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Okay well my boyfriend and I have been going out for 1 month now. Well we're not very close and there are certain things i want him to do but i dont know how to tell him. Everyone says i should just tell him or whatever, but i dont want to. And i can't really hint at him because hes kind of oblivious sometimes lol. And im like not in his profile and when he signs on or i sign on im always the one to IM him. What should i do? How do i get the word across to him of what i want him to do? I just want him to you know hug me and you know...lol just be close with me. Yeah i know that sounds retarded. So I'll rate really high for good answers thanks soo much for your help ♥

pff that doesn't sound retarded. everyone wants that. i think you should tell him all of this so he gets the hint & that way he can do what you want him to without looking stupid haha =) he shouldn't have a problem with it & if he does then dump him & find someone else because he is your bf & yeah.

-hope that helped!♥

Im 12 && Female.
My boy friend is 13. Me and Him have been dating for 2 years. We've had the best relationship ever. He doesnt get Jealous easily, I dont either. We buy gifts all the time, and Hang out alot. We "study" together. We've only gone as far as making out.. But a few days ago on the phone, he said he wanted to go a step further, but I told him, Im too young && not ready for that. He told me, if i wanted to be with him any longer I'd do it. Then i hung the phone up on him. i dont want to do it. Im not going to, But i feel so empty inside, Its crazy. I never heard him talk to me like that. We havent talked for 2 days. I dont know if i should call him, Im scard to call.

no don't because you need to decide what you want. you can't do something you don't want to because you don't want to regret it. you're too young & so is he. call him & tell him that if he cared about you enough, you guys can stay together & not go 'sexually' further in the relationship. if he cares about you enough he'll agree & it'll be fine. if he tells you that he still wants to go further & won't listen then juss dump him because if he truly cared he wouldn't do that to you.

-hope that helped!♥

i tore my acl about 4 weeks ago in the beginning of december .. i get surgery jan. 3 .. and if anyone has gone through with tearing their acl and getting surgery i would like to know how much pain it is afterwards and idk just more about it .. thanx

i never tore my acl, but a lot of my friends have & it obviously is really sore after you get the surgery & you can't really do anything for a few days. here's a website-

http://kalsey.com/2004/11/acl_surgery_and_recovery/

that's actually like a 'journal entry' about a guy who did tore his acl & it tells you all about the surgery & recovery.

here's another site-

http://orthopedics.about.com/cs/aclrepain/a/acl_2.htm

that juss gives more information about it.

-hope that helped!♥

Hello there,

I'd like to thank whoever is gonna give me advice in advance.
Anyway, I've always had this problem:
I'm the president of the Student Council, and honestly I expected people, including my friends, to be happy for me.
However, two of my friends ( a boy and a girl), who are also on the Student council, started rumors about me being a show off and reminding the teachers about the homework, eventhough it's not true.
The boy's girlfriend is on the Student Council too, and I wanted to ask for her opinion about something. And as soon as I even opened my mouth, he cut me off! And stupid me didn't say anything! Not "Please man, I'm talking to her", nothing!
And on the same day, we had a "crazy dress up" competition and the Student Council members had to judge.
I was dressed as a gypsy, and was wearing a red shirt, red bandana, and red sandals. So from the beginning of the day, he keeps trying to provoke me: "Is it Valentine's day today or what?"
All I said was "What do you have against me?" and I walked away from him.
And in front of everyone, EVERYONE, he practically yells at me saying: "This crazy dress up must've been your idea!"
I just stared at him and walked away again.
And guess what? The crazy dress up day wasn't my idea! It was the other girl's idea and he would've known if he was even paying attention in the meetings! And guess what else? I didn't say that to him!

So my question is: How can I show this guy, whom I've known for almost 5 years, that he's being immature and is disrespecting me and hurting my feelings? :(
And how can I tell the other girl that I know what she's been saying about me?

juss tell him that. he seems like a complete jerk anyway so don't pay attention to him. he really seems immature & juss tell him all this & then ignore him. he's not gonna be any more mature about it so you can't expect anything better from him. maybe you should explain to the other people on student council about it, but maybe not his gf because she'll probably be on his side anyways. they might all take your side & try to talk to him about it. if not juss ignore him because he's immature.

