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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

advice

I recently bought a laptop for when I go off to college in August, and it arrived today.
I have everything set up (as I am using it right now).
I have transfered all of my word documents & pictures, etc. by using my flashdrive.
I attempted to use my flashdrive to transfer my itunes music, but it didn't work.

I'm not sure how else to do that.
Does anyone know how I can move my itunes music from my computer to my new laptop?

My computer is a windows xp and my laptop is a dell (the laptop has 2 sticker things on it that say "windows vista" and "intel centrino" if that helps).

Thanks in advance if you can help me!

My sister bought a bunch of CDs and burned her music onto them as Data Files, not as the actual songs; so you can't play the music if you put it into a CD player.

I think each CD will hold about 140 songs that way, and the way to do it is to select some of your songs with a CD in the computer, and when you go to burn the songs onto the CD, select "Data CD" or something of that nature instead.

Other than that, I don't really know any other way.

If you need me to clarify, I will.

--Jack
(16/m)

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let me start off by saying i belive that God has a greater purpose in my life, than what i have in mind right now. im not sure what it is but i belive that. and the reason why i belive that, alot of friends i have are in to drugs, having sex outta maraige, smoking, drinking all that stupid stuff. and i try telling them that if they don't stop they will loose control of thier life, and get in alot of trouble. every time i tell them this, it happens. and what im having trouble to understand here, is WHY does this always happen. every single time i tell a friend or a person this, it happens that way. and i also don't get if God has put in the position to basicly minister to people, and try to lead them straight, or does this just happen for no reason. some any advise to ease my mind and help me with this would be really nice.

Are you saying that every time you tell them not to do that stuff, they do?

Well you can't control people's free will, and neither can God, as much as I sometimes would love him to be able to, but it's called free will for a reason.

I think as long as you keep yourself clean and PRAY for them constantly, God will step in and help them. Sometimes you aren't meant to fight the battles against evil, and I learned that the hard way. Praying is really the most powerful thing you can do to help solve a problem that seems out of your control.

God bless ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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I have 3 brothers and im the only girl. And about ten years ago i was molested by my oldest brother and we was taken away to juvy then a group home. But when i was about 12 about 5 years ago he came to live with us because we were moving from california to florida and my dad didnt want to leave his son there but i wanted to. My dad thought he learned a lesson but he never did because he still kept doing it and now at my house here for almost 4 years i've had to use two locks so he wont get in. he's almost 22 and still lives with us. I feel like my dad loves him more because he never yells at him but always at me. I feel like my parents dont love me at all. My secong older brother has a girlfriend and i feel like my parents like her more by the way they treat her and the way they treat me. I just don't know what to do and im 17 about to star my senior year. And i just think that if my parents loved me my oldest brother wouldnt be living with us so that i wouldnt have to lock my door until i move out because hes almost 22 and doesnt have a life no girlfriend or friends at all. I just need help on what to do! Thanks.

I agree 100% with Brandi below me.

To be perfectly frank- show your parents this question you're asking us.

You're brother needs some serious help, and if you're parents are just going to ignore that, call the police or child protective services or something.

Tell your teachers or your counselor if your parents won't listen.

You were molested and your parents are pretty, for lack of a better word, stupid for not doing anything about that for now.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I was wondering...does deleting your myspace profile delete messages you sent a person?

I sent someone this really...messed up message when I was on medication and I don't know...I don't want them having it...

I'm fairly positive it deletes the messages you sent, as they show up saying something about how the account doesn't exist anymore.

It would be kind of "stupid" to start over, but if you wanted to, there's really no harm. It might be hard to find all of your friends again and redo everything.

I'm sure he's forgotten about it, because if he's anything like me, he barely remembers what he was doing like an hour ago. ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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Hello.

On sites like Advicenators, and Myspace, you know how when you click the box where you type your username of email, a list of names of the accounts you've already logged in to comes up?

