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Does Religion Matter when it comes to a relationshp?
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Sometimes there are girls that I want to date no matter of what religion they are in and there are other times that I only want to date someone who is catholic which is what I am. In this question, I'm kinda asking for advice on this matter and would like your personal opinions as well. What do you think of the idea of dating someone who isn't the same religion as you? What are the advantages and disadvantages of it?
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personally, i think that a good, honest, and serious relationship should be with one of your same beliefs. you'll always have the same views on that, most of the time, and it will give you a stronger faith in your relationship. however, if there not and it doesnt matter, it shouldnt. take a chance but don't change anything in your religion to make the other feel better
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Really, that depends on you... If you're uber religious, which is not a bad thing, most likely you will need to be with someone that shares your personal beliefs, otherwise this could cause trouble down the road if you decide to pursue a more serious relationship. If you're the type of person that has a set of beliefs but is open-minded enough to agree to disagree with others, then it could work... As long as the person you are trying to date is equally open-minded.
From my own personal experience... Well, I'm a rare breed. I'm very spiritual, but can't tolerate dogma at all. Most of the more successful relationships that I've had... Have been with people similiar to me. We didn't agree on everything, but when it came to the 'important things' we usually saw eye to eye. Dating someone associated with an organized religion usually didn't go so well because of differences concerning religious tolerance, homophobia and so on. Dating agnostics and atheists usually doesn't go so well either, because I don't appreciate being made to feel ignorant simply because I believe in a higher power. But that's just me.
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I don't think religion matters in dating. marriage is a little different story because you both have to decide and agree on what religion you are gonna bring up your kids with. I'm actually dating someone right now who's Muslim and I'm Christian and we've been dating for almost 9 months and religion hasn't gotten in the way of anything. point is, if you care about each other enough, then you will both decide on what to do for the kids and you will accept each others beliefs and it won't come between you.
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Well some advantages is that you guys have the same religion, so you will more than likely share the same views on sex and other things. Disadvantages are that mayeb you don't have the same religion and you won't see eye to eye on a couple things like sex and god. Or homosexuals or something to that effect. Yes it can break you guys up if it let it get in the way. So just remember don't bring it up unless she does.
Good Luck!
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I would be a hypocrite if I said anything other than yes.
Religion in a relationship doesn't matter to me. He can be Jewish, Catholic, Baptist, whatever. I don't care. But I think it's because when I was growing up, my parents never made it clear of what religion they wanted me to be with. They just wanted me to be with who made me happy. And they never pushed the subject on me since I wasn't too huge on God anyways. As for now, I can't say that I'm big on church or a higher being to this day, BUT I'm 18..I have time to figure this all out.
However, some kids are brought up to only be with their religion & that's it. Some kids are given the freedom. Sometimes kids choose to be with someone else despite what their parents say. Everybody is different. But, ultimately, the decision is yours. I disagree with parents who think it's right to make their child only date someone of their religion. In my honest opinion, I think it's just as bad as being racist. And besides, you can't help the person you fall in love with & what religion they're from. It's not like you say "Hi, I'm falling in love with you, but what religion are you? If you're anything other than mine - it won't work out!" You see how that's wrong, right?
Advantages are making your parents happy, feeling comfortable with discussing religion (if it should ever come up), celebrating holidays together without feeling weird around people you know.
However, there are some disadvantages:
If you decide to date out of your religion & your parents do not condone that decision, it'll be weird around them. They could go as far as disliking him/her, and trying to convince you otherwise. They could say the other isn't good enough for you, is holding you back, etc. It would be very uncomfortable.
But again, like I said, the decision to date in or out of Catholicism is yours. Do not let anyone else make the choice for you because I can assure you that you'd probably be unhappy if it came down to that. Be with who you truly care for whether they are Catholic or not. I hope this helps. :)
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in my own personal life i would never date anyone out of my religion but hey thats just me. religion is one of the most important things in your life and it is important to share this with your partner. i think if you just plan on dating them sure go ahead but if your thinking about marriage then maybe you should think about it a little bit more.
*hope i helped! :)
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