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I go to a uniform school an on friday we are supposed to have a dress down day, which means we don't have to wear uniforms. We can pretty much wear anything but like spaghetti straps and really short shorts or skirts. I have a really complicated wardrobe though. It's not in style it's kinda like clothes a 8 or 9 year old would wear (mayb 10 or 9). I want to look good but I don't hav a lot of money to spend. Actually I would like to spend as less money as possible. I have this black frilly skirt and I have so many types of jeans capris, shorts, and pants. Shirts are kinda hard like I have some plain shirts and most of my shirts have some sort of design on it. I really want to look cute because... I don't know I just like to look good lol! Please help if you can! Thanks! (link)
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Well like everyone else said, thrift stores work. There are always some cute clothes there.
If not, go check out clearance racks and regular stores and clothes on sale.
But if you have skinny jeans, you could wear a plain shirt with a vest or something of the sort.
Or that frilly skirt with a cute plain shirt and something over that.
I wish I could see what you have to help you. But I'm sure once you go looking around you'll find some really cute clothes.
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There's this guy and we've been pretty good friends I guess. I've liked him since the day I layed eyes on him. Buy he's dated so many girls. He's even dating a 15 year old and we are both 12. And my friend said she heard him say he liked me but I think she was just trying to make me feel better or she just wanted to lie to me cause she does that sometimes (that's a whole other story). I see him every Sunday and Wednesday I just don't know what to do. I feel like I'm not cool enough or something ( I know I'm beautiful so that defiantly can't be it lol). I just don't know what I should do I just want to punch him when I see him with another girl and touching her and stuff. (link)
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The way you described him, I don't even know why you'd like him.
I don't know him so I'm just picturing him off of what you've said.
Firstly, you can't make a guy like you. You have to do your best to move on.
I wouldn't want a guy like him to be interested in me. He's so young but he's already dated so many girls? That's not a good quality.
If he did end up liking you, you'd be the girl after all these other girls. That's why girls feel the need to compare themselves because boys who have more experience think they know everything. At least boys who are 12 years old.
My advice to you is to move on. He seriously might be a genuinely nice guy, but a guy who dates so many girls shouldn't be on your mind and you can't make him like you.
Also, don't put yourself down. No guy should make you feel worse about yourself.
Focus on other things while you try to move on. There are so many other boys in this world so you'll end up liking someone else. Hang out with your friends and you'll move on eventually.
Then you'll end up finding a guy who will take one look at you like you did with this guy, and think you're amazing.
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in the morning me and my boyfriend exchanged intercourse and i have completely forgot the pill the same day i needed to take it. I am a bit worried because it was over 12 hours of having sex. Could i be pregnant and id so is there an easy solution what to take? (link)
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There could be the chance that you could be pregnant but to be sure, you should contact your doctor. You might be able to take the morning after pill and be ok. Just call your doctor and make sure.
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some suggest that I take my daughter to get counseling to deal with her mother being in jail, I wonder why? I think she is handling it well. She seems to have accepted "OK my mother committed a crime and is serving her punishment, and she will be out in a year" and is now just living her life like normal. Isn't that a better way of handing the situation instead of being hysterical about it?
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If you don't think she's handling it wrong or having a hard time about it, counseling isn't necessary.
Some children freak out, get depressed not having their mother around, or act out.
If you really believe your daughter is fine and going on normally, then she probably doesn't need counseling.
She is handling the situation fine if she has accepted that her mother messed up, is paying the time and will be out in a year. It is much better than freaking out.
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I am 14/f. I am totally depressed on the matter of not getting friends In school. In my earlier school people used to think I am weird and some rude ones even said it on my face. They used to gossip about me but my mom soon changed my school and I was so happy for it. In my new school, I expected friends but here also people kind of at times ignore me and gossip about me. I can feel the hate about me in some people's faces and I really feel bad about it. I am the kind of person who likes having a lot of fun and friends but unfortunately I never get them. I have like only 3 friends outside but not in school. There is only one girl who actually talks to me but just to use me to do her work. I always try to talk and get in conversations but no one talks too me really. I feels so alone and hopeless. I really want friends but don't know how?? And this is the second time I am going thought this so I hate school but I have this question in mind: why don't I get friends in school??
I really want to talk to some one nice about this and get good advice. It would be nice if someone gave me!! (link)
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High school can be hard when you're trying to make new friends.
People gossip because they are insecure and feel the need to make themselves feel better so they pick on people who don't stand up for themselves or won't get all mad about it.
I'm assuming when you find out people are saying mean things, you don't do anything about it right?
