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Hey Everyone :) I'm Kate and a level 2 mod on here. I've had this account since July 2004, so I've been on here since I was 13! Wow ... crazy for me to think how long ago that was. I will admit I don't check in as often as I once did, but being away at college, being in a sorority, and having a job when I'm not at school is very time consuming. I still try to help out as much as possible, and if you send me a question I WILL answer it. This site helped me a LOT when I was in high school and had a lot of questions, and I'm here to help anyone who needs it :) Feel free to write in my forum or send me a question any time!

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i want to lose 10 lbs in 3 months cuz on my bday i am geting money adn i want to buy clothes but i want to look cute in them i am 118 and i waer size 5 but i am not satisified.oh i am short i am like 5'3 ish.. My question for you is this: A) is that unrealistic? B) anyideas on how i could do that?

thanks a bunch

totally realistic. Do a 5 meal diet. Not actually 5 meals, but breakfast, lunch, snack when you get home from school, dinner, and snack. Don't eat more than that. Unless your snack is a granola bar or something, then you can have an apple or banana. Try eating healthier, or smaller portions. I think you are a fine weight. But 10 pounds in three months is pretty realistic. You can go running, jogging, or walking from anywhere to 10 minutes (running & Jogging) or 30 minutes (walking) But when you excercise, make sure you have at least one bottle of water, just so you're hydrated. Soda, or any other caffiene drink will only dehydrate you. Good Luck putting off, and keeping off the wieght. Happy very early birthday.

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This is a really.. stupid.. question.. but.. here goes anyway:
I want to buy some condoms (im a girl) and i think its kind of embarrassing.. i mean.. i dont want everyone to know im having sex. I cant drive.. and if my sis or parents found out i was buying them.. they would KILL me.. Anyway.. when i work up the nerve to buy them.. whats the best kind to buy... i prefer lifestyles or trojan.. so whats the best.. and cheapest at that.. to buy

thanks!

Well, the kind I would prefer to use, would be torjans, I don't know how much they cost, but you can always get free condoms at the health department, or doctors office. And I'm so glad that even though you are having sex, you are practicing safe sex. Check both you and the guy to make sure neither of you have STD's. Hey, if you're going to have sex, at least have safe sex.

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ok i have a rash on my back, it has little red bumps going all down my spine.. its really ichy and really red! im really scared because i dont know what it is!! PLEASE HELP ME IM SO SCARED!!!!!!
Thanks so much for all y'all who can help!
*mar*

The only thing a bunch of strangers are able to inform you, is to go to the doctor. We know nothing about this, and will not be able to help you any more than saying tell a parent, and have him/her take you to the doctor. Doctors are the experts, not people ages 13^, unless of course some of us are doctors, then you are better off asking them.

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I've just discovered Good Charlotte when i heard "Predictalbe". It's like my favorited song EVER! But i'm wondering if the ther songs on the cd are as good, or better. If anyone has the cd, tell me if it was good. Thanks!

Well, I don't like any of their songs, except maybe Girls&Boys, and the anthem, but if you're a fan, then yea, they're good. I'm just not into that kind of music. I'm a country chick myself. But my bro likes them.

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what do the yellow livestrong braclets mean?? EVERYONE is wearing them but idk wat they mean? lol...

I think the money goes to help cancer. I've also heard they have something to do with the Lance Armstrong Foundation. All my friends have them, and I want some!!!! I think they look cool.

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i have this really inbarrassing rash on my bum and i dont no wut to do!!!!!!! help!!!!!! it burns!!!!!!!!

I have no clue what to tell you. Ice? See a doctor.

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sometimes, my armpits sweat for no apparent reason. I dont even have to run around..and they start to sweat...it leaves these horrible sweat marks underneath my armpits and i dont even want to raise my aroms up...does any one have any ideas on how to stop this??? Oh yeah, and they even sweat when it is cold out!!!

Ummm, well deoderant. If you mean deoderants don't work, then go to a doctor, and they can prescribe some really good stuff. That's about all I can think of for it.

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Ok... I am 14/f and I weigh 100 lbs. My friends think I am anarexic and last year my teacher turned me in for anarexia. I eat, alot, do you think I should she a doctor about my weight.

