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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Okay so my mom and i have always had a semi-close relationship. But she just got a facebook... and she wants me to be her friend on it. I have no problem with the fact she got a facebook, but i kind of need my personal space when it comes to these things. I dont want her to read what i say to my friends and such.... its not that they're bad. It's just that i'm really uncomfortable with it. I told her all of this and she's making me feel extremely guilty, and telling me that i'm SUCH a good daughter for not accepting (sarcasm).
So i really don't know what do do.
Am i horrible for doing this?
What do you guys think?
15/f

I have my mom and other family members as friends on Facebook but then again, I live 2000 miles away from all of them.

Only add your mother if you want to. If you don't want to then don't. Your personal life and your home life are 2 completely different things. Don't feel pressured to do something.

Your mom should be warning you about peer pressure, not contributing to it. :(

My boyfriend's little sister recently got a puppy.

She's getting mad at me because the puppy is getting more attached to me. She always tries to go to me when she gets the chance.

But I don't even play with her really. She just sleeps.

I get to watch her in the morning while his sister is at school. And still, she just sleeps.

And because she's afraid of being alone at night, I have to stay up for most of the night while watching her sleep on my bed. She wakes up every so often.

His sister treats her like a toy most of the time. She also doesn't want me to play with her when she is home and even when she's not paying any attention to her. (Because it's her puppy, not mine!)

And she has come running into my room several times already. Trying to get away from her. I feel bad. She tries to get on the bed and I can't let her.

I'm not sure what to do. It's giving me a headache.

She's not listening to what anyone tells her. She forces her to keep playing even when it's obvious she wants sleep. She keeps her on her lap and doesn't let her move around. And she carries her everywhere she goes (so I can't take her I guess?)

Everyone else tried to tell her to stop doing the things she obviously doesn't like but she doesn't listen or refuses to believe she's doing something wrong.

She's making me feel bad and tells people the dog doesn't really like me, it's just that she likes everything.

Am I doing anything wrong? It's not like I take her away or tell the puppy to run away from her...

I'm not sure how old she is, but she sounds like she's a pretty young kid.

Kids her age tend to be greedy with new things, especially a pet. I'm more than certain that she probably understands the situation, it's just that she doesn't like it. Kids can be very territorial with their things whether it's a toy, a pet, or basically anything they hold near and dear to them.

I don't believe you're doing anything wrong. She's just feeling kind of intimidated because her pet isn't taking a liking to her as the pet has to you. She's more jealous than anything.

I guess you could try to stay away from the puppy, but the puppy will have a hard time staying away from you. This is a hard situation to get out of. Hopefully she'll learn that she has to share and that who her puppy likes is out of her control.

14/f
i'd known my best friend ever sense we were in kindergarden but didnt start actually becoming frineds until 3 grade then in 6th grade we were inseperatble. ever sense we entered high school. she's getting on ym nerves and acting like a total bitch. everythime were eating lunch. shes makes all these comments and mocking all ym new frineds. like this one girl she was haveing problems with this other girl there were frineds but she like pissed her off for no reson and know she is sitting at our table. the girl is really nice and has some problems and can somtimes be anyoying. but my best friend keeps making all theses commt and shizz and its really anyoying me becasuse she doesnt even know the whole story. and its getting onmy nerves. + she doesnt even know her and does it to some of my other frineds to. well most of the people besides us and this other girl she knows.

Nobody ever stays the same. As the years go on people change. You have grown up, but your friend hasn't. She's still stuck in middle school drama mode and can't seem to break out.

Or maybe she's just a stuck up little bitch who thinks she's better than everyone else and knows everything. Tell her how you feel. If she doesn't seem to listen then ignore her and stop talking to her.

She's just immature and you shouldn't even worry about what she has to say. Karma will get her back eventually. Her mouth will get her in trouble.