Is there any way to delete a username OFF of that list? Or do you have to delete them all? [Because I always type too fast and spell mine wrong so there are a ton of random ones on there]


Thanks!

If you have Firefox, go to "Tools" and go down to "Clear Private Data", and then check off "Saved Passwords" and then hit "Clear Private Data Now", and it should get rid of them.

I'm not sure about it for IE, but I'm sure it's similar to that.

--Jack
(16/m)

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So, my friend has liked this guy for ages, and he knows it. It is so funny to see them around each other because he is totally not interested but shes always blushing when he looks at her. Anyways, me and her got into one of those wierd silent fights ? basically, we grew apart and she now has this intense hatred for me. I dont really care either way if im friends with her or not, but we were really tight last summer. So, me and her crush have been hanging out a lot and i think I'm starting to like him. But I'm afriad that she'll notice me flirting with him and get mad at me, even though its nothing personall, I just like him too. Im in such a sticky dilemma. Any suggestions?

She cannot control you, and therefore, if you want to have no regard for her feelings, then try it out with him.

But I myself would take the nice route and try to maybe make up with her and see if she wouldn't mind if you dated him or something. If she says no, I would at least give her that. It's kind of a friend thing to do: not date each other's crushes.

--Jack
(16/m)

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well, at camp, this kid asked one of my really good friend's out, and she said no, and then he asked me out, and I said yes, and so now, we're going out! But, I think that he still likes her, while he's going out with me. It's like they're always flirting and stuff. It makes me so mad! And, I asked his best friend, who is my really good guy friend, if he could ask my boyfriend if he likes my friend, while dating me, and so he asked my bf, and my bf goes, only as a friend, but now, it seems like he is mad at me because I asked him that! And, my bfs best friend likes me, too, so, i mean, if my bf likes my frend, and we break up, would it be wrong if I went out with his best friend? How do I find out if he likes my friend, how do I find out if he's mad at me, and if we break up, would it be bad to go out with his best friend? ahh please helpp !?!?

The fact that he's still dating you tells me that although he may like her, he likes you more. It isn't uncommon for guys to have small crushes on other girls while in relationships. It usually doesn't mean anything, though. If he wanted to be with her, trust me, he would have been. He's with you.

To find out if he's mad at you, don't go around and ask all of his friends. One, that's just creating unnecessary drama, and two, it's so indirect and his friends can make up anything. Go to the source: ASK HIM. Don't be whiny, though. Just be calm and ask if he's mad. If he says yes, apologize. If he says no, then believe him.


If you break up, it wouldn't be bad to go out with his best friend. I mean, yes he would be hurt, but he can't control you after you break up, you know?

--Jack
(16/m)

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Ok. I'm 14 year old girl and i'm going into highschool this year. I'm over weight, (Trust me, I know i'm over weight. I'm NOT one of those girls who are really skinny, or normal and say they're fat. My doctor even says to lay off the food because of my cholesterol, and weight. Even my parents agree.) But that should'nt matter because of course, they should like you for who you are, not your apperance. Am I right? Well, i'm wondering if i'm wrong, and it really DOES matter, because you see, my friends have boyfriends and they have perfect bodies. (I know that happiness does'nt come from dating, but I can't help it.) I guess you could say i'm jealous, but thats not the point. Does weight really matter? And, if it does or does'nt, does anyone have any good tips for the pounds to start lowering? I am really, REALLY bad at diets. The longest i've ever stayed on a diet was for a week. I keep trying and trying, but I can't break my old eating habbits.

Honestly, I would prefer a girl has a little bit of weight compared to a completely skinny girl, you know? But that's just me. If you are a nice person, that's really what should matter when it comes to dating.

