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1. I've made out with guys before but in my current relationship any time i make out with my boyfriend i get saliva around the edges of my lips, is this normal? (have i just not noticed before?)

2. This ones mostly for guys but, where do guys MOST like a girls hands to be when making out?

1. it depends on what position you're in...sometimes it's easier to control where the spit goes.
2.on the waist, in the hair, on the shoulders..

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ok my friend from the US has bought me a vibrator, along with other stuff, he is going to ship it over to me soon but we need to find a way of packing the vibrator or hiding it so my parents dont see it in the box, because they will want to see what hes bought me.. and that will just be embarrasing.

we already had a few ideas he was going to get one of those stuffed toys that zip up in the back so you can put stuff in there but he couldnt find one big enough to do that.

any suggestions please? Its fairly big, if this helps any its a Rampant Rabbit Wave.

I think the pillow idea would work well... he could tear off the tags that are sewn into the side and slide it in there...he could get a big stuffed animal face...they have pooh bear faces at the disney store for $10 and they're about 12inches long [should be plenty of space]. you could pick a purse you like and have him buy it for you and ship it in that..he could pack it in a "special box" of "memories" that are for your eyes only [they should respect that]. you could take it up to your room before you show them what you got...just act extremely excited and take it to your room and rip it open and promise to show them in a little bit [like after you call and thank him]. maybe in an umbrella? have him buy you one as "an inside joke" and slip it in there. if you need more idea, let me know. i'm sure i could figure out a way if these don't work.

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Okay, so my bf and i have decided to have sex for the first time, both of us are virgins. we are mature enough and everything, and i know all about it, but i would just like to hear advice from other peoples point of view. like what advice or tips do u have, and what to expect.

My point of view: you are young. you have your whole life ahead of you to have sex...why start now? the younger you start, the more likely you are to sleep with more people. I'm not saying there's a perfect age to start but if you're not old enough to drive, you're too young to be doing it. there are a lot of other sexual things you can do with your boyfriend besides have sex. get creative and save yourself the stress.

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I've been wanting to ask this question for a while now, but i just didn't know how to put it and not sound racist. I'll try to make it as short as possible.

I'm 15/f. I'm hispanic and so are most of the people in my community, as well as african american. When my friends and I go to the mall it's pretty diverse, but there are a lot of white people. Not to kiss ass, but the girls look like dolls, even without makeup, and the guys, ughh, as if they had been chiseled by God himself.

But here's the problem: they only date other white people! i'm not conceited, but i am NOT ugly, or indecent or dirty-looking at all, and i know people like me and my friends have bad reputations amongst them, but are they really SO unattracted to us? am i really THAT repelling? Or is it that they're racist, or shy and not at all as outgoing as hispanic men. They [the men] can't even look us in the eye for more than a second.

Now again, im NOT racist, im just really curious about this. i've never had a caucassian boyfriend, and i dont think i ever will,and that's peachy because hispanics are just as cute, but i just need to know why, and what is it that they think about me when they see me. Do they need ME to make the first move or what?! Thnx in advance for your consideration...

Well i'm hispanic & i've only dated caucassians. it's never been a problem...[except for one guy that had to ask his dad if it was ok to date a hispanic girl...he said hes but just no black girls. needless to say, we never went out] maybe it's the way you act or talk since you grew up with a lot of hispanics and african americans either that or they just don't know you well enough to want to be with you. or they might not like some of the people you associate yourself with...it happens to everyone. you don't need to make the first move besides maybe meeting them. some people are racist of hispanics and think that everyone that is slightly tan with natural dark hair is an illegal mexican who selss her body while her parents work at burger king. since there's a lot of your race and similar races, people think oh well she hangs with them and theres a lot them, they wouldnt wanna date me or whatever. there's all kinds of possible reasons that someone won't like you besides your race but yea, there are a bunch of assholes that do go by that. later on if life there will be plenty of men that will want to be with you because you are a hot and sexy latina... trussst me.
that's just what i've seen...i hope it helps you.

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I'm going to be going to high school from 8:45 to 1:00, starting August 27th. Then, I will be attending Cosmetology school from 5:30 to 9:30, starting September 4th. For an hour or more after high school I will be with my boyfriend and working on homework for both schools. I wont be attending either school on the weekends. I'm going to be waking up at 6 every other day to work out for an hour.

Will this eventually overload my body and cause me to become exhausted? I don't get stressed out very easily, so I'm not worried about my mental condition, just my physical.

I think you can do it if you manage your time really well. at least you have a break after school where you can do your homework or maybe take a nap to catch up on sleep. as long as your mental condition stays healthy, you should be ok physically.

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From: What do you think?

