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I feel like my family hates me. What do i do?
I have 3 brothers and im the only girl. And about ten years ago i was molested by my oldest brother and we was taken away to juvy then a group home. But when i was about 12 about 5 years ago he came to live with us because we were moving from california to florida and my dad didnt want to leave his son there but i wanted to. My dad thought he learned a lesson but he never did because he still kept doing it and now at my house here for almost 4 years i've had to use two locks so he wont get in. he's almost 22 and still lives with us. I feel like my dad loves him more because he never yells at him but always at me. I feel like my parents dont love me at all. My secong older brother has a girlfriend and i feel like my parents like her more by the way they treat her and the way they treat me. I just don't know what to do and im 17 about to star my senior year. And i just think that if my parents loved me my oldest brother wouldnt be living with us so that i wouldnt have to lock my door until i move out because hes almost 22 and doesnt have a life no girlfriend or friends at all. I just need help on what to do! Thanks.
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ok, i dont know about those answers telling you to talk to your parents. havent you already done that? you have a few options other than that, some good, some not so good.
1. your best bet is to circumvent your parents, and even child services. go straight to the police and acuse him of rape. or moslestation if there wasnt any actual rape... just tell the police what is going on and have them take care of the rest. hes 22 now, so if goes through, hell be going to jail for a long time, where he will probably get molested himself.
2. do you have any one else you can stay with to get away from him? a friend or other family member?
3. buy yourself some pepper spray, and use it to defend yourself. or get a heating coil and leave it on your doorhandle overnight. this is one of the bad options, but i still feel i should mention it in case you have exhausted all other ones. the reason it is bad is because it leaves you needing to be constantly on guard, and thats not something anyone should have to do. especially not in their own home.
have you really been putting up with all of this for 5 years now? thats horrible... i dont see how parents can let that happen to their own child... just... go to the police, you could probably even make a case for your father being an accessory, since he is protecting him.
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Call the police or better yet your local Child Protective Service. Your brother and your dad are both sick in the head and need therapy. You deserve better than that. I could sit here and justify your dad's actions but I wont. He needs to pull his head out of his ass. Your honesty can't seem to convince the very figure in your life that should protect you. Your dad is a pansy. Therefore it's time to introduce a third party. Honestly, I would take you in. I've got a spare bedroom. If I met your brother, I'd introduce him to Mr. Louisville Slugger. Sorry I'm angry. I'm not mad at you. This is NOT your fault you poor child.
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I agree with both Mangy and Cux.
Very good advice.
Calmly talk to your parents. There is no
reason on earth your 22 year old brother
should be living in your house.
IF they refuse to do anything or make
like you are just paranoid. Talk to
a counselor at school, If you go to
church ask advice from your minister.
If you have a trusted Aunt close by
talk to her...any older relative who
might possibly take you in.
You shouldn't have to live in fear.
Your parents are absolutely wrong
in this situation. I don't say that
often. You don't endanger one child
by having keeping another who is a
problem around.
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I agree 100% with Brandi below me.
To be perfectly frank- show your parents this question you're asking us.
You're brother needs some serious help, and if you're parents are just going to ignore that, call the police or child protective services or something.
Tell your teachers or your counselor if your parents won't listen.
You were molested and your parents are pretty, for lack of a better word, stupid for not doing anything about that for now.
--Jack
(16/m)
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You seriously need to talk to your parents. Seriously.
As a matter of fact, why don't you just show them this question you asked?
Your brother needs help. There's no two ways about that. Major help. Blunt and honest, this needs to be reported to the authorities. Whether you do it with your parents by your side, or do it on your own, it needs to be done. He is a sexual predator. He is abusing you. THAT IS WRONG. THAT IS A CRIME. Don't feel guilty or ashamed. It's not your fault that he does this. You are an innocent victim.
Your brother also needs to be kept out of YOUR home. PERIOD.
You're still just a kid. You are still a minor, you are your parents responsibility. They need to see to it that you are in a safe environment. THAT IS THEIR JOB.
Do they know that this is still going on? If not, you need to say something.
You shouldn't ever have to feel like a prisoner in your own home. EVER. All those locks on your door? That is being a prisoner in your own home. Period.
Say something, babe. Demand something be done about it. Don't take no for an answer.
It wouldn't hurt for you to seek counseling for this. Perhaps your parents should, too. Especially since they make you feel this way.
You don't deserve to feel this way.
ygs-30/f
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