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Is the saying "If a boy bothers you, that means he likes you" true?
Hello everyone! I'm 15/f
There's this boy in my class who LOVES to make fun of me (Let's name him K), or just be straight up rude to me. I used to think he really hated me, but now I'm really not sure....
Let me explain:
He finds times when I'm singing to myself, and he tells me to shut up (to no avail of course) and I tell him how unsuccessful that will be, but he keeps doing so until I feel like stopping.
He makes fun of anything clumsy or stupid that I do.
Any conversation I'm in (I have a low undertone in my voice, so I'm loud when I talk to my friends) he buts in and tells me why he thinks I'm wrong.
I'm a very annoying person (unintentionally), so whenever I do anything that he thinks is annoying, he has to make a comment on it.
He says things like, "Oh no, why is she here?" when I walk into a room, or conversation, or anything like that, that he's in.
He looks at me a lot (thank you, peripheral vision) & I don't know what that's about, to be honest.
But here's the one thing that got me confused:
K knows about my crush. (J) So one day when K & another boy (G) in my class were talking about how a guy that was sitting with them at lunch that day (Curl) had exactly the same hair as my crush's from behind (big bushy, curly hair) and as I sat down, they asked me about it. I told them that his hair didn't really move as much as Curl's did. A split second later I regretted it because both of them were looking at me and G said, "Wow, of course she knows all of that, she likes him!" And then I felt my eyes widen. G says, "she still does!" And then K was about to say, "Yeah, ever since the beginning of the year," but he only said "Yeah, ever since the begin--" and one look at my blushing embarrassed face, stopped him. And he started to blush himself, and kept apologizing to me. The same boy who argues with me everyday, makes fun of me (not like a bully though, don't worry) and is annoyed by me, is being nice to me! He just keeps apologizing & when I look at him, I can see how bad he feels. The whole rest of the period, he didn't ask me for help like he usually does.
My friends keep telling me that since he bothers me a lot, it means he likes me. Is that true? I don't think so...
What do you think? Thanks to all who answer, you are all amazing! I thank you all in advance!
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yes it is possible ,frist love started as which you feeling now so do not take tension and go ahead for next step
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It's entirely possible your friends are right. Congratulations, you have won the affections of someone with a grade school maturity level.
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Well, that's kind of confusing.
When guys make fun of girls they lie, it's normally when they are younger, not 15. But who knows, maybe he hasn't grown up yet.
Either way, he is immature for his age.
I think he sees you as someone he knows better than other people. He teases you but maybe he doesn't mean for it to be mean. Who knows if it means something more or not. So when he noticed you actually looked hurt, he felt bad.
Anyways, that's my best guess.
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I expect the teasing and bugging a girl to be signs that a boy might like a girl but usually if he's a bit younger like 10 to 13. But I suppose a guy at 15 could still be acting like a child.
Maybe his intent is to tease you. But I can say for sure that what comes out of his mouth are comments that belittle you, put you down. talk demeaning to you (intended to make a person or thing seem of little importance or value)
You have been watching him closely. It would seem that the last incident when he didn't finish his comment and blushed does mean something. You won't know what it really meant until the two of you really talk...no hinting at things, no gushy feelings talk, no belittling of you.
Best way to find out more is to ask. If you want good attention from him but not the kind you are getting, tell him.
Like, "I need to tell you something. When you said 'blah blah blah' about me yesterday, it did not make me feel very good. It hurts my feelings. Maybe you think what you are saying is just normal talk but it isn't. If you want to talk normal with me, I would love to talk with you. I like you as a classmate and I would love to have you as a close friend too, but for that to happen you need to treat me better." And see where it goes. You will say it in your own words...thats just an example. Don't ever just "take it" when someone doesnt treat you right. Sometimes a person can be really dense in their brain but sometimes there is something really wrong with the person and over time they will get worse. Did you know that one out of every four teen girls in a dating relationship is being physically abused,, beaten by their boyfriend. You're a smart girl though...I know by how closely you observe things...you will do good. Blessings!
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