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First Time
Okay, so my bf and i have decided to have sex for the first time, both of us are virgins. we are mature enough and everything, and i know all about it, but i would just like to hear advice from other peoples point of view. like what advice or tips do u have, and what to expect.
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I don't really understand why some of the advice given below says that you are too young, because you didn't even state your age in your question. I do agree with some things that were said, though.
You should go into a clinic and get birth control. If you're under 18 you can still get bc pills without parental consent, and for free if you don't have a high-paying job. You need to be on birth control for 2 weeks before its safe to have sex without risking pregnancy.
But still use a condom!
And if you haven't "popped your cherry" through other sexual activity or riding horses or something..then I'd suggest putting a dark towel or dark blanket that you can wash down. Because there will probably be blood.
Its probably gonna hurt a little at first, but you will start to enjoy it after a few minutes. Actually, after the first time, you are probably going to ache a little the next day, too.
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I believe if you think you are ready then to both go for it.. At the same time if you think you are ready and you trust your bf then you should go for it.. It takes your love to another level..
I would advise that when you are going to do it.. Make sure it is something special.. dont try and rush anything - take your time beacuse the first time will be a special time and something you want to remember and share for the rest of your life..
First time for a girl i know will hurt.. So bare that in mind.. There will be some pain for the first time but it will fade as you get into it and you will enjoy it..
I think the first time for a boy can be a lot easier than for a girl...
As you both are virgins.. help eachother out.. point the other in the right direction so you both enjoy it the best you can..
Hope Ive Helped
Sanj
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Honestly, if you have to state that you are "mature enough and everything" then maybe you just think you are.
What to expect? If you aren't careful, a little screaming, crying, wormy thing called a baby. Yah. They take up all of your time and money.
Is your boyfriend REALLY "mature enough and everything" or is he going to bail out on you if you do ever become pregnant?
Hmm...
Not saying he is a bad guy, but you should always keep such questions in the back of your mind.
Tips?
You better be damn sure to protect yourself. Not only against pregnancy, but STDs. Yah, you are both virgins so STDs aren't likely, but you might as well start off right and ALWAYS use condoms. Even if you are on birth control.
ygs-29/f
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My point of view: you are young. you have your whole life ahead of you to have sex...why start now? the younger you start, the more likely you are to sleep with more people. I'm not saying there's a perfect age to start but if you're not old enough to drive, you're too young to be doing it. there are a lot of other sexual things you can do with your boyfriend besides have sex. get creative and save yourself the stress. <3
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You say are mature enough to have sex, but are you mature enough to cope with the consequences? Have you thought about contraception, and if that fails, whether you are mature enough to have a baby? You are still so very young and I know you don't want to hear this - please don't start having a sex life at such a tender, young age. Enjoy being young before taking this step into adulthood. If you sleep with your boyfriend and then part company, will you sleep with the next one, and the next one? You will end up with a reputation for being easy and will no doubt end up having to deal with either a baby or an STD, or worse, AIDs. Please go and see Planned Parenthood or the equivalent relevant to your country before you take one of the biggest steps of your life. None of this advice is what you ask for, but it is what I am giving because of your age. Please take care.
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