I finally updated my picture, I thought it was time for an update on it so I picked my favorite picture. After all, my previous picture was almost 2 and a half years old!
My name is Ryan. And I will answer most everything you want to ask to the best of my God given ability.But I will not sugar coat any answer and I will give MY advice. I don't care about my ratings, so don't think giving me a 1 for an answer you don't want to hear will scare me. And if you already know what you should do about a sitaution, don't come to us here at advicenators asking for a second opinion. And here below is a list of questions you should NOT ask on advicenators. Granted some of them may vary and be acceptable, but overall don't ask the below questions on Advicenators.
**Don't ask questions like "OMG i heard this song on the radio with "insert pointless pop lyrics here" and i wanna know what it is so what is it! Thanks!! I rate 5sssss! hearts". This question can be simply googled with the lyrics, or you need only ask a friend
**Don't ask "ok so there is the hott guy/gal in my class and he/she like got me a *insert gift or simple trinket here* do you think he/she likes me?" This is the most common question here on this website sadly. Unless it is vitally important and actually pertains to a feeling of true feelings, don't ask it. This is most asked by teens. And what teens need to learn is "love" is not thinking a guy/girl is sweet and hott and nice. I know love, and it is so far from all those things. Remember Cicero when he said "Out of all the emotions, love is the most violent. Love is madness."
**"Ok so me and my boyfriend had sex last night and we like used no protection omg he came in me do you think i am pregnant?" Ugh. Stupid teens and their hormones. IF YOU HAVE SEX YOU ALWAYS RUN THE RISK OF PREGNANCY, UNLESS YOUR STERILE. And if you don't know anything about sex, you shouldn't be doing it. Even if you "love" your partner, half the time this is a disallusion and you will end up hurt. Sex is for marriage.
**Or asking what's "in" for fashion, or what they should wear out tonight. Or what is "cute" and what looks good. Pick and choose for yourself what you like, think for yourself instead of trying to let other people do it for you. Stand up and be yourself.
These are the most common questions I have seen on Advicenators. Now there are a few questions that are very good questions and deserve the 3 rating and the best answer possible. But they are usually blocked out with the kinds of questions listed above. If you want to ask something, check the following off that I am listing.
1.Does the question pertain to anything important or trivial?
2.Is proper grammar used?
3.Is the question long and in one paragraph?
4.Is it a question that you yourself can answer?
5.Is there enough detail?
Following those 5 guidelines, you can write a good 3 point answer. That about wraps it up.
I spend alot of time online and here on advicenators, so if you ever need anything then just send something in my inbox or IM me. I'm not opposed to helping people at all, in fact I love doing it. I just want some people to wake up from asking a stupid question.
Thank you all for your time.
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how do u seen virus to people?? by email!! (link)
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Why do you want to know?
And I am pretty sure you meant "send" instead of seen. I am pretty sure sending viruses via email is considered a malicious attack on a computer and is againts the law.
-Ryan
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I need to use a Floppy Disk for a project, and have come across a simple yet perplexing problem; which was and which side up do you put the floppy in? Do you keep the part with the circular part up? Do you stick it in the direction that the metal part is on?
Help would be appreciated! (link)
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the part with the rectangular metal part goes upward, the circle goes on the bottom.
I hope I helped.
-Ryan
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ohkay, everyone is telling me that the world is going to end in 4 days (6-6-06) (the devil's number.) I AM REALLY SCARED OVER THIS. I CAN BARLEY SLEEP. im like pettrified. is what they're telling me true or is a myth? and do you believe it? and should i be scared?
thanks guys. (link)
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The end will come when the end comes, only God knows.
Numbers don't give any indication that the world will end. 666 is simply the number of the beast, nothing more.
Yeah it could happen, but then again the world could end a minute after I post this. We as humans don't know when it will end, and our only clue is "it will come like a thief in the night".
I wouldn't worry. Especially if your Christian.
