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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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sooo my ex dumped me in a text and then two days later starts talking to another girl. I didn't want to break up. I knew we should but I just didn't want to. And I want... well wanted him back so bad. But now I don't think I do. Te thing is I'm just so hurt right now... I gave him a BJ a week before we broke up. I did it because I trusted him and I wanted to make him happy and he broke my heart and I regret it so much. He doesn't even care. He doesn't care about me one tiny bit... but he's already gonna be hanging out with this new girl tomorrow. How can he do this to me?? He's my first bf, my first kiss, my first everythinlg. I put so much of myelf into this relationship and it just hurts so much now and I don't know what to do... Please help. I sent him a text last night saying I don't want to get back togethere anymore and that I was done with him. But I want to hurt him like he's hurt me, even though I know that's not a good idea. I just don't know what to do... I have great friends but I still feel so lonely and horrible inside. How can I et over him??

I think the best way to get over him is to realize that he never cared about you.

He only wanted you for sex (or sexual acts) and then when he got what he wanted, he left. If he really cared about your feelings, he would've stuck around. The fact that he didn't really says a lot about his character.

Why care about someone who doesn't care about you? If you don't care about someone, your feelings can't be hurt. Try that.

I ended things with my long distance boyfriend of 1 year, a month ago. The distance was hard, we were fighting a lot the last 2 months, and I figured it was best to end it.

We haven't spoken since, as I decided no contact is best for me to heal, he did contact me once but I never responded.

3 weeks after we broke up, he got a new girlfriend. I feel really sick about this.

I was doing surprisingly well, until I found this out. Now I find myself thinking, "wait, are we soul mates? should i contact him? did i make a huge mistake and let go of 'the one'?" I keep feeling the urge to e-mail him, just to talk to him, to see if he still cares, to see if we'll ever have a future.

I haven't e-mailed him though, and I'm REALLY trying not to. I KNOW I'll look desperate, because he has a new girlfriend, and I'm the one that broke it off anyway. I really think the break-up was the right choice. But, I think because I'm extremely lonely, and so hurt that he got over me so quickly..I'm second guessing myself.

So, what do you think? I keep replaying the good times we had together, and thinking about how we really did click so well, and it was honestly the best relationship I'd ever had, before it went sour. We did fight, but we just clicked, like 2 ppl that were meant to be. The main reason I ended it was because the love just felt like it was dying? On both sides, and I assume it definitely was for him..because he got a new gf.

So, I'm just wondering..should I contact him? Or should I just never contact him..ever again? I feel stupid for wanting to know if he misses me, or if we'll ever get back together..but I do want to know. I really just need some opinions. It's been a month, and I'm feeling so alone, and so depressed. Please, any help. Btw, I'm 19, and he's 22.

To be completely honest, I don't think you should e-mail him right now. You decided no contact was best and if you go back on it, you'll more than likely look back and regret it.

What I think is most important here is that he probably isn't over you. 3 weeks is NOT enough time to get over someone (especially when you date for a year). Chances are that this girl is a rebound and that he could be using her to ease the pain of your break-up.

I don't think you should e-mail him, but ultimately, what you do is your decision. If you decide that you want to e-mail him, even just to say hi, then you can and nobody can stop you.

im 18/female and i cant seem to lose anything i gained about 30 to 40 pounds how can i lose it fast? thank you =)

You can't. Losing 30 lbs in a week is extremely unhealthy, and I don't know why anyone would ever want such a thing. It's possible to accomplish that goal in 2 months or less (maybe) but definitely not in a week.

And if you even think about starving yourself, please know that that won't work either because you'll gain it all back & then some when you start eating again.

Just eat healthy and exercise. That is the only way you'll lose weight and keep it off.

your right i dont trust the woman but the women im talking about is the women he works with he works at walmart so there lots of women there i know every one of them and they look 10 times better than me and he is a really friendldy person there and hes friends with them im just so sick of it because he says hes got to be nice is that true that hes got to be friends with almost every person that works at walmart because he is

Of course he has to be nice. Why would anyone want to work with an asshole? No company in their right mind would hire someone who they believe would not get along with other employees and the customers. You have to be nice to everyone (whether you like them or not).

You honestly have nothing to worry about. You may think they look better than you, but that's a problem you have with yourself rather than with others. He thinks you're beautiful, and he loves you - that's why he's with you.

If he honestly thought otherwise, you wouldn't be together. He's allowed to have friends, so are you. Stop worrying.

Im 18/female and im always geting mad when i see my man talking to other females he has never given me a reason for him to cheat and he keeps telling me he want every time i ask i dont know what to do i know he loves me but i just have a bad jelous problems and i dont know how to change it What do i do to stop being jelous!

It's not your boyfriend you don't trust, it's the other girls. A lot of girls have this problem but don't know how to handle it.

What you need to do is realize that at the end of the night, he's with you. He comes home to you. He is only friends with them.

He is allowed to have female friends though, just as you are allowed to have male friends so talk to him about it.