-hope that helped!♥

Well, this guy who I had thought I knew..
I loved him, things were going good, until he got a myspace. OKAY heres the thing, first of all - girls commented his pictures saying stuff like "omg your so hot" and etc, and he cmmented them back and their pictures, NEVER me. but thats besides the point, then one time he never logged on to his myspace for long time... and blah oneday i clicked a link in his aim profile which lead to his friends band sight, and then i saw a comment from HIM, but it wasnt the myspace i knew. I went to it..it was a whole different one, and it showed him online.. and shit like that, and also he had way more friends, all would fall under the label 'emo,scene' etc. & his music genre was music he told me he never heard of.
So either he's A> big poser. B> Big liar. C> BOTH. i choose C. but ugh it hurt so much to find all this out about someone i thought i knew. i'm going to avoid him everyday i sent him a message saying he hurt me, and that i hope he has a good life. because it hurt way to much, and i hate him.
any advice.. or anything about the situation? how i should get over him, i know people have said stuff ot get over a ex, scream,hang out with other people, date other guys, but i loved him so much iwouldnt want to hurt him, even though he hurt me and thats a flaw within me, beacuse i should want to hurt him..

myspace can become really addictive haha =) he probably juss got into it & since he got all those comments from girls saying he was 'hott' he probably juss felt better about himself. it was wrong what he did so juss talk to him about it & move on.

-hope that helped!♥

Okay, I like this guy, and he plays on my brother's hockey team. I think he's TOTALLY hott but he's a year younger than me. He's 12 and I'm 13. But I really like him and stuff.. We've stayed at hotels together for tourneys and stuff... and we've done crap. But idk if he feels the same way about me as I do about him. Please help!

you should talk to him about it. that way you know if he feels the same way about you er if you guys wanna be together er not. you won't find out any other way unless you talk to him about it.

-hope that helped!♥

Ok, so I've known this guy about 4-5 years; we met through a friend. We've always had a flirtaious kind of relationship, but never really anything more until recently when I've approached the idea. We both went to different schools and hes 2 1/2 years older soo group of friends were different. He always seemed to have a girlfriend back in the day or I always seemed to be friends with the girl he wanted. Until recently he had this evil bitch girlfriend who cheated on him and abused him emotionally, but because he was so in love he couldnt see it. He eventually woke up and realized what he was doing to himself and got out of it, promising me and himself not to go back to her. We started getting closer, but then hes been getting shady lately. Picking fights, getting extremely moody over little things I say, just isnt acting himself. Ive asked him plenty of times if he wants more than friends or just benefits, he says more but wont go farther than that. He tells me he loves me and says he thinks about me and cares for me, but he wont take the next step. I don't think I should have to, because I've layed myself out several times telling him how I feel yet he tells ppl I'm the one who is confused... What should I do?? Is he getting moody maybe b/c of the ex is back in the view?? I'm not a guy, I can't read their signals so help me please!!!!

guys can be weird sometimes. you're right though. he's probably acting that way because of his ex. i think what you should do is be straight forward with him. ask him if he wants to be with you er not. yes er no question & that you're tired of waiting around. explain to him that you aren't confused & if he wants to be with you then you guys should be together. he is definately the one that's confused. think about what you're gonna say & go for it. make it easier for him. yes er no question & that's it. if he says yes then you guys will have a relationship, but if he says no then you guys will juss be friends & then you can do w/e you want.

-hope that helped!♥

I don't know if this question has been asked before..but is there any way to see exactly who has visited your myspace? Thanks

no i don't think so. you can only see like how many people looked at it but not exactly who they were.

-hope that helped!♥

Okay well my dad bought me 6 tickets to the Houston Bowl like 3 weeks ago. I asked my best friend, Ryan to go with me the second I got the tickets and he said yes. They were great tickets in the nice, club area of Reliant and my dad got us a limo and everything.

The game was today and after the game we were supposed to go back to his house because he was throwing this big New Year's party.

He called me this morning an hour before we had to leave for the game and said he wasn't coming. I asked him why and he just said "no reason" and hung up. I called him back and asked him what his problem was and if he was mad at me. He told me that if I cared about him the least bit I would know what I did. I thought about it and could not come up with one thing that I did wrong.

At the game the rest of us were talking about it and I told them that if he was going to be like that then why would I go to his party. One of my friends that was there was going to a different party so I said that I would just go to that one since I knew people that were going there too.

Well someone from our Houston Bowl group had called Ryan during the game and told him that I was going to another party. He then called me and cussed me out and everything. I still had no idea why he was mad to begin with so I told him that unless he tells me why he's mad then he can't cuss at me and stuff. After that he just hung up.

What am I supposed to do here? Should I just ignore him until he decides to tell me what the matter is?