-Ryan
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i REALLY want to shop at a&f and hollister and stores like that. it's not because everyone else does, it's because personally i like there clothes. my parents make me shop at wal mart and it's messing up my social life. i hate wal mart's clothes and shit and my friends ask me why i don't wear the good brands. and it's not like my family can't afford good clothes, because my dad's a multi millionaire. they just don't understand WHY i want to spend so much on clothes. i've made up my mind and don't tell me it doesn't matter what i wear because i'll give you a 1. i need to prove to my parents that shopping at the expensive stores is worth it. and i can't make any money on my own because if i do, my parents say I CANT spend it on a&f and hollister clothes. it's messing up my social life. i wont have friends ever again because i cant wear nice clothes. im done with wal mart so what can i say to my parents so they'll let me shop where i want ?!? i'm old enough to choose where i want to purchase my clothes, especially when my dad was over 1 million dollars.
anything good will get you a 5
i promise (link)
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Ok, so I spotted a contradiction.
"i REALLY want to shop at a&f and hollister and stores like that. it's not because everyone else does, it's because personally i like there clothes". Hence meaning you like those places as a preferance, and not under peer pressure.
BUT..
"my parents make me shop at wal mart and it's messing up my social life. i hate wal mart's clothes and shit and my friends ask me why i don't wear the good brands"
Now you've made it a peer issue.
Personally, does it really matter what you wear? No, it doesn't because in the end your going to outgrow everything and the clothes you wear will only be good so long as they fit, so why bother buying expensive clothes when they are just going to be ruined in the end?
Just because your parents have money doesn't mean they have to shell the money out for your wants. They don't want to spoil you and are trying to teach you a lesson in humbleness and contentment. You would do well to learn from it, just because you have money does NOT mean you have to waste it.
Also, if your "friends" are won't be your friends simply because you can't have the fancy and "good" brands of clothes, then they aren't really your friends. In fact if they will do that to you, then you need to find better friends. Friends aren't measured by how good clothes are or how much money you have. Find friends that will appreciate you, for you, and not the money or the clothes you have.
Social life isn't everything, especially when you are only in high school or close to it (I am assuming you are, since you still live under your parents roof). Learn to be content with what you have, even if you have alot more than everyone else. Your family has been blessed with wealth, don't take it for granted because it can be taken away in an instant.
I'm being very honest with you, and I hope your understanding what I am trying to say.
-Ryan
P.S. I don't care about my ratings, otherwise I would have given you a suck up answer.
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Do guys find is sexy if a girls asks them out? (link)
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Honestly.
The sexiest kind of girl is one who is herself. If it is in your nature to be outgoing and you feel you should, then go ahead.
Either way, it doesn't matter. Asking someone out is trivial whichever way you go. It's what happens afterward in a relationship that matters.
I hope I helped.
-Ryan
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I would like to know what you would do in my situation:
My friend M (17) has always been considered straightedge. Well the other day she comes out and says "I WANT TO DRINK. I FEEL THAT I AM MISSING OUT ON MY LIFE." Now she never told me this. I had to find out through the grapevine. Well then monday night she and my boyfriend B (19) and our other friend T (18) decided to get drunk at my boyfriend's house. Now I got really upset about it. I haven't talked to M about it yet, but I know what she will say "Your time will come when you are out of high school with your liscense and you can do this stuff." I really want to know if I am right in feeling mad at her about it all. As I said she always was like "I am never drinking." Then she came out of the blue with all of this.
Thank you. (link)
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I never understood why teenagers would want to go out drinking because they "want" to.
Then again..I never understood while adults did either. It's something beyond me I suppose. Or maybe I don't see the point in it.
I would be mad to find out if one of my friends was drinking because they were "missing out on life". Your friend is 17 and most likely has several decades of "life" left to live. Being 17 means you havn't lived life, you've lived through birth.
There is always a time for everything, and teenagers are not missing out on adult things such as drinking, sex, and drugs by doing them at younger ages. If they seriously want to do them, then they can wait and see where "life" takes them. I'm not supporting any of it, I'm just saying that it is stupid for teenagers to think living life is drinking and the like. It is so much more and to truly expierence it, you have to be older.