I'm getting a new 15' mackbook pro from the apple store in a couple of days and I need to buy a case to protect it with.
What are some of the best cases you could buy for this thing?something that looks nice too.
All help is appreciated.

All of this information is something you can ask a Apple employee. They sell cases and protective things for the computer and they will tell you what is best for your specific computer.

how do you get tickets to the private showing of drakes ithica concert in new york ?

There might be a possibility that a radio station near you is holding a contest for a pair of the tickets, but if they aren't, then I guess you're out of luck.

Okay, i have a friend (yes a friends its not me!) and she cuts herself because her EX broke up with her. now shes been cutting herself. im worried about her, she only tells her closest friends. i tell her to stop but she says she cant help it. i really want her to stop. shes my very best friend and i dont want anything bad to happen to her. i love her! shes the best! i hate seeing her unhappy! when her parents see her cuts she says she ran into stuff, she fell and all those excuses! (she cuts everywhere on her body except her wrists) i wish i could do something but i dont know what to do! Have u ever had this problem? Please help me, even more, help my friend!!

-Only Wants To Help Out

You should tell her parents about her problem. They can get her the help that she needs. Telling a trusted adult is the right thing to do. She might be mad at you for a while, but in the end she'll realize where you were coming from and will forgive you.

You can end up saving her life. You are the line between her and happiness. Please tell her parents what she is doing.

my best friend is going after my ex. i'm sure its ok but i really dont enjoy it. i still like him. and its hurting my feelings. but....... i really dont no how to tell her that.

You need to suck it up and talk to her about it. She's supposed to be your best friend, and if you really care about your friendship, you'll open your mouth and tell her how you feel.

If she's really your friend, she'll understand and will lay off until you're completely over him. If she hears you out but then still tries to go for him, she's not really your friend and you can find someone else.

do girls care or think its gross or w/e if a guy mastrobates?

I would certainly hope not. Everybody masturbates, even girls. & if a girl thinks that it's gross, she obviously has a lot of growing up to do.

((I'm 15/f))I think i am ready for sex but im not all that sure cause sometimes i think about it and think that i might regret it in the future. I REALLY like this guy tho. Also, I'm kinda scared that it will hurt really bad and i'm scared that i might not know what to do. What do u think?

If you are doubting having sex and are worried that you will regret it in the future, that should be a clear enough red flag that you are not ready and should not go through with it. You are too young to be having sex anyways. Kids your age have sex to fit in and because they think that they're ready and they usually end up regretting it.

Also, losing your virginity is going to hurt no matter what age you are. You could be 15, or 25, or 40 even and it'll hurt. Better suck it up.

Ok my friend katie likes my boyfriend when we were going out. and then we broke up and she didnt even wait 1 week to go out with him. should i tell her off or just suffer?

Honestly, I'd tell her off. She's not really your friend if she would date your boyfriend not even a week after you guys were broken up.

If she really liked him, she would wait a while before pursuing him, and if she was your friend, she would wait until you over him, and then she'd ask permission.

She's not your friend. She doesn't give a damn about your feelings because if she did, you two wouldn't be in this situation. Talk to her and get whatever you need to say off of your chest.

Hi!
During the past year (senior year) in high-school I have had some big health problems. As a result I had to pull out of school in January and drop all of my university offers. I now have to go back in September to re-do my classes/ exams with the grade below me, and I feel pretty apprehensive. My school has this certain atmosphere, so people rarely make friends in different grades- I know I haven't. It shouldn't be a big deal, but I'm an introvert and find it hard to make new friends, so I'm nervous that I might end up alone the whole time. I'm wondering if something is wrong with my mind set- should I just be more stoic or what? I'd really appreciate any advice on what I should do.

Thanks so much!

Honestly, I don't think that you're wrong to be nervous. Everyone gets that way is certain situations.

I think you just need to open up a little bit more. Forget what your school is like and do what you want. If you don't make friends with anyone, you're going to be lonely, and it could depress you. Just talk to someone.

If you don't, you might miss out on making some great friends.

19/F

My girlfriend comes back from her vacation soon and I want to do something cute/romantic for her when I pick her up from the airport/ have a date night with her the next night...any ideas?

Thanks!

When you pick her up from the airport, bring her a bouquet of her favorite flower in her favorite color.

For your date, make her a nice dinner and add some candles and romantic music. Maybe have a movie marathon after on your couch. If she spends the night with you, cuddle all night in bed and talk.

That would be pretty romantic to me. :) Have fun with your girlfriend.

I was wondering what are some things to cut out of my diet. I know fast food, but what else? Also is there anything I should start eating more of. Im not trying to diet, more of a life style change.

Cut out sodas, junk food & fast food. If you have to eat fast food, get something small. Like, if you go to McDonald's, maybe have a small fry, a small drink and a sandwich or something. If you have something light, it won't be as bad. You could also try one of their salads & have a water.

