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I use Clearasil Ultra the tinted acne cream and yeah, it works.
I had this bad acne. I guess small cysts? They were there for years. (Not joking) in the same spot on my cheek.

That part is so dry right now. it's peeling and I don't see any bumps. Does that mean they are gone?

And how do I clean my face?
I heard scrubing or scratching the dry skin off is bad.

Do I wash it and softly scrub it off OR put more cream on it OR put lotion on it?

I get cycstic acne too.
They come in the same spots like everytime I get it, and they hurt, and they are so ugly.
Usually once it heals and goes away,
I use clearisil ultra deep pore clensing pads. It drys my skin out and prevents from getting more breakouts with cystic acne. And usually after that I put on clinque Dramatically Different Moisturizing Lotion, so it doesnt peel or anything.


having cystic acne, thats what I assume you have. But they dont really go away, and they are harder to treat because they are so deep down in yoru skin, fluid under the skin. You can however, go to your dermitologist and get pills that you can take, that will heal it and prevent it from happening, from the inside, so you will break out even less than normal. :)


Good luck

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There's this guy that I've liked on and off.. for 2 yrs. I don't even know why I like him in the first place. He acts cool all the time but I know that deep inside he's all shit. He pretends to be very confident but actually he's not. I really don't know why I like him despite knowing all these. He gives me mixed signals, or maybe it's overthinking on my part.

These are the signs that shows he likes me
- he held my hand during rollerblading (erm, maybe it's because I don't know how to blade?)
- he playfully threw a dice into my pants when my back was turned
-he told me to go up to his room to change even though his toilet was just a few steps away.
- he smile whenever I go near him
-he avoids eye contact at times

These are the signs that shows he doesnt like me
-he doesn't call/msg/IM me at all
-he doesn't ask me how's life
-he doesn't tell me his personal things
-he doesn't really give a shit about my life

That's about it. So does he like me or not? I feel that he doesn't. So can someone help me to forget about him and move on?

Thanks
P.S : I don't mind long answers. In fact, I welcome long answers. =]

I was reading your question, and one thing that I thought I should point out is how can you expect him to care about your life, if you think he 'acts cool all the time but I know that deep inside he's all shit, he pretends to be very confident but actually he's not" how do you know that? Some people are really confident, and they arent pretending. If he hasnt told you that he's not confident and that hes only pretending... you know. If you think this about him, how do you expect him to think about you? I realize you probably didnt tell him this, but I'm just saying.

The only way to find out if he likes you is to ask him. No matter what signs, I think the best way is to ask him. If you tell him you like him first, it will make him be more honest withh you. Because if you just flat out ask him he will feel pretty vulnerable and probably say something he really doesnt feel, like that he doesnt like you, when he really does. You know?




*to explain the first paragraph
what i meant is, if you think of him like that,
.. which is pretty lowly. How do you think he would feel if he knew that?

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ok. if your so called "BEST FRIENDS" never called you, always stood you up with phone calls, and made you feel like you weren't their friend, what would you do?

Communication is always the key in friendship; or any relationship at that.
I would talk to her about it. People change, and friendships stray apart. Maybe you two just need to hang out again, and remind her how much fun you two have together. But then again, sometimes friendships end. If you want it to work, try talking to her.
In my opinion, my best friend and I we talk about everything, including when our friendship feels like its drifting or like we are being cranky and what not. Hope everything gets better.

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14/f
ok well i promised to be pure until i get married. a guy at the age of 13 wanted to give up his virginity to me and i flipped so i was like ok i am going to make a chioce. i am going to be pure until marriage.what do guys think my age. will they not like me because of the choice i made? or what.

Its a choice that I agree with.
Good job :)
You are far too young to be doing any such sexual things.
Guys will respect you, because its your decision.
And when you get married, if your partner is a virgin too, you both will feel good.
You wont have to worry about having stds, or anything like that.

