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she cuts herself because her EX broke up with her.
Okay, i have a friend (yes a friends its not me!) and she cuts herself because her EX broke up with her. now shes been cutting herself. im worried about her, she only tells her closest friends. i tell her to stop but she says she cant help it. i really want her to stop. shes my very best friend and i dont want anything bad to happen to her. i love her! shes the best! i hate seeing her unhappy! when her parents see her cuts she says she ran into stuff, she fell and all those excuses! (she cuts everywhere on her body except her wrists) i wish i could do something but i dont know what to do! Have u ever had this problem? Please help me, even more, help my friend!!
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You should tell her parents about her problem. They can get her the help that she needs. Telling a trusted adult is the right thing to do. She might be mad at you for a while, but in the end she'll realize where you were coming from and will forgive you.
You can end up saving her life. You are the line between her and happiness. Please tell her parents what she is doing.
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You need to sit your friend down & tell her that
cutting herself is very dangerous it isn't something
that's to be taken lightly or as a joke it's very serious tell her that by her cutting herself she's
hurting you and others that care for her there's
better ways to solve her problems and cutting herself isn't one of them it's just going to make things worst you can do something talk to her & make
her realize that what she's doing is dangerous say
your concerned and you just want to help as her best friend you & can't stand & watch her cut herself she's hurting you(:
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The truth is, if your friend really didn't want help she wouldn't tell ANYONE. The fact she has told you, and perhaps a few others, means she does want help. She just doesn't know how to do it on her own.
Self-mutiliation is a serious disease. Just like any other addiction, it won't go away with time. She won't grow out of it. It WILL get worse. She needs help. She needs you! Even if she doesn't think she wants to stop, she does. Even is she thinks she doesn't want you to tell anyone, she needs you too. As a friend, it is your job to care for her. Be there for her through the good and bad. Are you up to it? If not it's probably best not to get involved. It's going to get messy.
First thing you need to do is tell her you love her, you understand she is upset, but doing what she is doing is no way to go about healing. Let her know she needs to tell someone, NOW! Then let her know if she won't tell someone, you will. Sound harsh? It is. Give her a couple days. Then tell her parents if she doesn't. She can't get help on her own. She needs a support system, and it starts with you. It needs to end with her & her parents though.
Will she mad? Yes. Will she ignore you for a long time? Yes. Will she thank you in the long run? Definitely. You can save this girls life, but it won't be easy.
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No,I haven't experienced that problem.First of all,express to your friend how much you love her,and need her.Let her know all of the positive things she has in her life and all the reasons not to hurt herself.Especially over some silly boy.If he broke up with her,that's HIS loss,and another guy's gain!!!Tell her how worried you are and that you want her to be around for the rest of your life,you want you two to grow old together and for her to be an "aunt" to your kids someday,and that if she keeps doing this that won't be able to happen.Point out all of her positive qualities to her.Maybe do something sentimental like look thru old pics of you guys thru the years.Laugh and talk about some of your funny stories and memories.Unfortunately,when it comes down to it,you can do nothing more than that.There is a hotline you or she can call,1-800-DONT-CUT,which gives you all of your options for help and informs you about everything you need to know about cutting.If it continues,and/or gets worse,it may be time to tell a parent(either yours or hers) so that she can get help.She may be angry at first that you "told" on her,but in the end she will see that you did what you had to do because you love her so much,and she will be grateful for that.I wish you all the best.My thoughts and prayers are definitely with you.If you need anything more leave me another note in my inbox and maybe we could exchange SN's or something!Take care hunnie! :)
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you need to tell your friend how worried you are and tell her to cometo me or to come to you when ever she feels lik cutting and we can stop her from doing it... if it keeps going you might want to tell her parents or a guidance counslor so she can get help i hope i helped
kati
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