Bring this up with your friend and make her seriously think about it. Ask her why she wants to drink, and tell her "missing out on her life" isn't a reason. Because I will bet she can't give a good reason to drink. You need to make your friend (and even your boyfriend and T) realize there really is no point to it. What does it leave them with?
A hangover and some mad friends.
Make them all realize this. Your justified in your anger, now act on it and make your friend realize what happened. Also bring up her saying she never wanted to drink to. Make her think about it all and talk to her.
I hope I helped, and good luck. Hopefully something will change.
-Ryan
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Well, my friend "Sarah" likes this boy named "Jason" in our youth group. She made it clear that he is her territory, though he doesn't like her like that at all. My friend "Kia" is "Jason's" brother, who is my best friend. She told me that "Jason" likes me, and I like him. The sad thing is, our youth group strictly is against dating, so it wouldn't really go anywhere even if we tell each other.
So what it all boils down to is, "Sarah" doesn't know I like "Jason", and I'm going to keep it that way. I just don't want her getting mad at me when we flirt with eachother ((b/c we do ALOT)). I don't want to make her mad, but I don't think she should run my life just b/c she likes him.
What do I do?!! (link)
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No one can really "call" a guy or girl.
Even more so if one of the persons involved does not like the other.
My honest opinion is that you shouldn't care if Sara "says" Jason is hers. He doesn't like her like that, so why should you be tied down on her imaginary fancy? You decide who to like and who to date, not her.
And there are ways around the dating issue. Youth group can't directly say you can't date or can't like someone, they can only influence it. And if they get in a fuss over it and discriminate againts it, then it shows what good youth group they are.
It's fine to oppose it, it is not fine to restrict it.
You follow your own heart and mind on this. My advice is to simply do that and don't let others lead you where they want it to go.
I hope I helped, and good luck with everything.
-Ryan
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well,my friend gets really sad and worried about things she shouldn't get sad over. She is sad and questioning if she will ever find love. She just thinks all the guys out there are perverted freaks. yeah so i tell here she will but she doesn't listen what should i do?
Thanks, Tamia (link)
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If an age is given, I can give a better answer.
But since age is not given, I can't do much with it. Because if your friend is a teenager, then I already have the answer in my head, but if she isn't, then I have a slightly different answer.
When the answer is updated, I'll give either answer.
-Ryan
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i recently learned i am pregnant. so far, im thinkin its prolly a month and a half along. im 16, and there is NOOOOOOO way in the world i can have this baby. theres no way in the world i can tell anyone my boyfriend of over a year got me pregnant. my family's real good friends with his, and things just wouldnt be pretty. also, both our families are real religious and would drown us in all the 'sex before marriage is a sin' stuff. well, fact of the matter is, since we havent told anyone about it yet- i havent gone to a doctor. i know youre supposed to get prenatal care the second you find out youre pregnant- but i cant bring myself to tell anyone, and truthfully- i really dont want to have this baby. i will NOT have an abortion, but i think i might be having a miscarriage, or about to be having one. i have all of the symptoms. i guess my questions are;
1. how do i tell people?
2. how do i know for sure if im having a miscarriage?
and 3. am i a horrible person? (link)
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It's your fault for getting pregnant.
And quite honestly. Your going to HAVE to tell both families this happened and work it out from there. While I applaud you for not wanting an abortion, I think your only real feasible option if the baby is born to put it up for adoption, since you "can't" have this baby.
Well if you can't have it, then you should have thought of that before you got pregnant.
You need to tell your family the truth and work it out with them. See a doctor about possibly troubles and then find a way to put it up for adoption or raise it as your own.
And most of all, think next time before you have sex. You say you absolutely cannot have the baby, so next time remember that.
I'm being honest with you. Good luck.
-Ryan
*edit*I did answer your questions. I told you that you needed to tell your family and to go to the doctor to check for a miscarriage. And if you were horrible, I would have made a mention to it.
