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Sisters.
I have three sisters. Two of them are older, but we were always close when we were younger. The thing is they go out and they drink and smoke and stuff, and I don't tell my parents anything. I always keep their secrets. One got a ticket for drinking and had to go to the hospital, and she is only 18. My parents don't even care! They lowered her curfew and took her car away for like, a week. The other one isn't so bad. She is 19 and goes out all the time and drinks.
Now, my parents know we drink, just as long as we aren't a sloppy mess. I don't smoke, but last night I was hanging out with my boyfriend and his friends (who are my sister's friends as well) and I tried salvia. It was horrible and I did not like it and I will never do it again. But I'm guessing my sister told my mom I did something because my mom came downstairs and was like, "So I hear you aren't good when you go out." And she didn't tell me what she ment by it. I am sick of keeping my sister's secrets when they won't do it for me at all. It is such a pain, but I don't want to be a snitch to them. Talking to them is a big waste, because they will just lie.
GAH! It's so frusterating, and I have no idea how to handle it.
Any help will be apperitiated, thank you.
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In my opinion, none of you should be acting this way.
Reality check: you are getting in trouble. Your sister had to go to the HOSPITAL for crying out loud. A little respect for your bodies and your health is probably a good thing.
Consider it a compliment that your sisters are telling on you. It can be annoying when someone adopts the "do as I say, not as I do" attitude, but it's better than pretending that it's okay to act like an idiot.
The real shame here isn't that they told on you. You are lucky to have people looking out for you.
The unfortunate part of this situation is that your siblings are not setting a good example for you, and see nothing wrong with jepordizing their own health.
I suggest you take a step back, and re-evaluate your own decisions. Maybe you shouldn't do things that are harmful to you. Maybe you shouldn't make it so easy for your sisters to hurt themselves either. Maybe it's time to start taking responsibility for your life.
You act like your siblings are wrecking your fun or something. Really, none of the stuff you guys are doing is fun. It's just immature.
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I kind of agree with the person below. If they won't keep your secrets, don't keep theirs.
Better yet, don't have any secrets like your sisters to let the find out about so they can tell your parents. What I mean is, if you keep yourself clean and away from smoking/drinking, as it sounds like you wish to do, then they have nothing to tell your parents.
Then, when you find out about your sisters doing things, or they tell you or something, get up and walk away. Maybe make them feel bad about doing the things they are doing, because as far as I'm concerned they deserve a little taste of their own medicine. If you keep yourself away from what they are doing, and just let them do as they may, they will eventually end up getting in trouble [maybe not with your parents, but with the law] and you will have nothing to worry about because it isn't you getting in trouble.
Does that sound like a fair compromise to make? ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
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The way I see it, if they don't have your back, don't have theirs. They are considered "Adults" by being 18 and older. Your parents can't really do anything about them doing what they what. So if you tell on them, it might not do much to them. Your parents might make them move out, but I'm not sure how that will work. But I say, don't keep their secrets if they won't keep yours.
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