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Problems with my boyfriend
My boyfriend and i have been dating for 3 yrs. And he has never acted this strange. Lately he has been very mean and he hasn't been thinking about my feelings. This morning he started being nice to me again and that lead to sex.. After that he was being a total jerk. I talked to him about it and said that it bothered me and it felt like he has been using me. He then yelled at me and said "It's because....NEVERMIND!" I asked him what he was going to say and he just said forget about it i'll talk to you when i get off of work (which is in 12 hours). He then walked out of the house and slammed the door. He turned off his phone too. I just don't know what to do because now in this relationship anything he says goes. I feel like i don't have a say in anything anymore. I feel really used and i also feel like he doesn't trust me and i haven't done anything to destroy that trust. One time he accused me of cheating on him because i felt "loose". When i have been sooo loyal to him. And it hurts my feelings when he says that because i haven't done anything wrong. I really don't know what to do to prove to him that i'm not cheating. I'm also really frustrated b/c i feel like i need to talk to him now and work things out. But it's so easy for him to just ignore me. At the end of all our fights i'm always the one apologizing, even when i didn't do anything wrong. What should i do?
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Sounds like he's really stressed out about something.
probably at home or school, something he hasn't discussed with you yet.
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You need to talk to him about everything - all of the bad feelings, uncertainties, etc. You guys clearly have some issues that need to be worked out. The only way to work them out is to communicate.
Oh yeah, and you should also stop aplogizing when you haven't done anything. That will never help you to feel valued.
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Stop apologising! If he finds you as someone bothering rather than a caring person, then... Maybe this relationship has run its course?! If all this is happening and he isn't going to do anything about it, FOR YOU, then, what is the point, don't you think?
I don't feel he actually has a proper reason when he says "It's because... NEVER MIND!" I suggest you wait for when he gets back, you both talk about it and see what comes out of it - he decides to change, because if he only acts nice when he wants sex and things like that, that isn't very good is it?!
Relationships fail because of the lack of communication. So talk to him first, tell him EVERYTHING... Like how you don't feel like he trusts you, AND you have NEVER done anything to lose it, and mainly because, you can't talk to him anymore, and what is the point of a relationship if communication is out of it?!
I understand where you're coming from and I totally sympathise with you.
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You have got to try and get out of him what is bothering him.... he could be very worried about something and that could be making him depressed, and down. But if you cant get it out of him and he doesn't want to talk about it then you need to talk about your relationship, it is not fair for you to have to live like this and not have a say and be hurting all the time because of the way he is treating you! Trust is a very important thing in a relationship if neither of you can trust one another than what is the point in trusting in your relationship to be a very stable secure one in the future? Maybe the two of you are growing apart and he knows it and that is how he is fdealing with trying to seperate his feelings for you. Think about where you are in life, what is good about him, and even what is bad about him, picture your life without him would it be better or worse? Question your relationship but only do it in your head and the things you think of please do not say to him in an argument that could end up bad, but you two need to work it out and build you trust with each other and communication because that is very important as well! Good luck if you need anything feel free to drop one in the inbox!
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