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Friend problem
well,my friend gets really sad and worried about things she shouldn't get sad over. She is sad and questioning if she will ever find love. She just thinks all the guys out there are perverted freaks. yeah so i tell here she will but she doesn't listen what should i do?
Thanks, Tamia
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tell your friend their would besome good guys and some bad ones. when the right one come shell know but dont get sad and depressed over something you have no control of.. I learned that love always come when you least excepted so tell her to stop looking for it.
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instead of giving her an answer she won't believe in.. and you obviously want to support her like a good friend... try to get her mind away from that topic. it would be challenging, and you can't seem desperate to change the subject. your friend just needs help being reminded that life isn't all about finding love and boys. good luck <3
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I'm afraid there isn't really a lot you can do about it except try to reassure her.
What she is going through is typical of what just about every woman out there goes through at some point in life, on at least one occasion. There gets to be a point where you have had SO many bad relationships and/or have met SO many awful guys that would never treat you right that you just think "This is it. I'll be a spinster for the rest of my life!" But as far as I am concerned, there is someone out there for EVERYBODY and if you can't find any of the decent guys then you just aren't looking in the right places.
For example, I had a friend who could NOT find a decent guy. She met guys who went through her and she never saw them again and it was awful. She was a mess. But the problem was she was finding these guys in bars and clubs and other such unsavoury places and the truth is, if you look in places like that, you will seldom find guys who will treat you properly. These are the sorts of men who like to go out, get drunk and hit on women. In my experience at the very least, men like this end up being commitment phobic, posessive, drunkards or womanisers.
If your friend wants to meet someone she can truly have a real relationship with, she needs to look places where men will go when they aren't just trying to 'hang out with the lads' or get drunk or hit on random women. She needs to join a club for something she is interested or try something new. Get a job if she doesn't have one already or go to a different area if she does.
She also needs to stop generalising that all men are perverted freaks because all the negative energy she will be giving off is going to scare away any decent bloke that comes her way. So tell her to relax and focus on other things in her life because having a man is NOT everything. Then encourage her to try something new where she may meet men but she will have a lot of fun even if she doesn't.
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If an age is given, I can give a better answer.
But since age is not given, I can't do much with it. Because if your friend is a teenager, then I already have the answer in my head, but if she isn't, then I have a slightly different answer.
When the answer is updated, I'll give either answer.
-Ryan
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