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My friends and I branded ourselves when we
were bored. (With a metal charm and heat
from a candle) Mine was on my hip and caused
no bleeding but one of my friends was on
her wrist and cause a deep scab which now
started bleeding (almost 3 weeks later)
Is there anyway to help her scab heal quicker
and safer? We do realize we were stupid
to try something like this, but I'm scared
for her, its still bleeds sometimes.

Okay, I would try putting neosporin on it, and antibiodic ointments, so it doesnt get infected. Tell her not to pick at it, put a bandaid over it, with lots of neosporin, to soften it up, and let it heal. If it continues to bleed, I suggest her telling her mom, so they can let their doctor know.

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My family is far from rich. My mom and dad are both on social security. I only have one pair of jeans and it's emarrasing. I have to wear the same pair of jeans every other school day and everybody notices. I've had these pair of jeans for over a year now and they are so worn out. The insides of them are so holy. And they are so washed out. I have no money to go out to buy any jeans. I don't know what to do. Can anyone help?

I understand this is a very difficult situation. Would maybe, getting a job help? You sound quite young yet, but you can always baby sit, or mow lawns, rake leaves, shovel driveways, for some cash. I hope things look up.

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Me and my girlfriend have been sleeping together for a while, except recently I've been worrying myself to pieces. Even when we use a condom and it hasnt split or slipped for weeks later I'll be stressing out because I get paranoid she could become pregnant.

Recently Ive been avoiding sex and she's starting to notice I don't know how it'll affect our relationship. I don't want to be this paranoid about sex for the rest of my life either I just can't stop worrying! I don't know what to do?

Not to piss you off or anything,
but there wouldnt be any stress for either of you, if she could handle being a mom.
They say you are ready to have sex, if you can handle being a mom. As for you, it'd be can you handle being a dad right now?

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How do you make a Relationship Last?

love, laughter, communication and last of all, the ability to learn from mistakes, and to accept that neither of us are perfect.

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I think my best friend *and only friend* doesnt like me anymore..She posted an away message while I was talking to her that said "Fuck you I dont need anymore friends" and then she called my cellphone while her friends were over and they were laughing and saying really bad things to me like pussy in the background. Im so upset, Im shaking. This has never happened between me and her and weve been best friends for 6 years. I wanna die..please help

Dont end your life due to some selfish person. That would make you just as selfish by killing yourself.

I cannot believe your so called friend would do that to you. Thats absolutely horrible. Since she has already tried to signal to you how she feels by the aim message, and the rude phone call. Dont even talk to her anymore, maybe send her an email, asking whats up? But then leave it at that. If shes going to be imature about things, theres no use having her as a friend. Even six years of friendship can change. People change, and their likes and dislikes change as well. I know its going to be hard to deal with, but try meeting new people. And I mean that, meeting new people opens your eyes to the world, and the types of people there are. There isnt just your one best friend, with her certain opinion.

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Hi , I met a friend in chatting ... we made friendship for a year... then later we started talking on phone .. it went for another 6 months ... wwe stay in different cities...one day we met ... things are fine ,,, some days later she was busy and i too in our jobs.. and we didnt spoke to each other for a week ....... then later when i tried to speak on phone she didnt respond ,,, and later i had sent a mail describing through reasons .. at last she had given a reply ,, with a million dollar question .... " i dont see y u want me as a friend..... and i cant fake ne thg wch i dont feel " ....... can u pls give an advice how to get our friendship as earlier ? do i get her friendship back ?

Well talking online and talking in person are two very different things. I dont meant to hurt your feelings or anything, but it sounds to me like she just doesnt want to be friends, and you cant make her. You can tell her how you feel and what your friendship means, and leave it at that, and see what she says.