For health reasons, being overweight isn't a good thing, and if you want the best diet plans, ask your doctor or see a nutritionist. Finding online diet plans doesn't always work. But I was watching the news the other day, and they said that one of the best ways to lose fat off of your body is through the Atkins diet [at least of the three they used]. Do a little research and see what your doctor says ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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http://www.kyvl.org/html/tutorial/research/intext.shtml

"If you incorporate the author's name into your text, give only the page number in parentheses. For example:

According to Krushke, an assault weapon can be defined as "any weapon used in an assault on another individual" (375).

If the context does not identify the author, include the author's last name before the page number:

An assault weapon can be defined as "any weapon used in an assault on another individual" (Krushke 375)."

my question: if you were assigned to only read ONE book and write an essay only using that one book and nothing else, if you don't include the author's last name in context, is it necessary to have to put the author's name in parentheses or is it implied that you're only reading from that one book & nothing else?

e.g., if you were assigned to read a single book written by krushke, and don't use their name in context, do you still have to say (Kruske 132) or can you just say (132) ?

From my experience, even if it's just one author you're citing, my teachers have always liked that you restate the author's name. It really doesn't matter, as long as you do it the first citation.

Like someone else said, ask your professor/teacher what they like best. They may have a standard that they have their students adhere to. I know my English teacher last year made us use MLA format every time, so it just depends.

--Jack
(16/m)

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15/f
most of the summer i haven't been home, now my best friend is grounded and my boyfriend is going away for a week. ha i have like nothing to do. i haven't done really anything this week and next week might suck. so what should i do to keep busy if i can't find anyone to hang out with?
like i know staying home 2 weeks outta the summer isn't gonna kill me but i'm starting to feel lonely hha so any ideas to keep my busy would be awesome! thanks =]

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=507084

This was a question I answered about boredom, but it can still help you:


www.discoverfun.com/freeinfo/500fun/when_severly_bored.html


Those are a lot of fun.

Here are my favorites:
# Blow on a blade of grass
# Crank up some music
# Cut out photos and paste them on Popsicle sticks and have a puppet show
# Eat
# Eat 6 spoon full of sugar, a soda, and another think that makes you hyper and then you won't be bored anymore, you will end up finding something to do... trust us
# Experiment with makeup
# Get a bubble blower and then blow some
# Get a tootsie pop and see how many licks it takes to get to the center of the tootsie pop
# Laugh out loud
# Learn how to fake an accent
# Make a humorous crank phone call
# Make an entertaining phone answering-machine message
# Make up poems or songs about your boredom
# Break into a friend's house and clean it
Call a wrong number and talk to whoever answers.
# Catch a fly, then put in a jar and stick in the fridge (this cools their metabolism down), then tie the fly to the end of a thread 15in. and hold the other end of the thread while you watch it fly around (We have tested this and it works - a lot of patience is involved)
# Chase your best friend round the sofa
# Dance around your living room naked
# Doodle or cartoon
# Dress in something silly and laugh at yourself
# Fiddle around with a Ouija board
# Figure out how to get yourself on TV
# Find an address to your favorite famous person and write them a letter. See if they write you back
# Flip a coin 500 times to see who wins
# Get on the radio
# Give names to your body parts
# Go shop for a really cool book
# Go through the English dictionary looking up really long words like discombobulated.
# Have a carpet picnic
# Have a staring contest with yourself in the mirror.
# Kiss your elbow, if you can.
# Lay a long straight line of masking tape on the floor. Now spin around really fast then try walking on the masking tape.

Enjoy not being bored anymore. That should occupy you for a few hours =D

--Jack
(16/m)

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I'm looking for a new digital camera. Yesterday my brother and I went to best buy to look at the olympus (forgot which model) but the new one that happens to be waterproof. I explained earlier, that I want a camera that takes good flash pictures, because my current digital camera takes beautiful outdoor/ sport pictures, but as soon as you step indoors to take flash pictures (it honestly makes you look disgusting) adding to that, it also has many different setting features (like portrait, outdoors, fireworks, sport, etc) but it really doesn't make that big of a difference, cause you still look bad in flash pictures. Anyways, I took flash pictures with the waterproof olympus and they look terrible. So my question is what camera would you reccomend getting if you wanted good flash pictures (not to exceed over $350 in price) Thank You! ps, please don't tell me to ask someone who works there, because they really didnt help much haha
Thanks

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=540758

From there:

Hey. I am going to tell you about my wonderful camera I got two Christmases ago.

