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it's about me and the guy i like
So my best friends step mom is gonna get married with the guy I like brother and both me and my best friend like him. But he likes me because my best friend is one of his "people" he tells her everything and she tells me. I know he likes me but he has a girlfriend and hes only dating her because she was desprete but my best friend told me that when he breaks up with his girlfriend that hes not interested in hes gonna ask me out and so many weird things hav happened between me and him like some how we ended up texting eachother and he didn't know it was me and I didn't know it was him and just gonna so weird when he asks me out I don't know how to react to him asking me out!!! I'm 11 and im a girl. Can any one give me some good advice?? Thanks!
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Ok well, I wish you had put the age of the guy on here as well. If he is older than you, listen to the advice below. Older men are no good for you right now.
Now if he's your age, then ok.
Guys that have girlfriends, they are off limits. You already know that though. And when he breaks up with her, then he's going to ask you out? He seems a bit mean. Why be with someone who you feel sorry for? I'm sure he likes her a little bit more than he's giving off, if not, then he's not good with relationships.
If he likes you, he shouldn't be with his girlfriend. That looks terrible on his side.
So you're 11, you probably don't want me to ramble on about how dating so young isn't good. You probably wouldn't even take that into consideration.
I'm just going to tell you to be careful.
If you do decide you want to date him. Go slow, and just start out with hanging out and having fun. Reacting? You just have to act normal and say yes? I'm really unsure what else you would do.
Anyways, if he is older, don't date him.
If he is your age, move slow.
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I am doing the math here. You and friend are 11. Most parents even step parents are around 20 yrs older or more, than the kids. So that puts for my guesses a step mom of about 31. The guy she's marrying could be her age or ten years older or ten years younger. Although some do, not too many go for an age gap bigger than that. That puts her husband to be at anywhere from 21 to 41. Most people when they have children, the children are on the average 2 to 3 years apart in age.
So the guy getting married has a brother who is at the very least 3 years younger or older than 21, which is anywhere from 18 to 24. Or at the older range, if the marrying guy is 41, that puts his brother at 38 to 44.
So this guy you both are interested in is anywhere from 18 to 41. A man of 18 and older should know better to not get involved with a girl of 11. I can guarantee that a guy that age or older doesn't have your best interests in mind. He will be selfish, immature and likely want a sexual relationship with you...which at that age is illegal. I know you haven't grown up yet so you don't know better but he should.
So how should you react to the guy asking you out?
RUN THE OTHER WAY!!!! If you don't value yourself enough to wait until you're older and for a mature guy closer to your age, then your future could easily go down the toilet relationship wise and end up pregnant with multiple abortions, used, abused, dumped over and over. You have no idea what you are about to get into.
I would like you to look for Lacigreen on facebook and join her site. She is older than you, learned some things the hard way but mostly didnt do too badly and she's young in early 20s I'd say and she also has a youtube channel covering anything on sex and more like kids your age dating...relationships, gender based stuff, and more. If you dont trust what I say to say as an older woman...at least listen to Laci since she is closer to your age and has very smart good information.
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