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Alright this is the very first time i even discussed the this anywhere either in person or online. so here goes. Im a 38 year old truck driver. I live in Maine. I have trouble speaking to strangers. I drive all week alone by myself and usually spend the weekend home alone. I dont like being alone. but I cant seem to talk myself into going out. I dont believe im looking for sympathy. Im looking for motivation. I dont do well around large crouds of people and starting up conversations is Very uncomfortable for me. Im unmotivated unless it comes to my job. i hardly ever finish anything i start unless it comes to my job. I am a very disorganized person. Personally I think my self esteme is quite low. I know i have problems and issues but it all seems so overwelming that i dont know what to do so I dont do anything and thats not getting me anywhere. Making decisions is very difficult for me. However I feel i am very intelligent. I have tried without success to help myself and am getting nowhere quite rapidly. I have medical insurance but dont know where to go or who to see. Or if thats even covered. Please just help me get going in the right direction.

This is just my opinion about your situation, but maybe since you spend so much time alone, you dont really know how to act around other people? Not that you are scared or anything to be around family or friends, but you are used to being alone. A lot of people also struggle with talking to strangers, and just meeting new people in general, because well - its difficult for some. Since you are putting yourself out there to people who dont know you and you dont know them. And their first instinct will be judging you. I, on the otherhand can talk to anyone really, it doesnt bug me. It used to though, I used to be shy. Although you are quite older than me, we all have things we can teach each other. What I've learned in my short period of 16 years is when you are meeting new people, shake their hand, or say hello and look directly in their eyes. (yes it gets better with practice) smile, ask them how they are doing, hows life, if anythings new, talk about the news, dont talk about yourself a lot, because people remember that, and if you can make them smile or feel good about themselves they will want to talk to you again :)

Also the crowds thing, sometimes its just creepy, once again to be surrounded by people you dont know. But its a learning process and it takes time and practice, smile, and be polite.

This is also going to sound probably stupid, and it sounds like you wouldnt do this anyways, but for the being disorganized and unmotivated, I encourage making a list, sticking it to the fridge, and fulfilling what it says. Make a list, to organize things that need to be organized. Write what you still need to finish, cross it off when you are done and reward yourself with something you dont get to do a lot, or that you would enjoy.

I dont know why but I'm growing up so far with a very high self esteem and confidence, but I find what helps is having friends who support you and encourage you in what you do. I'm sure you have friends, try asking some of them for advice too, for help. Talking to a friend helps more than anyone knows. They relieve a whole lot of stress.


And for the indecisive you, I suggest, thinking about what you have to choose, and choose it. Whatever happens- it happens, and it was supposed to be that way. I hope I helped in some way, good luck.

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Okay, I'm gonna say sorry for some of the words I'll be using but anywhos.
You know when you say like negro [sp] or nigger to an african american or call everyone from south american mexicans (which means you're ignoring their individuality) it's considered racism and rude and hateful remarks using vitriolic words? Well, when people call someone form south korea a chinese or japanese, that's considered racism too. It's saying that all the individual countries are not important enough for them to acknowledge them as seperate places.

It's really hurtful to the person recieving these racist remarks like me. I'm from south korea and there's this girl that keeps on calling me chinese or japanese and makes fun of me by saying japanese or chinese--or at least attmepting to say them--and pretend like i'm from that country and sometimes she carries it on by saying "DO YOU UN-DER-STAND?" in slow mo as if I wouldn't understnad it if she talked like a normal person. She keeps on calling me "chinese girl" and today she even said to her friends--who I do not know-- "Oh this is that little chinese girl that I was talking about" in a really rude tone.

I've experienced racism since I got to US which is in 4th grade and I'm still experiencing it everywhere I go and I'm in 9th grade right now. No one understands that being racist against a person is really hurtful and they won't know because they haven't experienced it. I've told her that she may think it's funny but it really isn't and i've said some things that I shouldn't have. But I really can't take this anymore because she's geting her friends to join in against this ridiculous thing against me and I'm really just about to cry and I don't know what to do.