Just try to eat lighter meals and cut out the crap that you know is bad for you. Drink lots of water, and exercise regularly and you should be fine. :)

Well, I'm an eight grader. And every year there's a dance called the "Eighth Grade Dance". I've went for my sixth and seventh years but this year I just didn't want to go through all the stress of finding a dress and such. So I decided I didn't want to go and that there would be other better, funnier dances in high school. But there's a good chance I will get nominated for Queen.. but that won't really change my mind about going. And my mother who hates to shop said that I HAVE to go and that she would take me shopping for a dress this weekend. But I told her again how I didn't like getting stressed about finding a cute dress, and that it wouldn't even be that fun because dances at my school are usually like stand around and talk. She finally agree and said "Okay, it's your choice but I think you should go." And now I just feel guilty and bad. And it feels like I should go just to make her happy.

I just don't understand why she would go shopping with me when she hates shopping and spend a lot of money on a dress and shoes and everything. And when we shop together we both usually get really frustrated. And I'm just trying to spare that all. So why would she want me to go so badly?

She doesn't want you to miss out on the experience. I understand that dances can be boring, and they usually aren't much fun, but with an attitude like that, they won't be. Telling yourself that a dance will be just as boring as it was last year will only make you believe it and it will lessen your chances of actually having fun.

Your mom wants you to go because she doesn't want you to miss out and regret it. I know to you it's just a dance, but to your mom it's an experience. You only get to experience 8th grade once, so you might as well take advantage of it before it's over. It's going to be the same thing with prom, and whatever else once you get into high school.

Just go to the dance. It'll make your mom happy, and maybe you'll even have fun. :) If it makes you less stressed, ask your mom if a friend can come shopping with you. I'm sure she won't mind. Have fun.

in you're opinion, do you think a person means it when they tell their gf/bf that they love them when they're drunk? Serious, honest answers, please, thank you!

This goes back & forth for me.

I usually go with the saying that drunk words speak a sober heart, BUT some people do say things that they don't mean when drunk.

The only way to honestly find out is to bring it up when you're both sober. Just say "Hey, while drunk the other night, you said you loved me. I just wanna know if you were being honest with me. If you weren't & were just saying things because you were drunk, that's fine, my feelings aren't hurt, I just wanted to be sure."

19/M

If my girlfriend and I have both been tested for STDs with negative results, and she is on the pill, how necessary are condoms?

I'd say that condoms are still about 95% necessary. Just because you are both STD free and she's on the pill doesn't mean that you shouldn't use a condom.

Birth control pills do not always work. They do have a high percentage for working, but it is likely that your girlfriend could be in that small percentage of women that do get pregnant because birth control failed.

Definitely wear a condom. It's your safety and your girlfriend's safety. I'm pretty sure you don't want a toddler running around at 19-20 years old. :) Just wear the damn condom.

Hi
I have been going out with my girlfriend for about a year. I am very physically active, and I don't expect my girlfriend to do as much as I do but lately I really am having trouble talking to her about weight.

I love my girlfriend's personality, but I have problem with her being overweight. I don't expect her to look like a model, and I don't mind if she's a little chubby, but I really have a problem with her being overweight and it's a huge pet peeve of mine. She has been trying to cut back, but she hasn't really lost weight. Its sad because she used to be really in shape and do gymnastics. I also try to do activities with her but she doesn't like doing them. I feel like it would be dumb to break up with her just because of the weight thing, but she just isn't losing weight and it's been 4 months now since she started trying to.

My question is, how can I help her get in shape without her getting angry at me? I feel like I'm being a jerk when I say she should run and work out, but it is super important to me. Also she doesn't want to use any drugs to lose weight. What ways can I help to convince her to get in shape?
Any suggestions on my situation would be valuable to me.
Thanks a bunch

Bring up health issues. Say that being overweight could lead to obesity, diabetes, heart problems, cholesterol, etc. Say that you're worried about where her weight is going & you want to help her out because you're worried about her.

You could always try going for a walk. Is there a park nearby? Walk there, play around, go for a swim, etc. Doing healthy activities like this can really help out.

To be honest though, if you really loved your girlfriend, you'd be able to look past her weight issues. Not everyone can lose weight in the blink of an eye and for you to be upset because it's taken 4 months and there's been little to no progress is kind of absurd. It makes you look like a dick. :) Just giving you a suggestion on your situation!

17/f

Do you guys think that it's worth it to spend $110 on a watch that you're in love with and will most likely wear every day? I will be spending my own money on this.

Thanks :)

I don't see why not. I think it's okay to splurge and spoil yourself every once in a while.

Here's how I see it: If you like something and are going back & forth on whether or not to purchase it, just remember that if you leave it there & decide to come back for it, it may not be there that 2nd time around.

That usually helps me make a decision. But, if you really have hope that it'll be there if you decide not to buy it immediately, then you can do that too. And hey, maybe it'll be on sale.

But if your gut is telling you to buy it, go for it. It's your hard earned money, spend it how you want.

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