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Racism
Okay, I'm gonna say sorry for some of the words I'll be using but anywhos.
You know when you say like negro [sp] or nigger to an african american or call everyone from south american mexicans (which means you're ignoring their individuality) it's considered racism and rude and hateful remarks using vitriolic words? Well, when people call someone form south korea a chinese or japanese, that's considered racism too. It's saying that all the individual countries are not important enough for them to acknowledge them as seperate places.
It's really hurtful to the person recieving these racist remarks like me. I'm from south korea and there's this girl that keeps on calling me chinese or japanese and makes fun of me by saying japanese or chinese--or at least attmepting to say them--and pretend like i'm from that country and sometimes she carries it on by saying "DO YOU UN-DER-STAND?" in slow mo as if I wouldn't understnad it if she talked like a normal person. She keeps on calling me "chinese girl" and today she even said to her friends--who I do not know-- "Oh this is that little chinese girl that I was talking about" in a really rude tone.
I've experienced racism since I got to US which is in 4th grade and I'm still experiencing it everywhere I go and I'm in 9th grade right now. No one understands that being racist against a person is really hurtful and they won't know because they haven't experienced it. I've told her that she may think it's funny but it really isn't and i've said some things that I shouldn't have. But I really can't take this anymore because she's geting her friends to join in against this ridiculous thing against me and I'm really just about to cry and I don't know what to do.
I can't ignore her because then she goes onto say "Oh, that chinese girl is deaf" or something like that and it's just hard not to get upset over it. My friend knows this and she saw me almost cry several times within the last week. What do I do about this situation? I don't wanna do what she's doing to me and I don't want to sink down to her level. Suggestions?
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Aw I'm from south korea too, I was adopted though, I came here when I was just a babay. Tell on the, despite how childish that sounds, just do it. I really do understand how hurtful it is when people mistake us for like a different race like "oh arent you like chinease or something?" I think that is so rude too. I mean .. they only assume that we are, because we have similar characteristics. But its wrong, and I know how you feel. I think they forget how hurtful that is, and think we dont have feelings. Talk to a school counsular, or the principal, racism should and is NEVER to be allowed. Thats horrible. If you would like to talk to me, feel free to IM me at Kaylehmae on aim, or add me on msn Lover_109432@hotmail.com I'll be there if you want to talk, or just send me some more stuff on my column to my inbox or whatever.
Anyways, I think you are being a great person, by not sinking to her level. People sometimes are just really stupid, and dont care about if they are hurting someone or not. Do the right thing by still being polite, but do tell on her.
I hope things go good hun. &that they get better.<3
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Hmm... I wouldn't take the casual approach to this and sue for everything she's got, but you should definately tell the school administration. I hear ya on what you said about them not understanding it cause they will never experience it.
What I've done is just to push it off, like not to show that it hurts or that it gets to me. Sometimes I would try to laugh, not to let them know they are funny, but to show them that they can't laugh at me. Try those things, it could work for you.
No offense to you or anything, but you could just slap her across the face with a score report showing that you got 500 pts higher than her on the SATs. Haha. I live in NY, which is diverse so I'm used to encountering all kinds of people, especially a wide range of Asian people (that basically dominate the SATs). When you have so many different people that there is no majority, then making fun of some ethnic backround or race is just pointless because by looking at how different everything is, you realize just how the same it is after all. Yeah I know, sounds kinda weird.
Don't follow up and treat her the way she treats you. Like you said, its sinking down to her level. I would talk to a teacher or counselor at school - they are pretty serious about an issue like that, so it is important to bring it to their attention. And don't worry about what she might say for getting yelled at. Let her know that what she is doing is racist and hurtful, that she can't go on doing so. If after that warning she continues or makes it worse, then find somebody to take care of it. Don't let it get to you, because think about it: a person as shallow as that just mirrors the low value their thoughts/comments say. Hope that helped and good luck.
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I'm having a hard time putting this into words w/o this becoming too long. I have no doubt you are hurt and offended by what she has said, but I have my doubts that she is herself racist and not simply a mean-spirited teenager that is simply having a field day being able to elicit reactions ranging from anger to crying by simply using 'racist' terms. Is she mean and spiteful? From what you've said, yes. Racist? Thats a harder call. While its a fine-line between being ignorant and simply saying things to hurt someone else, and truly being racist, there is a line. She might just KNOW that these things hurt your feelings, and as many teens can be incredibly wicked and cruel, she is saying these things for no other reason than to be mean. Just like many teens call each other 'Gay', or 'Fat', or 'Ugly', the list goes on and on - if there is something that will hurt your feelings, chances are someone will say it to you at some point.
I would bring this up not only for your sake, but for hers as well. You simply fighting with her will reinforce the racist terms and ideas, and that will be counter-productive. Get your parents involved, then the school.
I would advise you consider doing 2 things. First, talk to your parents and discuss going to school officials. Your parents are perhaps the fist people you should go to, bar none, in something like this. If your parents feel that the school should be contacted, then you can go to that next step with your parents, and I assure you they carry far more weight with school officials than you do alone.
Second, I would advise that you try to ignore this girl, and try not to take these comments to heart. First, no matter where you go in life, you'll likely end up running into this kind of thing at some point or another, and you will have to deal with it over and over. If you let it bother you overly much, or at the very least LET OTHER PEOPLE SEE THAT IT BOTHERS YOU, you are in for a very long road in life. There is simply a lot of mean, cruel people that will say anything to hurt you emotionally. You don't have to like them, you don't have to respect them, but if you let them see you cry or be hurt, then they'll know you are vulnerable and they'll do it again, and again, and again. I'm not saying that you should cower and run, what I am saying is to hold your head high and don't let them see that you can be brought low by the words they use.
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wow that's just really rude. You definitely need to tell the school administation. That's just verbal harrassment and she can get into a lot of trouble for that.
If she keeps saying stupid stuff like that, just ignore her. She obviously has nothing better to do than try to raise her own self-esteem by trying to make fun of other people.
If you want to really get her about it though, next time she does that, start speaking korean to her. Then say "Do you understand?" She wouldnt be able to understand and just look stupid. Then you can point out "btw that was korean." Or if she says something like "DO YOU UNDERSTAND" you can just say "yeah, i understand... i understand that you're retarded, what have you been learning in school? How to be racist?" But honestly, i would do that but you wouldnt want to do that... but seriously, people like that are just jerks and stupid. Dont take that kind of talk from her.
I hope i've helped but you can always message me for more help if you need it :)
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Gurl if this was me .. id be all up in her face .. dont take her shit <3
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honestly,
if youve already told her to just leave your alone or such, than she clearly has nothing else better to do. so you should know you are a better person than she is, but if she says something else to you , you should just say something like,
you clearly have nothing better to do , do you?
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just give her a funny look, and walk away..i know it seems hard and easy at the same time but it will just make her look like an idiot. hope i helped, and if it didnt
just tell me and ill try to help more :)
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Tell the school administation. Constant badgering like that is considered harassment and it is subject to action being taken againts the said person.
If it is bothering you that much, seriously take it up with the school office and see how well she likes getting punished for being rascist.
I hope I helped.
-Ryan
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