I can't ignore her because then she goes onto say "Oh, that chinese girl is deaf" or something like that and it's just hard not to get upset over it. My friend knows this and she saw me almost cry several times within the last week. What do I do about this situation? I don't wanna do what she's doing to me and I don't want to sink down to her level. Suggestions?

Aw I'm from south korea too, I was adopted though, I came here when I was just a babay. Tell on the, despite how childish that sounds, just do it. I really do understand how hurtful it is when people mistake us for like a different race like "oh arent you like chinease or something?" I think that is so rude too. I mean .. they only assume that we are, because we have similar characteristics. But its wrong, and I know how you feel. I think they forget how hurtful that is, and think we dont have feelings. Talk to a school counsular, or the principal, racism should and is NEVER to be allowed. Thats horrible. If you would like to talk to me, feel free to IM me at Kaylehmae on aim, or add me on msn Lover_109432@hotmail.com I'll be there if you want to talk, or just send me some more stuff on my column to my inbox or whatever.

Anyways, I think you are being a great person, by not sinking to her level. People sometimes are just really stupid, and dont care about if they are hurting someone or not. Do the right thing by still being polite, but do tell on her.
I hope things go good hun. &that they get better.

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Ok so a lot of people tell me i am too thin. I've done those online calculators and they say i am, but you can't really trust those things because they don't take in to consideration a lot of important factors, you know. So, I thought if people could look at my pic site and give me their honest opinion? Thanks. http://www.picturetrail.com/photos/blondina75

You are really super thin.
Way way to thin, it looks so dangerous!
I hope your heath is doing okay.
Please go see a medical physician.
please! Its so important, just eating a lot of food wont help, you need to see a doctor.

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16/f. my religion tells us not to have sex until we are married, and i plan on sticking to that. im possibly going to a get a boyfriend soon though, and i dont know how to tell him that im waiting. what are some excuses of why i cant have sex with him besides my religion and i dont want to?

You dont need an excuse, if its something you beleive in. He should respect your opinion.

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My boyfriend tells me that I am a bitch most of the time, I feel like I cant control it. He just does stupid things without thinking and it irritates me so I get a pissy attitude. I mean, I try telling him..'Brandon take your time', or 'Why do you do that?' He gets my hopes up for many things and then right before we go to do them he says "oh, I didnt really think about this but.." and then comes the excuse..and this happens multiple times daily. I dont understand it. What should I do to stop letting this little crap get to me?

I think this is a situation that you should just get out of. If he irritates you that much, theres really no point in being in a relationship with someone who pisses you off. He bugs you, you get pissed, then he gets pissed. Its a lose lose situation, unless you BOTH can work something out, it always takes two.
So I highly suggest just breaking up.

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Does anyone know where to find FREE sheet music online for:

Call Me When You're Sober, Bring Me To Life, My Immortal by Evanescence (Piano or guitar part)
And
Welcome To The Black Parade and Demolition Lovers by My Chemical Romance (Guitar Part)

Thank you soo much!

http://www.abcmusic.tk/piano/browse.php?alpha=num

that website
has like EVERYTHING!


happy piano playing!

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I'm 14/f and I know that I should probably forget about it until later or something but this has been lingering on my mind for a while and it's bothering me.

Well, first I believed in staying a virgin till marriage thing and I still do but it's that when I think about that, that would mean having had sex with only one partner and that bothers me, you know? I wanna experiment with other people than just one person. I don't know. Right now all I can think about when I see a guy that I like is: hmmm, I wanna have sex with him. And I haven't even had my first kiss yet. >.<

Haha, anywhos is this weird of me and what do you think on my thoughts on whether to stya a virgin or not.