I do think you should talk to a counselor. They could definitely help since they see you in person and can guide you in the right direction on how to make new friends.
I also suggest like joining clubs you're interested in. It will help you find friends easier because they already like the same things you do.
Don't do work for other people, that's unfair to you and will make you feel like crap. They need to grow up and do their own work.
I'm sure once you start talking to new people, you'll find someone who will click with you. Not everyone is a jerk.
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I don't have any skills or interests that are obvious that I would like to develop. I have spoken to the guidance councillor at a local college who told me I needed to know what I wanted to do before she could tell me how to achieve it. Not much help really. There is a psychologist that can do a heap of tests and stuff to determine my aptitudes but she costs about $400 and it is way too much money for me at this time. Aptitude tests don't really hep me either and those tests deigned to tell people what carriers best suit them always come back with strange results that are always different. Any advice on how to determine where my strengths are would be helpful, thanks. (link)
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I have the exact same problem but the best advice I was given is to take different classes at a local community college.
I mean you won't know what you like until you try it right?
A lot of students pick something right away, not that there is anything wrong with that but a lot end up changing their major later.
I've taken some tests like that and they didn't help me because I still wasn't sure.
My dad was seeing this therapist with my mom and he did wonders with her. Then the therapist starting working with my brother with drugs and such. My dad mentioned me to him saying that I had no idea what I wanted to do.
The therapist said that I didn't need to go to him since I'm still young and most young people aren't sure what they want to do for the rest of their life.
So, it's nice to know what areas interest you but it's best to try it out.
So if you take some classes, maybe psychology, languages, cake decorating, anything really, maybe that will help you figure out what you really like.
It's better to try these out now, because even though you're spending money, at least your not wasting your time. Instead of jumping into it, and wasting both money AND time.
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I've liked his guy for 4 years now. We were always friends but not close friends. This year has probably been the closest we've ever been. But last year we almost dated but his ex got in the way. And this year I told him that we need to talk about us. He told me that he just wants to be friends. And I was just wondering, is there any way I can make a guy like me? If so, how? (link)
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There is no way to make a guy like you.
Since he has been interested in you before, it wouldn't be too hard to catch his attention though. It will be a bit harder since he's not interested right now.
What you should do is improve yourself. Not just for a guy, but for you.
Make yourself feel better by doing better in school, by doing new things, new hobbies. You will much happier and happier girls attract guys.
Go out with your friends and look pretty.
If you make yourself happy, whether or not this guys wants you, someone will.
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Hi....* so I really like this guy... And we visit their farm often coz... My uncle live on their farm.... He's really sexy! * Taned body!* * choclate brown hair...* * 6-pack and beatifull eyes!* he kinda sorta know I like him and I don't know if he like me 2!* he touched me once. I really wanna have sex with him...* but I want to show him trough body language? Any help plzzZ? (link)
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You won't get a guy through body language unless you are completely upfront about it. You can't hint at a guy at all because they might be mislead, that's why there is a thing called talking.
Try talking to him first and becoming his friend. You don't want to have sex with a guy you barely know.
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so i have a friend who liked this guy and one of my other friends ended up dating him but now they broke up and my friend stills like him and she wants to start talking to him again. does this go against a girl code? i dont know what to tell her?
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I didn't know people actually looked at things with the "girl code" and such. But if you're looking at it that way, yes. But it was already broken in the first place.
If both your friends liked one guy and both knew about it but one still dated him, they broke it.
As to what to tell her, you can't make her do anything. I think it depends on where she values her friendship. If the other friend doesn't have a problem with her talking to her ex, then ok. If she doesn't, well that's where she decides if she values the boy or her friend more.
You can't really decide or change what both of them are going to say or do. Just try being supportive and being a good friend.
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For the last few months, I have been reading various articles on etiquettes. Obviously, I have tried to employ them in my life. I have tried to make my family adopt them too. I would like to ask, are those etiquettes to be followed in my own house too. For example, it is mannerless to sit in an awkward position with one leg on the sofa and other one on the floor. But, should I overlook the etiquette at home because I would like to relax. Will I be cheating myself ? (link)
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I don't think you'd be cheating yourself as long as you're still following them outside of your house.
I'd still say manners at the dinner table still applied, things like that but I wouldn't say relaxing on the sofa.
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Hi.
So I used to have a good group of friends. But I don't really fit in with them now. I tried to get rid of them but just became a loner. Now I'm with them again, and they are the same way. They used to always ask me for advice and they still do. But when I am having big problems they just don't care! I'm very shy (I don't talk in a lot of classes), sarcastic, and a bit socially awkward because of my shyness, even though I am very kind. How can I make new friends and actually be happy at school? (link)
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I really like Dragonflymagic's advice to you. Taking it step by step will help.