17/f

what a loser haha =) no offense. that's soo jerkish because you made the plans & then he juss backs out & cusses you out on top of it. juss let him cool off. after a bit, then ask him what was going on & how you really didn't appreciate him doing that & you had ever right not to go to his party since he didn't go with you to the game & everything.

-hope that helped!♥

itunes on my computer wont open at all so is there any way that i can download songs into my ipod? because right now i have no songs on my ipod and i am desperately needing to find a solution

you can only use itunes. did you try using the cd that came with your ipod?? if not try that, & what you can do is try reinstalling itunes. you can do that by going to start, control panel, add er remove programs & then reinstall it. if not then it might be your computer.

-hope that helped!♥

my itunes wasnt working before because it either didnt open up or it would freeze.. i just reinstalled it today and i tried to open it and it froze once again.. what can i do so itunes will actually open?

hmm do you windows 2000 er windows xp?? im guessing you do but sometimes people have other things so it keeps freezing. okay try going into start, control panel, add er remove programs, & then see if itunes is in there. idk if this is how you reinstalled er what but juss check. if it is then take it out & reinstall & if its not then you did it right, & it juss isn't compatible with your computer. it could also be like the program itself. why don't you try running a virus scan & see if anything shows up. if it isn't any of those things, then it's probably your computer.

-hope that helped!♥

I have told my dad about everything I hate about her but all he said to me was move out I'm still living there but still not happy with the fact that he told me to move out...I am afaid of my dad because I know what he will also do if I talk to him and I get him angry he'll hit me with his belt and that is something I don't want..but my dad went online and met her by looking on one of those sites and the strang thing is that he purposed in two months after and it's been a year now and this problem has carried on for so long I just want it to stop move out of my dads and live with my mom but either way it won't happen so I still not sure what to do

i think you should respect him as much as possible. most kids don't like their parents's bf/gfs so it's definately normal. how old are you?? you could probably make your own decision on how you want to live. try talking to your mom about it. maybe she can get a court date er anything. juss be confident & respect your dad. you should be able to stand up for yourself & if anything happens then talk to your mom about it.

-hope that helped!♥

Hi
I really want my belly peirced, my mum said she'll see is there any way I can perswade my dad???? (Im 13 by the way)

juss tell him you really really want it done. i mean it's not like it's a face piercing & everyone can see it. the most people will ever see it is during the summer & that's only when you're swimming & all of that. it's hidden most of the time anyways. show them that your responsible enough to get it & you'll take care of it.

-hope that helped!♥

I am very angry at my parent's descision. I asked them if I could go to a New Year's Party with a few close friends at her house. I told them that there would be no drinking, no drugs, the parents would be present at the party the whole time, and we wouldn't leave the house. And if they wanted, I could sleep over at her house so that they would not have to leave the house at midnight to come and get me. They said no. I respected their descision, but I asked for a reason. They will not give me a reason. I just don't understand. I am a straight A student, I attend the top highschool in the state, I am very very responsible, I have never lied to them, I have never done anything to loose their trust in me, I have finished all my homework for the Christmas Break a weeks ago so I could go to this. I really want to go to this party, but I don't get why they won't let me go. I have tried asking but everytime I go and ask they get up and walk away. I understand that they just want me to be safe on New Years but they would drive me to the party during the daylight and pick me up during the daylight, it is not as if they were picking me up at night. Should I respect their descision or do you think that I should not give up on my opinion to be allowd to go to the party? Does anybody see why they wouldn't let me go?
Thanks - Sorry if it is long.
14/f

i think it probably doesn't have to do with you. i mean sometimes on new years eve, there's crazy drunken drivers & all, & they juss want to be extra careful ya know?? what if they took you to the party, walked in with you, met the parents ahead of time, & made sure that you stayed at the house until morning?? they probably juss don't want anything to happen. i don't think they lack trust in you, they probably juss lack trust in the people at the party. keep talking to them because they might see your point. if they knew the parents & saw that the parents would be good guardians to you & others at the party, then maybe they'll let you go. if you can't then don't worry about it. maybe you can have friends sleep over er something.

-hope that helped!♥

Does anyone know the average height&weight for a 14 year old girl? thanks

there isn't really an average weight for a 14 year old girl..like it depends on your body structure & your height etc etc. this is somewhat close so you can use this-

http://www.consumer.gov/weightloss/bmi.htm

-hope that helped!♥

Okay, my hair is naturally very wavy, but like..ugly waves. I've tried the scrunching thing countless times and I can't seem to get my hair to look the way it does on other ppl. My hair's very thick, this may be the cause of that, but idk. I use Brilliant Brunette Gel, and Spray. I've tried other sprays, but they left my hair sticky and messy.