And please don't tell me the "folloy my heart" or "you'll know when you're ready" thing. i just wan't a really honest opinion b/c right now, I really wanna just have sex with all my crushes

I would say its pretty normal for you to feel this way. Its called lust. And sex isnt like it is shown on tv, is nots all hot and passionate and sweaty. I am a virgin so you are probably thinking how in the heck would you know?! I;ve taken so many sex ed classes, and health classes, I go to a private school, and I suppose maybe that is why. But thats not the point. What teens forget is that, sex is awkward, you have to be "naked" with someone else. Exposing all your flaws, and insecurities to someone. I'm pretty sure you want that to be with someone you trust, and with someone who loves you for that. Not someone who only wants your body, or because you want their body. I mean this person could be a complete hottie, but their personality could suck. You could go and have sex with someone you think is so hot, but then you will be emotionally attatched. For the rest of your life. You wont ever forget the first person you slept with. I have friends who had made the mistake of having sex, young, and regretting it. They regret it because they cant take it back, and they broke up with that boyfriend of the month. In highschool and middle school, sex isnt right then. Everyone just wants to experience things, but they are also too niave to see that, any relationship they are going to be in during their middle school - highschool years, its not permananent, and its not likely they will ever get married. And that is because people change.
I think you should stay a virgin, you will be glad you did when meet the right person. I seriously mean that,and I know you said you didnt want to hear it like that. But its true, you are kinda too young to maybe understand the true purity of meeting the person you will love forever (i am too, i'm still grasping the concept) but just remember you wont regret waiting.

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my best guy friend says that he wants to have sex with me before we graduate. we're sophmores. i dont mind because i care about him because he is one of my best friends but if i have sex with him will it ruin our friendship?

Yes I think it will.
I dont think a lot of people realize that sex is more than just a physcial thing, its completely emotional. Its awkward, and personal, and you want to do it with the right person. You cant ever take it back, and I'm pretty sure you will always remember it. I have friends who have had sex in the grade you are in now, and they REGRET it, you could get pregnant, no matter if you are best friends. You will always have the emotions and the feelings towards him. Sex creates feelings, just like kissing. It changes your feelings towards him, and it would make you feel most likely , that you like him more than a friend. And he might not like you back the same way. I know this is long, but I'm just saying, I highly suggest you dont do it with him! Wait until you find the perfect person.

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Well this could go on forever, but I'll sum it up.
well in 9th grade i was friends with everyone. I really had no enimies and ppl would make fun of me (overweight) but it didnt bother me back then.
Now I'm in 10th grade and all my original friends just turned on me and started cracking on me and saying really brutal and hurtful comments about me. I wouldnt have mind if i came from the "bully" of the class but a lot of the jokes came from my friend for 5 years. They also shuned me and didnt want me to hang out with them.
I really dont know what to do, I go to very small school (17 students in the 10th grade) soo its kinda hard to get away from them. soo i would really like some one to give me some advice cause i really have no one else to turn to at this point : (
I'll rate really high I just really need some advice.

Aw. Let me fill you in, by sophmore year (the year you are currently in) you find out who your true friends are.
I feel so bad for you sweetheart, I dont understand how people can be so extreamley mean. They dont realize how much their behavior and actions can hurt someone. I would suggest making new friends, but I guess that wont work, if there are only 17 students. I honestly dont know what to tell you, but to keep your head up high. Be yourself, and dont let them get to you. Try talking to a school counsular, or your mom or dad and explain whats going on. I'm sorry people are so cruel to you. You are a beautiful person.

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I'd prefer a Christian's (Methodist if possible, but just Christian will do.) opinion since everyone has different beliefs.

I am completely afraid of death. I always think I'm going to die in the night or doing something. And of course, there's what happens after death. I dont just want to "end" but eternal life is overwhelming to me. I mean forever is so long!!!

I totally know what you mean, I am, well was/sort of afraid of dying. But that is where faith comes in! To believe in something you cannot see, but you know is there. Dont worry about what is going to happen to you either, God is watching over you. Worrying also shows that you dont have very much faith in God, why worry when God will take care of it? :]
Eternal life, heaven is going to be.. I cant even find words. It will be perfect, and you will be so happy.

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