There are so many people who aren't naturally outgoing and can't naturally draw people to them. Some people who are really outgoing had to work on it. I mean, it's hard to overcome insecurity with people looking at you, "what are they thinking about me?" "Are they looking at me?", things like that.
So start slowly, it won't happen over night.
In class, start asking people questions. Maybe it will spark up a new conversation.
During my freshman year in high school, the only friends I had were the ones from middle school. I hardly had any of them in my classes so I ended up having to make new friends.
I sat by new people, complimented them, if they had something I liked on their binder I'd start talking about it.
Last semester in college, I had met some girls who everybody knew and thought they were great. I realized why. Whenever these girls passed by, they would smile and they would compliment me. Just like what Dragonflymagic said. It really works.
So the way to make new friends is to overcome your shyness. Once you start working on that, you will be making new friends and will be a lot happier.
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I have been very inquisitive about usa. I've never been there, but i have heard a lot of its developments, its people's attitudes. Here in india no one takes rights seriously, government doesn't work with enthusiasm, police is not enthusiastic, people don't talk freely about sex, we don't lose our virginity in schools, everybody is striving to be an engineer, whether or not they like it, because other professions are looked down upon, you won't like to be a social activist in india. People don't strive towards perfection but they strive towards survival. They won't generally like to change things for the better but just let it be. How is america different in all these respects ? (link)
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Life in America is really different from India. I'm actually Indian :) My dad moved to the USA from there and I've visited every so often.
Anyways, everything you listed, it's the opposite here.
People have to take the law seriously, because the police do their job and even the smallest thing could wind you up in jail.
Sex while you're still in school is probably one of the biggest problems though. It's just been accepted.
Everyone is pushed to do what they want when it comes to a career. I mean you can find whatever interests you and pretty much make it into a career and make money from it. Some are better than others but it's still pretty cool.
It seems like America is still developing with changes. Something is always changing. When something goes wrong, they find a way to fix it.
America isn't perfect. But I still love it because we still have it good.
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So let's get to it.
There's a boy in some of my classes who constantly flirts with me and I kinda like it :)
We've been friends for a long time and we sometimes play around. Like I slap his butt sometimes and he pits his hand on my leg and rubs it :D I'm starting to fall in love with him and he feels the same with me. He's rubbed my lists through my toga pants before, and I've grabbed his dick through his pants. We're hanging out later this week at his house alone and we'll probably end up having sex. Any tips that 15 year old guy like? I'm kinda scared that anal is going to hurt but I want to please him and let him do it. Thanks :)
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I don't even know where to start.
I'm not going to give you tips that 15 year old boys like, because honestly, 15 year old boys shouldn't be having sex.
This is why there are pregnant teenage girls who mix up lust and love.
I don't think you realize that sex is going to hurt you like crazy since you are young. You're only 15 so your body is growing and changing still.
There is a reason why underage sex is illegal.
If you want him, you shouldn't have sex with him.
Once you have sex with him or do anything sexual with him before you have a real relationship with him, that's all he's going to want from you. Because he won't be thinking, "I really like this girl, she's so nice, ect" He'll be thinking, "I want to bang her." And that's not a compliment sweetie.
Anyways, there are tons more complications like pregnancy, stds, emotional problems.
So just start making smart decisions and be a girl guys will respect, not a guy that will grope you because groping and sex isn't love.
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I (24/f) have had a few serious relationships in my life, and they have been great - for the most part. I am in one right now with an amazing guy that I can see a future with. The problem is, I am always insecure, though I've hid it well with all my relationships including this one. If I don't get a text/call for hours, I get worried or suspicious. If my current bf is out and girls will be there, I get myself all worked up, feel sick to my stomach and it's all I think about. It's driving me insane, because I've never been cheated on/betrayed (to my knowledge) and have no reason not to trust my bf. I'm terrified I won't be able to hide it much longer, and it will ruin a wonderful relationship. How can I fix this? I'm exhausted from being so insecure. (link)
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It's true that if you don't get this under control, it will ruin your relationship.
This type of thing isn't uncommon though, but you do need to fix it.
Take control of your thoughts and focus on the truth. He has given you no reason to think he's betraying you. Without any trust, the relationship will not work.
Don't let your fears create a false reality.
Don't go snooping around. I don't know if you do but it will undermine your relationship.
Focus on being positive. Instead of spending your energy on feeling insecure, putting yourself down, thinking of "what ifs", try to think about the happy, good experiences you've had with him. Think of all the reasons your boyfriend chose you. If he was with someone else, he wouldn't stay with you.