No. Atleast, don't make an appointment because of it. If YOU are concerned, then next time you go to a doctor, ask them about it. No reason to waste your money to go just for that reason. Atleast that is my opinion.

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i dont know how to word this but when you leave your column how did you set it to fade away and slide down on a slant and stripe it out? if that make any sense. if you understand my question would you please tell me how to do that. Also on other peoples i have noticed how theres was a star that wnet out... how do you guys do that?

If you mean like on my column, then here goes...

http://www.buddy4u.com/view/?x=safe&u=html+.+help#1
^ Go to that site, and on a column, top right, it'll tell you all different things you can do, click on one that you want to do, and towards the bottom middle, or center, then it'll give you codes and stuff.

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ok, why is everyone always asking 'does he/she like me?' i mean, come on, only that person knows!

Halleluijah

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i need some advice please!! on thursday there isnt any school, so me and my boyfriend are planning to go out for a movie, and then over 2 his place. its just going to be us to, and of course we will be doing something! we both are ready to loose it, its just that:

1. im scared i COULD get pregnant
2. im just a lil nervous cause i dont know what to do
3. im sorta of on my period, im bleeding just a tiny, and what if i smell bad?!

We don't have school that day either. Something about veterens day.

1.) There is a possiblity, and if you are still in school, it's not the type of possibility you'd want to risk, unless you're like a senior, and your body is mature enough.
2.) Let him help you with that.
3.) Don't worry about the smell, wash your vagina as good as you can. And just a tip, you're at a higher risk of getting pregnant while you're on your period. SAFE SEX SAFE SEX SAFE SEX SAFE SEX!!! PRACTICE SAFE SEX!!!

If you do have sex, use a condom! Birth control won't help unless you've been taking it for a while. I suggest sticking to oral sex, it's pleasing for both guy and girl.
Oh, and head over to the local health department for some free condoms, and so YOUR BOTH CHECKED FOR STD's. If either of you have an STD, DON'T HAVE SEX!!!!!!!! If he does and you still want to, make sure he is wearing a condom and make sure it fits perfectly so it won't rip. I can't garuntee you anything, but if you're worried about consequences such as getting pregnant, maybe you aren't ready. I mean don't you want the person you have sex with to be the one your with forever?

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Why is giving others mean advice actually considered ***FUN***, yes, it's not a typo, some people considers it fun. However sick and disgusting that is, I would like to know why?

Lets see, they have no lives. All they do is waste their time trying to hurt other people. Don't get me wrong, I think some people are funny. Every once in a while I kind of like ninthgradeguy, or spike357. Some of what they both say can be hurtful, but they do say some funny stuff too. As long as you ignore them, they'll realize that they are not getting to you, and eventually leave. Just ignore it.
But the reason why. Simply, they have no lives or friends because they are constantly on this site. I mean, I have almost no time to update my column. I have to wake up 30 minutes early in the morning so I have time to update, find something to wear, and do my makeup. Right now I'm running late, so I'm going to leave now. They are moronic imbosils with no lives, remember that and ignore them.

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Okay so a few things happened and someway or another I ended up not spending enough time with my old friends and more time with my boyfriend and a new group of friends. It's come to a climax and now I have to choose. My best friends or my boyfriend. I love my boyfriend more than anything on this planet and he makes me the happiest alive. No amount of: friend's come first will change that. I don't know what to do.

there's this one quote, and I can't think of the whole thing, but I know that it ends, When worse comes to worst, my girls cmoe first. Lovers come n go, but true homies are forever!! PICK YOUR FRIENDS! You're only 13, it probably won't last much longer anyways. I mean, you could've been together for the past 6 months, eventually at such a young age, it'll end! CHOOSE THE FRIENDS!

