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Orgasm
Okay well my boyfriend and I have recently been having sex through about 3 months and we have been going out for three years. Not once have I had an orgasm, I always have to fake it and I sort of get tired faking it because I want to experience what an orgasm feels like. And I don't want him to give me oral or finger me or whatever, I want to have an orgasm through intercourse. The sex feels good, but there are times when I cant even feel it in me. Does anyone know how I could achieve this?
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Uhm, as far as I know, no position is any better than the next, but you could shake it up a bit, try doggie style, or check out www.clitical.com
but most women can't orgasam from intercourse alone, is there any foreplay involved? I highly suggest you read through clitical for some ideas.
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696969696 jkjk ummm maybe his penis is thin i dont mean to be grosss
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hey! you should stop faking it, cause thats teaching him how not to please you during sex. like many have said, orgasms can be hard to get for woman through intercourse. but try experiencing different positions, maybe making it more spontaneous, i mean, you have to be in the mood. you cant force yourself to have an orgasm, just dont think too hard about having one, and just enjoy. maybe you guys shuld try different ways to get to the actual sex part. by that i mean if you usually do it after a date or something, then try to do it at other times, in different places. it might help, but it might not. something else you could do is guide him sort of speak to your g-spot. so stop faking it, try new things, and tell him what you want him to do to you. also experience with your body so that you know what you like and what you dont like, so that when you have sex with him again, you know what you want and the best way to do it for you to possibly have an orgasm. i hope this helped, if you have more questions leave a message in my inbox. peace and love
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hey hun, first you should stop faking it. and second you might just not be in the moode. also as like everyone else said not all women get orgasims that way. experiment diffrent ways, positions.
xO. jessica
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well sorry but try experimenting. like let him go down on you or give oral or w/e. but also try new positions
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You have to let him know that he's not pleasuring you to your extent. Show him how YOU want it. If you don't tell him, well have fun faking it for the rest of your time being.
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foreplay.. let him finger you or oral you first for a little while to get you ready.. just dont let him make you orgasm that way.. then when you think your ready.. then tell him to f**k you.. foreplay is the best way.. other than that.. try different positions.. get im to "feel you up" i guess like suck on your nipples, massage your breasts, or rub your clitoris while he is screwing you.. lol
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It probably means your way to loose (that might be why you can't feel it) or he's small. If you do it everyday I'd hold it off and do it maybe once a month. Trust me if he's big enough** Then you'll be able to feel it after a whole month ro a few weeks. If you finger yourself stop until you have sex. Okay? Oh and tell your boyfriend to jack off more so you can get an orgasm... Sorry it sounds like he barely fucks.. Like he stops after 5 minutes. Hope I helped.
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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First, you should stop faking it. Way over half of all women are not capable of having an orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone (as razhie said) So, he should have no reason to feel inadequate about you not having an orgasm. Now that you have started to fake it, it's going to be very hard to stop, but you should just be honest with him.
If you don't want him to manually stimulate you or orally stimulate you, then you are most likely not going to have an orgasm while with him. For women, most can ONLY have what is sometimes called an external orgasm. That is, an orgasm stimulated by the clitoris, instead of through vaginal intercourse which stimulates the g-spot.
Try certain toys. There are things he can wear, that will rub against yoru clitoris more. But, the sad fact is that your probalby one of the many women who cant' have an internal orgasm.
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Really the only way you can have sex through "normal" intercourse is by finding your g-spot. If you don't know where it is, don't expect him to know either. It's behind your pubis, about a half-inch in - you can get to it by inserting a finger and curving it towards your belly button, or there are lots of sexual positions that are supposed to help your partner stimulate it through intercourse. But I recommend checking it out yourself first, because lots of women find it really weird/uncomfortable, don't get orgasams that way, and because knowing your body and what you like/don't like will help you guide him too.
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The simple fact is, very very few woman can orgasm through vaginal sex alone. Clitoral stimulation is necessary for most women to achieve an orgasm, even if it is done at the same time as intercourse.
Experiment with different positions and even more importantly with different speeds, be very vocal about what feels good to you and please Stop Faking It! You are lying to your boyfriend and doing him and any other women he’ll ever be with a great disservice. Why have sex with someone you can’t even be honest with?
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