Don't compare yourself. Lots of girls do that, and it really brings them down and it makes you ten times insecure.
You have to take control of this. You know you can do it. Find other things to occupy your mind. Everything will turn out fine.
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I'm 13, and social situations are hard for me. My mom wanted me to be more involved, so I joined art club. I like drawing well enough, and I made a few friends, the majority of which are boys, all of which are a grade below me. I read often, and care little what others think of me, so when one of my friends expressed interest in me, it wasn't easy for me to ignore. I thought he might actually really like me, but he was, to say the least, very sexual. Art club is only once a week, but when he asked me out after five weeks, it was as though I couldn't say no. I almost wanted to, but I said yes. My others friends didn't like him, but I was momentarily blinded. For the last three weeks or so, he's been touching my leg, higher and higher up, and I want to tell him to quit, but it's like I'm not able to say anything. To be honest, I like it, but I also hate it. Still being honest-while I'm with him, I'd probably do whatever he wants. I may be really young, but we're all human, and a lot of the good feelings I have when he touches me are sexual. I want to tell him to stop, that I'm not his girlfriend anymore, to stop winking and saying he loves me. But speaking has never been my strong spot. I can write this and say what I want, but trying to say them, well, it never sounds right. My sister hates him, says he flirts with every girl, all the time, and I don't know if she's lying this time. The stuff he says, it's really inappropriate, and I wish I said I didn't want to go out with him. My question? I am not sure. Possibly: What's wrong with me? What should I do? What should I say? What color are bananas? Ignore that last one. (link)
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You already know you're not ready for any of this. You can't keep going along with whatever he wants because it's not fair to you and you aren't going to enjoy it completely until you are ready.
You have to gain the courage to say no. Write him a note if you have to. It might be the cowardly way out but it's better than doing what you're doing right now.
You're not his puppet. You don't have to do everything he wants so put a stop to it. This is your life and you don't deserve this stuff. Tell him no.
Practice it if you have to. After you break up with him, then you have to start working on saying no because honestly, you can't go through life saying yes to anything and everything.
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So my best friends step mom is gonna get married with the guy I like brother and both me and my best friend like him. But he likes me because my best friend is one of his "people" he tells her everything and she tells me. I know he likes me but he has a girlfriend and hes only dating her because she was desprete but my best friend told me that when he breaks up with his girlfriend that hes not interested in hes gonna ask me out and so many weird things hav happened between me and him like some how we ended up texting eachother and he didn't know it was me and I didn't know it was him and just gonna so weird when he asks me out I don't know how to react to him asking me out!!! I'm 11 and im a girl. Can any one give me some good advice?? Thanks! (link)
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Ok well, I wish you had put the age of the guy on here as well. If he is older than you, listen to the advice below. Older men are no good for you right now.
Now if he's your age, then ok.
Guys that have girlfriends, they are off limits. You already know that though. And when he breaks up with her, then he's going to ask you out? He seems a bit mean. Why be with someone who you feel sorry for? I'm sure he likes her a little bit more than he's giving off, if not, then he's not good with relationships.
If he likes you, he shouldn't be with his girlfriend. That looks terrible on his side.
So you're 11, you probably don't want me to ramble on about how dating so young isn't good. You probably wouldn't even take that into consideration.
I'm just going to tell you to be careful.
If you do decide you want to date him. Go slow, and just start out with hanging out and having fun. Reacting? You just have to act normal and say yes? I'm really unsure what else you would do.
Anyways, if he is older, don't date him.
If he is your age, move slow.
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Hi! My name is Jake. I'm in 8th grade, going into highschool next year. So, these a girl at my school that's extremely beautiful and nice and caring and she's got a great sense of humor. She's got a great smile, beautiful deep brown eyes and a beautiful figure as well. I began to like her about A year ago, and she didn't really know I existed until about 2 months ago. So I fell in love with her and I want to treat her right and be with her. But she likes one of my friends and I just can't stop thinking about her. Is there any ways I can get her to fall in love with me? She's really important to mead I want to date her, but I don't want to get rejected and ruin my friendship with her. Thanks or help :) (link)
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Well there is no way to make someone fall in love with you.
Firstly, I'll give you some things most girls notice in a guy other than looks.
It's all personality. A good girl won't go looking for a guy who is all about looking good. They want a good guy who knows how to treat a girl right.
I remember when I was your age, there was one boy who every girl was crazy about. He wasn't absolutely gorgeous but he was such a good guy. He was sweet and would do small gestures that would stand out to girls. He would hold doors open, he would just be a genuinely nice guy. Every girl would talk about how nice and sweet he really was.