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This might be hard to understand, but Mods please don't delete until I have at least 1 answer! Please...
lately all my friends have been getting into fights, it's a middle school thing i guess. one problem, there is a HUGE fight going opn between this girl who stayed back and my best friend. so the gilr who stayed back is 15 we are all 13 and my best friend and her are in a figt. its a really bad one tho. we've contacted the superintendant of my city to give you an idea of how bad it is. she is concstanly beign harassed and now everyoen else is in minor fights becaus eof the big one, we are falling apart what do i do? i've tried talking it out, is the problem just to big? and my best friend is leaving the school next week : ( help

well, I agree with brianna, the school councilor is the best way to deal. I mean, she'll take everybody involved, and talk it out. I've been in that situation once in 7th grade. It's probably too big for just you, get some adult help in there!(I don't get it about your best friend leaving. Moving, or a new school b/c of everything going on?) Well, get some help from an administrator, councilor, or teacher. Things should settle down soon. Middle school isn't that hectic.

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Hey! I'm the 8th grader that is going out with the seventh grader...Thanks for the advice! But I have another question:he asks me out yesterday right? so i say yes cause hes cool, then whenever he calls me hes all quiet and its awkward, so then today when i see him im all "hey!" and hes like "hey" and he doesnt even hug me! so im feeling all rejected, and i see him again later and once again i say hey and again he doesnt hug me, cause he is flirting with samantha carnival! ughh and if that doesnt make me upset enough, he stands outside with me and loren and emilie and then he just ditches me, and im like "wow i feel loved. so your just gonna ditch me?" and hes all "no". But he did ditch me and it made me sad. Then he comes back after i am almost crying cause i was talking to my friends about "personal business" and he sits with me and like doesnt talk to me and im feeling really awkward, then my frickin step dad calls and i have to go and grant gives me a one armed hug, and i gave him a 2 armed hug. And a 2 armed hug is for ppl you care about and a 1 armed hug just...isnt. People are saying that i should break up with him but i still like him...what do I do?

Ask him if he likes you, or the fact he's dating an 'older woman'. Because you feel he doesn't really care about you, or that he's not as mature with relationships. Talk to him, tell him how you feel. If he blows you off again, tell him that he should be probably dating girls at his maturity level & his horomone level, and you think he's not as serious as you are. Tell him that he makes a great friend, but when it comes to you he's not as good with the relationship. Seriously, just tell him how you're feeling, and ask him if he really wants to date you, and if he cares for you, and if not the relationship is over. Be gentle though, don't crush him!! Hope I helped :)

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my friend smokes. and shes 13. she knows i hate it but still does it anyway. and in front of me too! i reli want her to stop. she stoped for a little while n nows she starting! ive treid everything! i lectured her about ive told the pl seh gets them from to not giv her ne. but its not working! how can i convince her to stop. and dont sey let her live her life the way she wants!

thanks....

Tell her you care, and that you won't be able to be friends w/ her if she won't stop (unless thats not true.) Tell her the least she could do is not smoke around you, then hang around her a lot more to ween her off of it. I know you don't want to hear this, so I won't say it, I'll type it. Let her live her life. The only way to learn is to make mistakes. But when it's 3am and she realizes she made a huge mistake, and comes to you asking for advice, or forgiveness, or help, then HELP!!! If you fought over this, and she comes to you for help, be there. The most you can do is be there. Ask her why she does it. And if it actually get so serious where she's REALLY REALLY REALLY harming herself, ask a teacher abou it. Tell a trusted adult. Tell her fave teacher, tell your fave teacher that you're worried about a friend, and need advice on how to help her. Good luck with this.

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ok so i really want a thong badly, but i have alot of problems
1. what if you have your period
2. my mom wont let me she thinks im not old enough yet, but im almost in high school
3. my friends tease me about it how i am not
wearing one
4. i dont want to sneak a thong in my bedroom i would feel so guilty
what should i do

1.) Tampon, or I heard of some new pad (or maybe it was a tampon) that you can wear w/ thongs.

2.) Okay, um, tell her you'll pay. It's no biggy. You don't want your pantyline showing, and would she rather you go around w/ no panties, or a thong (lol wonder what she'll say)

3.) You can be like, "My mom is sooo strict. I mean come on, how weird can she get." Just one questions for you, how do your friends know? Tell them you've got a thong, and that you'll wear it one day. and give your self a wedgie, buy a a pair of mudd undies, where the only place the don't have a string is under, like they have string sides, pull out a side, and say seeee...?
^Nah, don't lie^

4.) Don't then. I mean unless you're so desperate to have your friends approval or something. It's no big deal. I mean at first they're comfy, then they aren't, then they are. Thongs can get really annoying, the only point in wearing them is so you don't have an underwear line.

