small though. Anyone know? Thanks in advance!
Actually, shelters usually charge more for puppies and smaller dogs, but that's besides the point that I want to make...
I DO NOT recommend getting him another dog. Have you ever mentioned this to him? Do you have any idea what it's like to lose a dog? ugg... there are a few things that I want to say about this question, I'll start with the dog...
Firstly, You say that the dog has a chance to take medicine and have a somewhat normal life? Is it just your boyfriends lack of money that gave him the idea to eventually put the dog to sleep?
If that is the case, then it is HIS responsability to find a new owner for the dog. One that will be able to afford the time and care that it will take to give this dog the life that it deserves. It's only seven years old. Dogs of that size will normally life for up to 18 years. With diabetes, if it's owner can give him the medicine that he needs, he can still life for well over ten years.
Your boyfriend should not put the poor dog to sleep without attempting to get him a proper home first.
I recently had to do this. I could not give my dog the time that he deserved. He was a seven year old rottweiler, and I tried for many months to find him the perfect home. One where he has plenty of room to run, and has an owner who can spend more time with him (I could not, because of school and work and other life things going on) It sucked, but I felt much better doing that, rather than simply taking the easy route and putting the poor animal down.
At least bring this option up to him. Tell him that his dog can live a happy life if he can find an owner who can give him the care that he needs.
Secondly... back to DO NOT GIVE HIM A NEW DOG. Again, do you have any idea what it's like to lose an animal. Especially an animal that your attatched to, as your boyfriend seems to be.
When I found my dog a new home, every dog I saw made me want to cry, because I only thought of MY dog. A new puppy will do this to your boyfriend. Recently My 15 year old dog passed away, and every animal I see reminds me of her. I know you think that getting a new dog will get his mind off of things and fill the space left by his old dog, but it won't work.
The new puppy will only depress him more. It will make him think of his old dog every time he sees it, and he may even end up hating the poor dog. Please, please, please don't do this.
If you want to give him a new dog, then take him with you, and have him pick it out.
But PLEASE PLEASE, talk to him about finding a new home for his dog instead of putting him down. To me, that is a selfish way to get rid of a dog. He may love the dog, but that's not the way to go about doing things.
I will soon be working at a Vet clinic as a Vet tech., and throughout my schooling we have learned how to deal with these kind of things. People come in, wanting to get their perfectly healthy dogs, who could live many more healthy years, euthanized for many reasons. Some reason include that they need to find a new home... for wahtever reason they decide that the dog would be better off dead, as opposed to living with someone else... but it is not true.
Bad idea... bad bad idea...
hope you think about what I've said, I'm not trying to make you angry, I just can't help it when I hear about an instance where animals can be hurt, I have to speak out.
In my opinion, two animals will be hurt here. The current dog will be hurt permanently if he euthanizes him, and the new dog will be hurt because a grieving person CAN'T properly care and give love to a new puppy. Your boyfriend will also be hurt. He will be hurt because he will know that his dog is dead instead of in a home where he can be better taken care of, and he will be hurt because the new puppy will only remind him of how much he misses his old dog.
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im 19 yrs old, college sophomore, i met my ex "james" when i was a senior in high school. strangley enough my friend "pat" put my pic up on hot or not and "james" saw it and clicked meet me. come to find out he went to my high school and graduated a few years ahead of me. his brother was also one of my high school friends.
he was in the army when i met him, (this was in december of my high school year) he had been over seas for 2 years. we talked online and on the phone to eachother every chance we got and he came down on leave for his brothes grad party which i was invited to because his brother and i were friends.
we started hanging out and eventually dating. i broke up with him before i left for college because i didnt want to worry about having a bf and his school and mine were 2 hours apart. he told me he loved me but i broke up with him reguardless
he now has a gf "kerry". he started dating her 2 months after we broke up. apparently he used to date her before he left for iraq. they have been dating ever since.
well the reason i am writing is because after him and i broke it off we still continuted to talk and even hang out on occasion. he has been cheating on "kerry" with me for the past month and 1/2.
"james" tells me that he is probably going back overseas to fight in october. he told me that i should get over him because he isnt sure when or if he is going to come back. and i deserve a guy who is going to be there for me(he is sched for 2 years over there. i dont know what i should do. i dont know if he is still with "kerry" because he loves her or if its not the right time to break up with her or if he is going to break it off when he goes, if he loves me still i just dont know what to think. i need someone to look at the situation from another stand point and give me some advice, i am at a total loss.
I am a fairly firm believe of "Once a cheater, always a cheater"
I dated a guy that cheated, and took him back, and firmly trusted him. Later, once we broke up, I found out that he had been cheating on me with multiple people throughout our entire relationship.
I also have a lot of guy friends. I have watched them cheat on their girlfriends for years. Their girlfriends continue to trust them even after finding out about one or two of the incidences. It just isn't right. If a guy, or girl, cheats, then he or she will most likely never be able to stop.
I would say that James is with Kerry because he thinks that he loves her, or he is afraid to break it off completely. (I say he "thinks" he loves her, because I don't believe that someone can love a person and then cheat on them)
Either way, you should not get yourself mixed up with him.
If James tells you that he loves you, I would not believe it. He may be sincere about it, but if he is, he is only lying to himself. I don't say this to be mean, but... honestly, if you really think about it, could you ever see yourself trusting him?
Ok, While I was going out with my past boyfriend, I always got a feeling that I had to keep my eyes on him to keep him from flirting or cheating. I never trusted him as much as I tried to tell myself I could trust him... That's what I call my "gut feeling" I can't really explain it, but I always new that I couldn't trust my ex.
If you think about it... Do you have this "gut feeling" about James? There must be something if you have to ask this question.
Ok, so, I've established that I think James does not love you, or her, and will most likely be doomed to always be a cheater if he doesn't get help, right?
Ok, so now, he has already told you that you should move on...
I would listen to him. It could be that him telling you that is his "nice" way of letting you down... (see, some people think that it's "nice" to lie, instead of the much more forward and much much less hurtful truth) By lying (if that's what it is) then he is not keeping you from any pain, he is only making it worse for you. He is only lying to make it easier on him.
"I only lied because I didn't want to hurt you" have you ever heard that one? yeah.. it's complete bullshit. Guys (or girls) lie in order to keep themselves out of trouble. I believe in honesty... it makes everything better in the long run...
Anyway, maybe I'm wrong and he really does want you to move on to help you out... Either way.. He doesn't think things will work out for the two of you while he is gone. If he is able to admit that, then you should listen to him.
Whether or not he has also told Kerry to forget about him while he goes is besides the point. If he hasn't told her that, then he is still lying to you, and you will never be able to trust him... If he has told her, then your still not able to REALLY trust that he has (because your still asking advice about it) and you will probable never be able to trust him.
I know what it's like to ahve a guy lie to you. You won't gain that trust back. You will always have the thought in the back of your head of "is he really telling the truth?" As much as you try to tell yourself you can trust him, you never truly will be able to.
Damn "gut feelings" always have to get in the way.
Anyway, it's a little rambled, but hope this helps you a bit.
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