Lara seems to be a little dreamy lately. Last night she was over at my dinner party I made for my friend Tiffany’s birthday. Lara talks to me for a while and I ask her to help me cut the chicken and then after she was done she sat at the bar of the kitchen. I started to cook the chicken and my mother helps me with the sauce. In the corner of my eye I see Lara staring ahead of the kitchen I felt like she was watching me, I turn around and she was focusing on some thing in the kitchen and she had that day dream face expression. At the dinner table Tiffany ask Lara if she is all right because she seems so quite than usual and she said in a dreamy tone “yeah I am just tired” but it seems like she was in a dreamy mood to me.

What do you think? And why was she like that?
Is it because of our conversation we had or what?

I don't think the conversation had that big of a toll on her that she would be all dreamy and pensive... maybe she actually was tired or had something else on her mind. you might just be reading too far into everything.

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whats the best way to deal with a lie? i am willing to tell the truth but the thing is it involves others who arnt guilty and will get punished for it. what do i do? i cant afford someone digging it up because it is un coverable!! what should i do??

it depends on what the lie is... maybe you should add that in the additional info. i'd be happy to try and help.

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I need your opinions. I will be a freshman this monday, and I only know like 2 people in my highschool becuase I moved to a diff side of town. My problem is, I'm scared to like stand at the bus stop becuase the people standing there will all know each other, and I'll just be standing there all awkard, but I'm not sure if my mom should drive me becuause im not sure if thats like "cool", and I'm not sure if it's a bad idea not to ride the bus the 1st day and get used to it. I need your opinions on which would be best. thanks!
P.S. (my mom could only drive me the 1st and 2nd day cuz after that her job starts)

I think you should ride the bus... that way you'll get to know people that live around you. there will be other freshmen that you can talk to. I knew some people on my freshman bus and there was a girl i didn't know [she was new] and she started talking to me so i had made a new friend in the first 10 minutes of the first day.

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I'm going to a new school. And the school I use to go to I went to my whole life. And the new school I don't know anyone there. I'm people have told me I'm shy. I know I'm shy,unless the people I'm hanging out with are friends,around my friends I'm like really LOUD. The promblem is that how do I make new friends at a new school. I'm going to be going into 9th grade,so I'm starting a new school at high school. Could anyone help me? Like give me tips on how to become not as shy and talk to people without being so shy about? If you understand what I'm asking,ha.
Thank you.

Well you are really lucky that it's freshman year... most people want to make friends and there a lottt of new kids. most of your classes will be kinda quiet ini the beggining if its anything like my school but just talk to people when you are working in groups or be like hey wanna sit together at lunch? or what lunch do you have? I switched to a new school in the middle of my sophomore year so i knowwww it's hard to not be shy around new people. just don't be mean and you'll be fine.

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Ok well..

My bra size is an A, but now i have like a big red line on my boob when i take it off now because there's like a cresent part of my boob that it doesn't fill.

I should try a B but...it may fit for the width of my breasts but my breasts won't, FILL the bra, like go out enough.

What's your bra advice for me?

say you wear a 36 A... when you go to a B, try a 34 B...i think this will help with the filling out part. also, try different cuts and styles of bras. some kinds barely hold me in and others look too big even when they are from the same brand. sometimes it helps to not even look at the size, just try them on. i suggest going to kohls and trying a million different bras on. [i say kohls becasue they dont have awkward fitting rooms with attendents that stare at your or blasting music that gets on your nerves].

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okay so i don't know i'm like so worried about what i look like and wear. i can't help it so please don't call me stuck up or anything.

but i got like 8 new shirts for school and i have some shirts from last year to wear but like is that okay to wear stuff from before?

and what are some ways i can play up like just regular tee shirts? i just bought all short sleeved tees and i have some plain tanks. the shirts all have somehintg on them. i like wearing the shirts with just jeans. so yeah how can i dress up the tee or make it loook a little different from the way i wore it before.

thanks so much =]

to dress up shirts:
put something underneath it...different color or print or polo or wear a vest or zipper hoodie to give it a new look.
it's ok to wear stuff from the year before. i'm pretty sure everyone does.

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CAn Microdermabrasion remove freckles from my face (Not all, just a few prominent ones that I have...)
thanks!

No, it wont remove freckles unfortunatly.
wear sunscreen year round so they don't get darker.

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Well this isn't really personal finance but it's about money. I need to make 600 dollars or close by next Friday so I can go see my fiance before he deploys to Iraq, and I don't know how to do this. Can you guys give me some ideas?

Where exactly are you flying to? i'm sure you could get a better deal than $600, even if its short notice. try an airport that's cheaper to land at and get a car rental...[ex, cincinnati, oh airport is more expensive than all the surrounding airports within the 45min area]
anyway, to get money you could try babysitting over night for a couple nights, borrow from parents/friends/roomates, get a check advancement if you have a job, promise to do a job when you come back and get the money up front, have a garage sale, sell something online, sell textbooks to college kids.. that's all i can think of. i hope you get to see him!