Iam 20 years old and iam a female my boyfriend is 21 years old and we have only been dating for a week and he's alredy asking me when we are going to makeout and have sex and he says he's the kind of guy who is very sexually active and I told him that I just don't think iam ready for that kind of serious relationship that he wants especially since the last time I had done something sexual with a guy when I was 18 which it was only oral sex so iam still a virgin but the guy hasn't talked to me once since we had oral sex and iam afraid if I do this it will happen to me again what should I do?

If I were you, I'd break up with him. You already told him that you weren't ready for a serious relationship, and he keeps pushing you to do something that you aren't ready for. He knows it, but keeps pushing it anyways.

He doesn't seem to be interested in you for anything other than sex. Do not let him push you or talk you into anything you do not want.

Break up with him. You can do better than some sex-starved loser that has no respect for you.

Anyone know a website where I can get "Rock and roll all nite" by KISS as a ringtone? And I just mean the chorus, not the whole thing?

Thanks.

I use www.myxertones.com and my boyfriend uses www.funformobile.com :) You should be able to find it there. :)

So my friend is considered a so called "slut" just because she had sex with her boyfriend, i dont care if she did or not. But everyone is telling me she's not innocent. Am i just not looking correctly?? By the way im only 13 n a half and so is my friend.

I don't think she's a slut. She hasn't had multiple sex partners in a small amount of time.

I just think she's in a rush to grow up. Sex at 13 usually isn't very intelligent.

I've been reading ads about getting paid to do internet surveys. Is this for real? It feels so badly like a scam, can somebody explain to me what these paid internet surveys are? Where should I go if I want to be safe?

Internet surveys are a scam. They do not pay you. They make you put all your information in like e-mail & name, so that they can spam you & send you tons of junk mail.

Do not apply for them because it's a waste of time and it fills your e-mail inbox with a bunch of useless shit.

As far as SAFE internet surveys...I've never heard of any.

My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time, and it was amazing! The only not so good part of it is I got pregnant. I used three different kinds of tests and they all said I was pregnant. I am not sure what to do. I am so afraid to tell my mom because I am only 14 and she wants the best for me. Please! I really don't know what to do and I'm scared. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

I'm going to give this to you straightforward. You're not going to like it, but you need to hear it.

First off, you're 14 and should not be having sex. You are too young, immature and knowledge ridden to do this kind of thing. Sex brings on adult emotions, and consequences. I don't care if you were just doing it to try it, or whether you were in the mood & couldn't control yourself - you need to use a condom.

It's too late for that though.

Anyways, you need to tell your mother. Discuss your options with her. You can keep the baby, you can have an abortion, or you can adopt. However, I believe in your case, you should put your baby up for adoption or keep the baby. Now, why am I ruling out abortion? Because you were stupid enough not to use a condom. I only see abortion necessary if:

A) You were raped.
B) Incest.

But neither of those happened, so you need to take responsibility. If you were dumb enough not to use a condom or birth control, then you need to suffer and deal with your consequence.

I'm not going to lie. Your mom is going to be disappointed, angry, sad, horrified, and shocked. There will be times where she won't know what to do with you, and there will be times where she will quite possibly ignore you. These are normal reactions.

However, you're her daughter so she isn't going to turn you away and not help you. But, you need to be calm and mature about this.

After you've discussed your options, you need to go to the doctor. If you decide to keep the baby, the doctor will give you prenatal vitamins or you can get them from the store. They will give you packets on what happens during pregnancy, what to expect, what not to eat, what to eat, and normal stuff that you should do for exercise and other things.

I wish you the best of luck. You need it.

I have these two friends one wants me to stay the night with them and the other wants to spend the night with me and thay don't really like each other. I don't seen either of them much and ones been my best friend forever and the other only a year I don't know what tod o! HELP!

Sleep over one friend's on Friday, and the other friend's on Saturday.

That way, everybody wins.

OK so me and my ex girlfriend broke up because she was crushin on another guy.....and i loved my choice on brakin up with her but i just i cant move on i just cant and each time i get a text message from her my heart jumps for joy and i loved er so much and she tells me she loves me everyday what should i do????

If you and your ex girlfriend still love each other, the relationship should've never ended.