Read my answer and realize what I said.
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at school their is this guy that i like and we are very close to each other.but he called me a hore for no reason!what does that mean ? (link)
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Just randomly?
If so, then I don't know. He could have been kidding or he could have been serious. But honestly I don't have enough information to tell exactly what that means.
-Ryan
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I have an odd obsession with languages. I get very excited about learning them but do you think it's a bad idea to learn more than one-two at a time?
I'm going to take German next year so I'm trying to remember the basics and such.
My boyfriend is taking Spanish and so I am also trying to learn some of that.
But before any of this... I was already studying Portuguese, Japanese, Chinese, Korean and Russian.
I love all languages.. But I'm pretty sure it's not good to learn all at the same time..
So which ones do you think is easier to learn and I should stick with for now? (link)
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I have your same obsession, only I have very little time to actually study them on my own.
I am a second year German student and before that I had studied latin in my own time.
I would suggest latin. It may "seem" dead, but you can find alot of practicle uses for it. Many of the languages you listed are descended from the original latin language and many words in English are from latin.
Also I would suggest Spanish, simply because (if your in America) you will need it for basic communication in about 5 years, which is sad to me.
That and you can simply keep a very small pace on any language you want to learn, but put more time and effort in 1 or 2 primary languages. So you get the expierence of all of them, while stil learning what you need to learn from your primaries.
I don't keep much tabs on the modern languages, I like dead or ancient languages better. Which is why I put some focus into learning ancient latin and greek. But that's just me.
I hope I helped, and good luck with your studies. I'm glad you really enjoy the languages.
-Ryan
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Is Gerard Way gay or bisexual or straight?
P.S. He's the lead singer for My Chemical Romance if you didnt know.
Please help. (link)
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Consult the oracle.
Either way it's a mostly crappy band.
-Ryan
*edit* I answered your question perfectly, by giving you the means to find the answer yourself.
Seek your own answers and don't rely on others to get them for you.
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i wanna die in my sleep. help. (link)
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See a psychologist if your serious.
And if this is a prank, GETF off the internet.
Either way you need help, seek it.
-Ryan
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hola- im 13, f
well my boyfriend and i have been going out for 7 months, almost 8 and the relationship has been going fine. . .
i wanted to break up with him before the summer because i usually meet new people. i have this feeling that the longer we stay together, the harder its going to be to break up. i want to do it during school but idk when and how. like, what should i say without making it hurt? i'd perfer to talk to him personally but will he feel better if a friend tells him? and when is a good time to do it? (link)
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It's going to hurt either way.
You want to break up with him simply because you think your going to meet more guys this summer? Shame, aparently your relationship isn't that deep or commited.
Do it as soon as you can if your seriously wanting to go through with it. Do it yourself and do NOT have a friend tell him.
And then if you do break up with him, do not get another boyfriend, because chances are if you broke up with him because you meet "new people" then you're probably going to do it again. Your just going to end up hurting another guy. And if you ultimately decid to stay with him now, seriously reconsider your relationship.
I'm being honest. A relationship isn't anything if your willing to drop it all for "new people" you MIGHT meet.
-Ryan
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There are these kids on my bus and they talk about things that are just egregious like “hanging all of the n****r*”, “shooting all of the f*g*”, and lighting living animals on fire and watching them suffer. How can I let them know that this behavior/ talk is unacceptable? I don’t care where you come from, this behavior is insane. It makes me feel uncomfortable and upset. There is an African-American boy on my bus and it is just so terrible to watch all of this happen in front of him. These kids are about 12 to 14. I didn’t know that people could be so wicked at all, let alone so young. How can I handle this situation??
Thank you
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I commemorate you for atleast wanting to take a stand. Because alot of people today will not.
Honestly, if I can say for myself, I would stand in front of the whole bus and call them out. Let everything they do be known and let your opinion be heard.
And if they don't like it, tough. It is wrong and in this case, you really need to stand up and say something and get them called out on it. You may not earn social points, but you will be calling them out and letting your opinion be heard. And that is what you really need to do it let it be known and let your opinion be heard.