Can anyone maybe tell me how LONG I should scrunch my hair for? And how MUCH gel should i use? After I'm done scrunching I usually use my diffuser in about an hour or so, and it dries my hair, but it never looks as wavy as I want it. It just looks like my natural hair, which I don't like. If you think you know what I'm doing wrong, please tell me.

my hair is really really curly & i scrunch it a lot so it doesn't get wavy er frizzy soo i can help you out.

ok first what you do is take a shower. idk if you wanna do it before school, work, w/e. i do it before school & i take a shower in the morning. okay so do that & then after towel dry it. not totally, juss so it's damp & that it isn't soaking wet. then you need hair gel/hair moose. i use hair moose. its called tresemee(idk how to spell it) & it comes in a black bottle w/ green writing. it's not that expensive & you can get it at places like cvs, eckard, er grocery stores in your area. okay so you flip all your hair over and take like a handful and juss start scrunching it & then you flip your hair up & do it that way, etc etc. however you want. i think i scrunch it for about 5 mins er whenever it looks ready.

-hope that helped!♥

16/f

i really want a baby really bad. like i dont want one for "love" like most of those other girls out there but i think i can really do it and raise a child. ive been having dreams for monthes and ive wanted a baby since i was little but down its been driving over the edge. every night i dream about being pregnant and i want it to be real so badly! im not worried about the money or anything like that but mostly how my parents will react. i think i can haddle it and my parents say i am always great with children and i really feel like god wants me to do this or something.

what should i do?

ps i have no man and the father just wont be anyone so im def gonna wait till i atleast find someone but i have to have a baby in hs

i really really think you should wait. you're only 16 & once you have a baby you can't go back. you don't want to regret it & you might think you're ready but you aren't. even if a guy has sex with you, he probably isn't ready for a baby & if he says he is he's probably lying. you can't even afford it. you're only 16. i don't wanna sound mean, but the childs life would be in your hands & you can't mess that up. i'm not saying you wouldn't be a good mother. you're juss too young. you should at least wait until you're married er 18ish. not 16. you need your hs education so you can support your children. maybe you can juss become a really good babysitter & be with kids instead of actually having your own. think about it. God might want you to have a child but i don't think he means at age 16. you should really finish your hs career & then see what you want.

-hope that helped!♥

Anyone know any good MySpace Layout pages? Cute but yet different from the rest type of layouts? :)

♥ ♥

here's a website-

www.createblog.com

they have really cute ones for myspace.

-hope that helped!♥

This has nothing to fitness or anything- just sports. Just plan sports.
Im stupid, really stupid when it comes to sports.
I no nothing- I didn't know till this year the Ravens were football, And they represtent my place, Im from bmore. Its sad.
I want to get into watching sports I WILL NOT PLAY THEM. i just want to watch them. cheer it on, it excites me. But how? I dont know what a foul is, or who to cheer for? how to i become a sports fantic?

well, it depends what sport you wanna watch. i think what you should do is pick a sport & watch. after you watch a games you'll get the hang of whats going on. here's a website-

http://www.everyrule.com/framesets/sportsframes.htm

you can type in the sport you want to learn about & it'll give you some general rules about it so you know what you're doing.

-hope that helped!♥

alright well my name is alyssa and im 14...well this christmas we were supposed to go outta town to pick out our presents and well i thought we were going on a thurs. and i made plans with 2 girls (leanna and emily) well i was at a friends house wed night and i didnt get home till late and i got on the computer and emily popped up...hey thanx for calling leanna back. I was like no one told me she called and so she told me she did and all this stuff and then she asked about our plans we made and i said i couldnt go becuz i was going shopping and she flipped out and now we are in this huge fight for me canceling on them and leanna wont talk to me and i dont wanna say sorry becuz im not...and i still wanna be friends with them they just dont wanna hear me out..they want it to go on....ahh drama drama drama!! i hate it!! since they arnt talking to me...does anyone have a good email i could send them? please and thanx!!

i think you should juss let them cool off. it's kind've stupid because it's not your fault you got back late from shopping er w/e. i think you should juss explain that to them. there's no reason to be sorry either. if they wanna be your friend they'll talk to you. if you wanna send them an email juss explain the whole shopping situation & it wasn't your fault you got back late & they should stop causing dumb drama. they'll get over it & become your friend again.

-hope that helped!♥

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