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alright, if it helps, im tara and im 14.

i've been cutting myself for some time now. always on my wrist and always in the same general area. whenever its a cold day i wear a jacket, and whenever its hot out i just wear bracelets. nobody has ever noticed or said anything. so last night i was laying in bed and i forgot to put on a jacket. my mom came in and saw my arm and said something like 'what's that?' .. i freaked out and pulled it away and said i was drawing.. and she asked why and i said i couldnt find any paper. she asked me if i wanted to talk about anything so i just yelled no and she left. i dont think she has even heard of people cutting themselves. so this morning i covered my wrist with coverup and a few braclets so that she'd think it really was drawings that had washed off. it was very akward and i tried to pretend nothing happened. all she said was 'is body art a new trend or something?' i dont know if she believes my excuse or not.. what do you guys think? and do you have any ideas of how i can cover these darn cuts up? mucho thanks in advance.

PS: oh and please dont tell me to stop cutting. im working on it, i promise. but its like cigarettes or drugs, you cant just stop. it takes time and effort.. =)

Yeah, I know what you mean. I don't think your mom suspects, and just a hint, if you pick the scabs, then the scars won't go away. If it's hot, but not to hot, wear long sleeves, or a windbreaker type of jacket, so it doesn't make you too warm. Cover up works pretty well. Remember, it's November going into December in a few weeks, I live in NC, and it's been getting chilly, so unless you live in the deep south, it'll be easy to cover up with jackets and stuff. I have cut and still sometimes do. I've talked to a teacher about it, and one time I did it in the middle of class, not really thinking and got sent out with a 'talking to' by a different teacher, who made me go see a councilor. If you don't want your mom or dad to know, DON'T go to a councilor, they're no help, and they call your parents. If you seriously need help, then go to a teacher, and tell him/her that you need to talk to them, but it has to be fully confidential, thats what I did. And now my teacher knows that I won't open up anymore if she says anything(and if she doesn't, she'll learn). I know you're not asking for help on cutting, but, I'm 14, and I know what you're going through. It's hard. So seriously, if you need any help at all, come to me. I can help out of experience. I finally came clean after I made such bad cuts I couldn't cover them. Unless you're seriously trying to kill yourself (which I hope you're not) then try not to hit a vein. If you really hate your life, then PLEASE PLEASE e-mail me at maniac_munchkin@yahoo.com or southern_chickety@yahoo.com though I usually check the maniac_munchkin address. I can help! But for the problem you have, cover up, braceltes. long sleeves, jackets, drawing around it w/ colors the same as your scabs, ummmm... I usually used coverup, or long sleeves and jackets. Please IM me at xo KrAzI KaTe ox, e-mail me at maniac_munchkin@yahoo.com or leave on in my inbox. I am so totally willing to help!!!!!

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i just got a question. where did u get all of ur quotes in ur column?

umm, lets see, I took some of them from my buddy profile (on the main page, I stole from my sis.)

Ummm, let me think a bit. Do you know the hellz angels site?
http://www.hellz-angelz.cjb.net/
and then...
http://www.buddy4u.com/view/page.php?u=xblu3eydbabix&p=6948095
and towards the end, if you hit the back button, there are subpages with quotes. (Somebody had given me a link to their sub profile.)

And, every once in a while I go to www.firehotquotes.com or now I think they've changed it to something like firehotquotes.bolt.com or something of the such.

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ok i'm really tall.... like really tall i'm 5'10 or 5'11 and i'm a girl. I weigh 145lbs and i was wondering if that is healthy.

Extremely healthy. If you are unsure, I don't know if they still have a link, but under the FAQ, they'll have a site something like www.am-I-fat.com, or it's www.am_i_fat.com something like that, but it'll tell you, all you have to do is go to the site, and type in your weight & height, it'll tell you your BMI and if it's healthy or not.

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