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Confused on how i feel
There's this girl I've had a crush on for a long time and she's extremely beautiful,smart,silly and awesome I could go on forever about how amazing she is. I think she knows I like her because some of my friends told her I stare at her. So she winks at me stares at me and teases me when our eyes meet. So one day I was at her locker and she just looked into my eyes and kissed me. We were kissing for about 5 seconds when she pulled back,then came in for round two. I had my hands on her waist and we started making out and then she ran of crying. She won't talk to me anymore and I'm really confused on what the craps going on. Are we friends? Are we in a relationship? What's going on?
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Yeah I'd be confused too. You're not really anything. One kiss followed by bewildering behavior doesn't mean a ton.
Go talk to her if you want to. If you weren't in high school I'd tell you never stick your dick in crazy, but in high school you're all some degree of crazy so just go and say something like "Hey, what's up. I liked the other day, I've been wanting to ask you out for a while, but I don't know what you're thinking right now. Tell me what you're thinking?"
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Well, I'd be confused too. If your hands were just on her waist and no where else then who knows what was going on in her head. You won't know until you ask her. You have every reason to go up and ask her what happened the other day.
You aren't in a relationship with her. That's not until you ask her to be your girlfriend.
So go talk to her and find out what happened.
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Hold on buddy, it aint a relationship until both of you have talked and agreed to have some sort of relationship.
I am confused too about her actions. The only way to know is to talk to her. She has winked at you and came after you first for the kiss. Your mind could come up with dozens of scenerios and they all be wrong.
Not sure what your age is but whether you are middle school or high school. Somewhere in that age range is where young people experiment with sex.
If she hasn't yet, it could be she thinks it is so important to do that she decided on who she wanted.
Remember I am just guessing here. Your guess is a good as mine. So lets say she got enough guts to make the first move...with the kissing of you.
Why would she run away crying? If you have not left out any information and it went down as you said, I can say, It wasn't because of you but something going on in her head.
Maybe she got upset with herself because she wants the attention of a boy and thought sex is the only way to get it and then decided that she wasn't quite ready yet to push for such a relationship with a boy and so she got scared, cried and ran away. Or she could have had some idea in her head as to what a kiss should feel like and when it didn't, she got upset.
So man, you won't know til you ask her. There's a good bet that she wants a friendship with you. My guess is she also wants you to like her for more than how pretty she is and you do. So tell her. Yes it's scary to start but once you start, the uncomfortable feeling should go away and your conversation flow naturally.
What do you tell her? Start with some of the things you listed for me. Don't start with how beautiful she is, you can add that at the end. You see, it's a given that a guy starts looking at a girl, it is because he finds her attractive. Everyone has their own tastes in what they naturally like. Just because you are not attracted to other girls doesn't make them unattractive...some other guy will think the other girls hot. But she needs to know how much you like her. You want to build a friendship with her first. Doing special things together. Once the two of you get more comfortable with each other, then the natural step to showing your affection goes a step deeper, having sex. Don't have sex just cus of your hormones are going crazy. Girls have this uncanny thing called intuition built into them. They will know if the sexual attention is out of you wanting to please and love her or if it is cus yourself selfish and just want to gratify your desires. In fact if you do feel aroused and want her, let her know thats how you feel but that you are going to leave it up to her if, and when and BE OK with that. If that kind of attraction or chemistry isn't there for the step beyond friendship, then all she is , is a friend, not a deep relationship. And you will owe it to yourself to move on.
The reason I gave you some pointers for how to handle dating her and went beyond answering your question is that I have a strong feeling you two will become good friends if not something more.
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