Terrible the way kids act today..absolutely notrocious. I hope I helped, and good luck.
-Ryan
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ok so a little while ago i accidentaly told this perverted-big-mouth kid (we will call him "p") about my rapes..(yes rapes) ON TOTAL ACCIDENT!! and he told his buddy.."m"..and "m" has an even bigger mouth..now i already know that "p" told people..but "m" was being especially nice to me..we used to be friends until this incidint..now my question..what do i do when they tell the whole school about my rapes?and how do i get "p" to stop talking to me!?
IM CONVO BETWEEN ME && "P" (i changed his sn around)
Buccaneeirs ATW: HORE
CutiSammy: yeah
Buccaneeirs ATW:HAHA YOU WERE RAPED!
Buccaneeirs ATW:AND THE WHOLE SCHOOL NOS!
CutiSammy:who was raped?
Buccaneers ATW:dont play that game i got the convo.
Buccaneeirs ATW:HAHA
CutiSammy:coolness
Buccaneeirs ATW:dont try to hide it i saw u cryin and mark told me wat happened.
CutiSammy:WTFFF??
Buccaneeirs ATW: haha
CutiSammy: ummm byee
like ive TRIED denying it but hes not stupid..so anything at all would help!! (link)
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Promptly castrate them for their rudeness.
Then you need to talk to someone you know and trust about this. What they did is indeed horrible, but you need to work around it. Talk to a counciler, your parents, or anyone you can to get this to stop. Because nothing is going to tell the school how serious this is than the two idiots who decided to tell everyone getting punished for what they did.
I hate people who do that. Talk to someone and get them what they deserve. I hope I helped, and good luck.
-Ryan
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me and my bf had sex about a week ago. i dont even know if you can call it sex though. like he couldnt put it in me. but anyways i am late on my period. he was wearing a condom except he took it off and was messing around and a lil bit of sperm fell on my vigina. could that mean i am pregnant? i had my period 4 a day and then it stopped and i started having discharge a lot of it. i need some help. i am scared and dont know what to do. (link)
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Well if your scared, then maybe you SHOULDN'T HAVE DONE IT.
It's to early to tell. But if you are for some odd reason, then you have to live with your regret.
But hopefully you aren't.
Either way, use this event to think next time.
THINK. That is all I have to say.
-Ryan
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even though lunch isn't a lot i see them in the halls and after school i talk to them and hang out with them after school btu not with the b/f. yeah friends may come first but would i freind ask you to give up your b/f i mean honestly (link)
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If the boyfriend/girlfriend is a bad influence, or dragging too much of your time, then they should.
And I can speak on that because I have a friend who spends almost ALL his time with his girlfriend, and we only get lunch with him.
And we've told him time and again to split his time, but he just won't, even when his girlfriend is rude, moderatly conceited, and just not nice to look at.
In some cases, it becomes necessary to ask for either the boyfriend/girlfriend or your friends.
-Ryan
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what of that guy is super cute then could i neglect its not like i was totally leaving them out or anything i would eat lunch with them and stuff (link)
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Doesn't matter, your friends come first (if this question is refering to the question I answered yesterday on the boyfriend/friends issue)
Lunch isn't nearly enough time spent with them.
And in case it isn't related to that question...well then I have no idea what your question is.
Either way, I would recommend proper typing lessons, I had a bit of trouble trying to decipher that.
I hope I helped, for whatever the hell question it was you were asking. If I am wrong, please, but all means, send another question.
-Ryan
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first of all,im not gonna have sex with him,second of all yes i may be 13 but i know what love is,and i know im inlove with him.the question is how do i handle the situation if he comes on 2 me how do i reject him,i dont wanna be mean (link)
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Which part of your answer asked how to reject him?
Because I missed it...
Just say no, if he gets mad then obviously his "love" is lust, which I wouldn't doubt anyway. It's your choice, not his.
Just say no.
-Ryan
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