It does everything you want:
-Takes pictures
-Takes videos
-Has many different picture settings
-I have rechargeable batteries.. they were kind of on the pricey side, but they are definitely worth it.. you don't have to go out and buy new batteries every time they die.
-It is in your price range. You won't get too great of quality for under $150, so its good you have a larger range. But.. at the bottom of the page I give below- it has a certain website where it looks like you can find it at $119.99. That would probably be your best bet.

Here is a review of it that I found: www.imaging-resource.com/PRODS/A530/A530A.HTM

This camera has 5.0 megapixels, 4X Optical Zoom [You want optical zoom, not digital zoom- because digital screws up the pixels as you zoom and the picture looks really crappy], it has 18 different shooting modes, and if you have a larger memory card [I have 2GB] you can hold a lot of pictures/videos.

Now for my own review..
I love this camera a lot and it is a great investment. I take tons of pictures and videos.. and it is perfect for me. The picture quality is the best I've seen in many different digital cameras. My brother has one, and the pictures always come out having odd white spots on them. This camera doesn't do that, ever. I think you will love it.



The website I gave you can get a good discount =D.

--Jack
(16/m)

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i have a huge problem with wetting the bed what should i do at a friends hoUSE?

It sounds dumb, but maybe try getting an adult diaper. If that is too embarrassing, see if there are any Over The Counter [OTC] drugs from a pharmacy to help with wetting the bed.

If not, go to your doctor, and since you're most likely a teenager, you might have over-active bladder or something, and there's probably a prescription for it. =]

Like the first person said, try to drink less fluids a few hours before beds, especially things with caffeine that make you go more often ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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how can i find out if a guy likes me without asking him or having a friend ask him
P.S. i already made another s/n thingy n he blocked me so that doesnt work

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=506340

From there:

I'm going to give you a list of what guys tend to do when they like girls:

1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.

2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.

3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...

4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.

5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".

6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.

If you like this guy- and he does all or most of those things- my best bet is that he does like you. That means one and only one thing: Ask him to make sure, and then try the relationship out. Who knows- it could be great!


--Jack
(16/m)

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whats ur favorite high school memory and why

I'm not out of high school yet, but so far my favorite high school memory is from sophomore year, and it was just the play we did and the experience I had with it.

We did the stage version or the board game Clue?, and it was amazing. I was the lead, and it was really cool and really stressful at the same time. It was ten times better when we had our performances, because people started to appreciate our work.

From that play, I met some of the coolest, strangest [in a good way], most awesome, and all-around greatest people I've met in awhile. Everyone was really new to acting, so we didn't have the divas who thought they should have the leads and whatnot. Everyone was so polite to everyone and it was just a blast.

One time, during a rehearsal, I had a headache, and one of the things I had to do was catch my friend Angela [she was Mrs. Peacock] before she fainted, and my mind was just so out of it, and I ended up trying to catch her, but I completely dropped her, and she fell and hit her elbows, back end, and her legs, and I felt bad, but at the same time it was so hilarious to think that I just let her fall backward. What's more is that later in the second act, I got to slap her, and I apparently I slap pretty hard! =O

--Jack
(16/m)

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my boyfriend and i have been together for about a year. yet we havent really done anything. we are both mature and all, but im not sure. i like just talking to him more than doing stuff. we arent shy around each other or anything, he knows i never want to. but i feel bad for making him miss out. even though he says he's okay with it, he would just like to do more. eh :/ what do i do?

To be quite honest, people in relationships shouldn't have sex until they're married, but that's my standard and I can't hold people to it.