It's okay to have crushes while in relationships. As long as you do not act on it, it is healthy and fine.

However, do not end the relationship if the relationship isn't ready to be over. Especially for something as dumb as a crush.

ok all my boyfriend wants to do is have sex or have me give him a blow job just because i did it once. he tells me he loves me but i just dont no anymore...
its like we cant just hang out any more... :(
does he love me for me or dose he love me for the sex and stuff

It doesn't sound to me like he's with you to be with you. He's with you for the sex. He's getting what he wants & is taking advantage of it.

I think you should break up with him & find someone who really wants to be with you despite the physical.

ok so im not exactly tall. I'm 16 and some 8th graders are taller then me :/ but then again they are really tall for their age.
erm so like what can i do to appear taller?
i know that i should have a good posture, but i mean how can i DRESS to appear tall? i already wear skinny jeans. my weight is normal, i dont have any fat dangling or anything like that :P

You can wear high heels. They make you look taller. However, I'm not sure if they're comfortable to wear all day.

To be honest though, there's nothing wrong with being short. I'm 18 and my 14 year old cousin is taller than I am. My boyfriend's nephews are 11 & 13 and both taller than me. His 9 year old niece is almost taller than me as well.

Just think of it this way - if it came down to a game of hide & seek, you'd fit into more places. :) Being short is an advantage, not a curse.

15/f
Alright well my boyfriend of two months has lied to me twice before. I got over it and we started over and he told me he would never lie to me again. Well i always have people come up to me and tell me things about him and if they have heard anything nad about him or something bad he did. Today, someone came up to me and told me he went to a party not to long ago and got drunk. The thing is, he never told me he went to a party. When i confronted him about it, he said he only stayed for 15 min. and somebody put whiskey into his mountain dew and he didnt know about it. He got drunk by "accident." So i was really hurt that he didnt even tell me this and he said he didnt tell me because he didnt want to lose my trust. Well according to that stroy, he already has. I still like him a whole lot and i dont want to break up with him but he cant be keepong stuff like that from me. He needs to tell me these things and it hurts when he dosent. He knows this and i have told him. Now, i have no idea what to do. Please help asap. thanks!

People do not get drunk by accident. He didn't stay for 15 minutes.

Your boyfriend is a liar. If he's lied before, he will do it again. You cannot make your boyfriend be honest with you. Just because you are honest with him, does not mean he will do the same with you. Some guys will, some guys won't.

His stories are bullshit & you should not be believing what he says when you ask him about something you've heard. If you do not trust your boyfriend, there is no relationship.

Break up with him. You may like him a whole lot, but being single is a whole lot better than being lied to. :)

how do i upload a pic on myspace?

Log in.
Go to the Homepage.
Underneath where your picture should be displayed, you will see this:

Photos: Edit/Upload.
Click Upload.
A place where the folders on your computer are will come up.
Go to the folder where the picture is saved.
Click on the picture(s) you want.
Click Upload.

You can then customize the picture in the album section, and the caption as well. :)

This is more a question for the ladies, but men are perfectly welcome to answer it too.

I'm a guy (obviously) and I've had long hair since I was about 17 or so (I'm 23 now). From a personal standpoint I like having long hair but I'm beginning to wonder if people see something different than what I really am when they look at me. This is especially true of the women I've dated. I seem to attract the type of women who are the complete opposite of me. Myself I'm fairly deep into the conservative side of things, I'm religious, etc... But my exes, who were attracted to guys with long hair, were almost my complete opposites on many views which eventually resulted in break-ups. I've been called a "hippie" and a few other things when I'm actually a very conservative soul.

So I guess my questions are... Do some women (possibly the ones that I would like to be with) take guys with long hair seriously? What is your first impression about the personality of a long haired guy? Do we all seem like flippant elf-boys on first glance?

I'm looking for honest opinions, not what you "THINK you'd think" but rather what you really do think if that makes any sense. And if you find this topic funny, feel free to laugh, as I am laughing right now when writing it. Also, sorry if this is in the wrong category, but I couldn't think of a better one, even the relationship category.