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How much trouble who someone get in if they were underage drinking, urinating in public, and had a fake ID. For the state of Ohio, but if you know just your state, that's fine too. I'm just curious around what the concequence would be. At the age of 17. This isn't for me, but someone I know. Any ideas appreciated. Thanks!

My buddy in ohio gets busted with these things every now and then....cept he had weed and beer in an empty house with a bunch of other guys. they started making sex noises when they were being searched [kinda like hte urinating thing...maybe a bit worse] BUT the cops never found out where/how or whos beer/weed it was so they let them all go... he just got a ride home in the back of the cop car, that's it. if they were in a clud with a fake id... probably arrested and have to call the parents..nothing too bad.

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I like to have a new look for myself every school year. I welcome change so much. So I'm going for a more mature look. Any hair, eyebrow, makeup, even clothing tips would be helpful. I'm like.. running out of ideas now.

9th grade:
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10th grade:
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Now:
http://i19.tinypic.com/6biymx1.png
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I grew out my eyebrows a lot to flatter my face. Does it look okay now? Also, I cut my hair into layers and I got straight across bangs. [No pictures] But would that look better than my most recent pictures? I'm going shopping soon with limited time and in your opinion.. what colors would look good on me? People have told me red and white. What do you think?

Thanks

i like your hair in the 9th grade pictures but i do like the length now. yes, the eyebrows look good too now.
colors: blue, green, red, white, purple, brown... everything except for yellow.

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sorry what do u mean of

maybe try briefly clearing the air?

maybe just try mentioning how things between you seem tensioned... but briefly, not a full on deep conversation about it.

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I don’t know if this is all in my head but Lara seems different to me. She seems quite and shy around me. Usually she is very talkative. Last week we went to the movies and she hardly talked to me and she seems so distance away from me than usual. We joke around a little before the movie started but I am having a feeling she is shy and uncomfortable to be around me. When I talk to her she did talk to me back, then last night she called me on the phone and I was talking the whole time but she didn’t reasoned to me. I talk about the book she lean me to read and I wanted to talk about it but she didn’t respond. I didn’t know what was wrong she was the one who called me because she wanted to know more info about the birthday party we are having for a friend of ours (I told her about the info before the talk of the book). But it might be in my head I don’t know, what are the signs of shy body language?

well, i don't know why shes acting this way... maybe try briefly clearing the air? shy body language could include scooting away, arms folded, nervous movements like tapping fingers/feet, just a sense of tension..

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I got these shoes from hottopic on clearance (they're not sold anymore,so i dont have a picture of them) They're really cute, zebra black and white print,with a bow,peep-toe flatts. But the problem is,i have no clue what to wear with them! any help? colors,shirts,jeans,anything! Maybe some pictures would be nice, and again sorry i couldn't get a picture of the flats!



thanks for your time :)

AHHH i wanted those flats but they didnt have my size after they went on sale!
wear them with things that match with either black or white...
jeans and any color top except for brown or greens.
try jeans and a band tshirt or a colored top wit a black vest... they go with a lot of stuff.

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Hey. Anyone know any good upbeat songs to run to? I can't seem to find any that help.

Thanks.

my running playlist:
deceptacon - le tigre [the best to run to... put it on repeat]
dip it low
everytime we touch
LOVE
london bridge
gasolina
lose control
love me or hate me
ms new booty
my humps
one girl revolution
ring the alarm
sandstorm
walk it out

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This from: I am so confused

I don’t think so, I am moving away next year and we are very good best friends she didn’t like the fact I have to move away (and of course no one wants me to move away even Lara.) The reason I am because my family as a house at Hawaii and I have not enough money to stay where I live. (So I have no choice) But the thing is Lara seems confused and I too we both don’t know what we want but something is going on between us. I told her how I felt just to get it off my chest I want to get over her because she told me she didn’t feel the same way but that was after the talk her and I had. Now that I know she was jealous how I was meeting new people and she told me “I think time will tell for the both of us” I have to think of what to do. I want time away to think if I really want her more than friends with her because this is my first Girl crush and my first crush. Like she said “time will tell”
She is a close and touchy person to me and she said she isn’t sure what gender she likes and she does respect my feelings to her. Right now we still hang out and have a good time but I am letting things settle for a while. I want to ask her if she likes me more than a friend but I don’t know how to do it with out making a fool of myself.

Thanx for your advice.

well i think that if she already knows you like her, the hard part is out and you can just ask her if she likes you back. if not, then you have an answer and you can forget the conversation ever happened. if she does well then you can take it from there. but like you said, letting things settle down for a little while couldnt hurt.

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