My brother and his girlfriend have been together for about 1 1/2 years, and they have yet to do anything sexual together. In fact, they've both vowed to be virgins until they're married [and I'm sure they'll get married one day].

My sister and her boyfriend have been together just over two years [25 months or so now], and they, too have yet to do anything sexual.

My point is that you don't have to follow the rest of teenage society and just lose your virginity. If you're not ready, then don't do it. You really shouldn't until you're completely ready to face the consequences and such. When you feel ready, without pressure from your boyfriend, friends, school peers, etc., then go ahead, but you shouldn't do anything until you know 100% that that's what you WANT to do.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I'm looking for suggestions of a good college to go to. I don't know what exactly I want to do, but I may want to get a double major: one in music and one in art- perhaps animation. I want to be able to also take other classes, like dancing or acting, so that I can find what I love. So I'm asking for some good, reputable schools that offer these things. I live in the US and don't want to go overseas for school... Thank you in advance!

http://diplomaguide.com/explore/general.html?sf=1&online=false&c1=298&q=ALL&state=ME&zip=zip

From there:

University of Phoenix
Strayer University Online
Westwood College Online
Ashford University
Kaplan University
The Art Institute of Pittsburgh - Online Division
Ellis College
International Academy of Design & Technology Online
Boston University
Baker College Online


Try looking around that website with different majors and such ;]


--Jack
(16/m)

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almost 16/f please read whole thing before answering:

I have only had boyfriends. I have had many times. I don't find men attractive. I think they usually have something about their faces that make them unattractive. I look at s a lot more than I look at boys. I love the feeling of a man's arms around me and I like to cuddle with them and stuff. BUT: I don't enjoy it doesn't do anything for me and I giving head/handjobs and stuff. Male genitals do not turn me on at all. I would much rather m@sturbate with my vibe. I also like being eaten out.

As a young child I was only attracted to men. At age 12/13 I started to notice s and I would develop crushes on them. By the time I hit 15 i was completely turned on by the idea of s3x with a woman. That is what i think about when i m@st. Does this make me bis3xual?

By definition, since you are attracted to women, and see yourself having sex with them, you are most likely a lesbian.

If you see yourself having sex with both men AND women, and you are attracted to both, you are most likely bisexual, though I see that as a state-of-mind rather than a forever type of thing.

If you see yourself having sex with ONLY men and you are attracted to only men, you are straight.

Your sexuality is determined mainly by which sex[es] you engage in sexual activities with. But don't be in a rush to figure out you're sexuality. You're only just a teenager and you have your entire life ahead of you.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I have three sisters. Two of them are older, but we were always close when we were younger. The thing is they go out and they drink and smoke and stuff, and I don't tell my parents anything. I always keep their secrets. One got a ticket for drinking and had to go to the hospital, and she is only 18. My parents don't even care! They lowered her curfew and took her car away for like, a week. The other one isn't so bad. She is 19 and goes out all the time and drinks.

Now, my parents know we drink, just as long as we aren't a sloppy mess. I don't smoke, but last night I was hanging out with my boyfriend and his friends (who are my sister's friends as well) and I tried salvia. It was horrible and I did not like it and I will never do it again. But I'm guessing my sister told my mom I did something because my mom came downstairs and was like, "So I hear you aren't good when you go out." And she didn't tell me what she ment by it. I am sick of keeping my sister's secrets when they won't do it for me at all. It is such a pain, but I don't want to be a snitch to them. Talking to them is a big waste, because they will just lie.

GAH! It's so frusterating, and I have no idea how to handle it.

Any help will be apperitiated, thank you.

I kind of agree with the person below. If they won't keep your secrets, don't keep theirs.

Better yet, don't have any secrets like your sisters to let the find out about so they can tell your parents. What I mean is, if you keep yourself clean and away from smoking/drinking, as it sounds like you wish to do, then they have nothing to tell your parents.