To be honest with you, I would prefer a guy with long hair. However, when it all comes down to it, I don't care how long or short a guys hair is.

Some girls do care though. Some will see long hair hot, and others will be grossed out. It also doesn't look too professional if you're trying to get with someone who has a career or if you are trying to get one.

All girls are different though, so I'm not really sure. It all depends on who you talk to. Everyone's preference is different.

this guy and i have been texting for the past few days but we always say whats up and we say what we're doing and there's nothing to talk about...

how do i get an actual conversation going??

i'm trying to get this guy to like me by the way so what should i say and talk about??

Do you know what kind of stuff he likes? Ask him about music, movies, school, his friends, or hobbies. Ask him what he likes to do.

Any questions that fall into those categories can be asked to help get to know somebody. Just ask him & tell him to feel free to ask you in return.

And sorry to say, but you cannot get someone to like you. Just be honest & if he doesn't like you off of that, then he doesn't deserve you anyways.

I am wondering if you cum and a guy cum's inside of you can you still get pregnant?

Yes, you can. And spotting, as far as I know, depends on the person.

Hey there:

Sometimes there are girls that I want to date no matter of what religion they are in and there are other times that I only want to date someone who is catholic which is what I am. In this question, I'm kinda asking for advice on this matter and would like your personal opinions as well. What do you think of the idea of dating someone who isn't the same religion as you? What are the advantages and disadvantages of it?

I would be a hypocrite if I said anything other than yes.

Religion in a relationship doesn't matter to me. He can be Jewish, Catholic, Baptist, whatever. I don't care. But I think it's because when I was growing up, my parents never made it clear of what religion they wanted me to be with. They just wanted me to be with who made me happy. And they never pushed the subject on me since I wasn't too huge on God anyways. As for now, I can't say that I'm big on church or a higher being to this day, BUT I'm 18..I have time to figure this all out.

However, some kids are brought up to only be with their religion & that's it. Some kids are given the freedom. Sometimes kids choose to be with someone else despite what their parents say. Everybody is different. But, ultimately, the decision is yours. I disagree with parents who think it's right to make their child only date someone of their religion. In my honest opinion, I think it's just as bad as being racist. And besides, you can't help the person you fall in love with & what religion they're from. It's not like you say "Hi, I'm falling in love with you, but what religion are you? If you're anything other than mine - it won't work out!" You see how that's wrong, right?

Advantages are making your parents happy, feeling comfortable with discussing religion (if it should ever come up), celebrating holidays together without feeling weird around people you know.

However, there are some disadvantages:

If you decide to date out of your religion & your parents do not condone that decision, it'll be weird around them. They could go as far as disliking him/her, and trying to convince you otherwise. They could say the other isn't good enough for you, is holding you back, etc. It would be very uncomfortable.

But again, like I said, the decision to date in or out of Catholicism is yours. Do not let anyone else make the choice for you because I can assure you that you'd probably be unhappy if it came down to that. Be with who you truly care for whether they are Catholic or not. I hope this helps. :)

i just got my haircut and i hate it. the bangs are too short and the length is shorter than i wanted it. how long will it take the bangs to grow out and how long will it take the length to grow out can you estimate?!! is there anything i can do to make it grow faster. im wearing my hair up until it grows out!!!!!!

I've used Mane N Tail to get my hair back to a normal length. I have naturally thick hair though so it just made my hair thicker. But it works. Maybe it was just me, but I noticed it after the first watch.

You can get it at Sally's Beauty Supply for about 2-3 dollars a bottle. :)

so, I have this plain yellow t-shirt, and the thing is that it's slightly see through, so on the back you can see my bra.
I was just wondering whether I should wear a white or a yellow bra underneath it? I don't own a nude one...
So yes, which would be better?
Sorry for the weird question.

I don't think you have to buy a new bra. You can just buy a cami tank top. You should maybe get a white cami or maybe some light colors. Dark colors will make the yellow look weird & you don't want that. Just get a cami.

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