Anyways, be the good guy and hope she notices you is the best advice I can give. Be her friend and be there for her. Eventually she'll see how great you are.
If she doesn't then one day you will find a girl who will. You will attract the good girls you deserve a guy like you.
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my boyfriend and i have been dating for about a year now. we are pretty serious and we care a lot about each other. anyway! well i met his family about 3 months ago and i have been over about twice ever since. i don't really talk to his parents because they are always at work. his sister invite me to her daughters confirmation party (she is 9 years old) i have seen her about 2 times and barely poke to her, even though she is a nice girl. my question is should i go? and most importantly should i bring a gift? is it bad if i go to the family/friends party without a gift? i mean i barely know her. my bf already said its okay i do not need to bring one but i feel weird going without anything...if yes what should i bring?
thankyou for your time in advance. (link)
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You're not obligated to go but you can go if you want. It would be nice and a nice way to show you care about his family.
It wouldn't be bad to go without a gift.
When I was younger, older brother brought his girlfriend that he was dating for awhile over on Easter. It was the first time she was meeting us. She brought me and my little brother a chocolate bunny.
So, obviously it's not expected for someone to bring a gift but it is really nice and a good way to show people you care, even when you hardly know them.
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Hello everyone! I'm 15/f
There's this boy in my class who LOVES to make fun of me (Let's name him K), or just be straight up rude to me. I used to think he really hated me, but now I'm really not sure....
Let me explain:
He finds times when I'm singing to myself, and he tells me to shut up (to no avail of course) and I tell him how unsuccessful that will be, but he keeps doing so until I feel like stopping.
He makes fun of anything clumsy or stupid that I do.
Any conversation I'm in (I have a low undertone in my voice, so I'm loud when I talk to my friends) he buts in and tells me why he thinks I'm wrong.
I'm a very annoying person (unintentionally), so whenever I do anything that he thinks is annoying, he has to make a comment on it.
He says things like, "Oh no, why is she here?" when I walk into a room, or conversation, or anything like that, that he's in.
He looks at me a lot (thank you, peripheral vision) & I don't know what that's about, to be honest.
But here's the one thing that got me confused:
K knows about my crush. (J) So one day when K & another boy (G) in my class were talking about how a guy that was sitting with them at lunch that day (Curl) had exactly the same hair as my crush's from behind (big bushy, curly hair) and as I sat down, they asked me about it. I told them that his hair didn't really move as much as Curl's did. A split second later I regretted it because both of them were looking at me and G said, "Wow, of course she knows all of that, she likes him!" And then I felt my eyes widen. G says, "she still does!" And then K was about to say, "Yeah, ever since the beginning of the year," but he only said "Yeah, ever since the begin--" and one look at my blushing embarrassed face, stopped him. And he started to blush himself, and kept apologizing to me. The same boy who argues with me everyday, makes fun of me (not like a bully though, don't worry) and is annoyed by me, is being nice to me! He just keeps apologizing & when I look at him, I can see how bad he feels. The whole rest of the period, he didn't ask me for help like he usually does.
My friends keep telling me that since he bothers me a lot, it means he likes me. Is that true? I don't think so...
What do you think? Thanks to all who answer, you are all amazing! I thank you all in advance! (link)
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Well, that's kind of confusing.
When guys make fun of girls they lie, it's normally when they are younger, not 15. But who knows, maybe he hasn't grown up yet.
Either way, he is immature for his age.
I think he sees you as someone he knows better than other people. He teases you but maybe he doesn't mean for it to be mean. Who knows if it means something more or not. So when he noticed you actually looked hurt, he felt bad.
Anyways, that's my best guess.
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There's this girl I've had a crush on for a long time and she's extremely beautiful,smart,silly and awesome I could go on forever about how amazing she is. I think she knows I like her because some of my friends told her I stare at her. So she winks at me stares at me and teases me when our eyes meet. So one day I was at her locker and she just looked into my eyes and kissed me. We were kissing for about 5 seconds when she pulled back,then came in for round two. I had my hands on her waist and we started making out and then she ran of crying. She won't talk to me anymore and I'm really confused on what the craps going on. Are we friends? Are we in a relationship? What's going on? (link)
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Well, I'd be confused too. If your hands were just on her waist and no where else then who knows what was going on in her head. You won't know until you ask her. You have every reason to go up and ask her what happened the other day.
You aren't in a relationship with her. That's not until you ask her to be your girlfriend.
So go talk to her and find out what happened.
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