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boyfriend troubles
15/f
Alright well my boyfriend of two months has lied to me twice before. I got over it and we started over and he told me he would never lie to me again. Well i always have people come up to me and tell me things about him and if they have heard anything nad about him or something bad he did. Today, someone came up to me and told me he went to a party not to long ago and got drunk. The thing is, he never told me he went to a party. When i confronted him about it, he said he only stayed for 15 min. and somebody put whiskey into his mountain dew and he didnt know about it. He got drunk by "accident." So i was really hurt that he didnt even tell me this and he said he didnt tell me because he didnt want to lose my trust. Well according to that stroy, he already has. I still like him a whole lot and i dont want to break up with him but he cant be keepong stuff like that from me. He needs to tell me these things and it hurts when he dosent. He knows this and i have told him. Now, i have no idea what to do. Please help asap. thanks!
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Ok. This is simple.
Your boyfriend is a liar, maybe he lies because he is scared of your reaction or because he likes lying, I don't care and it doesn't matter as long as he did it.
If he did it once and twice, he can do it for more than 1000x times.
There is no TRUST, it mean no RELATIONSHIP.
Relationships are made for making a person happy mentally, emotionally and yes even physically.
And this relationship your in is not making you happy , i'm assuming.
So I know it's not simple as it sounds but break up with him, move on and go out there find yourself a HOT faithful boyfriend.
Good Luck =]=]
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People do not get drunk by accident. He didn't stay for 15 minutes.
Your boyfriend is a liar. If he's lied before, he will do it again. You cannot make your boyfriend be honest with you. Just because you are honest with him, does not mean he will do the same with you. Some guys will, some guys won't.
His stories are bullshit & you should not be believing what he says when you ask him about something you've heard. If you do not trust your boyfriend, there is no relationship.
Break up with him. You may like him a whole lot, but being single is a whole lot better than being lied to. :)
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Im telling you from experience, he will keep lying. They might be big lies, might be small lies, but either way they are lies and they damage trust.
His whole story about someone putting whiskey in his mt dew and he didnt know is bull. If someone put whiskey in his drink he would taste it and if he didnt then they only put a drop and he wouldnt get drunk off of it. Even if someone did put it in his drink w/out him knowing, he had to of tasted it and kept drinking. So please dont believe that story.
Its up to you what you do from here but if you stay with him, chances are that he will continue to lie and oyu will continue to find out. Now the decision is if your willing to deal with it or not. Im not going to tell you what to do but if I was you, I wouldnt deal with it because your young and you can find tons of other guys that are honest in their relationships.
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If I were you, I'd leave him. One chance is enough in my eyes. It's obvious you can't trust him (which I don't blame you for), & trust is one of the most important parts of a relationship. But if you're not ready to break up with him, you need to put your foot down. Tell him enough is enough. If he does something wrong, he needs to tell you because you're tired of having to hear it from someone else. Tell him it only makes it worse when someone else tells you instead of him, & if it happens again you'll leave him. And follow through with it! If he does it again & you stay with it, chances are he'll keep this behavior up because he knows you'll always forgive him.
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you may be expecting a little too much of him, everyone makes mistakes. it would be different if he cheated on you or did something really horrible, but you both are teenagers and getting drunk is bound to happen. also, he said it was a mistake- so you should cut him some slack. it's possible he didn't tell you because he didn't want you to get upset. in my opinion it's not really that big of a deal to drink at a party and not tell you about it, there are much worse things that could happen. be thankful for this, maybe you should try talking to him a little more if your really that concerned about it.
hope i helped.
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