Then, when you find out about your sisters doing things, or they tell you or something, get up and walk away. Maybe make them feel bad about doing the things they are doing, because as far as I'm concerned they deserve a little taste of their own medicine. If you keep yourself away from what they are doing, and just let them do as they may, they will eventually end up getting in trouble [maybe not with your parents, but with the law] and you will have nothing to worry about because it isn't you getting in trouble.

Does that sound like a fair compromise to make? ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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Okay hey, im 15/f and i'm single. I really want a boyfriend, but not just A BOYFRIEND.Someone that isn't all judgemental. Because i thinks thats bullshit. My type is preferably emo, and if anyone (guys) reads this please give me a chance. Thanks in advance :D

I'm going to tell you that relationships aren't all they are cracked up to be. Sure- they are fun having someone to share things with and be with. But they involve a huge commitment and if you end up with someone who is clingy- they'll want to be with you every minute of every day- and you might not have time for friends or anything else you want to do. I say this because one of my ex-girlfriends was sort of like that- and got mad if I was busy with other plans.. and it was just really retarded.

Anyway- the best way to attract a guy is to be yourself. If you try to change yourself just to get a boyfriend [especially at your age]- you'll just end up with someone who only likes you for what you've become- not who you are. If you be yourself- and don't change- you'll attract more guys who actually care about your personality rather than just your looks.

I myself like any type of girl. I honestly don't judge looks as much as I do personality. If a girl is absolutely stunningly beautiful, but she's a bitch- why would I like her? What would our relationship be? What would we talk about? Her latest hair extensions? Yeah- that would be REALLY nice *Sarcasm: Party of one!*...
If a girl has a really nice personality- and she's really outgoing and sweet and nice and smart- and she's not necessarily the best looking girl- but she's not super unattractive- then I'll most likely want to date her over the beautiful bitch.

Do you get what I'm saying? If you let guys see your personality more than your looks- you'll end up with someone great. Trust me- most guys prefer personality over looks- they just don't know it yet =].


If you're asking to date one of us, I'm sorry but it won't be me to say yes to you. Not that I don't think you're stupid or anything, but because one, I won't date a complete stranger, and two, I won't date someone through the internet. I've sort of done that before and it isn't my thing.

So that's why I answered with the first few paragraphs about how to find a boyfriend who isn't a jerk/judgmental and all of that jazz. Waiting for the right person makes it all the more special, too ;]


--Jack
(16/m)

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Well I just recently took an test for Pre-Calc on a section that's supposed to be an introduction to AP Calc. I failed the test but I understand the material and I even did the problems over after getting it back and got them right. My question is, will knowing the material but not doing well on that test jeopordize my chances of getting an A in AP Calc BC? Any study tips or advice for AP classes?

Hey I was in Pre-Calc last year, but the only difference is I'm going into AP Calc AB, not BC next year. We didn't take a test, but I'm sure taking a test in Pre-Calc for AP Calc shouldn't jeopardize your future in the class. It was just a practice, and even if you didn't do so hot, you can still do better the next time, you know?

Like the person below said- what really matters with AP classes are the tests, and the exams. Especially the AP exam in the spring. As long as you do good on that, that's what a college will judge you on. They won't be able to see individual test grades. Sure, they'll be able to see your semester grades from the class, but AP classes are designed so that it's harder to get the A. Colleges would much rather see you get a B in an AP class than an A in a regular class, because they know the difficulty level of them. They are, after all, college-level classes.

My only study tip is to figure out the different types of problems you have to do for each unit, and maybe make a grand list somewhere. If you can't figure out the main types of problems to do, maybe on review days for tests, ask your teacher to go over the different types. I know doing that before my tests in Pre-Calc really helped, and that's what my teacher said will help next year.

ANY time you feel you don't understand something, don't be afraid to ask your teacher. That's what they are there for. Sometimes coming in early to school or staying after can really give you a good opportunity for a one-on-one with your teacher.

--Jack
(16/m)

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