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what the heck is wrong with me?????
Alright this is the very first time i even discussed the this anywhere either in person or online. so here goes. Im a 38 year old truck driver. I live in Maine. I have trouble speaking to strangers. I drive all week alone by myself and usually spend the weekend home alone. I dont like being alone. but I cant seem to talk myself into going out. I dont believe im looking for sympathy. Im looking for motivation. I dont do well around large crouds of people and starting up conversations is Very uncomfortable for me. Im unmotivated unless it comes to my job. i hardly ever finish anything i start unless it comes to my job. I am a very disorganized person. Personally I think my self esteme is quite low. I know i have problems and issues but it all seems so overwelming that i dont know what to do so I dont do anything and thats not getting me anywhere. Making decisions is very difficult for me. However I feel i am very intelligent. I have tried without success to help myself and am getting nowhere quite rapidly. I have medical insurance but dont know where to go or who to see. Or if thats even covered. Please just help me get going in the right direction.
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hmm maybe you should try going to a councler,they will talk to you and teech you how t get comfortable around peopl and even just talking to one councler will help you alot .Just give it a try.Your missing out on the world
let me know how it all works out
lots o love,lizzie
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I don't think you need a doctor. If you have enough sense to admit that you're unhappy and wanted advice here, you've got enough sense to make yourself get up and go out and be around people.
When I first moved to this city I was alone for about a year, I had nothing to do, I didn't know how to make friends. Then I joined a non-profit group and did a lot of volunteer work for them, and made some friends there, and it sort of taught me how to get out and talk to people. It really changed me. So that's what I'd recommend... find a group that needs help, and use your alone time on the weekends to make a difference. If you're religious, find out what you can do for a church. If you're not, go feed the homeless at a kitchen or stack shelves at a food bank. It'll keep you from being alone and getting stuck in your own head about your situation. And while you're truck driving, listen to talk or news radio so you've got interesting things to tell people, that'll help you be more interesting in conversations.
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Ok, well i dont have any recources for finding a doctor
but i can say this
you seemed like you are way to involed with your job
i mena, maybe you just need some you time
time to just figure things out
maybe you could take a break or go on vacation
i do think that you should get a doctor
but i think alot of this you will have to figure out on your own
maybe you should practice being around people
i think that you should come out of the shadows and open u[ to the world
i kno that you are alot older than me
but that doesnt mean that i dont get life
ive been stressed and confused about things before
and i seriously think that you shohuld get away
and practice meeting people
and getting to know people
you will be alot happier
and alot less alone
good luck
i rele hope that this helps
dont be nervous to talk to people
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Do you have a family doctor? A local clinic you use? Because those are fine places to begin. In fact, those are the right places to begin, because they are the ones who have information on the resources available in your own community. The first step in seeking help is normally the hardest, but if you can reach out the family doctor, they will help you take the next steps. They might also check things like your blood and urine. Physical conditions can have a huge effect on your mental state, and they will want to rule those out, or help you get treatment for the physical issues, so you can work on the other issues without that interfering.
I wont overwhelm you with anyother tips or tricks at the moment. Just make an appointment with your doctor, or any family doctor. Don't be put off if they seem clinical or impersonal: This sort of thing is difficult for you, but it is a cakewalk for them. They simply need to make sure there is nothing physical holding you back, and then help you pick the right kind of resource and give you a referral.
Depending on the kind of services or counseling they refer you too it may or may not be covered by your insurance. Regardless, it will be a damn good investment I promise. If money is an issue though, mention that to the doctor.
Please come on back if there is anything we can help with.
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This is just my opinion about your situation, but maybe since you spend so much time alone, you dont really know how to act around other people? Not that you are scared or anything to be around family or friends, but you are used to being alone. A lot of people also struggle with talking to strangers, and just meeting new people in general, because well - its difficult for some. Since you are putting yourself out there to people who dont know you and you dont know them. And their first instinct will be judging you. I, on the otherhand can talk to anyone really, it doesnt bug me. It used to though, I used to be shy. Although you are quite older than me, we all have things we can teach each other. What I've learned in my short period of 16 years is when you are meeting new people, shake their hand, or say hello and look directly in their eyes. (yes it gets better with practice) smile, ask them how they are doing, hows life, if anythings new, talk about the news, dont talk about yourself a lot, because people remember that, and if you can make them smile or feel good about themselves they will want to talk to you again :)
Also the crowds thing, sometimes its just creepy, once again to be surrounded by people you dont know. But its a learning process and it takes time and practice, smile, and be polite.
This is also going to sound probably stupid, and it sounds like you wouldnt do this anyways, but for the being disorganized and unmotivated, I encourage making a list, sticking it to the fridge, and fulfilling what it says. Make a list, to organize things that need to be organized. Write what you still need to finish, cross it off when you are done and reward yourself with something you dont get to do a lot, or that you would enjoy.
I dont know why but I'm growing up so far with a very high self esteem and confidence, but I find what helps is having friends who support you and encourage you in what you do. I'm sure you have friends, try asking some of them for advice too, for help. Talking to a friend helps more than anyone knows. They relieve a whole lot of stress.
And for the indecisive you, I suggest, thinking about what you have to choose, and choose it. Whatever happens- it happens, and it was supposed to be that way. I hope I helped in some way, good luck.
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